ALETHEIA LUNA: “12 Signs It’s Time to Move On and Burn All Bridges”

“It is not selfish to burn bridges when the person on the other end is feeding off your soul. In fact, deliberately moving toxic people from your life is a sign of self-love and respect for your personal needs.”

~Aletheia Luna

 

There often comes a point where we outgrow the people in our lives, develop different interests, and even in the best circumstances, lose people due to the natural cycle of life and death.

But when is the right time to move on from a relationship that feels doomed? Should we wait it out … should we try to pick up the broken pieces, and if so, for how long? At what point is it acceptable to walk away and never look back?

Burning bridges is a tough and serious decision to make. When we “burn bridges” we are essentially cutting off all contact with a person and making it impossible to return. If you’re struggling with this decision, there are a few things you might like to know first.

When Burning Bridges is the Wrong Choice

Cutting people off is not always the right decision. As much as we would like to quickly dispose of a person who is causing us trouble, sometimes the problem originates more within us than them.

For instance, burning bridges might be the wrong choice if you’re wanting to dispose of a person due to fear of intimacy and the unwillingness to be vulnerable. Both of these problems will not be solved by cutting a person off, and in fact, making such a decision will exacerbate and deepen your insecurities. If you’re uncomfortable with sharing your entire self with another person in a friendship or relationship, the problem obviously isn’t the other person, but your own internal fears and traumas. In order to work through this problem, be honest with yourself and the person in your life. Explain how you feel. If they truly love you, they will understand and will stop trying to make you open up.

Another example of a wrong time to move on would be in the heat of anger (or another strong emotional reaction). When we are consumed by emotions our logic is overridden and we cannot think or see clearly. So many poor and even fatal decisions are made when our amygdala has gone haywire (bring to mind all the crimes of passion you hear on the news). In order to prevent yourself from making a rash decision, force yourself to breathe in and out for a couple of minutes. Removing yourself from the person or situation also helps your mind and body to settle down.

The final example of a wrong time to move on is when a relationship changes and stops being fun and exciting all the time. So many people tend to mistakenly believe that there’s something “wrong” with their relationship as it matures and grows because it’s no longer filled with the same ecstasy experienced at the beginning. But the reality is that every relationship changes: you will not experience the same dizzy euphoria as you did when you first fell in love. But there will be new emotions to experience as you grow and change with your partner. It is normal to feel a bit of boredom every now and then, but this does not necessarily mean that you need to burn bridges and move on. Obviously, if you’re feeling constantly bored and unfulfilled then you should seriously reconsider your relationship. But don’t make the mistake of hopping from partner to partner in an attempt to find that one person who makes you feel euphoric 100% of the time. It just won’t happen.

If you need more guidance on how to improve your relationship, read my article How to Save a Relationship or Marriage. You might also like to read more about how to create a deep spiritual connection with your partner.

12 Signs It’s Time to Move On

So when is it the right time to move on?

At some point in our lives, we all need to make the heart-wrenching choice to sever contact with certain people. For some of us, that might mean burning bridges with our ex-partners or friends, and for others, this might mean cutting off contact with our parents, siblings or even our own children.

It is unrealistic — and even dangerous — to believe that all relationships can be repaired, no matter what has happened. We cannot change other people, no matter how hard we try. Yes, we might be able to influence them, but the choice to change comes from them, not us. We cannot force others to change. Therefore, sometimes we need to accept that it’s time to move on, let go, and open a new chapter of our lives because no matter what we do, a person will only change if they are interested in changing.

Letting go can even seem cruel to some people, especially if a strong emotional bond is present. But the reality is that we have to take care of ourselves as well. If a person is not a source of comfort or support in your life, then they hang around you like dead weight holding you back from self-fulfillment. It is not selfish to burn bridges when the person on the other end is feeding off your soul. In fact, deliberately moving toxic people from your life is a sign of self-love and respect for your personal needs.

Here are some major signs that it’s time to move on:

1. They don’t show interest in your thoughts, opinions or needs

Your relationship is very lopsided. Even when you try to express your thoughts and needs, you are met with a blank, uninterested wall. Life seems to revolve around the other person, and whenever you try to draw a conversation towards yourself, this person will immediately try to hog attention. In the past, you may have drawn attention to the fact that this person doesn’t show interest in your needs, but nothing changed and they made no effort to pay attention to you. This person has an “ME first, you second” attitude.

2. They emanate constant negativity

No matter what you do or say, the other person is always unhappy. This person might nitpick, whine, criticize, judge, and moan about you or other people all the time. Not only that, but you always seem to go away feeling miserable after spending time with this person. They are like a damp heavy blanket suffocating your soul.

3. They don’t encourage your freedom

A major red flag: if the other person is controlling and authoritative, back away slowly! If you feel trapped and unable to be your true self, it’s most definitely time to move on. Feeling trapped can also be subtle and passive, for example, a partner or parent who tries to keep you dependent on them so that they have power over you.

4. They twist the truth

You struggle to trust this person because they have lied to you so much in the past. Lying is not always active, it can also be passive, for example, withholding information or details that you needed to know. This person has repeatedly broken your trust and is not transparent with you.

5. They don’t prioritize your relationship

The other person doesn’t seem to value your relationship/friendship as much as you do. While you put in so much work to improve your relationship with them, the other person doesn’t seem to care at all. Even when you have asked them to uphold their side of the relationship, they still ended up prioritizing other things over you. For example, they might spend long nights out with their friends at the pub and return at 3am. Or they might forget dates, meetups or agreements and put work or other commitments above you. While busyness is a normal part of life, this person doesn’t seem to have time on their schedule for you at all.

6. They create constant drama

You feel exhausted having to deal with all of the problems and dramas surrounding this person. Even when something goes well for your friend/partner/family member, they quickly find something else to be unhappy about. You have a sense that this person thrives on drama and is empty without it. You’re tired of hearing detailed accounts of their fights, work dramas, relationship tragedies, righteous opinions, ad infinitum.

7. They feed off your energy

This person seems to be fuelled by your attention and emotional reactions. They might enjoy provoking you to elicit a response that makes them feel like they have power over you. You also feel very tired around them, and almost sucked into their gravitational pull. If you feel this way, you’ve likely got an energy vampire on your hands. While I don’t particularly like this term, it accurately describes people who enjoy leeching off our energy.

8. They’re relentlessly needy

You feel smothered by this other person and like you’re bound to them with a ball and chain. Not only do you have to take care of your needs, but you feel as though you have to take care of their needs as well. This person seems to constantly demand attention, pampering, affection, and favors from you. You’ve tried encouraging this person to stand on their own two feet, but they seem intent on clinging off you. This person seems to be incapable of being self-assured and constantly seeks approval from you.

9. They have physically hurt you

In moments of rage, your friend/partner/family member may have hit you or physically hurt you in some way. While they may have apologized, your trust and confidence around them have been broken. Physical abuse is a crystal clear sign that it’s time to move on and burn bridges, forever.

10. They make you want to hide your true self

You’ve tried being relaxed and open around this person, but you’ve been met with coldness, criticism or judgment. As a result, you may have resorted to hiding your true self and wearing a mask instead. Gradually, you may have even started to forget who you truly are, having become a shell of your former self instead. You feel sick of changing who you are for the other person.

11. They manipulate you

You chronically feel emotionally blackmailed or gaslighted by this person. Sometimes you even feel like you’re the abuser, when in fact, the other is just playing mind games with you.

12. They intentionally hold you back

On the surface it may appear that your friend, partner or family member has “the best intentions for you,” but really, they don’t. They are scared. They don’t want you to change. They don’t want you to reach your full potential, for that will make them feel left behind. They don’t want to see you happy, for that will reflect how unhappy they are. They don’t want you to take risks, for that will force them to reconsider their own life choices. As the old truism goes, “misery loves company.” Unhappy people want to be surrounded by other unhappy people because it gives them some sense of consolation. As a result, you might feel like you have to dim down your lights, blend in, and become a wallflower.

After reading this list:

After reading this list, please know that you don’t have to say “yes” to every sign. Even if you’re experiencing just one or two of these signs, you should seriously consider the possibility that it’s time to move on. While you don’t have to necessarily burn bridges, you might like to create space and distance and see how you feel.

Hopefully these signs can gently awaken you to the possibility that it’s time to open a new chapter of your life. And please know that feeling things like stress, shame, and grief are all normal reactions. Personally, when it was time for me to burn bridges I felt intense emotional and psychological turmoil for many months. In my case, I had to cut ties with my entire family in order to escape their oppressive fundamentalist religion. But to my surprise, I felt so free and liberated that all of the pain of going through separation was worth it.

I hope you can find the same kind of freedom. Your heart and soul are stronger than you may think.

 

About the author: Aletheia Luna is an influential spiritual writer whose work has changed the lives of thousands of people worldwide. After escaping the religious sect she was raised in, Luna experienced a profound existential crisis that led to her spiritual awakening. As a psychospiritual counselor, tarot reader, and professional writer, Luna’s mission is to help others become conscious of their entrapment and find joy, empowerment, and liberation in any circumstance.

 

~via LonerWolf.com

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SARAH CARVALHO: “The Sun Walks With You”

The Sun of the awakening consciousness is the Light in your walking. It lights your inner universe, your sight, your body, your life, your thoughts, your feelings. In its essence it is the pure expression of the Light.

Beyond the night, the Sun is always rising somewhere. Walk with it, It is always day — clear and awaken.

The shadow feeds from discord, from judgment and from every sensation of separation. The more it finds out that the sunlight is about to dawn its brightness within you, more it agitates to prolong the nocturnal period in your interior. In a direct or indirect way you begin to be surrounded by unbalanced thoughts that go through winding ways, and why not say liar ways, to arrive to conclusions also unbalanced and unfavorable to harmony that more look like sentences that your ego and the limits of your mind impose to yourself, prolonging the wait of your soul for the Light and freedom that it so much yearns to experience.

Take care of your thoughts, watch yourself in your impetus of judging instantaneously people and situations, distributing shallow and limited conclusions of eternal stories that deserve your respect and admiration.

You talk about your brother with the easiness of someone who talks about trivial subjects of the daily, of a common life. You forget that before you stands an infinite being with its potentialities who has already lived and seen what you have no idea about, who has its fights and limits, but above all is the son of a same Universal Father, as you are also. This brother needs first a positive evaluation from your part, thoughts favorable to fraternal union and your lovely comprehension and, when you are able, your generous aid, in that you offer what you have already trailed and the best you have conquered in yourself. Share.

Share instead of removing the chances of success and happiness in the Light.

Comprehend instead of finding past and present mistakes and praise the chances of success at each new day.

Welcome instead of separating, the distance can — and sometimes needs — to exist in times and spaces, but not in the heart.

Discern until where you manage to be close to the other without allowing yourself to entangle through vicious circles that compromise your balance and your conquests. By mixing yourself with such energies know that you will need a great amount of energy and strength to free yourself and assume again your way.

Love and cultivate what is best — this Love that believes and persists in faith is the divine substance to the rise of the Sun inside yourself and in the whole world.

 

~via In5D.com

ADEANA M. SLATER: “Moving Through The Illusions”

It is becoming apparent that more of humanity is beginning to awaken and question why things have been done the way they have been. This is one of the first stages in awareness, to begin to question the status quo and the societal norms/expectations. Individuals will get the heightened sense that “something” isn’t quite right and it’s not adding up. Out of nowhere, this passion arises from their heart and they feel a need and desire for change. This is exactly what is needed and where we are headed.

When enough of us come together with this desire for change and make the efforts to not only speak with intention, but to take action, these positive actions WILL speak for itself (“Actions speak louder than words”) and will move the energy further along in this way.

As awareness sets in, illusions will begin to naturally fall away. Exposure of wrong-doings and ill-intentions ARE surfacing. The truth will ALWAYS come to the surface eventually. And this “eventually” timeframe is happening NOW. This will bring challenges in and of itself for you, especially if you are one who is doing the questioning and seeing the truth as it is. For example, I recently witnessed one person excuse another’s belief as them just being a “conspiracy theorist.” This label can and will attempt to hush those who dare come forward to speak the truth. As if those speaking the truth are actually speaking out of fear-based ideas as opposed to facts. Do you see how it can be used against those who want to bring Light to the Darkness? To turn everything around on whomever dares to come forward? This label: “conspiracy theorist” can get attached to you, and the truth just laughed off as if it is all a joke.

You have to move yourself through this energy of humiliation in order to stand true and tall in who you are and claim your soul freedom. Once you are brave enough to move through the illusions of the degradation to be different and claim your Sovereignty, you never have to go through it again. Why? Because you will reach a point where you no longer care what others think of you. You begin to realize you have spent your entire life living for others instead of for yourself. You will strive towards autonomy and begin to love yourself more and more everyday. This self-love is exactly the energy you need, to finally see your self-worth and know that you are different and beautiful just as you are and especially as you change and grow. You begin to love and appreciate who you are from the inside-out and FINALLY decide to walk away from the fear-based programming, never desiring to look back and re-submerge yourself in those low dense energies again.

Consequently, there may be individuals who are actively in your life who have used manipulation and control “over you” and will sense that you have or are currently changing and they may feel very threatened by that. They may verbally attack you and attempt to bring you back down by ridicule or use shame and guilt as leverage for control. You will definitely know if these individuals are in your life and attempting to bring you down. It is best if you are able to remove yourself from them entirely. Send them Love/Light and continue to move yourself bravely forward. Save yourself from exhaustion by trying to revive these harmful bonds or relationships that are purposely falling away from your life.

The 3D reality of fear and restraints are behind you now as you are stepping onto your new path full of awe and wonderment. Don’t let the vastness of creation intimidate you. See it as a blessing of freedom for there are no limitations as to whom you desire to be and where you wish to go.

So Let it Be.

And So It Is.

Love and Blessings to YOU, 💕

~Adeana

 

~via In5D.com

MARCO LOPOR: “Freeing Yourself from Darkness through Unconditional Love”

“When You switch to Unconditional Love as an emotional and mental state of being, You Seal your Energy Field and You are free from Darkness. This is the technical part of Ascension, the Great Alchemical Work.”

~Marco Lopor

 

You are not completely free until your Energy Field is sealed and on a higher vibrational frequency.

Indeed to come out of Darkness means to fight your demons that Keep your Energy Field in a lower frequency.

What are the demons? Fears, ignorance, selfishness, grief, blame, shame, Illusions, ego attachments and so on.

These demons block your chakras, avoid your kundalini awakening and the activation of your pineal gland, your connection with Source.

How do you fight your demons?

With all the Love and the Strength you Can have and the Powerful Combination of both.

Your demons are terrified by your Unconditional Love.

When your Energy Field is weak because You are emotionally and mentally weak, You are subjected to hyperdimensional interference.

Energies and entities that enter through the holes of your weak Energy Field Can alter your mood, your Faith, your Hope.

When You switch to Unconditional Love as an emotional and mental state of being, You Seal your Energy Field and You are free from Darkness.

This is the technical part of Ascension, the Great Alchemical Work.

 

~via TheEarthPlan.com

LISA RENEE (Time Shift Blog): “Group Peace Prayers”

Dear ES Family,

In recognition of the annual attempts to capitalize on the 9-11 code detonation for controlling timelines, we are holding a sacred space for a group peace prayer field with the intention to neutralize harmful and destructive agendas with the recent weather wars, pushing on the eastern seaboard of the United States, as well as the Bermuda Stargate.

As the Avatar Christos-Sophia and the Light of God that I Am, I choose to represent Human freedom in God’s Sovereign Power on the Earth. I ask that these words and intentions represent all of those human beings who are unable to speak whom wish spiritual freedom and to live in peace on the earth.

We’ll get started at Noon eastern, but will play the meditations and music until late evening. Thank you!

 

Peace Prayer Group

Tuesday September 11th at 9:00 am PT /12:00 (Noon) ET

 

Peace Prayer Group Webpage

This page will have the LIVE LINK to listen to the call. When we’re live you’ll see a play button:

https://energeticsynthesis.com/index.php/events/peace-prayer-group

Click to hear the LIVE WEB CAST, this is available to the public.

Please note that only registered members can see and post comments.

Thank you. Enjoy the Group Meditation! ♥

With Love and GSF,

Lisa and Tomás

 

~via EnergeticSynthesis.com