LISA RENEE: “Shifting Mental Pain”

“In order to clear and shift mind control and negative thoughts from running one’s life, one must identify them as the symptoms of the planetary and personal consciousness evolution. This time on earth, more than any other time in human history, is an incredible push towards consciousness participation for humanity to regain spiritual liberation. Liberation is free from the effects of negative thoughts and free from emotional suffering. Each time you shift an emotional response from anger or judgment to love, joy, gratitude, and acceptance, you are doing global service work at a personal level.There is an attitude of interpreting life that will bring you inner peace, calmness, joy, happiness, unconditional love, and equanimity regardless of what is going on in your life and the outside world. There is another attitude of interpreting life that will make you feel upset, angry, irritable, impatient, moody, emotional, unstable, and depressed. These are two examples of choices one can make at every moment when interpreting our life experiences. Neither of these emotional states have anything to do with what is actually going on in your life or in the environment. It has everything to do with how one is interpreting one’s life.”

~Lisa Renee


Shifting Mental Pain with Interpretation Analysis

In order to clear and shift mind control and negative thoughts from running one’s life, one must identify them as the symptoms of the planetary and personal consciousness evolution. This time on earth, more than any other time in human history, is an incredible push towards consciousness participation for humanity to regain spiritual liberation. Liberation is free from the effects of negative thoughts and free from emotional suffering. Each time you shift an emotional response from anger or judgment to love, joy, gratitude, and acceptance, you are doing global service work at a personal level.

There is an attitude of interpreting life that will bring you inner peace, calmness, joy, happiness, unconditional love, and equanimity regardless of what is going on in your life and the outside world. There is another attitude of interpreting life that will make you feel upset, angry, irritable, impatient, moody, emotional, unstable, and depressed. These are two examples of choices one can make at every moment when interpreting our life experiences. Neither of these emotional states have anything to do with what is actually going on in your life or in the environment. It has everything to do with how one is interpreting one’s life.

Every chronic state of mental pain that is generated through anger, fear, or worry is an opportunity for one to see the places where love, forgiveness and self-acceptance are required to heal. This pain or fear shows us the areas we need to transcend, in order to evolve from beyond the ego’s mental control over our lives and into being guided by the higher intelligence of our inner spirit. As long as we resist the inner work necessary to clear fear attitudes and their pain responses, we remain spiritually stagnant. When we hit cycles of spiritual stagnation, we will feel immense pain or discomfort that will force us to address that pain in order to be liberated from it. Spiritual development is not always comfortable, and many of us are going beyond our comfort zone at this time, in order to progress to the next level that our spiritual self is demanding from us. If there is spiritual stagnation present, one will be pushed hard to transform. This is a byproduct of spiritual ascension on our planet and that discomfort shows the pathway to developing and refining the path of liberation, which is only found by following your inner spirit.

The Higher Spiritual Intelligence necessitates that we only have preferences, by releasing control to the outcome of events in lives. This is a process of surrendering and known by the phrase, Let Go and Let God. If we become attached to a person, place, thing, or the outcome, then manipulation and interference are a byproduct of that attachment. Attachment is an ego control mechanism based in deep fear. If we are attached to something and it is creating spiritual stagnation, that object will be removed from our lives so we can refocus ourselves back on the inner spirit. This is also why practicing having “preferences” over ego attachment will be a much easier process, with less emotional pain. If we get the lesson the first time, the lesson does not have to be repeated.

Inner peace is a state of mind that accepts the current state of circumstances as they are, without judgment. When faced with adversity one looks for the opportunity to learn its lesson, in order to move past old recurring patterns. This expands our consciousness as we transcend previous limitations. When we move through our fears and perceived limitations we gain incredible amounts of personal power through enhanced self-esteem. When we know we have the power of our spirit within us, we know we are cared for and that things in our life will work out.

We all have the power of our eternal spirit within us to guide us and keep us safe. The 12D shield process is the beginning, which allows us to develope a deeper communication link with this aspect of ourselves. However, we must learn to remove fear and mental bondage in order to be liberated from its control over the body. The body must be prepared to embody the spiritual light, and with that fear programs and negative thoughts must be removed.

As one feels guided, if mental programs have been difficult to control, here is an exercise provided below to bring them to one’s surface awareness. As we acknowledge these thoughts as stemming from negative ego, similar to facing the ghosts that have been haunting the shadows of our mind, we can see the ghost for what it is. When we face it clearly, revealing it from its hidden shadows, its power is diminished and it ceases to have the ability to terrorize us.

Shadows are only powerful when they remain hidden and buried, as the shadow masquerades in falsity that uses fear to torment us with lies. Be brave, to reveal them and place them to face your real spiritual self. The Eternal Self, as I am God I am Sovereign, I am Free!

Our personal sovereignty awaits us through the release of fears by applying personal responsibility to our thoughts and emotions. Choose your authority now, knowing that you are a God, Sovereign, Free Being.

Describe your total responsibility for the Fear (and any of your physical imbalances):



Describe the addictions, obsessions and negative thoughts you will stop NOW:



Describe your spiritual connection to the universe:



Describe the Behaviors you will start:



Describe the Behaviors you will stop:



Describe your process of detachment:



When feeling mentally overwhelmed, return to read what you have written. Review the responsibility you agreed to hold and the commitment you have made to your self to be liberated from the bondage of the mind. Continue to practice now moment awareness and the many other tools available on our website.

During this time let the world unfold and reveal its pathway without pushing to attempt to figure it all out. Allow things to be what they are, allow people to be where they are. When personal expectations are shattered from having attachments, practice the skill of allowing. Allow it to be the way that it is. Relax, Let Go and Allow.

May these times bring peace to reside deeply in our heart.


~via KrystalAegis.com


LISA RENEE: “Radical Forgiveness”

“A racket is a corrupt mental program running in our conscious or unconscious self that justifies itself into being, in order to protect the psyche from its deepest and darkest fears. We are continuing to be repositioned and shifted so that our energy bodies and our consciousness are congruently aligned in the new timeline architecture, as well as the new energy foundation moving forward. This planet is undergoing a continual momentous change, with some pinnacle energies during the Ascension Cycle. As we continually undergo micro-adjustments in just about every area of our inner person and lifestyle, we are witnessing more of the patterns and phenomena of our past cellular memories surfacing. These memories are both ancient and recently personal, they are stemming both from our multiple self-experiences (the many human incarnation experiences of the same patterns) and that which has defined us to accept the belief that we are a part of the human race, having an experience on the planet Earth. As a species we have many concepts or archetypes we believe to be true that define our human identity. These are being challenged deeply now. All of these patterns are being refined during this time to give us the opportunity to see what we need to change or heal inside ourselves. This is a time where we must learn to create our new reality from an entirely new palette of color, an entirely new way of thinking and being in this world.

~Lisa Renee


Radical Forgiveness in Breathwork (Clearing Rackets)


We are continuing to be repositioned and shifted so that our energy bodies and our consciousness are congruently aligned in the new timeline architecture, as well as the new energy foundation moving forward. This planet is undergoing a continual momentous change, with some pinnacle energies during the Ascension Cycle. As we continually undergo micro-adjustments in just about every area of our inner person and lifestyle, we are witnessing more of the patterns and phenomena of our past cellular memories surfacing. These memories are both ancient and recently personal, they are stemming both from our multiple self-experiences (the many human incarnation experiences of the same patterns) and that which has defined us to accept the belief that we are a part of the human race, having an experience on the planet Earth. As a species we have many concepts or archetypes we believe to be true that define our human identity. These are being challenged deeply now.

All of these patterns are being refined during this time to give us the opportunity to see what we need to change or heal inside ourselves. This is a time where we must learn to create our new reality from an entirely new palette of color, an entirely new way of thinking and being in this world.

As you pay attention to these old patterns you may begin to see them as repeated patterns of memory embeds that influence your thoughts and feelings. Their unresolved distortions deeply impact our mental, emotional and social aspects at so many different levels, which can potentially create dysfunction and imbalance.

These mental and emotional imbalances within, simultaneously create deep energetic imbalances and blockages within our energy body and aura. The mental games and control programs that are run by our unconscious self, those larger behavior patterns that are set by and accepted by mass society are coming into blaring review at this time. We have to see who and what is running a “racket” into the mental body and our unconscious mind, and allowing its fear to be programmed into our emotional body.

A racket is a corrupt mental program running in our conscious or unconscious self that justifies itself into being, in order to protect the psyche from its deepest and darkest fears.

It is very tricky and manipulative. However we are able to clearly see these rackets running as the new energy foundation will not tolerate nor support them. Running rackets is the antithesis to embodying personal integrity, and in order to be congruent with the core essence and the nature of our true self, we have to be fully disposed of these rackets.

This is a time of reality check so that we can see what damage has been done and take stock of what we have left to process, so we can live by and speak in the deepest truth and integrity that we are capable. Blind spots in our awareness or the perception we hold of others that keep us in denial or living inside the deceptive psychological defense programs (or these mental rackets) cannot continue. We are being moved to shed layers of drama, trauma and defense mechanisms that we have operated with, as a part of being human. As the first part of the Ascension Wayshower’s we are doing this clearing in depth now. It may show up as a part of healing the larger macrocosm or healing something in your personal life, however its mechanisms are the same. 

All of humanity is subject to running these mental racket programs. This process can be painful as it requires you give it all up at the altar, nothing is held back, nothing is sugar coated, nothing is veiled from your ability to see or live by the truth as you know it. All we need to do is drop any resistance and let the circumstance self correct as we participate by witnessing the pattern, as it is being shifted or completely dissolved. It is also dissolving the membranes that create energetic separation inside of us, so that we can be more whole within and therefore also be more whole in our interaction with others.  This can be intense for us so taking the necessary time out and being gentle and forgiving in these circumstances, is the practice of being in self mastery or energetic mastery.

The aggression of the controller’s agenda will reach a new level of amplification. This amplification will be especially through the Victim-Victimizer software. We may have already been sensing the quality of this chaos and disruption in the external worldscape. We have been heartbroken seeing the many recent events highlighting the violence in the external landscape. These memories are extremely painful when they surface, coupled with the recent events which bring to the surface the extremely dark energy around histories of holocaust, massacres, and blood ritual.

If this has deeply impacted you, taking care of yourself and working your mental healing tools to maintain compassionate yet neutral association with these events is critical, in order to be relieved of suffering. Try to defer pain to understand this may be the larger macrocosm event influencing your body and stay vigilant to keep your mental and emotional body clear. 

Send love, forgiveness and prayers of peace when you can. Apply daily meditation to relax the mind and body. Be aware of the necessity of practicing forgiveness to heal your life, as it is very important to continue to move forward. Many times our physical body and energy bodies will reach intense levels of inner pressure, as this is the merging alignment of the higher light bodies into the physical flesh. This is in order to catalyze the alchemical shift that is required to explode that damaged cellular memory out of the body and clear it from the genetic material. In some rough moments it can feel as if you are being squeezed through cheesecloth.

This is a time for radical forgiveness towards yourself and others. With the following we provide a helpful exercise for those moments when mental rackets or triggers propel a state of negativity or negative looping thoughts. Stay calm and breathe.

WHEN TRIGGERED INTO NEGATIVE OR UNLOVING THOUGHTS TOWARD YOURSELF:

Breath in and slow down your body by applying breath. Take in a deep inhale four counts, hold in four counts, exhale four counts. Do this for up to 4-8 counts until you feel totally out of your mind programs and in your full presence of breath. The Now presence. The goal here is getting you OUT of your mind control program and into your PRESENCE. This can happen when you place your focus on your breath. Your mind has to release and let go. Reprogramming is most effective when done outside of the mind, when you are engaged in the observer mode of your full present consciousness.

Now Invocate:

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to experience _________________.

(Minimum of 3 sets, then do or work with the breathing exercise again if you feel you have lost now moment presence, for a total set of nine commands for each item chosen).

You choose the item you feel is most pressing for each set of the exercise. You may want to alternate daily or work on one issue you know is pressing consecutively for 21 days, or until you feel emotionally freed from the memory or pattern. You can choose. Some sample suggestions:

  1. Lack of Self Love or Acceptance.
  2. Lack of personal power or fear.
  3. Entities and people sucking my life force.
  4. Self-doubt and worry.


AFFIRM: I AM THE POWER, MASTER AND CAUSE OF MY EMOTIONS!


~via KrystalAegis.com


LISA RENEE: “Relationship Closure Exercise”

“As we go through our emotional clearing process, sometimes it’s very helpful to complete the following relationship closure exercise. This exercise is very helpful in resolving crystallized patterns in the body by stating intentions and declarations that you are forgiving, releasing and closing this particular relationship that trauma, emotional fears or other abhorrent energies that were recorded as cellular memories in your energy field. Any time we experience shock or trauma it creates a memory imprint or residue in our energy field. To fully resolve, heal and clear these issues, recorded as traumas, in our physical body and other energy body systems, we need to become aware of that trauma in bringing it to the surface and allowing it to be released fully and with intention. Generally, I have found this helps clear and release emotional blocks much more effectively, efficiently and rapidly.”

~Lisa Renee

 

For this exercise, you will need a pad of paper and a pen or pencil. So, as you are ready with your pen and your pad of paper, let’s begin the series of questions.

When you are ready, take a deep breath and quite your mind and allow yourself to prepare for this exercise.

Ask yourself if there is any human being or circumstance in your life that you need to forgive or resolve.

Bring up that person or circumstance to mind. Feel the story, feel the memory, what that feels like.

And now we’re going to ask the following questions and as that question is asked, you write out completely your answer. On your piece of paper you allow yourself to write and express all that you need to, allow it all to come out, let yourself feel your feelings until you feel complete with that question.

For each person and each circumstance, here are four questions to ask yourself and to write out and express completely.

1. The first question is to list all of your resentments toward that person or towards that circumstance.

2. The second question is to list all your regrets towards that person or circumstance.

3. The third question is to write all unsaid or undelivered communications towards that person or circumstance.

4. The fourth question is to communicate and describe anything you would have wanted to acknowledge that person for, but you did not.
When you feel complete and have written everything that you feel you need to, burn the paper, in a safe place, of course, and invocate the following out loud.

I address my greater God self for final release and disposition. Please witness my declaration of power. I rescind any and all vows and contracts I have taken, anyone in this body has taken and anyone in my genetic lineage has taken pertaining to any vow of illusion, separation and disharmony. Remove and clear all negative beliefs, negative implants, ancestral patterning, genetic patterning, and improper karmic attachments to ______________ (insert the name of the person), known or unknown to me.

I claim my divine inheritance and self sovereign god power now. I now declare these vows and contract null and void in this incarnation and all incarnations across space and time, all parallel realities, parallel universes, alternate realities, alternate universes, all planetary systems, all source systems, all dimensions and the void.

Spirit; please release all structures, devices, entities, orientations or effects associated with this relationship through vow or agreement now.

Beloveds in deep love and gratitude, thank you. And so it is.

One interesting factor to note is the energetic and physical act of sexuality and its implications on the energy field. The sharing of fluids between two people creates a spiritual bond or cord of energy that cannot be broken energetically, unless made aware of, cleared of conflict and transmuted. So psychological bonds may be broken once a serious relationship has ended, however the spiritual energetic cord still continues to exist. These cords are like electrical wires with energy passing back and forth through them, the power based on the depth and intensity of the connection. It is also important to understand that the thoughts and emotions held or the state of consciousness you are holding when you are having sex is what you are implanting into your partner. Naturally being in love, holding loving thoughts with the desire to serve your partner is the goal when you are energetically blending at this level with another being. The incredible emotional impact of love as a force shared and blended in a soul union can burn off karma and even contribute an amazing force of transformation for others. Understanding these karmic bonds you create with people every time you have a sexual interaction surely creates more discernment in one’s choices for a partner. [1][2]

 

References:

  1. PSD #4 Cords
  2. PSD 4 Cords Transcription

See Also:

Spiritual Housekeeping

Attachments

Psychic Cording

 

~via Ascension Glossary

LISA RENEE: “Psychic Cording”

“As a practitioner in energetic healing it has been clear for me that emotional conflicts left unresolved from the past will create sympathetic response in organs, tissues, areas of the body where the trauma may be projected and stored energetically within all layers of the body and its field. Deep wounds left unresolved make a pathway from the energy bodies to the physical body and lodge and store the trauma patterns cellularly and the physical body starts to create imbalance unique to the incarnates genetics, ancestral/karmic patterns and other factors. I have witnessed energetic entities, spirit attachments, multiple personalities or just a dark being latched on to wounds and manipulating the emotional response to that of its desire rather than to its unaware subject. One interesting factor to note is the energetic and physical act of sexuality and its implications on the energy field. These cords are like electrical wires with energy passing back and forth through them, the power based on the depth and intensity of the connection. Understanding these karmic bonds you create with people every time you have a sexual interaction surely creates more discernment in one’s choices for a partner. The more Attachments we carry, the more conduits we have for potential problems and loss of energy in our particular gridwork so again, all energetic imbalance and disease really start getting created through the higher template structures, through the etheric body. I believe that many times if we are lacking awareness in our own energetic boundaries, we will be easily corded and drained by an assortment of parasitic energies. This is why clearly it is important to break outside the 3D box we have been conditioned as our absolute reality and understand these dynamics and not allow anything uninvited in your energy field.”

~Lisa Renee

 

Etheric Attachment Cords (energetic ties) commonly form between people, places, timelines and objects, especially when the connections are deeply emotional in nature. These attachments clairvoyantly appear as long thin stringy cords, like great long etheric telephone wires. When these Attachments remain between people they can become a conduit for draining energy from the filled to the empty. Generally this is usually from the person who has made the effort consciously or unconsciously to energize the one who is an energetic vampire. These cords can also send and receive pain, guilt, fear and any number of thoughts and feelings that may not even be yours. Also traumas experienced at various times in one’s life may create cording and fracture your energy to split off and be depleted into the past at the source event. Hence the importance of being present in the eternal “now” moment as one has available all energetic resources when the Consciousness is aware in present time. Much illness and imbalance is caused from depleted energy resources meant for the present moment use, however, the mental body is whirring in obsession over pain from the past experience leaving the body severely depleted.

Losing Energy through Cords

It is possible many times these cords drain away energy gridwork from your etheric body where the attachment is attached, depleting the area of chi and leading to imbalance or disease. Often these problems can be perceived as a psychic attack when strong emotions flare up. You can muscle test or utilize a pendulum/guidance to be clear whether what you are feeling is in fact an attachment and then take steps to clear and release.

The more attachments you carry, the more conduits for potential problems and loss of energy and gridwork in your field. This will also slow your vibrational increase in one’s efforts to evolve as your light body is trying to build more gridwork to maintain that energy level and vibration. Releasing attachments with unconditional love through Forgiveness and Self Acceptance goes hand in hand with spiritual growth.

Attachments that form may be imbalanced or conflicted emotions that we are carrying in our beliefs and/or connections to others. Lacking awareness of our personal boundaries we give away pieces of ourselves energetically due to guilt, conditional love and allow our power to be drained when we conform to another’s expectations of us without allowing acceptance for who we are at the authentic levels. To fully release cordings one must be able to identify and do an honest inventory of personal emotional behavior and habits. Any conflicting emotions should be separated out. If one is confusing love with support into co-dependence, or taking responsibility for others happiness then you are opening yourself up to invasion by others, the ambiguities of these inter-relationships may prevent you from fully cutting the cords. Examining one’s true self in comparison to the subtle abuses we are exposed to from external sources, such as our upbringing, religion, societal expectations and other programming is important to gain clarity towards regaining our autonomy.

Emotional Wounds Vulnerable to Cording

As a practitioner in energetic healing it has been clear for me that emotional conflicts left unresolved from the past will create sympathetic response in organs, tissues, areas of the body where the trauma may be projected and stored energetically within all layers of the body and its field. That particular event of perceived trauma or suffering will be lodged as a dark clump of negative goo or tar like energy, sometimes with multi-cords, layers of attachments to various other life experiences that triggered the same response sourced at the original event of trauma. This compounds the original trauma with even more accumulated debris and to my inner vision appears something like a dark clumpy octopus with tentacles sourced at various timelines and events that trigger the source dark clump of energy to activate the emotional body to experience further pain sensations. Commonly I experienced with clients the perception of a sensation of a deep wound of trauma, let’s say as example, established as a very young child. The trauma timeline at the age of the child gets splintered, a piece of the soul’s spirit fragments off from the pain of the experience and shuts down various energy functions that develop into psycho-spiritual wounds later as an adult.

Deep wounds left unresolved make a pathway from the energy bodies to the physical body and lodge and store the trauma patterns cellularly and the physical body starts to create imbalance unique to the incarnates genetics, ancestral/karmic patterns and other factors. Emotional release, soul retrieval and additional physical bodywork, as in neuromuscular re-structuring, is needed when the wounds are deep and held for a long period of time.

Cords used in Manipulating Emotions

I have witnessed energetic entities, spirit attachments, multiple personalities or just a dark being latched on to wounds and manipulating the emotional response to that of its desire rather than to its unaware subject. This is why clearly it is important to break outside the 3D box we have been conditioned as our absolute reality and understand these dynamics and not allow anything uninvited in your energy field. The simple antidote to these phenomena is maintaining your personal power with the built in god-awareness you have in you, your intuitive faculties, and stating your right to command personal space. You will need to be responsible for your healing, in order for it to be permanent. Many times your inner child or sub-personalities will be sabotaging you from emotionally repressed and built up fears. [1]

Sexual Cords

One interesting factor to note is the energetic and physical act of sexuality and its implications on the energy field. The sharing of fluids between two people creates a spiritual bond or cord of energy that cannot be broken energetically, unless made aware of, cleared of conflict and transmuted. So psychological bonds may be broken once a serious relationship has ended, however the spiritual energetic cord still continues to exist. These cords are like electrical wires with energy passing back and forth through them, the power based on the depth and intensity of the connection. It is also important to understand that the thoughts and emotions held or the state of consciousness you are holding when you are having sex is what you are implanting into your partner. Naturally being in love, holding loving thoughts with the desire to serve your partner is the goal when you are energetically blending at this level with another being. The incredible emotional impact of love as a force shared and blended in a soul union can burn off karma and even contribute an amazing force of transformation for others. Understanding these karmic bonds you create with people every time you have a sexual interaction surely creates more discernment in one’s choices for a partner. [2]

Necessity of Strong Energetic Boundaries

The more Attachments we carry, the more conduits we have for potential problems and loss of energy in our particular gridwork so again, all energetic imbalance and disease really start getting created through the higher template structures, through the etheric body. When medical intuitives and clairvoyants can start to see imbalance in the etheric body then that means the next step is going to be in a physical manifested, if it hasn’t manifested already. So working with the etheric template fields is extremely, extremely important, you can avoid imbalances in your physical if you start working with the etheric template body through Spiritual Housekeeping and clearing it again, up and out.

Cords can be formed when we allow our power to be drained when we are conforming to another’s expectations of us. So any time we are not fully in our authentic Soul power by accepting who we are at the deepest authentic levels, and that’s the big Mind Control program in the third dimension, we have been trained, conditioned to be programmed, that if it is successful, whatever the expectation is coming from in the social or family types of belief structures, this is where these cords also form.

Attachments can be created when we’re not in our personal power and this is why it’s so important to really be self-aware in our behaviors, spend Meditation time getting to know who we really are, as well being conscious in all interactions and in our relationship with others. I believe that many times if we are lacking awareness in our own energetic boundaries, we will be easily corded and drained by an assortment of parasitic energies. We’ve been discussing, the energy boundaries of where a proper auric boundary is, so that you’re more self-contained and protected which is again, 12 inches beneath your feet bubble, 3 feet above your head and about 4 feet in diameter around you is about where you should be holding your energetic boundaries. This is described in the 12D Shield practice.

Forgiveness

It is important to know is that in the release of these karmic debts and these karmic cords is, that one of the most potent frequencies, tones and colors to use to release these karmic cordings is, Forgiveness. So a lot of the times when we are releasing cords, when you’re consciously cutting and clearing cords from another to directly use and also setting your intention and as you are releasing that, that you are completely bringing into your body this tone, color of Forgiveness. This emotional tone is a pink ray of energy that that runs through many other tones, but is a main tone and even if you just bring in the pink ray and that the intention is to hold the complete tone, sound, color and emotional qualities that feeling related to forgiveness, unconditional forgiveness and unconditional forgetfulness. Forgiveness actually dissolves all of the karmic buildup, all of the karmic cording and karmic debt into the greater understanding of Unity; and of accepting the lesson that has been learned or witnessing what happened with Neutrality, from that position in time when that particular cording (that had) actually taken place. [3]

 

Reference:

  1. PSD #4 Cords Transcription
  2. Sexual Cording
  3. PSD #4 Cords Transcription

See Also:

Spiritual Housekeeping

Attachments

Relationship Closure Exercise

Term first found in HGS Manual: Page 92

 

~via Ascension Glossary

LIVE BOLD & BLOOM: “12 Of The Most Important Values To Live By”

What values are important to a life well-lived?

What do you want to be known for? What qualities do you admire in others and work to cultivate in yourself?

And how do those qualities reflect your core beliefs?

Your life values are those that, once you identify them, help you with decision-making and provide the building blocks for your character — specifically the one you want to have.

For example, if one of your top value in life is courage, you’ll likely seek out new challenges so you can act in spite of the fear that comes when you’re faced with the possibility of failure or rejection.

And if forgiveness has recently become one of your values to live by, you’ll want to remind yourself of your new commitment when you’re about to spend time with someone who has hurt you in the past.

But what is the point of identifying your values, and how do they contribute to your growth and happiness?

To answer this question, we’re exploring 12 of the most important values in life and showing how they influence everything you do.

But before we do that, it makes sense to explain what values are in the first place.

What Are Values in Life?

Values are about what you consider important to the life you want to live. They inform your priorities and, when practiced consistently, form the character you want to have.

They’re rooted in your core beliefs about what makes for a life well-lived and about the behavior you want to model for others (including children if you have them).

Shared values are the basis for a common code – a value-based compass – that speeds up decision-making and unites those who share that code.

By expressing those values, the common code articulates different aspects of the shared mission and becomes the key motivator for those who share it.

You can take each of the following examples of values in life to create a code or motto that motivates you to practice that value every day, so it will become second nature when it’s most needed.

12 Most Important Values To Life By

 

1. Courage

Courage is about doing what you believe needs to be done — not in the absence of fear but in spite of it.

You might feel disinclined to offer a genuine apology out of fear that the other will reject it, but courage will help you apologize anyway, because it’s the right thing to do, out of respect for the one you hurt or offended. Whether they accept your apology or not is their business.

Courage requires a step outside of your comfort zone. If you have no fear, you don’t need courage, but when something you know you have to do makes you feel sick inside, courage is what makes you do that thing anyway.

Courage code: “I do what needs to be done, even if fear comes along for the ride.”

2. Kindness

Kindness is about treating others the way you want to be treated.

It’s more than just holding your tongue when you’re tempted to say something unkind; kindness looks for ways to make life better for others. It takes delight in lifting others up and reminding them they’re not alone, invisible, or insignificant.

Kindness and compassion are closely related; the latter involves the readiness to see a situation from someone else’s perspective and to give them the benefit of the doubt. It also takes into consideration what the other person has gone through and chooses to respond with kindness rather than anger or vengefulness.

Both demonstrate at least a subliminal appreciation for the connectedness of all living beings; when you show kindness and compassion to others, you benefit (at least) as much as they do.

Kindness to yourself is also important, and it’s the basis for self-care. Don’t forget to be as kind to yourself as you want others to be.

Schedule time each day for reasonable and thoughtful self-care, and practice mindfulness to be fully present for it. In practicing kindness to yourself, you also make yourself better able to render kindness to others.

Kindness code: “I treat others as I want to be treated — with thoughtfulness, patience, and respect.”

3. Patience

When someone is pushing your buttons, taking your time or attention away from something you want to finish, or making your life harder in some way, you practice patience by putting yourself in the others’ shoes, trying to see the situation from their perspective, and responding with kindness and respect.

No one wants to be treated like an inconvenience or a burden, and sometimes your priorities have to change to make room for something (or someone) more important or more likely to help you grow.

Patience code: “No matter how I feel when someone interrupts me or gets in my way, I always treat them with the same patience I hope for from others when necessity compels me to interrupt them or get in their way.”

4. Integrity

Integrity is about acting and speaking in accordance with your beliefs.

If you say one thing but do the opposite, witnesses to this contradiction aren’t likely to recognize you as a person of integrity. They’re more likely to accuse you of hypocrisy.

Though you may not be fully conscious of the disagreement between your words and actions, if you believe one thing but your actions profess a contradictory belief, you might feel a growing unease and unhappiness with the way you’re acting.

It doesn’t feel right. And you’re faced with a choice: either change your belief, or change your actions.

Integrity code: “What I believe is made clear by what I say and do.”

5. Gratitude / Appreciation

When gratitude is a core belief, you make time for it every day. You prioritize both feeling gratitude and expressing it — in your thoughts, in the words you speak or write, and in your attitude and actions.

You might create the habit of writing a daily gratitude list. And if you recognize the importance of emotion to the fullest experience of gratitude, you’ll likewise place a high value on a daily mindfulness practice.

Showing appreciation to others for their words and actions is also essential to making this a core value. Just as you appreciate it when others thank you for a job well done, for a thoughtful gift, or for rendering the help they needed, others appreciate that recognition too.

And far too often, we act as though others must already know how much we appreciate them. Don’t assume that they do; make sure of it.

Gratitude code: “In the morning, throughout the day, and in the evening, I feel and express gratitude for the good things in my life. And I make sure everyone who has done something good for me knows I appreciate them for it.”

6. Forgiveness

Forgiveness is about letting go of anger and resentment toward those who have hurt or offended you.

You’re not saying what they did was okay or not a big deal; you’re acknowledging that what they did was hurtful but choosing to forgive them in order to be free of the anger and resentment (toward them) that are making you miserable.

In forgiving them, you take back your power and choose happiness and peace of soul for yourself, even if the one who hurt you has never shown the slightest hint of remorse.

Everyone has a capacity for forgiveness — just as everyone has the capacity to hurt others with their words and actions — but not everyone has cultivated a habit of forgiveness.

We learn to be more forgiving by forgiving more. If you write morning pages, add a short list of people you forgive, adding what you forgive them for and something you appreciate about each person.

Forgiveness code: “I forgive those who have hurt me, because I know I’ve made mistakes and hurt people, too, and I want to be free of this anger and resentment. I choose freedom, and I choose to genuinely want (and work for) the good of those who’ve hurt me.”

7. Love

Love sees the good in everyone, and it wants good things for them. You may not always know what’s best for someone else, but if you love them, you want their ultimate happiness, and you want to see them grow.

You recognize that no one reaches adulthood with their character fixed and unchangeable; we’re all a work in progress. Things your 20-year-old self would say might appall your 40-year-old self. It’s part of being human if you’re a human that continues to grow.

Did someone you love do terrible things in their 20’s or 30’s — things they would never do now (in their mid-40’s)?

Forgive them for not knowing better before they learned whatever stopped them from doing those terrible things. And forgive yourself for not knowing that human beings are all capable of terrible things — just as we’re also capable of growth.

When you love someone, you don’t base that love on the kind of person they were ten or twenty years ago, or on the person, you hope they become or that you wish they were. Your love tells them, “You are enough — just as you are today.”

You recognize that their beliefs and behavior may change as they grow, but since your love doesn’t depend on what they believe or on whether you agree on everything, your love doesn’t lessen with time and with the challenges those changes bring.

Love code: “I love with both passion and understanding; real love is wide awake.”

8. Growth

If growth is one of your core values, you look for opportunities to grow as a person and to help others grow, too.

You take the time to identify your values and your overall mission, so you can live in accordance with it and become more and more the person you have to be in order to fulfill your mission.

You know that growth isn’t a destination but a process, and you want to enjoy that process and help others to enjoy their own.

You might take an interest in coaching or in group growth opportunities, where members support and encourage each other. You recognize true and wholehearted collaboration as an asset and a growth facilitator, and you prioritize growth over comfort and security.

Real growth might mean shaking things up at home or at work, but the more committed you are to your growth and to that of those you care about, the less you mind rocking the boat.

Growth code: “Every day, I’m growing more into the person I want to be.”

9. Listening

If active listening is a core value for you, you value others’ input and invest time and energy in learning how to see things from their perspectives.

So, it makes sense that when someone wants to tell you something, you give them your full attention and thoughtfully consider their words.

Whereas before you felt tense with the expectation of having to defend your beliefs against an unfriendly viewpoint, you’ve learned (through practice) to listen with genuine openness rather than an ego-centric fear of being proven wrong.

You recognize that you don’t know everything, and you don’t see even familiar things from every angle, so you appreciate it when others share their perspectives. And your body language as well as your feedback shows them you’re listening and that you care about what they have to say.

Listening code: “I listen to others with my full attention, so I can learn from them and show thoughtful consideration for their ideas.”

10. Respect

If you want to be known for treating all human (or living) beings with respect, you probably base that respect on something more fundamental than someone’s rank or social status.

Otherwise, why would you consider it a priority to treat all humans with equal respect — regardless of their age, income, or background?

Or why would you put more energy into making sure the least exalted among you is treated with respect than into making sure others treat you with the same consideration.

It doesn’t mean you don’t consider yourself equally worthy of respect, but you find it easy to put yourself in other people’s shoes, so in making sure they feel respected, you feel more respected, too.

Respect code: “I treat all living beings with the same respect with which I like to be treated.”

11. Self-Giving

Another word for self-giving is sacrifice, but self-giving has a more positive connotation. Essentially, you’re giving of yourself — your time, your attention, your energy, your treasure, your abilities — to help or enrich another.

Real love doesn’t hesitate to give of itself until it hurts, knowing that the momentary pain is nothing compared to the benefit won by that self-giving.

The word “selfless” implies that someone has given so much of themselves, they’ve reserved nothing for their own use or enjoyment, but in giving yourself — if you give out of love — your joy is in what that gift brings to others.

Self-giving can be overdone but only when the motive is pride (or insecurity) rather than love.

Self-giving code: “I give of myself to others not only to connect with them but to acknowledge our connectedness. What I give to them, I also receive.”

12. Vision

You may be used to talking about vision in the context of a specific person’s “vision for the future,” but the larger sense of vision is not something that you own or that comes from you; it comes through you and inspires you and others.

Because the larger vision isn’t confined to your ego, the power of that vision is free to attract, illuminate, and flow through you.

Your vision is connected to one that is infinite and uncontainable — you do not exist to serve yourself at the expense of others; you exist to cooperate with others in the creation of a community that benefits all living creatures.

Your personal vision — what you see as your response to the larger vision — informs your personal mission and the process by which you live out that mission.

It’s not about the lifestyle you want or the things you’ll have when you’re “successful.” It has more to do with allowing yourself to be led by the greater vision through your personal links to it — your intuition and inner wisdom.

Vision code: “I live according to a vision guided by my inner wisdom and judgment.”

Now, it’s your turn.

What are your values? And what will you do today to put one (or more) of them into practice?

One small action today makes more of a difference than you probably realize.

Think of each small action as a seed you plant that, as long as you nurture it along the way, grows into a healthy tree with roots and branches, shedding seeds of its own.

Your values are the life in every seed you plant. Choose the best values, and make them part of your blueprint for personal growth.

And may your courage and passion for growth influence everything you do today.

 

~via LiveBoldandBloom.com