CONSCIOUS REMINDER: “Before You Start Healing And Guiding Others — Heal Yourself First”

The self-help and spiritual community is a brilliant one where one could really grow and become the best version of themselves spiritually and mentally.

But somehow, even this community has become contaminated, not because of any corruption, but because of their lack of self-realization. There have been numerous occasions where I was sitting in front of a healer, a mentor, or a teacher, but they could not really heal me.

Rather, I found that they were wounded themselves and their wounds were reflected through me. What it showed me is that their wounds were affecting me and not in a good way.

Wounded healers can’t really help you much, they don’t practice what they preach. As a result, you only end up being worse than you already were.

It’s common knowledge — you will only trust professionals when they actually do what they are supposed to do. You would not visit a surgeon who knows all the basics of conducting an operation but does not know the practical application of the same, right?

That’s the case with a wounded healer. They know all the theoretical means to make someone spiritually healed, but since they have not practiced healing themselves, they fail to do anything about their patient. Oftentimes, they forget that we have been through this as well.

As a healer, I have been wounded too, and I have understood it when a wounded healer is trying to heal me. Similarly, as a wounded healer myself, I had tried to help others heal as well.

The vibrational energy that a healer has which should envelop a wounded person just doesn’t click. On top of that, if you are a healer and you are wounded, you cannot pose yourself as a healer. That is called fraud and you should not do something like that.

When you are trying to heal someone, or at least, when you are trying to become a healer — you have to ask yourself some important questions. They will be hard ones and you might find it difficult to answer them, but you must:

Have you been wounded before and have you become a healer without addressing the wound?

Are you still suffering from the wound but are trying to pretend that you are not and that is taking up a lot of energy?

These are internal questions that you must ask to finally understand yourself. If the answers are ‘Yes’, then you should stop being a healer for others and try to release your own wounds first.

How Can You Do it

Sit with yourself and go inside. Confront your wound, however painful it turns out to be. Don’t shy away from it. Remove any obstacle that is trying to stop you from transforming. Become free! Become a living experience of what you have always preached.

Don’t go about preaching to others when you need to direct your teachings to your inner-self. I have been in the same position. I became my own quantum alchemist and started to do some inner work to release all my blocks and transform myself.

It was painful and it does not go away immediately. I still work on it. Yes, my business failed during this time, but that’s okay. At least I was true to myself.

Self-Realization

Before you engage in this intensive programme, you have to go through some self-realization. First, you have to ask yourself:

Is it your service time that triggers your wounded self?

Do you have a specific kind of structure that makes you believe you can be a mentor or a healer?

If the answers are yes, then go on with your services.

But if it is no, then stop. Heal your wounded child. Become what you teach first. Transform yourself and then you can transform others.

The world needs healers, but it does not need wounded ones. Be a proper healer and help the world grow.

 

~via ConsciousReminder.com

CONSCIOUS REMINDER: “We Don’t Meet Anyone By Accident — The 6 Types Of Cosmic Connections Destined To Happen”

Always keep in mind that everything that occurs in your life occurs for a specific reason, and you never meet someone with pure coincidence.

Everything you go through has some specific meaning so that it is going to take where you have to be. For those that are not familiar with synchronicities, they are ‘meaningful coincidences.’

In fact, they are the individuals that come to your life in order to show you a certain thing or have that things occur which started a chain reaction. They can come in various forms too.

Every person that comes in your life has a lesson to teach you. You learn from others, and others learn from you. There are people that come in your life in order to tear you apart, while others will be there to grow together with you.

Here are the six common types of people that you may come in contact with in life. All these are synchronicities connections:

1. People that come to remind you.

Those individuals are the ones that come in your life in order to remind you of something really important. In fact, they do that with evoking knowledge within you and helping you understand that knowledge. They are going to stay marked on the soul forever, regardless of being just a permanent part of life.

2. People that make you grow.

They are considered the teachers for your soul. So, they will come in your life in order to help you become a better person. They will also be there to help you when you need them, and with their help, you are going to understand who you are or who you are supposed to be too.

3. People that are here to stay.

They are the ones that will be that part of your life eternally. They will be your support, always being there when you will need them. With them, you will count a lot of experiences, and the connection between you two is going to be stronger than you imagined before.

4. People that come to awaken you constantly.

They come in your life in order to shake your reality. Usually, they are the ones you never wanted to meet, but you actually learned numerous things from them. Not every person you met is a positive one. Talking about your growth, negativity plays a fundamental role. This Universe actually knows a lot more about you than you definitely do.

5. People that are holding space for you.

They are the ones that come in your life for a short moment. So, they will pass near you, still having the ability to provide you with the feeling that you are not alone in this world. Also, they will share several words with you, or simply a glance. They are going to make an effect right when you have the necessity of it.

6. People that are destined to leave

You have to be aware that they will not be in your life for a long time. They came in your life, you fell in love with them, then they hurt you and it broke your heart. The reason why they came in your life was to learn something from them, so remember that every experience with learning is not going to be positive, there will be negative too.

 

~via ConsciousReminder.com

MATEO SOL: “6 Ways You Hinder Your Self-Growth Without Knowing It”

Our “self-esteem” is a very delicate illusion. We are so off-centered when it comes to locating the origin of our self-worth, that the smallest realization of an imperfection in ourselves can bring up all kinds of insecurities.

When a person begins working with their soul, they will start through self-exploration to gain energy, vitality, and clarity. They will also, however, notice the ‘shock’ of beginning to see their own unconscious selves and their deep inner fragmentation (e.g: all your sub-personalities).

These contradictions within ourselves that speak of who we truly are beyond the social and cultural conditioning in our lives, are humbling, but more importantly, they can also be disturbing. If we were to discover and consciously become aware of all these contradictions at once, the shock would be so great we would most likely go insane.

Our brains have a limited capacity to process all the intellectual and sensory information that we encounter at any given moment, and because of this the unconscious mind exists. In essence, the unconscious mind is a psychological “buffer” which is a part of the brain that stores all the unprocessed information the conscious mind can’t handle.

The unconscious mind works as a shock-absorber, and in psychology this is known as a “defense mechanism”. There are an infinity of defense mechanisms going on within us at any given moment, but these are some of the most common I’ve observed in our practices:

Innocent Bystander

One of the greatest hindrances in anybody’s journey of self-growth is to fool themselves into thinking they haven’t done anything wrong. This may be why the recovering addict’s first step is to acknowledge they have a problem. Most people live in denial or avoidance of exploring themselves because it keeps them from properly recognizing their more unsavory traits and capacities.

“The world is screwed up but I’m completely guilt free” is their basic outlook on life. They refuse to see the interconnection between their actions and lifestyle with the external world around them.

Innocent Critic

This defense mechanism is very similar to the Innocent Bystander, only this one avoids guilt by actively criticizing the world and people around them. Criticizing is our way of rebelling against society and wanting to find a way out, of wanting to be outside of the ‘herd’ while still feeling a sense of false participation.

Critical thought is a necessary instrument in any persons self-growth. But often these “critics” use critical thinking as way of boosting their ego, to feel smarter than the ‘herd’ who haven’t realized what the critic has. Unfortunately, noticing what’s wrong with the state of affairs of the world isn’t enough unless you actively apply a solution to the problem. It’s the essential difference between the paths of self-discovery and self-understanding.

Suppression

Unquestionably, a major obstacle in living a fulfilling life to the maximum of your potential is your inability to be authentic to yourself (it’s the key element in Self-Love). All too often we live with an inner tension of controlling desires that we fear will be socially unacceptable. Let’s say you like a movie or a song that you know your friends don’t like, or maybe you are attracted to someone you know everyone will disapprove of, so you suppress that feeling.

The suppression won’t make the feeling go away, in fact, what happens is that you might be so good at suppressing the feelings that your unconscious mind learns to switch between your authentic self (“I like this person or thing”) to your false sub-personality (“I don’t like the person or thing anymore”).

In the end, the unconscious defense mechanism of “suppression” is protecting you from experiencing confusion as to whether you like something or not by jumping from one extreme to the other. Not only does suppression hinder your self-growth, but it can also contribute towards emotional, psychological and physical repression resulting in a host of sicknesses.

Repression

Repression differentiates from suppression in one important way. While suppression is initially a conscious process of having a desire and learning to avoid or ignore is, repression is an entirely unconscious process.

For example, you might have had a traumatizing experience as a child that unconsciously affected your feelings towards whatever the experience involved. This unconscious defense mechanism basically serves to protect you from feeling pain or other difficult emotions connected to the memories of what is being repressed.

Sometimes, religious beliefs or social conditioning can be so strong that desires that would normally be consciously suppressed (such as sexuality for instance), become automatically unconsciously repressed. You don’t even become aware of what exactly were the desires of your original authentic self, and this makes you completely out of touch with your true self. This self-denying defense mechanism makes it very difficult to learn and cultivate Self-Love.

Reactive Extremes

In psychology the technical term is “reactive formation”, and this is something you’ll observe everywhere. The nature of the unconscious mind is that it requires absolute certainties — it needs to see the world in black or white. There is no grey, or “in between”.

Many people who had a very strict religious upbringing for example, grow older and become disillusioned with the dogmatic ideas they’ve been taught. These people unconsciously find atheism a very attractive option, and become fanatical anti-God advocates, almost dogmatically. Another example of a reactive extreme is the person who finds it difficult to deal with, or understand, other people, and as a reaction decides to become a hermit and go live in the mountains.

Going to reactive extremes can also be illustrated in the case of sour grapes (or the false pretense that we don’t care for something we really do care for, which can be illustrated in the Fox and the Grapes fable). In this situation, our unconscious mind realizes that we are fixated on a certain topic so it protects us by going from one extreme to the other, e.g. from love to hatred.

Blameless Victim

I’m sure we’ve all come across an angry victim of life, someone who blames other people or the world for their difficulties. But everyone uses blame as a defense mechanism to some extent. In truth, what we’re defending ourselves from is our own responsibility for dealing with the unpleasant experience we’ve been given.

To indulge in blame is to give up personal responsibility and mentally delegate it to someone else, convincing ourselves that we are not responsible for the state of our lives, instead blaming it on some “outside force”. The blameless victim mechanism blocks us from seeing clearly just how we are contributing to our own suffering.

Essentially, the blameless victim is one of the fiercest protectors of our ego. It causes us to feel that we’re never failing ourselves, or that we lack the maturity or strength to come to terms with the reality of the situations we’re confronted with. Whatever happened is not evidence of our own inadequacy, but of someone else’s.

Have you observed any defense mechanisms in yourselves or in others? Let me know in the comments below!

 

~via Wake-UpWorld.com

PIA LLAMA: “8 Signs You Are the Designer of Your Life”

There is always a great storm before the sky clears to let in the most astounding light. The storm is dark and heavy and may feel like hell but no transformation was ever easy. Be present with yourself in this time, you’re on the right track.

Here are 8 signs that your life is getting better, even though it seems difficult.

1)  You’re starting to make major changes in your lifestyle

You stop procrastinating and do what you really want to, simply because you believe you can. You may make changes in your diet, start eating better and successfully stick to exercise regimes. You choose to do things out of a sense of adventure not necessity or obligation.

2)  You feel like the world is full of opportunity, perhaps too much of it!

When you realize your true capabilities and your interests, you may feel confused or misguided. That’s okay, try your hand at whatever your heart desires and see where it takes you!

3)  As you begin to get closer to your real self, you wonder whether you’ve abandoned some distinct parts of you

Everything that becomes a subconscious pattern, attaches itself to the ego and molds our ‘persona’. When we start shedding negative, redundant patterns, we often feel like we’ve lost a part of ourselves.

In reality, we are growing into the version of ourselves that we always wanted and were at our core. So don’t be afraid and know that you are the conscious creator of your life and mind.

4)  You are not afraid to speak your mind

You’re no longer afraid to speak your mind and make your truth known to others. This newfound sense of self will often affect your relationships; some might wither away making way for healthier ones.

Just remember that they cannot love or appreciate what they cannot comprehend and require time to understand the real you.

5)  With an increased self-awareness you start to understand what you truly want

You stop repeating the same mistakes. Through the laborious process of trial and error you have gathered enough self-awareness to live your life honoring your wants and needs. You shed old patterns not only as a consequence of this self-awareness but also, self-love.

You no longer see the point of putting yourself through situations that aren’t in favor of your well-being. All decisions come from a deep, intuitive knowing.

6)  You notice things you didn’t before

You may start to feel like you can see right through people’s true intentions. This may scare you at first as some may have less than noble intentions, but it is the gift that comes with being in touch with your intuition. Don’t ignore the signs, always trust your gut!

7)  Your sensitivity is through the roof!

You don’t know why you’ve been bursting into tears at the drop of a hat. You’re more empathic toward yourself and others, as you notice more dissonance between you and people you love.

It all points toward healing the self and relationships. Everything that you feel, must be let out and felt completely.

8)  You stop playing the blame game

Finally, you realize that you are the one solely responsible for your actions and happiness. No one else is to be blamed except you. Stop waiting for a person or situation to arise in your life for you to experience happiness.

Reclaim your well-being. See your own divinity, your natural state.

 

~via FractalEnlightenment.com

DEJAN DAVCEVSKI: “4 Steps How To Realign Yourself With Your True Essence”

Having an understanding of the basics of our existence makes it easier for us to align ourselves with our natural frequencies.

As we tune in to the right frequency, we will become more and more our true selves by vibrating and projecting our true essence upon the world. How to realign with your truth?

Start by looking within and examining yourself of how you view reality. Determine if your views are aligned with The Universal principles.

If you feel some pressure, you may not be totally aligned and need to begin the process of self transformation. You don’t have to worry because it doesn’t have to be in big steps.

You only need to do one thing at a time in this journey to alignment.

4 Steps How To Realign With Your True Essence:

1. Change your lifestyle.

Begin with changing your lifestyle, the food you eat, the people you surround yourself with, the routines you do, and the activities you spend your time with.

2. Let go of everything that doesn’t resonate with you.

Let go of all people and things that don’t serve you and replace them with everything that contributes to the alignment of your core frequency until you vibrate in love and happiness.

3. Do some alchemy.

Become an alchemist by going within your darkness and transmuting it through your light. This is how real transformation happens, not by removing the darkness but by transmuting it through the frequency of love, your very own core frequency.

4. Be persistent and patient.

Self transformation is not that complicated as what you might have previously thought. The process may take awhile, it depends on your growth but this journey isn’t linear. It’s full of ups and downs but you have to be gentle with yourself as you go along.

Implement these steps whenever you feel that you are out of alignment with your truth. The best sign of this is the feeling of being lost. Whenever you feel lost try these steps and trust the process as it might take some time to realign.

 

 

~via LifeCoachCode.com

GILBERT ROSS: “The 12 Biggest Life Secrets Forgotten By Mankind”

The more I ponder about life, the more I come to one solid realisation:  The biggest curse and predicament of modern Man is forgetfulness.  Like a creeping malaise, forgetfulness has seeped through all of Man’s being and doing.  Individually, collectively, historically or culturally, we are spellbound to forget.

We haven’t only forgotten our past but also our place in the present and our responsibility of the future.  On a personal level, our ego-based state of consciousness is on a mission to keep us in this state of forgetfulness — to break the link to our being as a whole and to the interconnected web of life and universal consciousness.  On a collective level, this forgetfulness is perpetuated and reinforced by social and cultural means — mainly by being tranced into a reality of unconscious consumerism, inauthentic lifestyles and a materialistic mindset.

The brighter side of it is that we all have the chance to re-member and re-connect to ourselves and the universe at large.  The power of remembering is at the centre of the spiritual path to self-discovery and realisation.

Here is a list of what I believe we have forgotten, or more importantly, a list of things to remember:

1. We forgot our place in the natural world:

In the last couple of hundred years we have detached ourselves from nature.  We have exploited, ravaged, consumed and attempted to control nature to appease our greed driven by self-absorbed madness.  We tried to distance ourselves from the natural circle of life.  We forgot how to listen to and understand the natural rhythms and cycles of the earth — its signs and languages.  We forgot to follow nature’s path and live in balance with it.

2. We forgot our connection to life and the cosmos:

By detaching ourselves from nature, we forgot that we are deeply connected to it and to the cycles of the universe.  Some tribes on the outskirts of ‘civilisation’, and who still follow ancestral ways, have preserved this connection with respect and reverence.  We, on the other hand have instilled a sense of separateness which drove us out of balance and in dis-ease.  We forgot how all consciousness is interconnected and weaved into a delicate and beautiful dance.

3. We forgot our ancient wisdom:

We forgot our ancestral wisdom.  In the quest to gain scientific knowledge through the rationalisation of our mind, we forgot the wisdom through the opening of our heart.  We forgot the ancient stories and folk wisdom that was handed down from from seers and wise men of antiquity who lived in harmony with the universe.

4. We forgot our path and our dreams:

By stirring away from our inner path we forgot to dream the dream of life.  More importantly we forgot how to awake in that dream and see our true nature as co-creators of life — as the dreamers.  We forgot that we have the power to weave dreams and use our power of intention to direct those dreams into manifestation.

5. We forgot our purpose:

With too much chatter, noise and distraction in this dense reality we forgot what we came here to do.  We forgot our purpose.  We are caught in the mass trance of fabricated consensual reality.  We lost sight of our authenticity, that inner spark that drives us towards our happiness and self-realisation.  We forgot that we are here to be realised as spiritual beings embodied in a physical form and embedded in a congenial universe.

6. We forgot that everything is Love:

This is perhaps the deepest mystery of all that only some seers came to understand it as an all-embracing truth.  That truth however is hidden somewhere deep inside of us.  We knew it at some point but have lost touch with it.  We forgot that everything is ultimately energy and consciousness and that love is the fundamental fabric of existence that runs through all energy and consciousness.

7. We forgot to Forgive:

By being made to believe that we are separate and disconnected from the others and from everything else, we forgot to forgive.  In its deepest sense forgiveness is the act of reminding ourselves that we are one with everyone and everything and that there is no victim or perpetrator.  It’s just all of us together moving together in a dynamic web we call life.

8. We forgot to be Free:

Remind yourself one thing everyday:  You were made to be free.

We were born and raised in a ‘reality’ where freedom is only a concept.  We were bound to the shackles of fear, misconceptions, false ideologies, material reward and held ransom to rules and laws laid down to safeguard the interest of the few.  We were made to forget that we are free agents of change.  We are free to be who we are without fear or guilt.

9. We forgot our real power:

Living in fear has made us forget how powerful we are.  We forgot the massive power of our will and intention to change our reality.  We have been tranced into sleepwalking and following the ready made signs like automatons.

10. We forgot our lessons from history:

If there is something that history has taught us is how fast we are at forgetting our lessons.  Time and time again we keep on repeating the same mistakes, stuck in the same patterns of greed and self-destruction.  We cannot be blamed individually for the mistakes done by humanity in the past but we are responsible as individuals to to remind ourselves of the past mistakes and pass it on to the collective psyche.

11. We forgot to be simple:

Human life got more complex and complicated.  We are seduced by the glitter of more and not by the power of less.  We forgot to be simple and the meaning of simplicity.  Life is simple really.  Simplicity means discarding all the inessential stuff and ideas that clutter the view to our life purpose and the other truths we have forgotten.

12. We forgot to trust, believe and wonder:

We lost our enchantment with the world. We forgot to be wondered by the miracle of life.  We do not stand in awe at the majesty of it all anymore.  Our skepticism and cynical view of the world has made us lose trust in ourselves and the magic of the universe.  We forgot how to believe.  This is perhaps the biggest tragedy of all.  It weakened our spirit and impoverished our soul.

The brighter side of it is that we all have the chance to re-member and re-connect to ourselves and the universe at large. The power of remembering is at the centre of the spiritual path to self-discovery and realisation.

~Gilbert Ross

 

 

~via soulhiker.com