MATEO SOL: “6 Signs You’re Experiencing Spiritual Maturity”

In our society, we have a very two dimensional understanding of maturity. Most people define it as an accumulation of experiences that come through the process of aging. But this isn’t really true.

The truth is that maturity has very little to do with our external experiences, and everything to do with our inner processing of the world. Yes, you might have experienced a lot of challenges and hardships in life, but if you weren’t present and aware of what was happening and the way in which it could help you to learn and grow, all of your experiences simply turned into moments where you unconsciously and emotionally reacted, not maturing at all.

While we have no control over aging, we do play a part in our ability to mature. Maturity is something that comes with conscious intent; something that evolves as we become more aware. It isn’t how “knowledgeable” or “smart” we are either, as knowledge is a product of past fears, mental patterns, memories, reactions and illusory concepts of the self.

Instead, true maturity is the state of being internally free enough to respond consciously, to be responsible enough to see the end result our thoughts, feelings and actions and how they will affect ourselves, others and the world at large.

Developing true maturity impacts so many different areas of our lives. Below I elaborate:

1. Maturity is Courageous

Maturity involves inner freedom and freedom is the result of having courage — the courage to think differently and behave differently.

In a society that considers “maturity” as the pursuit of careers, spouses, mortgages, children and materialism, it takes immense courage to truly be mature and to pursue a path with heart, reconnecting with our authentic selves.

2. Maturity is Honest

Many people avoid the truth of who they really are by piling on beliefs, labels and roles in their lives and clinging to them. However, the mature person, in their lifelong pursuit of self-discovery comes to see all the ways in which they deceive themselves into a false sense of being.

Common examples of spiritual immaturity involve avoiding the shadow elements of human nature, believing that we have transcended our “lower selves” and are in touch with our “higher selves” and confusing the fearful voices of our core wounds with our intuition.

3. Maturity is Loving

Most people’s idea of love is to love only to receive love. “I need you to love me so I can love you back” is not a very mature way of loving. To be mature means that you can love someone unconditionally, even if they don’t love you back because your own self-love is more than enough.

The spiritually mature person loves because the state of love expands their limited sense of self and reconnects them with the divine. They don’t just love to be reassured that they are lovable by another.

And if the other person is mature enough to love back the same way, the love becomes even more powerful.

You’ll often come across people that hold love as the highest possible spiritual form, which it is. But to experience that love you must first have attained the personal freedom and responsibility that is necessary to unconditionally love.

4. Maturity is Compassionate

Many religions will teach you to do “good” out of duty through pity and sympathy (both include feeling sorry for another because they are in a position inferiority to you), as opposed to empathy when you can feel and understand their pain as equals. Many are compassionate also out of the underlying stimulus and promise of “rewards” in the afterlife. However, this is completely destructive and a perfect example of immaturity.

The spiritually mature person doesn’t act from a place of dutifully needing “to do good” which is tainted with all kinds of unconscious desires such as self-gratification, power, prestige and control. To do any mature charitable act, our motivation must come from a place of inner peace and freedom.

5. Maturity is Forgiving

Resenting other people is addictive. It gives us a false sense of power by believing that we are protecting ourselves from getting hurt again, and we are on the “moral high ground.” It tricks us into an unhealthy sense of self-importance; “I’ll never forgive you. What you did to ME was UNFORGIVABLE.” It is yet another way in which our misery and self-pity make us happy.

True forgiveness, on the other hand, involves taking responsibility for ourselves and making the decision to no longer attempt to justify or attach ourselves to feelings of hatred and anger. We are aware enough to know how damaging such heavy feelings are to us and the quality of our lives.

6. Maturity is Accepting

Maturity involves knowing what you can change and accept that which you can’t. A person who lives in a constant state of conflict with the world is one who is enslaved to their own internal reactions. They are not free to respond.

I am often confronted by people who ask me how I can be so at peace with the state of affairs in the world; the injustice, the chaos, the inequality that saddens them to the point of depression or feeling like their sensitive natures don’t belong to this world.

This is closely tied with the forgiveness I mentioned above. I’m not OK with the injustice of the world, but I don’t resist it either. I’m aware enough to realize that change can never, and has never, come from an external system, but from an individual internal decision. To be able to help the collective maturity evolve I must first be able to accept and acknowledge the mess that we are in without resisting it and running away into my self-righteous ideals, without judging it and condemning others so as to make them defensive and lose receptivity to my message.

You can’t cure the turmoil of the world when you’re acting from a place of inner turmoil. The acceptance of yourself and acceptance of others is like learning how to flow in a stream without ending up like another solid pebble at the bottom of the river.

The spiritual awakening process of maturity is the beginning of the journey of inner blossoming; it is the beginning of the journey toward the fulfillment of your own potential. Coming to truly know that potential means knowing that you require equal part sun as you do soil in order to be grounded, but to dance in the wind as well.

 

~via WakeUp-World.com

LISA RENEE (Time Shift Blog): “Demoralization Tactics”

“It is absolutely imperative that we stay neutral, focused and clear, be fearless in the presence of those who represent the anti-life or anti-Christ. Do not react to anything you see and do not lose control over your faculties, stay anchored in the now moment with neutrality and a calm presence. Remember this always, I KNOW WHO I AM. I AM THE ETERNAL SELF!”

~Lisa Renee

 

Dear ES Family,

As we travel in the high strangeness of these tumultuous and transformative times, many people can feel the weight of the attempts made to demoralize the public that comes from the constant spewing of the dehumanization agendas that are heightened in the energetic environment. It is important to know that demoralization and dehumanization tactics are the most important tools of psychological warfare and intentional torture that are used to break down a person, or groups of people.

Demoralization: A process in psychological warfare with the objective to erode morale or dehumanize those perceived as the enemy. By intending to destroy their dignity and morale, it can encourage them to retreat, surrender, or defect rather than confront them or to defeat them in physical combat. Demoralization and Dehumanization is the most important tool of psychological warfare and intentional torture used to break a person. Demoralization is most commonly implemented through various forms of fabricated propaganda to weaken people, while dehumanization is commonly used by the Satanic Agenda to mock and defile human dignity or attack the spirit within the person.

Thus, we must see it when it is happening around us, and identify what is going on before the subliminal messaging sinks deeply into our subconscious, as then we may feel emotionally spent and weighed down with energetic burdens, but do not understand the reasons why. Demoralization must be called out and recognized for what it really is — a tactic to weaken a person, weaken their spiritual strength and personal conviction in seeking higher truth.

I have made a partial transcript of what I feel to be a crucial understanding for those of us on the spiritual ascension path at this time, due to the high intensity of blow back generated from the recent field events.

Transcript: We come together today, to strengthen ourselves, to strengthen our spiritual dedication and conviction to be and live in truth, to work in harmony with the natural laws, to align ourselves into our greatest and highest expression of personal truth. It is of critical importance in truly understanding our heart, our pure heart, our connection to the Source through the undulating waves of light resonances that are shared in the environment from our heart, when we feel and express love.

When we recognize an energy signature around us and we can deeply feel something, this is the heart resonance at work, its function, the way it should function in all people. Recognizing that at this time on our planet we are sharing space with many human beings and human bodies that do not have this same function, some may even appear human but have lost their human abilities to feel love, compassion and empathy.

They do not have the same nadial structure upgrades or sensory connections which allow them to truly feel the presence of our human heart, our love, our empathy, our compassion, our caring for each other, and our caring about what happens in this world. Although we must remember that we cannot exert any kind of control over the end result. Without feeling love we wither and we die. Seeing death in this way, not death that is described in the physical world of the passing of the body, but that death is the decay of the loving spirit, when you do not have access, for whatever reasons, to experience love, heart, purity, affection, the unconditional acceptance that unconditional love brings, that is loving kindness.

Love is the organizing, harmonizing and synchronizing force that exists throughout creation, and through its expression, Love is in perfect balance and harmony with what is, as it is.

For this reason I’d like to share the strategy of the war over consciousness, in terms of more deeply understanding moralization and demoralization tactics that are used to shut down love, shut down our heart, and shut down our spirit. These concepts have been weaponized against our mind, and many of us suffer greatly from the plight of being misdirected by those controller figures who intend to gain control and power over us through the many complex layers of targeting that are directing psychological weapons of demoralization, and even misinterpretations of moralization.

What is demoralization? It goes hand in hand with dehumanization, and these are the most important tools of psychological warfare, which is increasing in its scope against the people of the earth, and it is for this reason we are surfacing this into greater awareness and understanding today.

We have been taught and conditioned to think that moralization has its basis in fundamental religion, and that its very nature is oppressive, judgmental and limiting. This is another lie we have been told, by those interested in the mainstreaming of Satanism and Luciferianism. When holding the concept of moralization in your mind, also bring to mind Virtue-Based Ethics which have their root in natural law and are essentially the foundation of the true meaning of moralization. Because demoralization is so common on the earth, I would like to bring to mind the association that needs to be made between moralization and Virtue Based Ethics, in order to clear the subconscious layers and the mental body of the negative associations that have been made to moralization, through the various levels of mind control that is used in many areas, such as organized religion.

We know this too is an NAA creation and it is embedded in the NAA religious structures placed on the earth to enslave the population by controlling their beliefs and by controlling their relationship with their inner divinity and spirit. To moralize is defined as to reflect on or express opinions about something in terms of right and wrong, especially in a self-righteous or tiresome way.

We’ve all seen and heard the priest in the pulpit offering sermons on moralizing which are entirely hypocritical and judgmental, exacting judgment on people to dehumanize them in this way, to make them feel guilty or ashamed of themselves. Many times this occurs in very damaging ways, it is automatically labeling human behavior as morally wrong, when many times the harmful behaviors being carried out are actually violations made against one’s soul, and being entirely misinterpreted by that person. A violation made to the soul, is to bring spiritual harm to yourself.

Bring to mind the Law of Suggestion, for this is a natural law.

Essentially, this means we are the sum total of our accumulated thoughts and beliefs, what has been suggested to us through spoken words, our direct experiences and interpretations of life, subconsciously, consciously and through our spiritual bodies. Suggestion is the psychological process by which one person guides the thoughts, feelings, or behavior of another person. What is spoken, what is heard, what is seen and perceived from this body filter, is the suggestion of what we become. Please let this understating go deeper, really feel the repercussions of what we are living through now on planet earth.

This consciousness principle also explains the gathering of inner strength that is required to go beyond what is spoken and heard, therefore go beyond what was suggested to us from environmental conditioning, such as the family of origin inherited beliefs and behaviors. How do we shift out from the accumulated results of the millions of suggestions sent out to us since birth? We must learn how to think clearly and speak clearly by directing focused mental energy upon a positive idea or loving thought form, in order to magnify that spoken word or thought form substance into the manifest. Yet, by holding Observer Point without attachment to how it actually manifests.

People must learn to love, accept, respect and honor themselves first, and this is the most important part of moralization, or the building of virtue based ethics. As until one can truly love and accept themselves unconditionally, they are unable to love others in the same way. This is a critical principle to understand, you will remain unable to love wholly, completely fully and unconditionally, until you give this exact same treatment of love, honor and respect to yourself, and until you can achieve this, you are withholding love from others, you are withholding love from yourself.

We have been educated to withhold love from ourselves and to replace the void and pain in our heart and the holes within our spirit body with something harmful, generally misinterpretations of our worth and value, our inherent deserved-ness. You exist here now, that is proof of your deserved-ness, your true value and your inherent divinity, to be acknowledged and recognized in this moment, as totally, completely and universally lovable — to love and be loved is who you are.

Thus, moralization is an important tool in understanding the concept of maintaining independence in all relationships. This means to achieve sustainability in an independent model, such as the concept of autonomy and self-determination, self ownership — the basis of which we can achieve this state is through being in alignment with truthful principles that are in harmony with the natural laws, and are in harmony with nature itself. This is moralization.

However, moralization is essentially holding respect and dignity for all living things. Its dual, the opposing side of moralization, which is demoralization, is avoided in open discussion in the mainstream because it is the most important tool of the tyrant and controller that desire to maintain their power over others. This extends to creating a slavery system in which the resources that belong to others can be easily exploited and taken. The main methods for achieving demoralization is to target and attack the inherent divinity of the living being, and to attack the inner spirit, to attempt to demoralize. The first level of psychological and emotional warfare is to isolate the person or groups of people, which generates separation, and to make all people feel they don’t belong anywhere, and that there is no one they can trust.

Then to promote disinformation campaigns in so to lead people in the opposing directions, away from what generates community and unity, away from what creates more love, compassion and empathy, which is a tactic of misdirection. And then to propagate a type of brainwashing through repetition which fosters disbelief and doubt in anything that deviates from what is the common consensus of the mainstreamed larger groups, which all have been subjected to the same forms of repetitive mind control of the death culture courtesy of the Archontic Deception Strategy. This is the classical conditioning used to take one’s focus and place it upon the outer world, to validate the exterior material values, that have been meticulously shaped by the controller pre-meditated programming, in so to ignore and invalidate the interior experience. The interior experience is where our inner spiritual essence, our authentic core self resides. Our core self will whisper to us, you are loved, you are connected, you are respected, you hold dignity for life and all living things! Dear spirit you must honor, respect and give value to all of your life experiences, for all this information is valuable, and you are valuable.

 

I love, respect and honor myself, through all of my life experiences, I am loved and valued.

I choose to love, respect, honor others, through all of my life experiences, they are loved and valued.

I choose to speak words that are kind and loving, and in return, I create more loving kindness for myself and others, I feel and hear kindness and love coming from others.

I am a strong, vital and valuable person, I am Love, I am lovable and I am Loved.

 

These are truthful words aligned to natural laws, the inherent design of what is, it just exists as it is.

Now we have controllers, bullies, intimidators, and the scope of what has been negatively co-created through the Law of Suggestion to oppose these natural laws, in order to replace the truth with deceptions and lies, in so we can be more easily controlled through spiritual oppression and rejection of the natural laws.

Remember that Demoralization Tactics are the most important tool of the Tyrant seeking control, and to place all of your conviction inside yourself to refuse its oppression upon your mind, heart, soul and spirit.

Demoralization is most commonly implemented through various forms of fabricated propaganda to weaken people, while dehumanization is commonly used by the Satanic Agenda to mock and defile human dignity or attack the spirit within the person. It is also the act of reducing another’s confidence and hope, or discouraging and disheartening someone’s optimism, causing them to lose faith in the future.

demoralize. … to deprive (a person or persons) of spirit, courage, discipline, etc.; destroy the morale of: The continuous barrage demoralized the infantry. to throw (a person) into disorder or confusion; bewilder

We have to change ourselves to change the world, so it is a good practice to not demean or deliver criticisms to anyone, as we can be honest and kind at the same time. A few suggestions:

1. Pay attention to who uses demeaning and demoralizing words, words that spread self doubt, and figure out who is who? It may be family members, a co-worker or a friend or anyone else. First realize who is a demoralizing person, as they may not be doing it knowingly, but sometimes they inject fear and doubt which will misdirect your thinking and feeling into the wrong direction.

2. When others are being critical towards you, listen carefully first, then use critical thinking, intuition and guidance. Then proceed with a decision or action. Listen deeply first to feel the motivations behind the words and behaviors, do not interpret when a person is advising you in that moment. Deeply listen to the words in the present moment, and then feel into it in so to let it germinate, making a well thought out decision.

3. Stay away from Demoralization Tactics and demeaning people whenever it is possible. Demoralizing people place seeds of doubt in our mind and that is more than enough to destroy everything we have been building or moving towards in the future. Do not let others demoralization tactics hurt your heart or enter into the garden of your peaceful mind.

4. Sometimes we cannot completely avoid these kinds of people or situations, so no matter what, always do your best to be kind. Most of the time people act like this because of ignorance or a lack of knowledge about a particular thing. They have been treated this way by others, so they repeat the treatment they experienced. When we are kind they may be open to become educated into expressing more kind behavior, which is shining a light into the darkness. When it is possible to light up the darkness and show genuine care for them, this can potentially help to evolve them into a higher expression.

5. Hold healthy boundaries. We must make an effort to identify what choices we do have and make changes in our environment that can increase our sense of safety and comfort while in a physical space. In order to be pro-active in creating healthy boundaries, we need to assess the physical safety of our environment and assess the emotional safety of our environment. And realize it may be necessary to remove people or situations from your life who are entrenched in extremely destructive or harmful behaviors in order to make these necessary changes to our life style.

Beloved God, We dedicate ourselves to love, honor and respect and value our inner spirit and the light that is within all things. We know we are the light of the world, and we value our light with all of the love in our heart.

We are in service to the light of the world, we are self-aware and know it is a time of great personal turmoil when we may see others go through the process of seeing deceptions and demoralizing situations. When we see things that are truly dark and evil, it is an assault against our spirit and we can feel demoralized. We must gather the inner spiritual strength to deflect these assaults against, us, and constantly affirm our true value, our true love, honor and respect for ourselves and each other.

This is rippling through many people in the ascension and spiritual groups at this time, and it is for these groups, we pray and ask the God Source for divine intervention when aligned to Cosmic Sovereign Law.

Through consecration of our body to be of Service to Others, we evolve to become the Compassionate Witness on behalf of God source. Thus, as the Compassionate Witness we may extend goodness through the blessing of others, which catalyze their own inner spiritual awakening so they can feel their own direct relationship with the God Source.

 

I am a strong, vital and valuable person, I am Love, I am Lovable and I am Loved.

Beloved Holy Presence, In Cosmic Sovereign Law, I am your Compassionate Witness. In service to all those friends and colleagues, that are being intentionally targeted into terror programming to reject their spirit, or to confuse them into deep despair, by the NAA groups targeting, I pray with all of my heart to bless them and protect them in the eternal light of God, and in the blessings of the Holy Spirit and Spirits of Christ, to be fully freed from the spiritual burdens and shackles that have been placed upon them, by those Impostors and Deceivers of God’s eternal light. Through the light of God I am, through the power of love in my heart, I consecrate and bless ___________ to be freed into their highest expression and true nature, that they may be God Sovereign Free in the eternal light of God, now and always.

It is absolutely imperative that we stay neutral, focused and clear, be fearless in the presence of those who represent the anti-life or anti-Christ. Do not react to anything you see and do not lose control over your faculties, stay anchored in the now moment with neutrality and a calm presence.

Remember this always, I KNOW WHO I AM. I AM THE ETERNAL SELF!

End transcript.

May we hold each other in unconditional love, kindness and acceptance, knowing that we have many dark entities and controller types who expect us to fail, and succumb to a crisis of faith and divide and conquer behaviors. It is the pure heart and internal love presence that each of us must find deep inside of the recesses of the self. This is the challenging path to live as God-Sovereign-Free and to be in the first line of the world lightbearers and the way-showers, bringing us back to being authentically human again at the end of the dark cycle.

Much Love and GSF always,

Lisa

 

~via EnergeticSynthesis.com – Time Shift Blog – March 5, 2019

ALETHEIA LUNA: “Being Spiritual Doesn’t Mean Sh*t If You Can’t Hold Space for Others”

“If we ever hope to grow at a deep level and feel authentically connected to others, we need to learn how to hold space for both ourselves and others.”

~Aletheia Luna

 

So, here’s the thing. We might do Instagram-perfect yoga. We might meditate for at least an hour a day. We might pray. Say mantras. Do mudras. Send love to the world. We might have a hoard of crystals and other spiritual trinkets. We might do elaborate daily rituals, eat a cruelty-free whole food diet, and fast every month. We might burn incense, smile all day, say affirmations, and say “love and light” or “namaste” a lot. We might call ourselves spiritual seekers, healers, empaths, intuitives, old souls, or yogis.

But in my humble opinion, all of this doesn’t mean sh*t if we can’t show compassion and be there for others.

The Hypocrisy of Saccharine Spirituality

Firstly, I want to start by saying that I am by no means innocent. I have judged others before, turned a blind eye, shown unkindness, and committed spiritual bypassing — all while under the self-designated label of being “spiritual.”

I think to some extent, we all have. That is why I feel that the topic of this article is so important to cover — hypocrisy is something that we’re all capable of. The tendency is latent within each and every one of us. And I think we all need to understand and work to be aware of that.

But there are some things in life that tend to trigger, bring out, and exacerbate this hypocrisy. In this case, I am referring to a certain popular variety of spirituality. I call it Saccharine Spirituality — and it is a type of spirituality that is defined by a sickly sweet emphasis on “good vibes only” and “love and light” without much depth or real-life rawness.

Saccharine spirituality is the type of spirituality out there that involves worshiping the “feel-good” and “high vibe,” but actively avoids, denies, or shuns anything negative and uncomfortable. Saccharine spirituality is all about feeling empowered, developing self-love, and celebrating forms of spirituality that look good on the surface — but at the same time, it produces a phobia of anything too real, too emotionally challenging, too blood-and-dirt, too “unawakened” or “low vibe.”

And it doesn’t take much to see that saccharine spirituality is alive and thriving more than ever. We can literally see it everywhere: on social media, in real life, and in all spiritual and religious spheres.

I first witnessed saccharine spirituality growing up in the Christian church I was raised in. I remember how the church abandoned, passively shunned, and ignored one of the women who had been attending the church for 20+ years. This woman’s husband had been prosecuted for child molestation and was going to prison. I was the only one who spoke to this gentle soul, despite the fact that we were all supposed to be “brothers and sisters in Christ.”

I now witness this type of abandonment and hypocrisy in the spiritual realm.

I hear and witness self-described sensitive “empaths” show an extraordinary lack of empathy and self-entitled judgment towards others.

I watch “old souls” tear each other apart like animals.

I see spiritual seekers ostracize and react harshly to any person who thinks critically.

I look on as “healers” rush to fix, ignore, predict, or diagnose the suffering of others.

I watch as “psychics/mystics/witches/yogis” (*insert spiritual label here*) love talking and posting about themselves, but ignore meeting others on a deep level.

I’m sorry. I don’t care if you’re a talented healer or psychic. I’m not interested in whether you’re a self-identified empath or spiritual seeker. I don’t want to hear about how much mystical power or intuitive prowess you have. Being spiritual doesn’t mean sh*t if you can’t hold space for people.

What Does Holding Space Mean?

Holding space is very simple. It means being completely present with another person. Holding space means giving another the opportunity to be completely heard, seen, and understood. I’m not talking about trying to fix, give advice to, or pathologize the other person — when I say holding space, I mean it in the most simple way possible: just being 100% there for the person, without trying to change or force advice onto them.

To witness another person and be completely receptive to what they have to share is scarcely practiced. How often have you felt deeply heard, seen, and understood by another? How often has someone sat down with you and genuinely asked: “Hey, share with me how you feel” and held space for all your joy or sorrow? If you’re like most people: pretty rarely.

It’s no wonder that most of us are so emotionally starved. It’s no wonder that most of us are so desperate to be seen.

In a world full of stress, incessant business, emotional isolation, and self-absorption, holding space for someone is the most precious gift you can give. That is why I say that being spiritual doesn’t mean shit without this one important practice. Who cares if you possess extrasensory gifts or can meditate for six hours straight? Who cares if you have deep self-knowledge or can enter alternate planes of consciousness at will?

If you can’t bring those skills into your life in a down-to-earth way, they mean nothing.

If you can’t practically apply them in the blood-and-grit of daily life, they mean nothing.

If you can’t connect or show kindness to others, they mean nothing.

If you can’t sit down with a person and ask “Hi. How are you really?” and actually listen wholeheartedly, don’t even bother.

In the end, if your brand of spirituality encourages self-absorption and a superficial feel-good denial of other’s pain, it’s a waste of time.

“Your pain, your sorrow, your doubts, your longings, your fearful thoughts: they are not mistakes, and they are not asking to be ‘healed.’ They are asking to be held.” ~Jeff Foster

 

How to Hold Space for People

Holding space is about giving space.

Too often we jump to the part where we want to fix, instruct, or heal the person — or even worse, hog the conversation, talk about ourselves, and “one-up” the other person’s pain. But the truth is, most people (including ourselves) are just looking for a person who will sit with them in all of their joy or misery, and BE.

Mindful presence is the core of what holding space means. In other words, holding space means that we simply sit with a person and give them our undivided attention in the spirit of kindness.

“Undivided attention!?” you may think, “I don’t have the energy to do that!” Don’t worry. I realize that holding space for others isn’t always possible. You’re not alone. If you’re anything like me, your energy reserves are very limited. So it’s unrealistic to expect ourselves to always hold space for others, especially when we are tired, stressed, or sick. In which case, don’t be a martyr. Take care of yourself. Have a break. Step away. Have a nap. Top up your energy reservoir.

But if you’re still struggling to hold space for others, there might be a deeper underlying issue that you need to work through.

For example, do you often feel yourself talking over or interrupting others? Do most of your conversations center around your issues, thoughts, and feelings? Do you feel uncomfortable when others get too emotional? Do you find deep topics of conversation unsettling? These are all signs that you aren’t holding space for yourself. In such a case… how can you hold space for others when you aren’t holding space for yourself?

If we ever hope to grow at a deep level and feel authentically connected to others, we need to learn how to hold space for both ourselves and others.

Here’s how to do that.

Holding space for ourselves and others:

1. Mindfully tune into yourself

How can you become receptive and open to others without doing the same for yourself? Tuning into your thoughts and feelings is a practice called mindfulness. It requires you to become curious about what is going on inside of you. And to do that, you’ll need to slow down and breathe a little. Ask yourself, “How am I feeling at the moment?” “What type of thoughts/stories are running through my head?” Also be attentive to your body and notice whatever sensation, ache, or pain you feel. Simply note how you feel and move on with your day. If you need help doing this, I highly recommend that you use an app I use called ‘Calm’ — it will motivate you to develop mindfulness as a skill.

2. Be transparent with yourself

Express how you feel in an authentic way. Allow yourself to be seen by yourself. To do this, find a notebook or journal that you can dedicate to your thoughts and feelings. Journaling every day about what is worrying or concerning you will create more clarity in your life. Not only that but when you make this therapeutic tool a habit, you will feel more emotionally balanced and capable of truly holding space for others.

3. Release pent-up emotions

Don’t allow your emotions to build up inside of you. Find healthy outlets to express them such as through artwork, intense exercise, catharsis, or simply having a good cry. When we are motivated to “help” others out of the need to relieve our own internal discomfort, we’re not being kind. We’re not being empathetic. We’re just not. Instead, we are using others as a way to feel better about ourselves. Finding a safe form of catharsis will allow you to be calm and centered enough to show compassionate attentiveness to yourself and others.

4. Learn to listen more than talk

Master the art of listening. If you are a person who is used to chattering away, experiment with being quiet and allowing others to talk. How do you feel when you don’t talk so much? You might feel a sense of relief, or alternatively, you might feel unseen or ignored. Journal about these feelings. If you feel uncomfortable with allowing others to speak more than you, ask yourself “why?” In what ways are you depending on others to be seen and understood, rather than yourself? Practicing active listening involves making eye contact, letting others speak uninterrupted, indicating that you understand what the person is saying, and listening without judgment.

5. Let your mind be like water

Listen to other people without forming responses in your mind. How often has someone shared something interesting, and you miss the rest of what they say because you’re too busy constructing a clever/insightful reply? It’s tempting to fill the spaces in conversations with thoughts. After all, our minds think around 800 words per minute, compared to 125-150 words we speak per minute. But experiment with listening wholeheartedly to what a person says. If thoughts come into your mind, gently refocus your mind on what the person is saying. Then, after the person has stopped talking, give yourself a few seconds to gather thoughts, then respond. I promise that your response will be much more engaging and interesting to the other person because you have gathered all the nuances and details (instead of prematurely forming a response).

6. Let compassion guide you

The purpose of holding space for another isn’t to be a saint. It isn’t to be a martyr. It is to be entertained or to get karmic brownie points. To hold space for a person is an act of compassion, an expression of love for another human being. It not only makes you feel good, but it also makes the other person feel seen, heard, and understood. What could be more precious than that?

7. Practice with a friend or family member

An easy way to practice holding space is to schedule time every week with someone close to you, and to exchange mindful presence with each other. Notice how it feels to be completely received by another person. Imagine giving that to others on a regular basis!

8. Know your limits and take self-responsibility

Are you tired, cranky, overwhelmed, or otherwise incapable of holding space for another? Relax. It’s normal and 100% fine to feel that way. But make sure that you take responsibility for how you feel.

Final Thoughts

Holding space for others doesn’t mean that you have to be a pushover, doormat, or unnecessarily submissive person. Sometimes you will need to hold space for yourself more than others. Sometimes you will enter long periods of life where you are incapable of being present with others. That is normal. Not all of us can be Eckhart Tolle 24/7. So do the compassionate thing and draw a line. Learn to say a gentle no to others and be OK with it. If someone is becoming overly clingy or needy, be assertive, draw clear boundaries, and step away in a firm but caring manner. It is OK to be selective about who you hold space for, particularly if you dislike the person and struggle to stay present with them. (Hey, we’re all human!)

You might also be short on time, but still wish to hold space for another. In this case, explain to the other that you only have a couple of minutes to spare, or set another date and time to catch up.

Remember, holding space needs to come out of a place of compassion and the desire to help others be seen, heard, and understood. If you are doing it out of obligation, pressure, or duty, take a step back. Change course. Do something else.

The most important ingredient for holding space for another is the ability to hold space for yourself. By genuinely taking the time to wholeheartedly listen to your inner thoughts and feelings, you will be better equipped to show the same to others.

Spirituality is not just about learning to love ourselves. It is also about learning to extend that love and care to others in a down-to-earth way. One of the best and easiest ways to do that is by simply listening to others. You don’t need to always give them pep talks. You don’t need to always rush to prescribe a solution to their problems. Often, what people need the most is just a person who is receptive enough to simply listen without judgment.

To be completely seen, heard, and understood in the presence of another living soul is one of the most healing forces in the world. I hope you take the time to share this gift with others.

 

~via LonerWolf.com

CONSCIOUS REMINDER: “Why We Need To Stop Trying To ‘Fix’ People”

“Compassion is not a relationship between the healer and the wounded. It’s a relationship between equals.”

~Pema Chodron

 

After college, I was hustling hard to get a work visa so that I could stay in the US.

But then my mom got caught up in a political scandal, and without much reflection on how much this would alter my life’s plans, I dropped my dream of staying in America, drove 1,000 miles, and flew another 500 to be by her side.

Would she have crumbled without me there? My mama is a tough chick, so I highly doubt it.

But at the time, I (subconsciously) believed that when the ones we love are hurting, their pain trumps everything. Their pain gets top priority, and whatever goals and dreams we’ve been working toward now pale in comparison.

At the time, I thought that love meant tending to the other person’s needs first, always.

And this form of self-sacrifice came naturally to me (I’d behaved this way even as a young child), so I was lucky, right? Having inherent caregiver qualities is a beautiful gift, right?

Yes. And maybe not.

Are You a Natural Caregiver?

You’ll know if you have this trait too, because people will often tell you their secrets mere minutes after meeting you.

When someone has just been in a car accident or broken up with their boyfriend, you wrap your arms around them and for the first time that day, their body fully relaxes.

People tell you they feel at home in your presence. Safe. Heard. Cared for.

There’s so much beauty in having a trait like this. Without much effort, you nurture and care for those around you. It is a gift you give us all.

But there’s another side to the caregiver coin.

Helping other people can become addictive. It can begin to feel like the only way to show your love is to prostrate yourself at the needs of others.

 

Oh, you’re hurting? Lemme swoop in and save the day.

Oh, you’re broke? Lemme dump my savings into your bank account and all will be well.

Oh, you’re single again? Lemme set you up with my neighbor’s son.

Whatever your ailment, I’ve got a fix for you!

And the gratitude from the people we’re supposedly ‘fixing’ tends to flow so steadily that we become convinced of the healthiness of our stance.

We’re confident that healing every sore spot we see is not only natural and enjoyable, but it’s the main reason we were put on this planet.

When you carry the Nurturer Gene, fixing other people can easily become a destructive self-identity.

You will martyr yourself over and over again in order to meet the invisible quota of Lives Helped that floats above your head.

You will obsessively analyze how every choice you make might impact those around you.

You will assess every meal, every dollar spent, every vacation taken (or not taken) based on how it will impact the people you feel a responsibility to care for.

Because, in this unhealthy version of caregiving, our understanding of love has become warped. Love now looks like a relentless string of sacrifice.

Your thoughts might go something like this:

 

If I don’t love her with my constant presence, she will feel sad and lonely.

If I don’t love him with my attentive eye observing everything, he’ll get sick again, or maybe even die.

If I don’t love them with my efficiencies managing everything, someone will get hurt. Things will go very wrong if I’m not here to take care of them all.

Sometimes, love calls on us to invest our energy and time in tending to someone else’s pain.

But not 100 percent of the time. And not with the nurturing going down a one-way street, pouring out of the same person, over and over again.

If you see this pattern in any of your relationships, consider what it would take to expand your definition of what it means to nurture, to love, to care for.

A healthy caregiver not only nourishes the needs of others, but also nourishes her own.

Holistic nourishment. Nourishment of the whole of us, for all of us—which includes you.

Self-nourishment might look like hiring a babysitter so you can have a romantic getaway with your hubby.

Self-care might mean taking the job on the other side of the country, even though it means you’ll only see your parents twice a year.

Self-love might be quietly soaking in a bubble bath instead of probing everyone for a detailed account of their day.

You are not responsible for the world’s pain.

Share your talents and resources. Generously give your time and attention. But you cannot pour a magical tonic on the wounds of every person walking the planet. It’s not your job. And if it were, it’d be a sucky job because you’d fail at it every single day.

Especially when we identify as being “spiritual,” we can lift up words like “compassion,” “generosity,” and “kindness” to such a degree that we forget that even “compassion” sometimes must say no.

Even “generosity” has to allocate some of her resources for herself.

And even “kindness” must muster the nerve to walk away sometimes.

If you are the person in your relationship or family or company that defaults to caregiver and wound-tender, give thanks for the ease with which you dish out your love.

But be careful about inhaling that caregiver role to such a degree that your identity becomes dependent on having someone nearby to nurture.

Give your love. Freely and deeply.

And trust that even if you’re not there to ‘fix’ them, everyone will be just fine.

 

 

~via ConsciousReminder.com

MICHELLE WALLING: “4D Frequency Brings Full Transparency”

“Those who have had their psychic abilities for a while will see a huge leap in the magnitude of their abilities in the month of July. Those who are awakening will begin to understand what their abilities are, and they will be shocked and astounded at their capability.”

~Michelle Walling

 

3d has completely merged with the 4d frequency. New levels of psychic abilities are activating and the veils are almost completely down. If you haven’t already, you may soon encounter a situation where you realize someone is not being truthful with you. It is important to know why this is happening and what to do about it.

As we weave in and out of time towards the end of time, you begin to connect with your higher self on a galactic level. The higher you go, the higher you vibrate. As we continue to merge and ascend, our etheric DNA is activating. As our DNA activates, we have more of our Superpowers coming online.

Those who have had their psychic abilities for a while will see a huge leap in the magnitude of their abilities in the month of July. Those who are awakening will begin to understand what their abilities are, and they will be shocked and astounded at their capability.

Precognition is increasing. This is the ability to know when something is going to happen before it happens. Many of us have an increased sense of knowing, which is called claircognizance. The veil is lifting more each day so that we see beyond the programming of the matrix.

One of the most prevalent abilities will be feeling when someone’s vibrational truth is not matching their words. This is due to the activation of our astral DNA and when we connect our energy field to another’s (aura), our “spidy senses” activate, as if the tiny tendrils in your aura connect with theirs. If you are an empath you have probably already been able to feel other people’s emotions but this is a whole new level of gauging their energy. You may be able to clearly tell if someone is not telling the truth, including if they are hiding something or not fully disclosing something.

It’s important to know this because society has been programmed to not be fully transparent out of fear, even if we tell a little white lie or omit the full story to protect someone else’s feelings. If you do this to your children, they can sense it and this can cause confusion. Some people have not been honest all of their lives and do not even realize it.

If you are “reading” an energy signature or pattern and are confused as to why something is not adding up, you can ask your higher guidance to show you the answer. Pay attention to dreams internally and outward manifestations in your individual matrix. If things are balanced and benevolent, things should flow smoothly in your day. When barriers, sirens, and difficulties begin to happen, this is a sign that something is off or is about to be off (precognition). Go within to find out what this all means to you and operate accordingly or with more awareness that something is coming up to be seen. These recent waves of energy are bringing all things to the surface that are not in integrity.

It can be difficult to witness people not being honest with you or themselves. If you call them out on it, their ego can kick in their defense mechanism and they may go to many lengths to salvage their integrity. It’s not about the subject matter of the deception as much as the energy mis-match and responsibility. Either we are creating our thoughts and words with an open heart in truth, or we are creating with an semi-opened or closed heart in fear. An untruth or omission matches the vibration of fear. Even there is no wrong or right int the eyes of Creator and in a free willed creation, there is a vibration that matches when someone is in integrity, saying what they feel or when they are in fear and in deception.

On a soul level, they would never want to do anything to hurt you, and in many cases they are not aware of the damage they are causing by not being responsible for what they are creating energetically. You have to decode if you want to become the teacher or allow them to learn through another.

If you decide to address the energetic imbalance, it is important to stay balanced and centered in order to not match their energy. Otherwise, you may fall down into a negative energetic spiral in a dance of argument and proof. Sometimes the only way to understand how not to do this is to have it happen a few times and learn how to emotionally remove yourself.

After experiencing a blatant energetic mismatch, you may wonder if you can ever trust this person in the future. You can also wonder if you are projecting dishonesty with yourself onto them for them to mirror back to you. It is important to dissect but do not overthink the situation. After all, this energetic dishonesty has been the norm for thousands of years. Being able to see and feel it and having it surface is something new that we will all need to be able to compassionately work through.

This initiation will also come in handy when we are finally visited by our extraterrestrial family. Because of the increase in energetic intention discernment there should never be a fear behind whether you will be able to trust a particular fourth dimensional being (or higher). You are being given all the tools you need.

This initiation takes practice in order to break down the underlying energetic imbalance. Be forgiving and compassionate, even when you are hurt over dishonesty. Imagine how this all fades in 5d as everyone operates with an open heart and treats each other as they would want to be treated. We can learn a huge lesson from being involved with a situation like distrust and untruth. It is a huge opportunity to look within to make sure that you are being honest with yourself and are creating the highest and best possible reality you are capable of.

“We are in a matrix of lies and deception and by witnessing and standing up for truth, we are breaking down the illusions and the matrix itself. It is a part of the work that we came here to do.”

Take time for yourself to heal your emotional wounds if you feel hurt after witnessing distrust, try to remember not to take it personal. We are in a matrix of lies and deception and by witnessing and standing up for truth, we are breaking down the illusions and the matrix itself. It is a part of the work that we came here to do.

 

 

~via HowToExitTheMatrix.com