NEZEL PADAYHAG: “10 Ways To Strengthen The Love Within Your Family”

“The best ideal for unity is love.”

~Nezel Padayhag

 

Every family is a building block in the society we live in. In order to have a strong and loving society, we must ensure that it starts with the family.

Love is what keeps a family strong and intact. Without love, a family can’t stand the tests of time. No relationship can.

This doesn’t mean that because you have genuine love, conflicts would no longer arise. On the contrary, genuine love can be tough but is not conditioned.

Family love is a safe haven for unconditional love. Unconditional love means even if there are arguments and fighting at times, your love for each other stays the same.

The stronger the bond of love we can create within the family, the better and more loving society we can constitute. Here are some ways you can strengthen the love of your family.

10 Ways To Strengthen The Love Within Your Family

1. Include some form of spirituality.

Whatever you and your family believe in, include some form of spirituality within your home and your interactions. Have a mutual ideal that you all follow, so even if your beliefs are different, you can meet at this ideal. The best ideal for unity is love.

2. Eat together.

The dining table is the best place to share exciting experiences. Eating together can be hell if your relationships are difficult, if you can’t handle each other. However, that’s exactly why eating together is important, it highlights all the areas you need to work on.

3. Let others feel loved and accepted.

When you interact with your family, it’s much more important to let them feel loved and be kind, than be right, even if you really are right and they are wrong. The most important ingredient is love and your relationship is about love, not about who is right.

4. Go somewhere together.

Taking a trip together, even if it’s for just one day, can bring you much closer. Sometimes it’s the environment you always interact with that stimulates bad behavior and irritates old wounds. Changing the environment can give you a different perspective of who they are.

5. Laugh together.

When you laugh with someone you are bonding with them on a deeper level. And laughing with your siblings can be more healing than you can even imagine.

6. Set strong boundaries for yourself.

In order to be open with our family and love them freely, without getting drained of our energy it’s important to have strong boundaries. You need to let your family know the importance of your boundaries. Show respect, trust and honesty so they can show it back.

7. Nurture the relationship with each other.

Have weekly hang outs with your family. If you can’t do it once per week do it once per two weeks. Spend an extra bonding time with each member in the family to make them feel special. Maintain your relationships.

8. Don’t gossip or keep secrets from each other.

Keeping secrets within your family and gossiping is going to rust your family apart. Secrets and gossip create bonding but in a form of triangulation, you are bonding with one member while using another member as the topic for the conversation, as a punching bag.

9. Talk about things that matter.

Instead of small talk, gossip and shallow conversations, or topics that lead you to argue with each other, speak about things that are real. Speak about your feelings, speak about what really matters to you, what you are passionate about. That’s what family is for.

10. Do not try to change anyone.

Nobody is perfect. And yeah, some family members might function with an old, really outdated operating system. But it’s not your job to change them, it’s not their job to change you either. Accept each other with all your flaws and try to love who you are.

A home that is full of love is felt not only by adults but also by babies.

 

~via LifeCoachCode.com

ALEXANDER PAPAGEORGHIOU: “Family Values In 5D — Letting Go Of The Past And Your Loved Ones”

“Love is all that remains and truth is all that ever was. Incompatibility with that energy is destructive. We need to look into our hearts and ask ourselves honestly, about what will happen with this relationship in the future, can this person possibly accept to change and ascend or will they stay where they are?”

~Alexander Papageorghiou

 

Since birth, you have been surrounded by a group of people, your clan, your kin. You have grown to know them as your protectors, as the ultimate circle of love, a deeper belonging than you could understand at an early age. As you have progressed through your journey and gotten to know yourself, you developed your own circle of belonging within your heart. With time, and with your Ascension and awakening, you are increasingly becoming one with yourself and with your spiritual guidance.

For many of us, as we awakened, our spiritual development became enhanced, reaching new heights every year. With time, a gap was created between us and our former clan, a dissonance that has kept on separating and contradicting our new ideals and values, as our loved ones grew to represent our old selves. That side had stopped developing and become stagnant, while we morphed into completely new entities of light. This became more and more difficult for us to accept, that there may be an end to that chapter.

Our New Selves are free of karmic ties, cleansed of the past and the strings that attached us to our former pain and discord, the life we had in 3D. Our physical families had been bound to us by karma, built over many lifetimes, and often unresolved. Being that this is the last incarnation for many light beings, as we are finally ascending, the Karma accompanied us and took form to be released. This has created many difficult nuclear family situations that many of us have felt repeatedly. As we have grown into our new vessels, we have gotten accustomed to knowing ourselves and our new values, what we truly hold dear. We have finally become what we have always been. The layers of society and fear have been shed. We have learned to love ourselves and our truths, personal, and collective, more than ever before.

Those around us that we call family, have often not gone on the same path and have stayed in the old mindsets. The more we have ascended, the more we have felt the void created between the old and the new grow. They were compatible energetically with the old us, but the NEW US is something they can seldom comprehend and accept. Topics of discussion, values, and mores are now completely different. We see ourselves as part of something infinite and loving. It becomes more difficult daily to look at family with the same sanctity as we have in the past. The genetic lineage we share in this lifetime is but a very minute part of the equation. Our Karmic lineage is a story of millennia, of ties between souls, of the need to release and replace with love. All in all, as we look at ourselves now, the concept of family in 5D is completely new. We can meet total strangers through our guidance, and be connected in ways we have never been before, since we removed the blockages of the ego, and allowed ourselves to be nourished by love for the first time. This is not a material 3D love, but a completely new energy. It surpasses all genetic, karmic, and conscious lineage.

Most awakened light beings have been guided by the light in the guise of their spiritual guidance, whether physical or etheric. These beings have played a very important role in our development and taught us valuable lessons we had never learned before. We must accept that they play a paramount role in the definition of our new family values. They are part of our new family. We must also begin to break the mold of the nuclear family and, within our hearts, start to look at the collective on our planet as one entity, spending less time criticizing and differentiating, and more including and embracing. All divisive concepts of the Third Dimension have come to a halt. We can see all of that rising to the surface daily, in more blatant ways than we have seen before. These concepts are void and illusionary today. The longer we embrace them, the longer we delay the inevitable ascension of the collective as a whole.

What should our attitude towards our nuclear families be then, in this new time? We must look inside with total honesty and the absence of fear of letting go. We need to re-evaluate how these relationships make us feel, where there is love, and where lie emotions such as criticism, anger, fear, and control. We need to look at our new values, and how these family members are compatible with them. We need to measure their acceptance with love of what we have become. Some may be so entrenched in their 3D fears that they cannot support this new energy and the dissonance is so great that we feel toxicity when we are in the same room, and there is avoidance that we are not addressing. These are exactly the red flags that we need to discuss with ourselves. Love is all that remains and truth is all that ever was. Incompatibility with that energy is destructive. We need to look into our hearts and ask ourselves honestly, about what will happen with this relationship in the future, can this person possibly accept to change and ascend or will they stay where they are? What happens to our love when we are around that? The fear of letting go is completely normal. This is our family, the one that has raised us and an integral part of us, the thought of letting them go is unfathomable. This is the fear talking, the fear of trusting our intuition, our need to love and be loved unconditionally. This is a discussion all ascending beings need to have with themselves at this time.

What does letting go mean for our families? Energetically, they have been sensing our journey since the beginning, though they have been unaware of it. Their energy has become increasingly incompatible with ours, and we have often felt out of balance when we are with them and afterwards. There is so far a refusal, out of fear to change and let go on their part, and there is a part of us that suffers when trying to help them with their process, an anticipation, and a pain that results when that is met with the same attitude. The only way to help them is to let them ascend by themselves. Only confronted with the physical reality of this gap, this void that has been created, will they understand that there are unaddressed issues within themselves that can go no further. We often see in today’s world, in many extreme displays, the very obvious, sometimes ugly, wake-up calls that society is being given in order to deal with certain issues that are way overdue, and have been conveniently brushed off for decades, even centuries. The same process affects our personal lives and our families. There is a generational gap, which is a given, and an immense energetic gap that is approximately 15 to 20 years old. We feel it more and more, and they succumb to fear and frustration.

We must help them by loving ourselves as we should, trusting in the Universe and the Creator, and to let go of that does not serve love anymore. The scariest part of the process is the emptiness that follows and the fear that tries to fill it. This is the struggle for most of us. We need to embrace our faith and love in the Ascension and believe in the love at the end of the path. Our guidance loves and supports us and we need not be afraid of what may be as a result, but notice the difference in how we feel, when we replace these heavy emotions, these ties, with love, and the understanding that we have a family all around us, that supports our awakening and wants us to flourish. Family starts from your heart, that is where it lives and always has.

Much Love,

Alexander

 

 

~via IndigoLightLove.com