“It is about you and your healing after all. We have the ability to create boundaries for those with none and in this process we find our self-worth… we begin to value ourselves.”
“It is about you and your healing after all. We have the ability to create boundaries for those with none and in this process we find our self-worth… we begin to value ourselves.”
Love is the biggest and the most potent force in our whole Universe. Love makes this world go around. Love is the glue which holds every single thing together.
It is also the true nature within us, so when we try to give up on love, we slowly give up on the person we really are. We slowly give up on our real nature, and we feel disconnected, confused, and disoriented.
Giving up on love will be the biggest possible mistake that a person can make. We cannot give up on something which is in us, or which is us.
When we do that, it means that we give up on ourselves and our lives. Without the presence of love, there will be nothing left.
We will frequently hear someone saying that he or she gives up on love, or that love hurts, or that he or she is afraid of loving again, and so on.
Well, people are really ignorant. They don’t have a clue about what love really is. They think that it is the primary source of pain and suffering, but they are completely wrong.
Loving is not what hurts. Loving is not the thing that causes people to feel heartbreak and pain, but rather their attachment to the ways in which things have to be or don’t have to be.
A lot of people find themselves in controlling relationships, instead of the loving ones. They control and pretend actually to know what the best for one another is, or they deprive themselves of the needed and wanted freedom.
Rather than permitting each other to express themselves and live their lives as their souls actually intended for them, authentically and freely, they get in each other’s way.
They influence and interfere with the destiny of one another, not positively, but negatively, and sometimes destructively too.
Love is simply about loving each other, and not about hurting. Love isn’t interested in trying to cage or change each other, or in controlling one another. Love simply wants to love as that is the only thing it knows.
Those people that were injured and hurt emotionally in a relationship they were in should know that love does not have the responsibility for that.
It also means that loving is not what they have to give up on but it is their attachment or the many distorted and toxic ideas they have and which are related to love.
People tend to compare love with distorted and toxic things too, claiming that they know the purpose of love; the truth is, they know just a little or simply nothing related to it.
When we start a relationship, and we have different expectations, wanting our partner to be this or that, or hoping our love is never going to end, we cannot help ourselves but suffer.
This suffering is never going to come from our love; instead, it will come from our attachment to the way things have to be and our attachment to our partner.
Things can go bad and relationships can end. However, it would not be the world’s end, and it should not be our loving life’s end too. We have to understand that the life which we live is ours and only ours.
Love is not about holding ourselves onto someone that is next to us. In fact, love would be about feeling that someone, permitting him or her to do, to be, and also to go everywhere his or her soul has him or her to go.
People should always have in mind that love will never hurt them, as it just knows how to love.
They should love themselves with all their might or love others in their lives, although they may not deserve that. They should remember that they should never give up on love!
Ascension Avatar note: This brought a chuckle, but I suppose it would be no laughing matter for those who have experienced it (I’ve always kept narcissists out of my life…).
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Post Narcissist Stress Disorder or PSND affects those who have just managed to extricate themselves from a relationship with a narcissist. It is very much like PTSD.
PSND can be easily triggered by even the smallest thing the sufferer associates with the narcissist, be it a familiar smell or sound or taste.
Sometimes people suffering from PNSD are unexpectedly faced with triggers that send them into a nightmarish flashback about some incident with the narcissist.
They being to relive painful moments that involve narcissistic rage and other traumatic memories without being able to stop themselves.
Sometimes they begin to doubt their own sanity. Long periods of abuse may have conditioned them into believing that they are lacking in something.
They suffer nightmares and often have difficulty rebuilding their confidence in themselves.
If you’re suffering from PNSD, you might begin to actively keep away from society and the things you once loved to do.
You’ll try your best to not dwell on the narcissist who hurt you. You’ll begin to feel like your mind is numb to all emotions.
Some try to overcome their issues by overusing recreational drugs or sedatives. Others might repress bad memories and have trouble focusing on even the simplest day to day tasks.
Forming new emotional connections will be hard and you might prefer to just hide yourself away from the world.
Sufferers become very volatile and are prone to fits of irritability and rage while at the same time suffering from overpowering guilt which they try to hide.
Some may gaslight themselves (i.e., they begin to question every little action and memory and somehow bring all the blame onto themselves).
Insomnia, hyperventilation, hypervigilance, paranoia and distrust are also common symptoms.
Ascension Avatar note: Got 3+ hours to burn? I certainly didn’t, but thankfully, have never allowed anyone or anything into my life describing this scenario… and never will!
By Bernhard Guenther
We have completed a 3 hour and 22 minute Panel Discussion on The Love Bite and The Dark Side of Cupid topic (October 17th, 2015). This is the most comprehensive discussion yet available on the internet on the theme of paranormal interference in human love relationships.
Panel Discussion participants: Eve Lorgen, James Bartley, Laura Leon, Bernhard Guenther, Carissa Conti, Tom Montalk, Arella Eliora.
We covered many topics, shared our experiences, research, pathways towards healing, protection and much more.
One form of love, which is considered the most frequent, is, unfortunately, toxic love. This love appears as a result of insecurity or fear, and it does not do favors to anyone.
Our environment will become even more toxic when we get attached more and more to those people that are wrong for us. Toxic people have the ability to drain us of our happiness, regardless of the fact if we allow that or not. These people build their toxic relationships on an unstable foundation.
Here, we will present you some sign which indicated that you might be in such a relationship, or signs which suggest that you are with a toxic partner. You will definitely need a change when you notice these signs because toxic people and relationships cannot be suitable for every one of us.
Sorry about this, but when you are not your partner’s priority now, you will never be. He or she has to hold you on the identical standard they hold themselves. Refusing to do that will be a sign that you have to move on, as you deserve a lot more.
The mistakes they made cannot be yours; they have to be prepared for everything they say or do. You should never be blamed for their own mistakes. Toxic people are obsessed with the idea of bringing other people down, especially those that they are closest with.
These people believe that they can do everything, while their partners are not allowed to do those same things. For example, you would like to go outside and spend some time together with friends, and in the same time, your partner is also with his friends; however, they will refuse that right when you ask them. Remember that they see you just as their property and not as their loved one.
Usually, toxic people will not really like the ones that really matter to you. They will not like that idea as those that care about you will normally see their true self. In fact, toxic people hate this, so they are going to try hard in order to keep you far from your loved ones.
Toxic people will never respect your limits, and they are always going to do something or force you into certain things which you wouldn’t like to do. As a result of this, you will find yourself in uncomfortable situations, which are not supposed to happen.
They seem like they try their best in order to bring those that love them down. Toxic people will not support those around them, but they will tear those people apart. For example, when you are happy about something, they are going to everything in order to ruin your happiness. This pleases them after all.
So, for some unknown reasons, toxic people feel good when they lie. So, they are going to lie you about something that is insignificant and goes too far in order to reach their goal, which is making you feel terrible. Remember that you cannot trust someone you love although you would like to do it with your whole heart.
Toxic people never allow their partners to have their personal space. For example, having your personal space means having time to reflect and think, and thinking well may make you come to the decision of leaving your partner. These people love crossing boundaries, so when you do something without their permission, they will be furious.
These people adore controlling you, and not only you but every single thing in life. This type of control means the ultimate superpower for them. Just said, they would like to have the ability to control you and make you do what they want you to do. They are going to cut ties when they see that they are not able to control you.
These people are never going to listen to you or care about your own necessities. They are selfish people, so they don’t want to worry about you or about everything you need. They practice only self-care, although you may be in a relationship for a long time.
Love is probably the most misunderstood subject that society likes to talk about daily. Especially the beliefs when it comes to love.
Movies, romance novels, songs, many of these things created a false idea of what love really is. There is a big confusion.
What majority of the world thinks it’s love, it is just one expression of love, a romantic aspect of love. Real love is deeper than this.
However, even for this aspect of love, people have countless false ideas and misconceptions that we would like to clarify.
Here are 3 most used phrases between people, between couples and friends, that need to be removed from the vocabulary and society’s belief system.
The truth is they are not a puzzle piece. You are not a puzzle piece. Nobody is a puzzle piece. We don’t come together as better or worse halves of someone else. Therefore, your partner cannot be your better half. They are a whole by themselves, just like you. If you are not a decent person without them, you will not be a decent person with them either. Strive to be your better self no matter if you have a partner or not.
This implies that you are not a whole yourself. It also implies that you lack something, that you have a void someone else needs to fill. The truth is you are whole, there are just some things you believe, or are used to assume, that prevent you from seeing this. When you come into a relationship with your partner you are two wholes that create a loving space for each other to thrive. You don’t complete each other, you support each other’s wholes.
Many people believe that they have One destined person that will show up into their life and they will live happily after they meet. The truth is, even if there is a destined one specially put here for you, just waiting for them is not how you were meant to meet. In fact, life is not about meeting them. It should be an adventure, it should be fun. Meeting your One should come naturally if they exist. And if not, life is still much better by taking action.
Be soft with your spirit. Be gentle with your essence. BE authentic to your purpose and calling. Rid yourself from the negative self-talk. You become everything you say that you are or that you are not. We are born every day, every minute, every second. We are here on borrowed time. Make it lovingly serene with your heart so that you can present your soul lovingly to another. This struggle is all bullshit at the end of the day. It doesn’t matter what you did or haven’t done. This moment, wasted reading this, or contemplating what hasn’t been scratched off your To Do List, is all irrelevant.
Really… this is nonsense. All the fake-ness of pretending and showing others a different person in order to fit in society. I want to know YOU… the real you that cries in your car, gets giddy at the first dog you see in the street… the YOU that loves the moon and stars.
There are folks losing their jobs, their homes, and families. There are others sitting alone in a hospital room watching a loved one fight for their lives. While some others are in the petty claws of political and religious arguments on social media… life is happening out there. Life is happening in here. Life is a series of ongoing movements and motions reminding us that we get to pick the perception and reaction.
I don’t know why bad things happen. I don’t know why anything happens. I would like to believe it’s for the evolution of our higher self. I would like to believe it’s part of a larger design. Who truly knows at this point? I have to be led by faith and that onset programming of a higher body of spirit guiding me.
What I do know is that we need one another. We need a tribe. We need love. YES… lots of love and to turn on our hearts to accept and spread it.
We need to know that we aren’t alone in the path of obstacles and challenges. We need to get out of our own head space and truly feel the vibration of another who is part of the overall conscious mass and start shifting towards changing the negatives to positives.
Hold a friend’s hand in need. Hug your lover as if it was the last time. Kiss those kids tightly. Smile at a stranger. Open doors for an elderly person. Compliment a cashier. Delete the toxic folks out of your life. If they don’t raise you then they have taught you something. It’s time to move on. Use your energy wisely. Just get out of your freaking head and lovingly give to another who needs to feel that the illusion of loneliness is not drowning their existence. It matters. It all matters to that one human who is struggling with life.
Stop the craziness of self doubt and anxiety because there is no way you leave this life alive. STOP focusing on the lack of anything and start creating by living in joy. So… live for yourself with honor, love, and compassion. You don’t own this blue planet alone. I am here. You are here. Let’s be here together in peace and harmony. Let’s be raised by love and light. We got this!
Always keep in mind that everything that occurs in your life occurs for a specific reason, and you never meet someone with pure coincidence.
Everything you go through has some specific meaning so that it is going to take where you have to be. For those that are not familiar with synchronicities, they are ‘meaningful coincidences.’
In fact, they are the individuals that come to your life in order to show you a certain thing or have that things occur which started a chain reaction. They can come in various forms too.
Every person that comes in your life has a lesson to teach you. You learn from others, and others learn from you. There are people that come in your life in order to tear you apart, while others will be there to grow together with you.
Here are the six common types of people that you may come in contact with in life. All these are synchronicities connections:
Those individuals are the ones that come in your life in order to remind you of something really important. In fact, they do that with evoking knowledge within you and helping you understand that knowledge. They are going to stay marked on the soul forever, regardless of being just a permanent part of life.
They are considered the teachers for your soul. So, they will come in your life in order to help you become a better person. They will also be there to help you when you need them, and with their help, you are going to understand who you are or who you are supposed to be too.
They are the ones that will be that part of your life eternally. They will be your support, always being there when you will need them. With them, you will count a lot of experiences, and the connection between you two is going to be stronger than you imagined before.
They come in your life in order to shake your reality. Usually, they are the ones you never wanted to meet, but you actually learned numerous things from them. Not every person you met is a positive one. Talking about your growth, negativity plays a fundamental role. This Universe actually knows a lot more about you than you definitely do.
They are the ones that come in your life for a short moment. So, they will pass near you, still having the ability to provide you with the feeling that you are not alone in this world. Also, they will share several words with you, or simply a glance. They are going to make an effect right when you have the necessity of it.
You have to be aware that they will not be in your life for a long time. They came in your life, you fell in love with them, then they hurt you and it broke your heart. The reason why they came in your life was to learn something from them, so remember that every experience with learning is not going to be positive, there will be negative too.
“The world is rapidly changing during these stages of bifurcation, in which the Negative Polarity and Positive Polarity spirals are becoming more extreme and amplified in the external. In order to stay deeply connected into our core self, and to withstand the massive impact of these opposing forces colliding, we must take conscious steps now to embody personal integrity.”
Personal Integrity is the quality of being truthful and honest with yourself and others, of intentionally aligning personal behaviors and actions to be congruently aligned with your own Personal Value System, moral principles, and ethics. It generally requires personal choice and commitment to align ourselves to stay consistent with personal values and ethical standards, so that when we speak we mean what we say.
Developing Personal Integrity is essential to becoming a stable, clear and trustworthy person that aligns their decisions in life with their chosen personal values. It is the milestone of building a strong character guided by one’s chosen personal values, and is reflected in a person that is firmly centered in purpose and directed in life by their own core self. We compromise our core integrity whenever we let others make poor decisions for us or when we betray a trust, betray our personal values, or betray that which we know is the truth for ourselves. When we compromise our Personal Integrity, we allow a back door vulnerability for dark force manipulation that many times descends even more darkness and chaos into the situation where we had made the compromise. To support the embodiment of our true essential nature, achieve single soul occupancy and continual consciousness expansion, it is imperative that we understand how to generate and maintain Personal Integrity.
Self-Inquiry upon Personal Integrity
To build and maintain personal integrity takes some effort and commitment, like developing the self-awareness that is required to define your personal values so that you can measure your behaviors and actions, in order to evaluate how aligned you are to your authentic self. When you consciously participate to clarify personal beliefs and core values, the next step is to honestly assess how well you are doing, by reviewing yourself in a personal integrity report. It may be a powerfully positive process to review your core values and generate personal integrity reports annually, so that you can see how you are evolving and transforming, as you better stay aligned to your own personal value system. This begins to develop more competency in self-leadership and life management skills, so that you are empowered to make positive differences from the values that you lead in your life. Real self-leadership and Self-Ownership begins when we have absolute clarity within the context of our personal beliefs and core values, which become the guiding principles we follow in our lives.
What are the most important Personal Values that motivate my life?
Choose up to five of the most important core values that feel the most essential to live authentically and express your highest purpose. Then focus upon those themes that you have chosen and evaluate if you are practicing and increasing these important values throughout your life. In the Guardian context for reclamation of Christ, our personal core value system would be directly connected to the Law of One practices. For example, for those dedicated to be of service to the Law of One, some of our most important personal core values are:
Maybe upon deeper reflection or in the future you’ll find that your most important personal values are shifting, or are revealing differently in order to become more specific in their quality. The more specific we are in identifying our core values, the more accurate and clear we can be when applying those to the behaviors that guide our life. As an example, let’s say through deeper self-study you have identified a recurring pattern that makes it hard to feel confident in valuing yourself when in the company of intimidating people. One of the core values that you choose is to Value Yourself equally to others, no matter what happens. To make this an important guideline in your life will help strengthen personal behavior to value yourself while in intimidating situations, which increases Personal Integrity.
Once you’ve defined some of your most important personal values, then inquire on each one to evaluate how you can better align your thoughts and behaviors with the meaning of each value. For example, ask three questions about the core values of expressing Unity, to help you accurately assess positive changes that you can make to be more authentic and within integrity.
Am I living in Personal Integrity and what areas can I improve?
As you meditate and reflect on your life over the past year, assess if you have been authentic to your core values and the ways that you can improve your actions, to reflect integrity and authenticity in the future. In each area when reflecting upon personal values, inquire on what is aligned to your authentic self, those things that feel they are functioning well. Then place your attention upon the personal lessons and opportunities that you have to greatly increase inner strength, the core strength you will need in order to act authentically and within personal integrity.
Summarize the key points in your Personal Integrity Assessment for reference.
As you gain clarity on identifying important personal values and how you can build and maintain authentic integrity, prepare a summary of key points that you can revisit for inspiration to help guide your life direction and purpose in the next cycle. Print out your notes to clarify in more detail your personal vision for living within core personal values, knowing that when you are maintaining personal integrity it naturally aligns to fulfill your highest purpose. Embodying core personal values, living, thinking and breathing those values is what expresses Personal Integrity. This is the key to avoid negative cause and effect or miasmatic imprints upon what you are manifesting. Then make an effort to re-read and reflect upon your Personal Integrity Assessment regularly, to keep you focused on what personal core values are the most important guiding principles of fulfilling your most authentic expression.
Practical Application of Embodying Integrity
In the process of completing a personal integrity self-assessment and consciously choosing your value system based on what you know to be true for you, now is the time to take conscious steps every day to behave in ways that are consistent with your personal values.
The world is rapidly changing during these stages of bifurcation, in which the Negative Polarity and Positive Polarity spirals are becoming more extreme and amplified in the external. In order to stay deeply connected into our core self, and to withstand the massive impact of these opposing forces colliding, we must take conscious steps now to embody personal integrity.
(Source: ES Newsletter – Personal Integrity)
~via EnergeticSynthesis.com – Time Shift Blog – December 18, 2018
“The best ideal for unity is love.”
Every family is a building block in the society we live in. In order to have a strong and loving society, we must ensure that it starts with the family.
Love is what keeps a family strong and intact. Without love, a family can’t stand the tests of time. No relationship can.
This doesn’t mean that because you have genuine love, conflicts would no longer arise. On the contrary, genuine love can be tough but is not conditioned.
Family love is a safe haven for unconditional love. Unconditional love means even if there are arguments and fighting at times, your love for each other stays the same.
The stronger the bond of love we can create within the family, the better and more loving society we can constitute. Here are some ways you can strengthen the love of your family.
Whatever you and your family believe in, include some form of spirituality within your home and your interactions. Have a mutual ideal that you all follow, so even if your beliefs are different, you can meet at this ideal. The best ideal for unity is love.
The dining table is the best place to share exciting experiences. Eating together can be hell if your relationships are difficult, if you can’t handle each other. However, that’s exactly why eating together is important, it highlights all the areas you need to work on.
When you interact with your family, it’s much more important to let them feel loved and be kind, than be right, even if you really are right and they are wrong. The most important ingredient is love and your relationship is about love, not about who is right.
Taking a trip together, even if it’s for just one day, can bring you much closer. Sometimes it’s the environment you always interact with that stimulates bad behavior and irritates old wounds. Changing the environment can give you a different perspective of who they are.
When you laugh with someone you are bonding with them on a deeper level. And laughing with your siblings can be more healing than you can even imagine.
In order to be open with our family and love them freely, without getting drained of our energy it’s important to have strong boundaries. You need to let your family know the importance of your boundaries. Show respect, trust and honesty so they can show it back.
Have weekly hang outs with your family. If you can’t do it once per week do it once per two weeks. Spend an extra bonding time with each member in the family to make them feel special. Maintain your relationships.
Keeping secrets within your family and gossiping is going to rust your family apart. Secrets and gossip create bonding but in a form of triangulation, you are bonding with one member while using another member as the topic for the conversation, as a punching bag.
Instead of small talk, gossip and shallow conversations, or topics that lead you to argue with each other, speak about things that are real. Speak about your feelings, speak about what really matters to you, what you are passionate about. That’s what family is for.
Nobody is perfect. And yeah, some family members might function with an old, really outdated operating system. But it’s not your job to change them, it’s not their job to change you either. Accept each other with all your flaws and try to love who you are.
A home that is full of love is felt not only by adults but also by babies.