CONSCIOUS REMINDER: “5 Tips To Restore Your Faith In ‘Magic’ When Things Get Rough”

It is not always the biggest event that proves to be magical. A beautiful butterfly flying gracefully is magic. The first sip of coffee on a Monday morning is magic. A warm hug of your beloved is magic. It is in the details, try to look for it.

 

Magic is a complete art in itself. It may not always be perfect and beautiful but it allows you to look at things from a different perspective.

From time to time, we wonder where the magic has gone from our lives. Where is the magic that I felt in my youth? Where is the magic that showed me my dreams?

So, how to reignite that fire of magic? How to believe in it again?

1. Remember that there is beauty in tragedy, light in dark corners, and gifts to be found in even the most difficult situations.

You must keep faith in yourself and in your journey. Even if things are not going your way, you must keep dreaming of success, keep believing.

2. Look at life as art.

Look at the life deeply; sometimes you are not able to see the beauty straight away.

3. Connect with your highest self, your divine spark.

When you are not connected to your higher self, things usually do not go well. You might achieve a lot in life but will still feel empty from inside. Connect with your higher self in order to be the best version of yourself.

4. Don’t push too hard.

Life is not just about maximum effort. Sometimes, you need to go with the flow. When things go bad, think of yourself as floating in a calm river, flowing downstream slowly and smoothly. Let your body relax and spirit refresh.

5. Remember that magic is in the details.

It is not always the biggest event that proves to be magical. A beautiful butterfly flying gracefully is magic. The first sip of coffee on a Monday morning is magic. A warm hug of your beloved is magic. It is in the details, try to look for it.

When you fail to find the magic outside, look for it inside.

 

~via ConsciousReminder.com

DEJAN DAVCEVSKI: “How To Get Out Of Victimhood Mentality And Thrive In Life”

There are two ways to live, either that things happen against you, or for you. In this article we’ll tell you how to get out of victimhood mentality.

What is victimhood mentality? It’s this flawed way of thinking, a mindset where you think the circumstances are against you for some reason.

It gives us an inflated sense of self importance and that’s why it’s so addictive. We think we are so important that the whole world is against us.

We believe that there are limits, people and circumstances preventing us from being happy. It’s someone else’s fault, not ours. This is a fierce prison.

It’s comforting, but it will enslave you indefinitely. When you get out of this mentality it’s when you will actually start to live again and to thrive.

5 Ways To Get Out Of Victimhood Mentality:

1. You do not lack anything.

One of the biggest false lessons we learn as we grow up is that we need something to make us complete.

The world teaches us through media, propaganda and stories that you need a soulmate, you need to be wealthy, you need a purpose to be happy.

The reality is that you do not need anything. You are complete and whole right here and now as you are reading this.

You don’t need anything. You are enough to be happy, to be yourself, to start becoming who you desire to be. The things you think you need are illusions.

They are a carrot on a stick making you endlessly chase your own tail. So stop. You don’t lack anything to give your 100% right here and right now.

2. Nothing is happening ‘to you’.

Majority of people like to think that they are so important that when it starts to rain, for example, it’s because something is against them.

Tiny little beings, on a tiny little land, on a tiny little planet out of billions just in our Galaxy, planet that follows massive, interconnected systems.

And we dare to think that we are so important that all the mechanisms in our Galaxy conspired to create this rain, just so it will mess our hair.

The reality is that nothing happens to you. Things are neutral, but we need to feel important. It’s okay, but see things as happening ‘for you’ not ‘to you’.

3. The world is abundant.

There is one flaw in our mentality that makes us think the world is scarce of things. Scarce of resources, opportunities, things.

In reality, the world is so abundant of things that it’s hard for our mind to really grasp all the available options we have constantly around us.

There are countless opportunities every single second, all around you, countless things you can do and experience, countless resources.

There are so many books you can read, movies you can watch, songs to listen, meals to try, places to visit, art to see, it’s not possible to see 1% of it.

Just think about this. No matter what you want, if you go every single second of every single day doing it, you will experience less than 1% of it.

4. Nobody is stopping you.

If you are like most people you would find countless excuses of why you can’t do the things that you want to do. This is victimhood mentality.

In reality and in all probability, nothing and nobody is actively stopping you to do what you want to do. Think about this. Really do.

You want a better job, who stops you from leaving this one? You want to travel, who stops you? Want to find the love of your life, nobody stops you.

Really. No one does. You can get up, right now, and start walking. Go wherever you want. Right now.

That’s why you have a mind, to find a way. Instead of using it to complain, use it to find a way. Nobody stops you from living the life that you want.

5. No one owes you anything.

We often have this idea deep inside our subconscious mind that the world owes us something. That we deserve to have what we want to have.

And it’s okay to feel like you deserve to have the things that make you happy, but it’s not ok to think you deserve for something to just serve them to you.

Yeah, you deserve to be successful but you still have to work for it. That’s what deserving means, accepting that you would go the distance.

Feeling that you deserve all those beautiful things and that fact to motivate you to take necessary action. Nobody is responsible to give you anything.

The only one responsible for getting what you want to get is you. Just like everyone else is responsible for themselves. Nobody owes you anything.

 

~via LifeCoachCode.com

SELF-MASTERY FOR THE DAY ~ Eric Raines on Triggers

What are your triggers? What sets you off?

 

Breathe into that feeling, inhale in your smile, exhale out what does not feel good, including your reaction to the trigger.

 

Train yourself not to react negatively to the trigger, then put it into action the next time it appears.

 

Magic.

 

~Eric Raines

 

~via Unleashing Natural Humanity

CONSCIOUS REMINDER: “Bringing Healing & Grace Back Into Your Life”

We should ask ourselves how frequently we see our sky, or touch our earth, and look at the mountains in the distance. We are just a small part of this changing, expanding, and ever-growing nature world, although modern technology consistently suggests the opposite. Stress will appear if we are not grounded properly, and when we lose our connection to the Mother Earth.

 

We shouldn’t underestimate the powers that the change of the four seasons brings, in order to awaken our spirit.

Since ancient times, people considered spring as the female persona that brings a rebirth of warmth, light, new life and new growth with it. We will also welcome the infusion of our Divine Feminine, every gift of God’s feminine face.

Spring comes after the long winter sleep melts away, making ourselves open to the opportunities for healing and hope that the new season will bring.

As we take a look around us, much work has to be done. Divine Feminine brings us gifts which we need in order to bring peace, balance, harmony, compassion, and love to this troubled world.

Feminine spirit’s power lives in women and men too, and they may be cultivated just like flowers in spring. If we use them to heal our inner world, we can also bring them to heal, save, help, and rescue our outer world.

We should ask ourselves what we would do with all those powers of our Divine Feminine connection. Are we going to bring shelter for the homeless, food to the starving children, end ward, heal and comfort the sick, the heartbroken, and the suffering?

There are numerous possibilities, but from where we should start?

These are the five ways which will help us wake up our spirit during the spring season and also call forth every gift that we wait to flourish with:

Nurture

We should take proper care of the incredibly miraculous human being that we are. Are we the loving parents to our inner child, and do we treat ourselves with compassion, patience, and kindness?

Do we take into consideration our physical necessities for adequate sleep, regular exercise, and proper nutrition? Do we appreciate and love ourselves? Do we practice gratitude for all our lessons, blessings and experiences?

Heal

We should ask ourselves about how we create wholeness and wellness within. Do we have some regular practices in order to connect to the Source?

Prayer and meditation will be the best possible practices to increase our light and keep our psyche healthy. Connecting to some power which is higher than us will ease pain, fear, anxiety, and fear, and it will create inner peace too.

Grow

We should ask ourselves how frequently we see our sky, or touch our earth, and look at the mountains in the distance. We are just a small part of this changing, expanding, and ever-growing nature world, although modern technology consistently suggests the opposite.

Stress will appear if we are not grounded properly, and when we lose our connection to the Mother Earth. Peace and happiness will come from simply immersing ourselves in the sounds, sights, textures, and scents of the outside. We are going to lose our feeling of presence and belonging if we don’t expose ourselves to nature regularly.

Express

We should ask ourselves if we look within, striving to appreciate and understand our feelings and thoughts. Do we find some ways in which we can express our authentic life experience? Keeping a journal is going to help us develop our capacity to express ourselves.

Recording our impressions and ideas may help us find some patterns in our thinking in order to help us know ourselves. Knowing more means growing more. While we grow, we are going to have tools which we need in order to express ourselves, share our ideas, or build, and even strengthen our relationships.

Serve

We should ask ourselves if we serve simply by placing warm meals in front of homeless veterans or by merely showing struggling children how they can read stories or solve math problems.

Every act of serving the world starts with our inner sense of aim and even connection to our fellow beings. Our inner spiritual works are going to create our inner peace that the world will see reflected as hope, encouragement, and love.

 

~via ConsciousReminder.com

FIONA REILLY: “Four Tips for Effective Listening”

The gift of being heard is something really precious. Having someone listen attentively to our expression or story is very healing and can enable us find our own understanding, acceptance, balance and joy again. Listening sounds like a very simple thing and indeed it is, yet many of us struggle to listen effectively. Being a good listener requires being present and fully attentive to the other. It is not about offering advice or fixing anything or making the other feel better, it’s simply being there and paying attention.

 

“Whatever life we have experienced, if we can tell our story to someone who listens, we find it easier to deal with our circumstances.”

~Margaret J. Wheatley

 

Four Tips for Effective Listening

So how might we listen more effectively… there are many things that can help! Below I outline four suggestions that I have found to be fundamental to good listening.

Be Present

Initially, it is vital to be present and with the speaker, to give them our full attention. If possible find a quiet place for a listening exchange where you are unlikely to be disturbed. Turn off phones and any background noise. Honour your boundaries, if you feel you only have 20 minutes to listen, say so at the beginning so the boundaries are clear or explain that now is a not a good time and arrange to connect when the time is right. To the best of your ability come from a place of acceptance and compassion and avoid judgement of them or their story. Be fully attentive to them and the energy between you.

 

“Listening is such a simple act. It requires us to be present, and that takes practice, but we don’t have to do anything else. We don’t have to advise, or coach, or sound wise. We just have to be willing to sit there and listen.”

~Margaret J. Wheatley

 

Simply Listen

Many of us want to try to fix and make things better for the other person, yet the most beneficial way is for them to work through whatever is arising and to find their own solutions. The way to help someone feel better is to encourage them to be with their pain or confusion or whatever their experience is, to explore it and then they may feel empowered to move through it. Telling someone they need to be strong or things will get better or something similar isn’t effective longterm and can be disempowering. So try not to fix the situation or offer solutions unless they are invited. When listening our purpose isn’t to make a person feel better, simply by having their experiences heard in a non-judgemental and accepting way can allow things to shift and heal.

 

“The human soul doesn’t want to be advised or fixed or saved. It simply wants to be witnessed — to be seen, heard and companioned exactly as it is.”

~Paul Parker

 

Focus On the Speaker’s Perspective

While it’s useful to be able to identify with their experience, telling someone of your similar experience is not usually helpful, so try not to habitually compare their situation to one that you have experienced. It is of course fine if you are having a two way conversation, however if you want to encourage a person to explore their experience, your story isn’t what they need to hear, at least not until they have worked through their own stuff. It can take from what the speaker is saying and turns the attention away from them. Occasionally it may be appropriate to share your own experience, use your intuition on when that feels right. You could check with the speaker if they’d like you to share what happened to you, though mostly I find it best to stay with what the speaker is sharing.

In order to acknowledge their experience and what they have shared, you can reflect back to them what you heard them say, for example “You felt very angry when that happened”. Such a reflection does a number of things, it shows that you are listening, that their feelings or expressions are valid and enables them to go into more depth around the issues. In focussing on the other person you may notice the subtleties of body language, tone of voice… etc., which can sometimes indicate more than their words and again if appropriate you can reflect back what you notice.

Don’t engage in a drama or exaggerate the situation, sometimes what is being shared may arise feelings in you, acknowledge these internally though put them aside you can always return to explore them yourself at a more appropriate time.

Become Comfortable With Silences

For many silences or gaps in conversation cause discomfort and they rush to fill the quietness with something. However allowing a silence lets the speaker know that you are there for them and ready to listen when they are ready to speak. Speaking in order to break a silence usually ends up in directing the speaker in a different direction, than what may have otherwise arose next. If you do feel to ask questions, do so for clarity and understanding. The facts or details usually don’t matter. If you do feel to ask questions try to keep them open ended, you could you phrases like “How was that for you?” to encourage more disclosure or as I mentioned earlier reflect back what you have just heard.

Acknowledge Pain

This is an excellent video relating to how to support a grieving friend and the principles offered could be used with other challenging situations, not only grief. The way to help someone feel better is to encourage them to be with their pain, to explore and accept it and then they may feel empowered to move through it.

 

“One of the easiest human acts is also the most healing. Listening to someone. Simply listening. Not advising or coaching, but silently and fully listening.”

~Margaret J. Wheatley

 

With loving gratitude for all those who have shown me how to listen well and for my continued learning. I wish you well with your listening explorations,

Fiona

 

~via WakeUp-World.com