ALEX MYLES: “Navigating the Pleasure and Pain of Twin Flame Connections”

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“Ultimately the twin flame connection is here to teach us about unconditional love and acceptance by showing us whatever we have the most difficulty in loving and accepting within others and ourselves.  It is easy to love the qualities that reside in the light, our greatest challenge is also being able to love and accept those that reside in the darkness.”

~Alex Myles

 

 

A Twin Flame connection is often defined by one thing: an instantaneous, intense and magnetic soul resonation.

However for many, despite the heightened emotions and strong longing to connect with a twin flame, the opposite usually happens, and instead of coming together they seem to move further apart.

When we live open-hearted and are highly sensitive, we recognize our twin flame immediately, as they seem familiar and their energy feels like what many describe as home.  However, the ultimate twist in this is that the other person often won’t recognize us, or if they do, they are stuck in denial.  It can sometimes feel like the closer we move toward our twin flame, the farther they move away.

The reason behind this is not a comfortable pill to swallow, but it is important to know so we can awaken and heal from the aching desire to unite with the person whom our heart craves.

Twin flames are not the same as us — they are our polar opposites.  This ignites immense fear, as we are innately terrified of what we don’t fully understand, so we subconsciously attempt to reject it.

Where one person is open and inviting, the other may be closed and unwelcoming of the energetic bond.  Our entire universe is made up of yin and yang opposing energy and we are often pulled toward the opposing side in order to achieve harmony and balance.

The tricky part with this is that our egos play a huge role in resisting these twin flame/yin yang dynamics as we have become conditioned to behave in ways that are limiting, demanding, judgmental, controlling or fearful.  Therefore, even though the one who is closed off at the heart center will still feel an undeniable attraction, that attraction may feel chaotic and full of friction as it evokes an array of emotions they are currently unable to manage and process.

We simply will not get close to a twin flame until the barriers within ourselves that were erected at a point when we felt a need to self-protect are finally broken down.

Despite what we may have previously come to believe, when we initially connect with our twin flame we are usually entirely unprepared for the emotional, mental and spiritual aspects of this meeting.

This is because our twin flame projects back at us all the things that we either do not like, do not understand or that we deny, reject, oppress and refuse to accept in our own lives.

Although we often turn a blind eye to the parts we dislike in our twin flame, our subconscious mind is aware and will work tirelessly to attempt to guard our heart by triggering us to behave in ways that cause separation and keep our twin flame out of reach.

The denial of the other person is ultimately a denial of ourselves, because although we may have tried to hide aspects of our personality out of fear that they are hideous and unacceptable, they still exist.

We are often left in total dismay when this happens as in our mind we may have hoped and expected our twin flame would be an identical match, reflecting the same qualities that we have and therefore making us feel validated, worthy and acceptable.  If we believe we have inner strength, courage, and confidence, and we feel secure and centered, we hope that our twin flame also reflects these same things back — only then do we feel that we’ve met our match.

Our primal instincts, on an evolutionary scale, encourage us to admire and gravitate toward certain traits and disregard others so that we receive the greatest chance of survival both for ourselves and our offspring.  While this was all well and good in the caveman days when we had to fight harsh extremes for daily survival, the things we desire, need and want in today’s world are very different from what we may have desired, needed and wanted thousands of years ago.

It is no wonder we struggle to co-exist harmoniously with a twin flame.  We desire and want certain things on one level, but on other levels we are drawn to the qualities our DNA is convincing us that we need in a partner.  When it comes to matters of the heart and soul, these expectations can cause us to fail miserably.

Our needs and wants filter down to the same thing — security.  Not just on a domestic level, but security within ourselves.

The one who is open-hearted will be desperate to connect on a heart level and pour all their affection and admiration over the person their heart adores.  The opposite partner, the closed-hearted one, will accept the outpouring of affection, but it will not hit them in the heart, it instead serves only their egotistical mind.  It is no wonder that the longer these two interact, the further away from one another they seem to get.

The ego stands between them and redirects these messages wherever it feels they are best placed in order to “survive.”  Therefore, although these two flames are on opposing ends of the scale and feel drawn to explore the connection further, there are subconscious underlying forces pulling them apart.

The more attention and admiration the closed-hearted person receives, the more they feel as though they are above the open-hearted one.  The ego convinces them they can forget this connection and instead meet a match who is equal to them on all levels, failing to see that the yin and yang — opposing but balancing qualities — are the exact ones needed for complimentary soul resonation.

The tricky part arrives when the illusions fade, the rose tints are off and the ego steps back. Then we see the situation with clarity:

A twin flame is simply mirroring all the tendencies that we perceive as weak and undesirable.

If we hold disdain for emotionally unavailable types, it is a sure bet that our twin flame will be emotionally unavailable to us.  If we despise people who are trapped in their ego, that is the exact manifestation that our twin flame will take on.  If we hate people who are arrogant and self-absorbed, yes, our twin flame will project those traits outwardly too.

We may not consciously accept that these characteristics are inherent in our twin flame, as we can become captivated with the image our imagination helped create, but when that illusion is torn down and reality hits, we start to see that our twin flame is not as “perfect” as we may have first believed.

Spiritually we are being asked if we are still willing to keep our heart, that is tempted to close, wide open knowing that the person we placed on a pedestal is simply a human — just like us — with a myriad of perceived and real flaws and faults.

Instead of suppressing our darkness and attempting to only rest in the light, it is essential that we embrace, integrate and balance all of our shades if we want to gain inner peace and receive the chance of connecting with this person.

We often feel compelled to only express the light parts of ourselves due to fear that we will be rejected if anyone sees the broken fragments beneath the surface.  However, in our terrified state we are also rejecting ourselves as well as those around us whose dark sides we witness.

The key to a twin flame soul connection is in accepting one another in our entirety and continuing to love regardless of all the imperfections that this person presents to us.

When we are able to love not just others but also ourselves, without conditions, expectations or attachments, we have then reached a heightened form of love.  The toughest and most challenging part is maintaining it.

There is a difference between a soul mate and a twin flame.  A soul mate is someone we share similarities with, learn from and communicate well with.  They are kindred spirits and we can usually co-exist harmoniously with them without being challenged too far outside our comfort zone.  These relationships feel natural and comforting and generally flow effortlessly.

A twin flame appears as our opposite incarnation and we learn continuously from the connection regardless of whether we are in close contact with them or not.  We usually struggle to co-exist with a twin flame as we are challenged beyond our comfort zone and these challenges trigger our deepest insecurities, beliefs, values, motivations, intentions and feelings.

We learn from a soulmate for our own higher good, but we learn from a twin flame for the higher good of the entire planet and collective evolution.

Ultimately the twin flame connection is here to teach us about unconditional love and acceptance by showing us whatever we have the most difficulty in loving and accepting within others and ourselves.  It is easy to love the qualities that reside in the light, our greatest challenge is also being able to love and accept those that reside in the darkness.

Both halves of the twin flame dynamic will struggle equally to accept the opposing traits of the other person.  As much as they feel a bond and are magnetized towards one another, there is also a strong undercurrent repelling and forcing them apart.

When we finally learn to release our past pain, our conditioned beliefs and the trauma that is causing obstacles, we can then begin to truly love and accept ourselves and one another exactly as we are.  The undercurrent pulling us away will weaken and we will stop subconsciously resisting the powerful and unique flow of unconditional, limitless love.

Until then, a twin flame connection may feel complicated, frustrating and will likely elude us.

 

~via ElephantJournal.com

SOPHIE GREGOIRE: “Message For Twin Flames ~ Trust Your Own Inner Knowing”

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“Twin Souls are ‘committed’ to each other but they don’t need to say it.  They’ve agreed to come together in this life but this requires no words, no rings, no schedules or timelines.  It’s a commitment of the higher realms.”

~Sophie Gregoire

 

There is no need to “let go” or “move on”:  You can trust your own inner knowing. 

There is a huge misunderstanding for Twin Flames.  We’re often told to move on, let go or cut off — but this is impossible.  That’s a battle that none of us has to fight or win.

Instead, I’ve learnt that what Twins “should” do is to find the “right” place that they let their counterpart occupy in their heart — it’s not and will never be about trying to erase them from there or “forget”.

The right battle is to move at your own pace towards this space where you can love freely.

– Letting Go Isn’t Needed –

The bonding that connects Twins is very strong, telepathic and almost uncontrollable — so “letting go” can’t really be achieved especially if it’s forced on you.

The Twin Flame journey is about raising your vibration in order to open up to unconditional love.  So if every time there is an issue between both of you — someone, a friend, psychic or whomever (and however well-meaning they may be) tells you to “let go” and causes a deep pain in you, it’ll bring a stop on your way.  You can’t maintain your vibration high anymore because you’ve been brought back to pain.

Suffering, pain and fear are on the opposite range to unconditional love, trust and faith — from a vibrational standpoint.

“Letting go” isn’t required and doesn’t really means much on this path — what you truly need, is to become detached from the outcome.  And this will only happen on its own time, when you’ll be ready.

Raising your vibration must be your primary goal.  The rest will unfold as a consequence of it.

Actually, we don’t decide to “let go” of people, we can’t force this kind of things.  We’re able to move past attachment and be happy no matter what happens on the outside when our vibration is high enough — and not the opposite. 

We never “release” our counterparts, or the people— soul mates, deep friends, ex partners, family — that have meant a lot to us. We release or let go of patterns of relating or ways of being in our relationships— not of people.

So if you were advised to forget your Twin, please know that this was never truly needed. There are other ways to move forward – while maintaining opened possibilities for the future.

–So, Why “Professionals” Have Advised This To You? –

When readers tell you to let go, move forward or forget, it’s because you are hanging on too tight — you are still too attached to the outcome.  You have not yet found your balance, the successful middle ground between love and detachment.

These people or readers have tried to detach you from your expectations for the future in order to make you find balance — balance between feeling strongly for someone, and freedom. 

Imagine a slider.  You had too many expectations, you were getting too close and attached energetically… so the Universe has found a way to tell you to pull away completely, so that you finally land a at middle ground place — the one where this kind of love may thrive from.

This has first caused pain in you — but ultimately more detachment was required.

–What Does The Final Line Look Like? –

We never truly “let go” of such a connection.  Either we’re obsessed by it or we manage at our own pace to love in a detached way.

Twin Flames say a Big Yes to loving freely and being “detached”.  This is what happens when we truly find our own joy and power, so the outside becomes less and less important — that’s why this path is more than anything else a Journey to the Self.

The truth is, Twins never “forget” about one another.  They simply find enough strength and joy inside, to live happily no matter what happens on the outside.

We simply learn to love our counterparts no matter what has happened.  This, is not “letting go” or “forgetting” — it’s about seeing things from another perspective, forgiving, trusting that a new version of love could happen in the future and working at the same time on becoming detached from this hope.

Hope and faith yes — but detachment to the outcome, and happiness no matter what.

In other words, what’s needed is finding balance between : love, hope, peace, harmony, coming closer energetically, seeing the beauty of it, being grateful AND wanting it to happen now, knowing when and how, developing new expectations, trying to make things happen or to bend life to our will which ultimately leads to attachment & impatience.

Because the truth is, whenever we develop hope again, we’re tempted to form expectations at the same time.  In other words we get too close to our Twin.

So ultimately we become disappointed if things don’t unfold as we expected, and we pull away once again from it — because coming too close while seeing that nothings happens or changes, brings too much pain.

In time you’ll be more and more able to love in a detached way — you’ll love no matter what happens or doesn’t happen, no matter what they say or don’t say, no matter where they’re and with whom.

This is when love becomes magic — you love them freely and you let them be, without chasing or running after.

Twin Flames have come here to show that there is a possibility for love beyond the paradox of love = constraints, attachment, fear of losing, desire to keep them around you and knowing what’s going to happen in the future.

Even if Twins experience together the usual kind of “romantic love”, they’re expected to become able to feel strongly for their other half — without expectations and attachments. 

Twin Souls are “committed” to each other but they don’t need to say it.  They’ve agreed to come together in this life but this requires no words, no rings, no schedules or timelines.  It’s a commitment of the higher realms.

– Listen Above All To Your Own Inner Knowing –

On the spiritual path either between Twins or more generally, nothing “works” when it’s forced on our souls.

Growth happens on its own time depending on our own experiences, past and personalities.

Your goal is to maintain your vibration high, no matter what is being said to you.  However it’s your and only your own responsibility to ask for advice or not, to give attention to what’s being told to you or not.

You’re a soldier, you’re ascending. You keep moving, bravely. You’re shielded, you’re protected by the ones that came before you. Whenever something feels wrong, you keep walking — you trust yourself and you don’t look back.

Because, personal growth is about self-empowerment… — how could you “ascend” if you trust and listen more to what other people tell you, than to what you intuitively know and believe?

Trust yourself, Ladies and Gentlemen. This is your easiest and fastest way to joy and freedom — and this more than any other thing, will lead you to your Twin.

The most important is to feel at peace with your Twin, no matter where they’re and what they’re doing. This vibration of harmony is the only one that can truly bring long-lasting joy on this journey — no matter what is in the physical.

Peace and harmony between you and them is something that you already have available within, you only need to find it again — and don’t be afraid to say No to whatever some outside energies come your way and affect this feeling.

Let me sum that up…your goal is to find peace, harmony and to deepen your love with your Twin — without falling back again in wanting it now and drowning in expectations. Because this would ultimately lead you to feelings of disappointment or resentment if it doesn’t unfold as you thought… and this would cause a new cycle of separation — either in the physical or in the ethereal realms.

Just love in a free way, new unfoldments have already started I’m hearing…

 

 

 

 

Source: TheTwinFlameJourney.com ~via LoveHasOne.org

SPIRITUAL UNITE: “Twin Flames Separation — Why It Happens”

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Twin flames separation is something that can’t be avoided and is meant to happen in most of the twin flame relationships.  Apparently, most twin flames relationships are bound to come to a slight pause since it’s not quite obvious that at the point of meeting they both will be ready for each other.

The reunion is quite strong and would require the twins to be ready for each other i.e. be in a position to take care of each other’s souls and in addition, they should have individually learnt some important life lessons such as love, loss, handling of; jealousy and hate etc.

Therefore, when the relationship can’t seem to work, it happens with a reason.  It happens that there are key lessons still meant to be learnt and understood before embracing the love meant for the two.

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However much the two of you will have part ways, you are still connected and it’s just a learning moment for the two of you.  You are meant to learn important lessons such as detachment, forgiveness, surrender, grace, inner strength and trust.

Forgiveness will be the greatest lesson you will get to learn since the separation would have been caused by one of you either saying or doing something that hurt the other.

At a point like this, you will definitely miss your twin and you will get to wonder how to cope with such a loss.  It will be painful and it would ache your heart but remember it’s meant to happen.  It’s meant to teach you something and however much you wish they would be with you it’s just not the right moment.

Making matters worse, you will have to go through this stage alone as no one will get to understand what you actually feel.  You may try explaining yourself to those close to you and trust me the best response you can get is “just let go, maybe it was not meant to be.”  But no, don’t listen to them; whatever you had is not ordinary and very few people can come to really understand what you are going through.

Twin flame separation isn’t quite a pleasant ordeal and it will leave you with a string of questions in your head with no real answers and unfortunately it will be a confusing moment for you.

However, with the confusion and uncertainty, the two of you will still be connected in a way.  You will still think about each other nearly all of the time and still feel their internal energy.  You will get to feel it when they are emotional, upset or even when they will be thinking of you.

It’s quite sad to lose someone you had loved and still love with all your heart but remember one thing; it’s a stage you have to grow through and you are learning something out of it.  There may not be exact reasons as to why this is happening, how it’s going to happen or when it may stop and all you have to do is trust the process and endure the pain.

The whole encounter is meant to grow you and therefore this is a time for you to have your own healing, spiritual growth, recognize your lessons and just be the best version of yourself.  Once you are ready, the universe will reunite you once more and this time your love will be unbreakable and divine.

Are you going through the twin flames separation stage?

 

 

 

~via spirituaunite.com

SPIRITUAL UNITE: “Feeling Your Twin Flame Telepathically”

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Twin flames are considered to be the half souls of each other and each and every one is believed to have his/her twin flame destined for them in their last lifetime. How do you know you have met your twin flame?

Bond-Connection

Upon meeting, you will develop an unexplained bond connection between the two of you. You will feel as if you have met before physically as there is an atmosphere of familiarity. Intuitively, you will have a peculiar sensation that tells you that he/she is the one. Everything about you will point towards them being the one; your heart, guts, feelings and even the mind.

Feeling Your Twin Flame Telepathically

Telepathy is quite common among twin flames and you will come to realize that when you meet your twin, you will start developing some of their feelings, thoughts and even moods. It so happens that you can tell what is going on in the heart and mind of your other half and you are able to share whatever it is they are feeling. Distance is not actually a barrier and whatever is affecting them; emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually will definitely affect you too.

Eye Contact

The human eyes are believed to be the mirrors to the soul and feeling your twin flame is possible through them. A deep gaze into the eyes of your twin flame would without doubt trigger some feelings within you. Furthermore it would be quite unusual as it would feel like you are staring at your own soul. A simple gaze into each other’s eyes is also believed to be able to heal any misunderstanding between the two of you.

Overwhelming Feeling of Love

Another way of feeling your twin flame is that there will be moments when there is intense genuine love between the two of you. You will feel the deep feeling of love strongly in at least one of the chakra focuses, particularly the heart chakra. The feeling will be so intense such that your souls seem as one and you will be feeling your twin flame’s soul inside yours. Such moments will be of certainty that you two are meant for each other and no matter what happens the two of you will always come back to be together.

Exaggerated Feelings

Since the two of you will be associating on a soul level, feelings between the two of you will be more amplified as considered to other relationships. Whether positive or negative, the two of you will experience excessive emotions i.e either incredibly good during the exciting moment or intensively low during the sad moments. The empathetic relationship between you two will mean you absorb the other person’s emotions and combine them with your own.

The 11:11 Synchronicity

There will be occurrence of repetitive numbers within your connections and the most common of them would be the number 11. The number 11:11 and other number synchronicity will be found within your day to day activities, anniversaries and individual birth dates, phone numbers and major life events.

Dreams

Both of you will sure have dreams about each other since you share a telepathic connection. In most cases, you will have these dreams about each other prior to meeting and they would also have certain themes based on your individual lives and also issues in the relationship that should be addressed. The telepathic connection can also be expressed in form of visions and day dreams.

Separation

Separation is quite common between twin flames as they prepare themselves for each other. Just as other relationships, you will face various misunderstanding however you are set to eventually come back together. The relationship may crumble in cases that one of you has unresolved emotional baggage and you two can only get back together once healing is ready to occur. The intense attraction and repelling between you two will definitely show you when to part ways and when to reunite.

Life Changing

The relationship should make you grow as an individual and in some sense teach you some aspects of life. You will realize that you develop different ideologies and approaches on life situations as a result of your twin’s influence on you. The relationship will also help your individual growth and enable you reach your highest potential in the world and in each other’s lives.

Empathy and Telepathy Connection over Distance

You will definitely come to realize that distance is not a barrier between the two of you and telepathy and empathy will be a common thing. At certain moments you will find that you pick on each other’s thoughts and may find yourselves finishing each others’ statements and texting, calling and emailing each other at almost the same time.

 

 

 

 

~via spiritualunite.com

ALETHEIA LUNA: “Twin Flame Separation ~ How to Break the Cycle of Depression, Anxiety and Pain”

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Losing your twin flame is one of the hardest things you will ever experience.

Whether through death, circumstance or the inability to coexist together, twin flame separation is a nightmare.

The absence you feel is profoundly incapacitating.

The loss you struggle with is like black quicksand.

Your crushed hopes and dreams cling to you like shrapnel.

You walk through life feeling numb, empty, lost.

There is nothing in life that can quite compare to the deep and intense grief of losing your beloved.

How to Recover From Twin Flame Separation

Grief is an important part of the healing process. My intention isn’t to wave a magical wand and make your pain go away. Instead, my intention is to help expand your perspective and facilitate your recovery.

You are a strong, worthy and spiritual being. You deserve to pick up the pieces, heal and move on with your life. Open your heart and take in these words for a moment. When we experience immense loss it can be hard to remember these truths.

Before you read this list, I want you to know that although it felt as though your twin flame was your universe, you are capable of finding wholeness by yourself.

Recovering from twin flame separation can take months, often years, and sometimes decades. For this reason, always be gentle and patient with yourself:

1. Understand why the separation occurred.

Often in order to find peace of mind, we need to understand why something in our lives occurred. If your separation was deliberate, you might like to explore the underlying reasons and causes.  In understanding why, you’ll be able to learn important lessons about yourself that will help you to mature as a person.

I strongly encourage you to read my last article, “Twin Flame Separation – Why It Happens and Why It Haunts Us” if you would like some help with doing this.

2. Realize that twin flame separation makes you stronger.

At first this almost sounds like a sick joke. Stronger? How could that possibly be true?

While losing your beloved temporarily causes immense sadness and distress, in the long term it can forge you into the person you were meant to become. Like a phoenix rising from the ashes, twin flame separation burns you so fiercely that you feel like useless, futile ash. But after a time, if you allow it to, this process of burning can give birth to strength, fortitude and courage.

3. Allow yourself to mourn through self-expression.

Intense emotions are scary. For this reason, most of us tend to hide, suppress or distract ourselves from honoring them. If you’re experiencing extremely uncomfortable emotions such as depression, anger and grief, slow down. Make space in your life to mourn. This isn’t about self-pity, it’s about actively experiencing your emotions.  

One of the best ways to actively experience emotions is through self-expression such as journalling, painting, playing an instrument, dancing, running, hiking, gardening, etc. Find what feels good, and go to that place. Don’t remain static. Get moving. This is a powerful way to heal.

4. You are not your pain.

When we are in a great amount of suffering it’s very easy for us to get strung up in victim roles. Melancholy is comfortable when it protects us from vulnerability. But remember this: pain is a passing sensation. It may be a very persistent emotion, but you are not your pain. You are so much more than your suffering.

Making friends with pain, opening to it, and allowing it to teach you, shows you that pain is transient. Pain reveals to you the parts within yourself that haven’t healed yet. Pain strips away the pretense and illusions and reveals to you the truth of what is there: your wounds, your insecurities, your beliefs, your attachments.

Pain shows you that you have loved deeply and fully. It reveals to you your own beauty, your own tender heart. Finally, when pain is fully accepted in the moment, it reveals a deeper truth: that you are limitless. You are not bound by any identity or story of pain.

Pain is only a passing cloud on the sky that is You.

5. Our twin flames are not responsible for our happiness.

Twin flames facilitate our growth in a powerful way, but they are not required for us to be happy. Wholeness and fulfillment can be achieved without the presence of our twin flames. Unfortunately a common myth about twin flames is that we somehow need them to be complete. This is false.

6. Integration.

Integration is about taking your discoveries and actively applying them to your life. When you whole-heartedly surrender without resistance to what life is presenting to you now, suffering ceases. Of course, this is easier in theory than it actually is in real life. So be kind towards yourself. Go at your own pace. This takes time. And most importantly: be open to letting go of anything that no longer serves you.

One Last Thing …

Unconditionally loving yourself including all of your flaws, mistakes and shadow parts is vital for healing. Often the main reason why we experience heartbreak in the first place is because of our own self-loathing and lack of self-understanding.

Finally, be open to the reality that life is a mystery. You don’t know what the future holds. You never know who may appear or re-appear in your life. Take comfort in this.

Have you separated from your twin flame? What was it like for you, and how did you manage to cope?

 

 

 

 

~via LonerWolf.com