NEZEL PADAYHAG: “The 2 Most Important Traits Of A Soulmate”

Most people think that a soulmate is a person who magically appears in your life out of nowhere because they are destined to be with you.

However, a true soulmate doesn’t have to be a romantic partner. But they will most likely be. And they do not appear magically, they are attracted to your vibration.

So this means that no matter how close your soulmate is to you, if you do not let yourself be yourself, and shine with your light, they will not perceive the truth of you.

To find the right person and connect with on a cosmic level you have to become the right person yourself. And once you find this person, everything changes in your life.

When the two of you unite, your energies complement each other and become so extremely strong that just your partnership in love creates a positive change in this world.

There are countless signs, traits and explanations of what is a soulmate and how it feels when you find them.

But most of these traits are not concrete enough. So here are the two most important traits of a soulmate.

The 2 Most Important Traits Of A Soulmate:

If someone has these two traits, whether you believe in soulmates or not, they are what is considered a soulmate.

1. You’re deeply inspired by them.

“Inspiration” comes from the Greek word “Theopneustos”, which literally means “God breathed”.

In other words, when you meet a soulmate you feel connected to them on a much deeper level, a level that is spiritual, coming from the Source.

This person inspires you more than you can imagine. It goes beyond reason, time, space, and comprehension.

You feel a deep connection on a subconscious level. Having this subconscious connection, you both tap into your infinite potential.

You’re inspired to do things you never have done before. Because you inspire each other, manifesting your dreams is easier.

You become aware that you’re both co creators creating your reality.

When you’re together, your energies are so strong that people can’t help but notice its magnetic power. When both of you enter a room together it illuminates the atmosphere.

You know what the other person is thinking even just by gazing at each other’s eyes. And whenever you are together you feel as there are no limits to your potential.

You are changed into the best version of you not because they magically transform you, but because you are inspired by them to transform into your best self yourself.

At times, it takes true love so the darkest places of your soul can surface and be healed. And this kind of love is what really transforms us.

2. You love deeply and care strongly for them.

As we said, a soulmate doesn’t have to be a romantic partner. Some times it is a friend, or maybe even a person you consider a foe.

But most often it is going to be a romantic partner. This is because a soulmate reflects deep parts of yourself you are often attracted to or you disassociate with and hate.

There are many ways to define love. And it’s often subjective. A person can love someone out of a deep need. Or, they can love someone just because they do.

Most often, the second kind of loving is the deepest kind of loving. It’s because you have no need to love a person, but you still do, that hints to some deeper reason.

You love deeply and care genuinely when you’re willing to give without demanding something in return.

A usual phenomena that happens with your soulmate is when you can look at each other’s eyes and see that you’re both timeless.

You unconsciously understand that you come from the same source and the same breath of life.

If you feel your partner is the right person but things aren’t flowing smoothly, there might be some issues that both of you need to solve.

Both of you may have reflected upon each other’s aspects that need healing. It’s scary to look but if it’s the only way to heal, then face your fears and inner wounds.

This often happens with soulmates who are not romantic partners but a friend, or maybe even someone you just hate. But it can happen with a romantic partner.

You hate them because they reflect the things you hate within yourself and they are, in a way, trying to heal you by making you face what you avoid within yourself.

But whoever they are, a friend, a foe, a romantic partner, if they are your soulmate you will feel deep care for them, even if you hate them.

So what do you need to do to attract your soulmate:

You shouldn’t force yourself trying to attract your soulmate. If a relationship isn’t making you happy or fulfilled, then you might be in the wrong relationship.

You don’t need to suffer in a relationship wishing the person you’re with is the right one. No one knows it better than you. But first, you need to work on yourself.

You need to have a deeper connection with yourself because your vibration is the link that connects you to your soulmate.

When you’re fully aware of yourself and vibrate in the same frequency your soulmate is vibrating, then there’s a big chance you will meet each other.

Whatever the case may be, continue to shine your light. When the right person comes, you will just know it. Any other explanation will be just irrelevant.

 

~via LifeCoachCode.com

INGA NIELSEN: “Twin Flames And Codependency”

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Twin Flames and other strong soul connections cannot come together in a codependent relationship. The love that these souls have for each other is simply far too pure, too bright and too divine to accept a pattern of codependency. However, the conditioning and life circumstances that many Twin Flames incarnated into make codependent relationships the only form of affection that they know. Consequently, codependency patterns are one of the greatest obstacles for Twins coming into a 3D Union.

Do we know the difference between codependency and twin flame love? Between loving unconditionally, and becoming a doormat? Between setting boundaries and pushing people away?

All Twin Flames are wired for Union. We may, or may not enter into it fully in this lifetime, but this is what our souls are yearning for. And yet the way we learned about love was often quite dysfunctional.

Almost all advanced souls had considerable difficulties growing up, often incarnating into very dysfunctional or damaged families. Most of us did not get a good picture of healthy love. Most of us spent our formative years having no idea what healthy love is.

Additionally, the collective ideas about “love” have outlived themselves. Twin Flame Union is not a “relationship”. The template of “relationships” that we have inherited is no longer working in our society. And this is not necessarily a bad thing! On the cosmic scale, we are undergoing a great transformation, especially in terms of the relationship between Masculine and Feminine. This is part of what the Twin Flames  are here to do — to help shift the ideas about “love”, to bring in the model of love that is based on a face-to-face communication of equals, the Divine Masculine and Divine Feminine dancing with each other, on all levels, in all dimensions.

But this can only happen through healing.

Codependency and Inner Child Healing

The unbalanced love of a codependent comes from our wounded inner child. The deep and unprocessed wounds are causing us to either cling like crazy, or to push our Twin away, sometimes quite unconsciously, and often as if against our own will.

The wounded inner child feels she is not good enough. That’s what she learned, and that’s what her universe keeps reflecting unto her, until she is healed. Our bodies are not good enough, our education is not good enough, we are never competent enough, our identity (ethnicity, race, gender) is not good enough, basically, being our own self is not good enough.

The key to truly healing this wound is not to fight the harsh criticizing inner voice, or to forcibly numb it with alcohol, food, or over-achievement. Instead we have to try and rescue it – this inner voice is actually an integral part of us – a part which has been cut off from us, and is wounded and in pain. It is actually your inner child that is crying out for healing and comfort.

It is true that the twin flame journey is a process of ascension. There is no other way but up. But guess who is leading the ascension, guess who is the intuitive, the divinely connected part of ourselves? The inner child! The subconscious mind that acts out in ways that often perplex us. And so in order to go up, we have to go down into the basement of our pain, scoop up our inner child, heal her, and let her come out and play.

Healing and Fixing Others

I feel it’s easier to address the workings of the human mind by defining the many sub-personalities within us. And so let’s accept a working definition, that in addition to our inner child, we also have an inner parent. And if our inner child is unhealed, the inner parent will usually be over-responsible and out of balance, as well.

An over-protective inner parent reflects feelings of inadequacy. I feel inadequate, therefore, I will try to fix you. Everything is better than dealing with my own pain. Attempting to fix another person, to heal them against their will is the dysfunctional side of the inner parent. And if our inner child is not healthy, if our scared little boy or girl is sitting in a dark basement shaking with fear — our inner parent is guaranteed to be quite dysfunctional.

We need to balance our compassion with wisdom. If your child never gets to know that some things are unacceptable, he will most likely grow up into a monster. If you can’t say no to a child, who might be yelling and screaming and kicking to get his way, you are guaranteed to become the puppet of someone who doesn’t even have the maturity to know right from wrong. It is the same with our sub-personalities.

Trust. Trust that the Universe that brought you this far is not going to leave you now. Trust, above all, that they have their own capacity to heal. You don’t have to run out and heal their inner child against their will. Most times, all you can do is set the boundaries and do your own inner healing.

And you know what? It’s not only about you. Sometimes they will be our parent. The good parent who refuses to give us what we think is love. Even the unawakened, the seemingly irrational rejection by our Twin Flame  is doing us the greatest service of all — teaching us to love. To really love. To love ourselves, to love the Creator, to love the Beloved, to learn about what love really means. It is the service that their souls took on for us, a far greater service than what we can comprehend in the 3D, where we are fooled by appearances.

Why Is It Like This?

Meeting our twin flame is a powerful soul activation. So powerful that, in fact, all of our soul shows up, at least temporarily. I believe that only parts of our soul incarnate in each particular lifetime, to work on a specific issue or lesson. This is in part due to the nature of this world, where the 3D reality cannot “hold” the completeness of our soul. This changes when Twin Flames meet for the first time. The burst of energy that twins generate when they meet calls up the whole soul, from the highest heavens to the deepest dungeons.

This explains in part what happens during the separation process. Some parts of our soul that came up had been hijacked by dark energies, had been stuck in the lower levels, completely devoid of light and love. It is not just the inner child, it is those parts of our soul that are so desperate for even tiny morsels of light. Now that we have seen the light, we want our Twin to stay in the role of a Divine Lover for us. And they can’t, because they are not there yet, just as we are.

Until we clear this desperation, we are pretty much stuck. The Spirit needs to fill all the deep dark desperate corners of our soul. The parts of us that disconnected through trauma. The parts of us that have descended into hell, be it literal or metaphorical. The parts that are in utter terror to loose even the tiny bit of light, terrified to descend again into darkness. All of those parts come to the surface when we meet our twin. And the good news is — we get to heal those parts, no matter what.

As Above, So Below

If I feel really deprived and small in relation to my twin, and will put up with absolutely anything, this is also reflected in relation to the Universe. Somewhere deep within me is the perception of lack — that there isn’t enough coming from the Universe, that there isn’t enough love to go round, enough money to go round, enough jobs to go round. And the Twin is the reflection of what I think I deserve. Of my unworthiness.

If I see my relationship with my Twin that way, this is a reflection of my relationship with God. God is not there for me. Which, ironically, means I have to get it from my Twin. He is the best possible person I can get this from. And he can’t give me what I ask. This pattern only reinforces the already existing concept of lack. See, God doesn’t want to give me anything, he never wanted me to be happy in the first place!

We must learn to receive love directly from the Source. This is not about anyone giving love to us. This is about us becoming love. If we see love as something outside of ourselves, if we demand love from others, or blame them for not loving us, we are giving our power away.

We have learned from the society around us that love is out there, that we have to change to get love, not realizing that we can receive love just as we are. We don’t need to be anything other than who we are right now at this moment in order to be loved.

While we may understand this intellectually, and even think that we implemented it before in our lives, there are layers of our soul that have not integrated this concept. And these layers have shown up when we met our Twin Flame! The trick is to give up all our yearning and our sense of lack to the Universe, and ask to be filled. Ask the Universe to take over some of the parenting. You don’t have to do it all by yourself.

We need to heal our desperation to want our Twins in whatever way they show up for us. We don’t accept morsels. We are not undeserving of God, of love, and of deep communion. But to receive the higher, we need to say no to the lower. And for some of us, this is the hardest thing in the world. And there are no guarantees. But once we let go of the need to control the situation in 3D, once we heal that needy part of ourselves, the spiritual connection with our Twin Flame will shift. It will be like finding a pearl that is so precious that everything else pales in comparison. Everything we owned, needed and strove for becomes just an empty sound.

Ultimately, this is about us becoming One with the Universe.

 

 

 

by Inga Nielsen,
Guest writer, In5D.com

About the author: Inga Nielsen, MPH, brings in a unique combination of knowledge, metaphysical and practical, as well as deep-seated passion for healing and communion with the Divine. Inga assists people in connecting with their higher selves, spirit guides and high beings, through accessing the Akashic Records. Inga was trained in a variety of healing techniques, including hypnotherapy, inner child work, meridian therapy, breathwork, yogic practices and energy clearing. Inga is a Reiki master and a professional intuitive. She is here to assist people in raising their vibration and living from their soul, as facilitators of their own ascension. You can find out more about Inga on her website, healing-radiance.com.

LEDA DE ZWAAN: “How Twin Souls Heal Each Other”

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Do you consider your partner your twin flame or twin soul?

When you find your twin soul being dramatic, irritating, annoying, addicted, too sensitive, or fearful, take it back as a mirror, and find out if they are reflecting an UNSEEN part of YOU.

Twin souls love each other so much that their energies reflect and mirror everything within. They are showing you something that you are, already have been, or forgotten about yourself that needs to be seen.

Just look at their wants, beliefs, and what they have to say. These are your own needs and beliefs being reflected back at you.

Twin soul love takes you through a spiritual trip that no one else can create for you. Your partner is showing you things from within the deepest love possible and leading you back to your own source, by mirroring everything about you.

The energies between twin souls are taking over (even in words, actions) to show you who you are or what might be in need of transformation.

Some things are deeply hidden or forgotten. Just listen to their words, fears and behavior, and see yourself. If you are honest to yourself, then this is the highest love between souls that anyone can experience.

They will reflect the good and the not-so-good within you. This is a commitment you already made with them before you were born.  You agreed to meet each other and to heal each other by reflection of the soul and ego.

Heal Each Other Instantly

If a twin soul cannot get away because of her fears, then it is possible that the male twin soul cannot leave either.

If a twin soul is obsessed by a addiction, or a theme in her life, it is very much possible the male twin soul has the same exact patterns. If he sees this and is aware and willing to change the addiction or the fear to leave a place, or an obsession, then she automatically will heal as well.

So, if two twin souls are aware of their twin soul partnership, they heal each other first by reflecting the addiction, drama, fear, or pattern. When one of the two lets go of any of these patterns, then other one can automatically heal too. This will generally not happen in any normal relationship or partnership.

If you see your partner struggling with anything (depression, drama, addiction, illnesses, etc…) then see the reflection of that within you and simply say “I want to release this pattern to heal myself and us”. It can heal you both, instantly. It takes self-love to see the patterns, and love for both of you to heal.

The transformation works within seconds. The reflection and knowing is all you need! This is why twin soulmate relationships are the highest form of transformation that can happen in all relationships.

Committing to the relationship (and to stop running away from your issues), is finally committing to yourself as well.

It works both ways.  How can you turn your back on your your twin soul?  It’s the same as not loving yourself. By loving yourself, you will love them and they will love you more, by loving themselves as well.

Running or avoidance is the same as running away from who you are. If they get upset at you for not noticing them, then see how your behavior is to not notice yourself.

You may be angry at yourself for some reason or may be pretending to be someone you’re not. Are they sensitive or hiding their weaknesses?

Twin souls project love and light to one another. In the end, they will get you to accept and meet your true self, not your ego. The more you run away from any perceived issues you have with one another, the more you run away from yourself.

There is no deeper love than the love between yourself and a twin soul that is committed to fully reflect YOU!

 

 

 

 

 

Leda De Zwaan is writer, speaker, journalist and Coach of the New Energy. She specializes in Add/HSP, twinsoul- and soulmate relationships, Karma cleansing, Regression-therapy, sustainability, how to live in a healthy home, heart-activations and healing with new energetic tools. Her website can be found at: www.enlighteningmedia.nl