ALETHEIA LUNA: “7 Common Myths Embellishing Twin Flame Relationships”

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Twin flame relationships are among some of the most potent connections of life – and it is said that they are increasing at an unprecedented rate.

Gone are the days of mating for power, royal influence, practicality and religious jurisdiction. Now, more than ever, we are free to meet and greet who we like, comb through thousands of possible suitors on the internet, and commit when we are ready. When else in history have we been granted such freedom?

But with this newfound freedom also comes the potential for immense growth both psychologically and also spiritually. This is where twin flames – also known as “twin souls”—come into the picture. What is so striking about twin flame relationships is that they are cataclysmic in their ability to revolutionize our lives, just as an earthquake is cataclysmic in its potential to transform any landscape.

Because of their sheer power and breath-taking catalytic nature, twin flame relationships are often romanticized, idealized and worshiped in unnecessary and misguided ways just as the false idol is lauded for its imaginary divinity. While the connections that twin flames have are indeed divine, they are also intensely unsettling. And in this article you’ll discover why.

7 Misconceptions About Twin Flame Relationships

If you want comfort, pray for a soul mate. That is my piece of advice. Why? Because soul mate relationships, although challenging at times, are essentially places in which we can feel at ease. Also soul mates (soul + mates) are not always necessarily romantic, and can range from kindred spirits found in friendships, family connections, and even work relationships. On the other hand, it is said that we only have one twin flame that we may or may not reunite with during our lifetimes (hence the binary word “twin”).

Also, the goal of a soul mate is to bridge the separation between “self” and “other.” The goal of the twin flame, however, is much different. In my experience, the role of the twin flame is to aid you in the development of inner wholeness, harmony and self-realization (Oneness) – but this journey certainly isn’t full of sunshine and roses. In fact, the meeting of two twin flames is like the meeting of the sun and moon, earth and sky, fire and water: both partners mirror precisely what the other lacks. Understandably this can create divine harmony, but also intense conflict within a relationship.

So what are the most common myths and misconceptions about twin flame relationships? And furthermore, what can you expect if you have truly met your soul’s twin?

Myth 1 – Your twin flame completes you.

Reality – Your twin flame helps you to become more complete. They do not complete you.

It sounds so beautiful to “be completed” by another person, and on one level this is true of twin flames. Twin flames complete us in the sense that they serve as the catalysts to our wholeness. In other words, our twin flames reveal to us what areas we are lacking (in my case it was empathy, humility and compassion). However, our twin flames in and of themselves do not complete us. Why? Because beneath all the layers of beliefs, wounds, conditionings, and ego-masks lies pure, infinite, perfection. How can pure, infinite, perfection ever be incomplete? It only thinks it is incomplete. And that is the role of our twin flames; to remind us of the truth of who we are.

Myth 2 – Your twin flame is a member of the opposite sex.

Reality – Your twin flame might be the same gender as you.

The heterosexual ideal still pervades a lot of twin flame literature. But life doesn’t adhere to traditional thought, religious influence, or even the gender binary system. In reality, your twin flame could be the same sex as you, which might cause you to question your sexuality and other beliefs about life.

Myth 3 – Your twin flame is just like you.

Reality – Your twin flame is most likely your “opposite.”

Although you both share many similarities, you also share a striking number of differences. However, these differences deeply contribute to the relationship rather than taking away from it. For example, while you might be an introvert, your partner might be more outgoing. While they might be more masculine, you might be more feminine. And you will both share opposing strengths and weaknesses, e.g. you might be more thoughtful, they might be more practical; you might be impulsive, they might be measured; you might be calm, they might be anxious, and so forth.

Essentially, you are both the embodiment of the “yin and yang.”

Myth 4 – Your twin flame will come at the right time and be in the right place.

Reality – Your twin flame might appear at the worst possible time.

Or… they might appear at the best possible time. Life isn’t always predictable. For instance, you might meet your twin flame, but discover that they are already married. Or you might connect with your twin flame at a bad time (e.g. during or after a crisis). There is no set rule.

Myth 5 – You will always recognize your twin flame straight away.

Reality – You might not initially recognize your twin flame until much later in life.

We are all at different levels, or stages, of conscious development in life. Sol and I refer to this as “soulful maturity” and speak about this in terms of soul ages (which symbolizes the various points we inhabit on our paths of Wholeness). In this regard, younger souls will have a much harder time distinguishing their twin flames from garden-variety lovers – until they realize that no matter how far they travel, they will always return back to their twins. Older souls, on the other hand, will have a much easier time recognizing their twin flames, but might also be subject to romanticizing or idealizing the connection, resulting in a lot of frustration (which we’ll explore next).

Myth 6 – Twin flame relationships are always happy, smiley, and perfect.

Reality – Twin flame relationships can be tumultuous, overwhelming, and intense.

Is the perfect relationship to you defined by complete harmony? Is the prefect relationship to you characterized by complete understanding, acceptance and humility? While these qualities do define twin flame relationships after many years of inner work, they don’t always. In fact, at the beginning, twin flame relationships can be riddled with the most intense arguments and clashes conceivable. Many people refer to this as “karmic cleansing” where all our faults, flaws, and deepest core wounds are brought to the light to be dealt with and healed. Of course, this can be extremely unsettling, particularly when two big egos are involved in maintaining their illusion of greatness.

The tricky thing is, our twins know precisely what buttons to push, and precisely how to stir up and provoke our greatest fears, shames and secrets like no one ever has before. This is usually not done with malicious intent, but to encourage growth, for both partners empathically feel the others’ pain and desire for their self-realization.

Myth 7 – You’ll immediately be ready to invite your twin flame into your life.

Reality – You might not be ready to open up to your twin flame.

As I mentioned before, our twin flames don’t always arise at the right time and place in our lives. In my own case, I was still in the depths of religious conditioning and dogma when I met Sol, so it took me many months before I could realize the true, deep significance of the connection. In your own case it might take many months, even years to truly fathom the significance of your twin flame who may or may not play an active role in your life, and vice versa. Due to the intensity of twin flame relationships, it is common for them to disintegrate very quickly, and later re-emerge later in life when both partners are emotionally, mentally and spiritually ready.

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STEPHANIE LUCAS: “Don’t Get Burned! 5 Warning Signs of Twin Flame Connections…”

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While romance isn’t my forte, a fortunate few couples in arguably real deal Twin Flame connections offered me some valuable insights in the effort to create this week’s series on Soul Mates and Twin Flames, including this brief on the Signs of Twin Flame Connections.

Before we begin, I must say this: these incarnations are rare in the physical realm, and the majority of the time when such meetings occur – it’s far too much to handle if even one partner is not on the right path to ascension. Sometimes, you must face that even though you met them, it may not be the time. So, don’t force, but never doubt it will happen. On to the goodness… and not so pleasantness of twin flame connections.

 twin flame connections1. Bubble Love… One Step Beyond the Superficial

The Bubble pops fast, folks – so, if you want what I consider REAL twin flame (TF) signs beyond the bubble phase… TF’s share pieces of information already known to both. They may both sense a time/date of separation at incarnation or in another physical realm. They may reunite and tap back into each other at a similar time in their physical life that correlates to recognizable dates.

 2. 12 Chakra System Activation & Merging of the 7 Bodies

Both parties in the union are templated with a partially or fully activated 12 Chakra System, and this coordination propels that of the etheric body meridian. In meeting, twin flames complete a Merging of the 7 Subtle Bodies – the physical, spiritual, mental, emotional, ethereal, astral, and celestial. (Some utilize the 5 bodies, merging the Higher Self components.)

These activations and merges often cause the bubble burst, can incite the runner phase, and often feels like karmatic punishment. It’s intended to help the union evolve into a templating that activates once-thought junk DNA to ensure the union’s success. Part of this process includes the clearing of family templates and genetic baggage.

3. Sharing All Positive & Negative Aspects and Talents

Remember, that twin flames aren’t intended to meet on the earthly plane, as one part of the soul typically assists the earthbound twin from higher realms. Twin flame connections often attain rapid ascension to the melding of their souls aka the Higher Self once the ‘remember’ they’ve been together in previous incarnations.

You’ll likely share many common goals and interests with your TF, after all, they are a direct mirror of yourself… and that’s where it gets tricky. And you can only imagine what being in a relationship with yourself can be like when all the worst in you is something you face in your partner….

4. Sex: Before and After Romantic Twin Flame Unions

Etheric Sexuality: Beyond the physical, twin flames – authentic ones – almost always report having sex in the etheric body before even meeting in the physical. This is necessary because the energy exchange with a genuine union in the physical would likely be too overwhelming, causing one or both to panic.

Lack of Limitations in Intimacy: From intimacy afar to getting adjusted and light flashes to massive energy pulses and multiple orgasms…twin flames claim that inhibitions in the physical realm can restrict access to the etheric body – and as mentioned – access to the 7 subtle bodies is essential with TF’s.

Burning Off Old Sexual Energy with the Physical: It is mutually understood by twin flames at incarnation that they will burn off any previous partners’ sexual energies upon their physical union. This occurs very quickly after the first sexual encounter, but may occur before the union in the etheric sexual realm.

Kundalini The Sexual Triad with the Higher Self: Twin flames have one Higher Self and with practice and development of that presence, it can be brought into the bedroom as a third party when the frequency and mood is appropriate. Most of these couples have the ability to engage Kundalini energy to participate in Tantric sex, as well. Abilities such as this keep the TF sex life interesting and give them something to strive for.

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5. Abilities for Healing and Manifestation

These partners have high potential for exalted manifestation and healing abilities that will grow as their relationship prospers and falls into synchronicity and alignment with the union’s higher purpose. Many TF’s ultimately work together in healing careers.

Related Articles on Soul Mate and Twin Flame Connections

Straight Talk on Soul Mates and Twin Flame Unions

Understanding Soul Mate and Twin Flame Connections

 

 

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STEPHANIE LUCAS: “Straight Talk on Soul Mate Connections and Twin Flame Unions”

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After observing thousands of comments amid a half dozen Facebook groups revolving around twin flames, what I observed were a lot of individuals trying to force soul mate connections and twin flame unions. People feeling angry, hurt, depressed, sad, and rejected every time their so-called ‘twinny’ didn’t return their calls or forgot to tell them where they were going… etc. You get the picture…

I am blessed with many soul mates of both sexes and even those in-between, so I get what that’s all about VERY clearly. If you want a few basics first, you can check out a short piece on Signs of Soul Mate Connections. Twin flame reunions are rare and challenging according to a handful of people I know who appear to have the ‘real deal’ on their hands, so I’ll offer you their input in that department.

So, let’s step aside from the fluffy norm that you read in so many of these soul mate vs. twin flame articles and take a more realistic perspective.

Soul Mate ConnectionsSoul Mate Connections: Two Kindred Spirits

We are all of same stream of conscious energy… along with everything else in the universe according to science. Viewing things in this manner, your house or desk or your car could be a soul mate at the highest level of existence – technically – but let’s go with the theory of soul mates with them being people you meet in your journey that aid you and guide you back to source. Soul mate relationship can be trying at times, but for the most part, they seem to go fairly smoothly if romance is not on the table.

Soul mates can be defined in many ways. If you look at soul = spirit – that’s simple enough. But when it comes to a mate, that can be a spouse, lover, best friend, a relative, a coworker, or anyone you feel a deep, intrinsic bond with. It’s not necessarily a RELATIONSHIP, folks so know the difference. These bonds may last forever, a few months, a few days, or occur in a fleeting glimpse where a connection is forged. Soul mates incarnate and bond on the earthly plane to help each other learn lessons about themselves, the universe, and to find a balance that allows them to move onto higher realms of growth. Soul mates are thought to also help prepare to for your ultimate incarnation and reunion with your twin flame over your lifetimes.

Twin Flame Unions: The Ultimate Soul Mate

The theory among ancient philosophers is that souls split in half upon creation, each delving into a different aspect of duality or spirituality. This means that twin flame unions do not typically occur on the earthly plane, because in theory one twin is in this dimension while the other twin is assisting their partner’s journey from higher realms. Twin flames are the ideal Yin Yang balance, with each bringing forth a divinely masculine or feminine spirit to form the whole: the ultimate soul mate connection.

Twin flame signs are very similar to those of soul mates, but they are more intensely felt and exhibited by those in the union. They feel a sense of utter completion with each other, feel empty and weak when parted, and have an unconditional love that resonates at such a high vibrational frequency that others feel and sense their connection. These unions are for life – when cared for.

Here’s the rub… twin flames mirror each other, as we all do. However, the intense energy and intentions behind the relationship can make facing ‘yourself’ in your other half challenging. Understanding Soul Mate Connections in Troubled Times delves deeper into those issues. It takes a completely committed pair who is comfortable and confident in their own journey, and knows that they are on the right path to make it work.

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The Key to Finding Soul Mate Connections or Attracting your Twin Flame

It is essential that both parties be in alignment with their true soul/spirit path in order to meet a twin flame. While soul mates are strong, meaningful connections that help us find our path, even being in perfect alignment doesn’t mean that one will meet their twin flame on the physical realm. THIS IS RARE, not a once in a lifetime guarantee. In fact – not to be a spoilsport – but it’s highly unlikely due to the nature of their higher purpose from higher realms so it may take many spiritual and physical ‘lifetimes’ to incarnate with your twin flame union.

Don’t force things in either situation. Just keep Living in the Present Moment, and by all means don’t go out looking for it! If you suspect you have a soul mate connection or a twin flame union, just sit back and let your connected energies flow in harmony into the universe and let things unfold, manifest, and blossom into what they are intended to be.

 

 

 

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STEPHANIE LUCAS: “Surviving Twin Flame Relationships – 4 Tips for Mindfulness”

Twin Flame Relationships

There’s nothing more surreal, ethereal, or divine than two harmonious lovers walking the journey together. Two cosmic flames reuniting physically on the earthly plane in search of Source, the Higher Self…to rediscover what is there all along but has been obscured by the human experience and its trials.

Twin Flames and Soul Mates can meld seamlessly for the first few weeks and months or even years, but as the flames grow higher and burn stronger, you and your mirror image will begin feeling the heat in areas beyond the boudoir.  Yes, some fiery confrontations can occur in twin flame relationships, especially once the ‘bubble love’ phase transitions into a deeper realization of your cosmic connection.

Why? Because as exhilarating as it is, discovering your twin can be an intimidating experience. Theoretically, you’re in relations with the other half of your soul essence, so resisting the urge to have expectations and fears that can lead to disagreements can be ‘simply irresistible.’  Before calling it quits or calling the fire department on these occasions, here are a few ways contain the heat of these cosmic connections.

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Balance Intimacy with Spirituality

Anyone can fall in love. That’s the easy part. But, it’s going to take work – really challenging work on the physical, emotional, and spiritual levels – to make your partnership succeed and for you to STAY in love. Now, if you’re truly with your Twin Flame, you shouldn’t be having any issues with intimacy. In fact, you may be enjoying that connection so much that spiritual connection time together is being neglected. Of course, intimacy IS spiritual in twin flame relationships. It’s the spirituality involved in spending time together soul gazing, meditating, communing in nature, doing yoga, developing your Kundalini presence or exploring the amplified healing abilities TFs are purported to have. These types of practices are what allow you to have balanced, positive energy so you can nurture not only your soul but to also tend to your partners when needed, In short, don’t neglect the SOUL work.

Twin Flame RelationshipsBe Open as Both a Student and Teacher

These special partnerships are of cosmic design, and they are intended to help us assist one another in becoming everything we are meant to be both as individuals and as a union before the process of ascension. Your partner mirrors your own issues back at you, and naturally, we can be resistant to these lessons because they are typically painful for us to see – especially once we consider ourselves to be ‘above’ those places we once were. There is no direct path to our final destination, and our human selves may refuse to see and acknowledge that dark side… to bare ourselves down to the core where both the darkness and light coincide so we can learn those tough lessons – sometimes over and over again. Don’t be afraid to be naked in your relations with your partner… let your beloved also be your teacher and guide. In return, allow them to be your student by letting them know who you really are and be honest in communicating your lessons.

Hold Back with Hypersensitivity

When times are trying it’s tempting for Twin Flames to Run in Troubled Times, but true twin flames must realize that they are a mirror image of one another, reflecting their own personal issues back at their partner, so naturally there is sensitivity to seeing those weaknesses. You’ll be hypersensitive to each other’s energies, both high and low, positive and negative – especially when those ‘lessons’ and ‘mirror’ issues crop up. This is the time to truly evaluate the role of the Ego, of YOUR Ego, and let it go. Choosing to communicate in a productive, kind, and loving way when disagreements arise rather than taking offense opens the door for healing. However, times when you realize your reaction was less impressive or productive, try to see your reaction as an opportunity to look within yourself and address any old baggage you’re harboring that fuels any undesirable responses.

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Live, Laugh, Love

As you ease into the comfort zone with your twin flame relationship, you will propel beyond being in love to just BEing LOVE. You’ll enjoy life more as you laugh and love together, allowing your relations with one another and the actions you bring into the world will to be like a mesmerizing song, an eloquent dance, a meditation or prayer, honoring and appreciating each moment with grace and humility. Be that LOVE, and all of your relationships will thrive even in the toughest of times.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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STEPHANIE LUCAS: “Understanding Soul Mate Connections and Twin Flames in Troubled Times”

Soul Mate Connections

It seems that many folks have a somewhat unrealistic impression of what a soul mate or twin flame connection will or should be… with visions or expectations of an all encompassing ideal partner that grabs their hand, gives them a twirl or two, and then they walk away into a sunset on a picturesque evening. People expect this bubble love that is never ending, and feel as though they can share every thought with their partner and all is so serene…

 

Well, let me say this is absolutely NOT how this rolls, my friends. In fact, when you actually encounter potentially romantic soul mate connections – and particularly in the case of an authentic twin flame connection – things can get rather down and dirty…and quickly. However, it is so important to remember that these connections need not be romantic at all but rather an intense friendship that aids you on your Path to Enlightenment. They may be either transient or permanent fixtures in your life on the earthly plane – part of your voyage together is allowing what it is to manifest.

Nothing is more challenging than meeting your mirror, and when I say mirror, I mean you will see not only the BEST in that person, but also their worst. And accepting those aspects of yourself while accepting them in your connection is not any walk in the park…and in fact, once this occurs, your partner is likely to run like a bat out of hell from you! As SoulEntity speaks of in “Follow the Stranger“, the ‘Negative Sentience’ is always trying to break into the minds of true soul mates.

Soul Mate Connections Why Soul Mates Run…and 1 Simple Way to Reconnect (or Not)

Meeting a twin flame or intense soul mate is like the Clash of the Titans. What else can two parts of a whole do when perfect strangers have a chance encounter and they somehow see EVERYTHING? There are two things that can happen here: you can acknowledge what you see and go with the connection, or you can keep what you see to yourself. Either way, you are still going to butt heads, so chose your path on this journey wisely.

DOUBTS & FEARS: Strong energetic connections can be rather scary, and running is an instinctual response that can lead the pair into doubting if their union is ‘real’. While feeling so drawn in to someone, you also feel fear. Fear of rejection, fear of failure, fear of making a mistake that will drive them away. Essentially, all of these fears are projected onto your partner and this is why they will RUN…you may be the runner or the one in fear or both – likely both of you will be doing both if it’s a true twin flame connection.

LABELS: As with most intense connections, the tendency to want to slap a label on someone as your BFF or your girlfriend, etc. can be very tempting. However, rather than that ultimately serving as an ‘acknowledgment’ this can set you up for future disappointment if the associated expectations of that label aren’t met.

EXPECTATIONS: Everyone is born into a world filled with expectations. Heck, parents make ‘big plans’ for their unborn – setting out expectations of them before they even exit the womb! These expectations will bombard you throughout life if you allow them to, and this is a part of the programming of society. One of the greatest downfalls in relationships of any kind is the expectation of another to reciprocate your feelings or live up to your expectations in any fashion.

JUDGEMENTS: One of the most important parts of living in the NOW is freeing yourself from judgments in all aspects of your life; hence, no matter where your troubles lie with your soul mate, you’d do yourself a favor by taking a bit of time and space rather than being judgmental of them. Remember, they are likely reflecting any energy that YOU are projecting onto THEM, and simple compassion can send out more harmonic vibrations that can ultimately heal issues, fears, and wounds that tempt judgment.

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About that Miraculous Solution for Reconnecting

Well, it’s not miraculous and you may or may not reconnect in the way you want (but that’s still holding onto expectations!). However, you can resolve and avoid many unnecessary conflicts with your soul mate connections or twin flame by avoiding all of the above! Letting go of the labels, doubts, judgments, and expectations allow you to become comfortable with the changes and he challenges as you will live more in the present, raising your vibrations, and increasing your manifestation abilities to gain what is intended from the connection.

“To form a connection with another human being is effortless but to maintain the connection takes some focus. To neglect the connection for prolonged lengths of time means that it will require more effort to maintain its stability. All it takes is a conscious mutual exchange of energy so that both people stay vibrating at a high frequency and the connection will remain strong.”Joshua Tepania, Writer/Poet

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