LJ VANIER: “7 Surprising Reasons Why You Need to Spend 2 Hours Per Day in Complete Silence”

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In our busy, hectic lives; days and years go by without us paying attention to how polluted our brains are because of everything constantly happening around us. There is also the pollution of sound that overstimulates our brains causing stress, moodiness, depression, anxiety among other things.

We are programmed to hear certain sounds in our everyday lives without even noticing them. The sound of the TV, radio, or the crowd outside, our cell phones, strangers talking, traffic, noises from the street, noises from the neighbour’s house… noises everywhere, all the time. We don’t even realize what this overstimulation of our hearing does to our brain cells.

Scientific studies show it causes more damage than we realize. Could this damage be reversible? Yes, scientific studies also show that silence has repairing powers and this is how it does that:

  1. Silence helps us calm down and feel more peaceful

If we could give ourselves, one or two hours of silence every day, we would be doing something very healthy to our mind and to our body. During silence, our brains start adjusting to the calmer state of being and we feel relaxed and peaceful. We regulate our breathing by slowing down our brains and not focusing on the stressful events. We might even feel sleepy. Imagine not having to watch TV or listen to radio, or not having to keep your cell phone on. Away from technology for a little while. In touch with your inner self. Silence gives that to you.

  1. Silence repairs our brain cells

It is a proven fact that silence has the power to rejuvenate and repair our brain cells. If you expose yourself to two hours of silence daily, your brain will start the repair process. You will find that your memory will start improving, you will be rested and your stress tolerance will increase as well. A stronger brain means a stronger body. Everything starts in those little grey cells. They respond to what we expose them to. So if we nourish our brains with good food (figuratively speaking), it will become healthy and the aging process will also slow down.

  1. Silence gives us more satisfaction in the long run

Hopefully you are not addicted to TV, radio, and smart phones, game consoles etc… well, chances are, we are addicted to one of these things if not more. It is the contemporary lifestyle. There is no easy escape. Have you ever stopped and thought about what would your life be like if you did not own a TV? Think about all the meaningless shows and biased news we watch on TV. In the end what do we do? We work, we come home, we fall asleep in front of TV, we go to bed, we get up the next day and do it all over again. By taking these things out of your life, you will actually find better ways to spend time either with family and friends or with yourself, and most probably you will be doing things that are better in quality. That is why, the satisfaction comes when you kick the bad habits and replace them with better ones. You will like yourself so much more, it is guaranteed.

  1. Silence improves our 5 senses

When we sit in silence, we actually become more aware of our surroundings but in a different dimension altogether. We hear sounds we haven’t noticed before, like the sound of the wind, or maybe the leaves gently touching one another, tree branches moving, maybe a distant sound of an animal… if we are in the city, we start paying attention to every single sound but in a constructive way. Not only our hearing improves but all our other senses also move into a different dimension where we get the most of them. We might see things we haven’t noticed  were there before, or something that touches our skin feels different, or when we touch something we might notice more details about it. Silence cleans our senses and unblocks them.

  1. Silence improves our attention

When we sit quietly, we give our brains exactly what it needs: focus. It comes naturally. By focus we don’t mean thinking of something specific or the kind of focus we try to achieve during meditation. It’s a different kind of focus where your mind is actually allowed to wander from thought to thought. But you will notice, by practice, whether you do it intentionally or unintentionally, your pace will slow down and you will reflect inwards in a much healthier way. This will help you improve your attention and concentration skills. Once you improve these skills, your learning ability will start increasing and so will your memory.

  1. Silence makes us more honest

You can not run and hide from your innermost thoughts when you sit in silence. At one point you will find that you are indeed being more open to your own self about your feelings, your thoughts, your desires, your regrets, your sadness… When you spend this time alone, you are looking in and beginning to see yourself not as a reflection in the mirror, but with different pair of eyes. The eyes of your mind. Learning to be honest with yourself will improve your communication skills not with yourself only but with the rest of the world. You will be able to better identify your problems and you will be able to approach them in a calmer and more reasonable way which will enable you to find solutions easily.

  1. Silence slows down our fast pace

In our busy lives, we get carried away with work, family problems, problems caused by others… we live in a hurry and life passes us by. We need to slow down and taste each present moment while it is there so we can appreciate what we have before it is gone. Silence helps us with that. It slows our bodies down, and relaxes us. It makes us more aware of the present moment and it teaches us to appreciate “now”.

 

 

 

 

 

~via isoulscience.net

LAUREN MARTIN: “Simple Life: 10 Things People Who Love Being Alone Never Worry About”

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I’m a recluse as much as the next guy… At least, that’s what I thought.

After a recent move to a city that welcomed one too many nights out and one too many clubs to name, I came to the harsh realization that my aversion to nights out and the company of others was not normal and I was coming off as, well, rude.

I thought there was nothing wrong with choosing to spend Friday night in the company of myself and my empty apartment.

I thought it was okay to enjoy walking alone more than with a friend. I thought it was healthy to relish in all those moments of solitude.

To people trying to be my friend, or at least use me as a pawn in their game of nights out, I was the antithesis of everything they wanted.

I tried to make myself go out more, push myself to spend Friday nights in the company of others and try to enjoy all that mindless chit chat that came with money spent on too many drinks.

Soon, I began to hate myself and those around me. I started worrying about insignificant nonsense that shouldn’t bother me.

And after one too many nights spent around everyone but myself, I decided that enough was enough and I would spend as much time alone as I ******* please.

I like my company, even if it’s just a little too much, because there’s something beautiful about being at peace with yourself. There’s something comforting about knowing I can come home to myself every night and love it.

There should be more respect for people who can relish in themselves. There should be more admiration for those who aren’t scared of being alone.

There should be some nice words about the loners and the introverts who are content with themselves and don’t need anyone to feel better.

Because loving your alone time is many times a lot healthier than hating it. Those who bask in their own company are the ones with significantly fewer worries than those who need to be around people to fill that void.

The loners, introverts and asocial people of the world are the ones spending their time creating and growing from themselves, rather than worrying about what everyone else is thinking.

They never worry about how they come off

People who like to be alone are more secure than those who are so good at showing face. They are the ones who are never second guessing their actions or working on their appearance.

They don’t care what people think of them because they, themselves, are their harshest critics.


They never worry about what they just said

The only times people who like their alone time are going out is with people who deserve their shared time. They don’t spend it with people who will judge them or people they worry about taking what they said the wrong way.

They don’t spend hours lying in their beds thinking about what they said or didn’t say back there. They are confident around the people they choose to talk to.


They never worry about acting like they have something to prove

People who enjoy their own company are not the types to put on airs. They never have to act like they have something to prove because they never have anyone to prove anything to.

When you meet them, you will see they are completely themselves, because that’s who matters to them. If you don’t like them, that’s just one fewer person they need to worry about hanging out with.


They’re never worried about doing things they don’t want to do

They don’t sit in bed wishing they didn’t have to go to a party where they hate most of the people just so they won’t spend Saturday night stuck with their own thoughts.

They never replace alone time with empty interactions. Their solitude is never rationalized or bargained for by trivial moments with undeserving people.


They’re never worried about ending up alone

They don’t have that irrational fear of never finding someone. If anything, they fear they will never understand how to share their alone time.

They don’t date people just for the company or settle for unfulfilled love just so they won’t end up alone.


They never worry about finding something to say

Because they’re not constantly putting themselves around others, they’re not constantly searching for new topics and talking points.

They know who they are and what they like and they don’t have to pretend to be interested in things just to keep the conversation going.


They never worry about missing out on something

They never have fear of missing out because there’s no place they’d rather be than with themselves. They don’t find it a wasted evening when they don’t go out.

In fact, they see it as the opposite. In our hectic schedules, getting a night to ourselves is easier said than done.


They never worry about being single

They search for meaning in themselves and take pride in that relationship. They don’t need to feel validated by the significant others they’re supposed to have.

They make sure they are completely in love with themselves before they worry about finding someone else to love.


They never worry about needing time to think

They spend their alone time exploring all the unexamined spaces of their mind. They don’t go to parties or friends’ houses wishing they could just have a moment to think, alone.

They are constantly thinking and constantly wondering. They are never without moments to ponder those questions that need time.


They never worry about having to lie or exaggerate

Their lives are complete by themselves. They don’t have to name drop or worry about being cool enough around the people they’re with because they don’t care about impressing current company or making new acquaintances.

They aren’t about collecting friends or racking up phone numbers. They know who they are and there’s no need to exaggerate about that.

 

 

 

 

 

~via EliteDaily

 

KATE RAE: “10 Things to Understand Before You Fall In Love With An Old Soul”

And then there are very old souls, such as myself, who aren’t even impressed by their own Twin Flame… as in… “Whatever, I’ll see you on the other side.”… : D

10 Things to Understand Before You Fall In Love With An Old Soul

  1. Simplicity. It’s the simple things in life that capture us. Simple living and simple pleasures in life ground us and make us feel all warm and cozy inside. Extravagant dinners, jewelry, and sparkly gifts may be the key to some people’s hearts but not an old soul.
  2. Impressing us is so simple, it’s scary. An intimate conversation on the beach with a candle or a night of camping under the stars is like heaven on earth. Give us experiences and most of all, give us your time.
  3. Alone time. Old souls are pretty intense, spiritual people. It’s not a facade or front we put up, but a lifestyle we live to stay connected to ourselves and to our spiritual path. Time to decompress, detach and meditate are crucial to our well being. So if we turn down an invite to a bar once in awhile, don’t take it personal. Instead, understand our need to be with ourselves because there is probably a reason we are needing some alone time.
  4. Dreamer. As most people only dream when they sleep, we dream constantly. Daydream that is. Sometimes we need a partner to snap us back into reality, but also one who understands our dreaming is what excites us, dreaming inspires us.
  5. Romantics. –ahh, sigh– We love romance and everything that comes with it. Sometimes, expecting a little too much from people trying to win our affections. This can cause some let downs and learning experiences for both partners. Old souls need someone that can pull them out from the clouds when needed and bring them back to a beautiful reality.
  6. Comfort. I’ve always felt like the “grandma” of my friend group. Throwing on a big comfy sweater, staying in to cook dinner, and snuggling up while someone reads to me would be like, so amazing. Going out is good here and there, but know for us, being comfy with our significant other takes the cake.
  7. Free bird. We want freedom. Freedom to chase whatever is worth chasing to us. Nothing holding us back or stopping us from pursuing our dreams and desires. Rather, someone who encourages us to chase and to succeed. Aside from longing for a stable and simple life, we want room to grow and follow whatever path our spirit is leading us on.
  8. An unusual approach to life. Not really conforming to the expected way of living, we view the world and our lives as a blank book and we want to write it. I definitely have very philosophical views and it deeply effects all of my relationships. Being with someone who likes that about us is key!
  9. Not-so material world. Possessions and money are nice, but it is not number one for us. Intellectual conversations and meaningful experiences is what takes our breath away…
  10. Intuition. You may hear this a lot from an old soul, “I don’t know, I just have this feeling.” Following our hearts more than our minds makes us a bit more in touch with our intuitive side. You can either go with the flow or turn and run, intuitive people can be a bit intimidating. It can be very daunting to some, to have an intuitive partner…especially if the significant other is trying to be sly. Good luck!

We’ve got dreams, big dreams. Idealistic dreams of painting the world like our very own canvas. Ending world hunger or starting a business that benefits people in some positive way is not far from an old souls list of lofty ideas. Helping mankind is on our dreamy To Do List!

I’m sure a lot of you out there can relate to some of these traits or have come across an old soul yourself. Maybe you’re realizing you are one…what qualities do you have that make you or your partner an Old Soul?

 

 

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