LJ VANIER: “12 Signs You’re A Deep Thinker Who Enjoys Being Alone”

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It is said that we are a product of our environment and when we are young, lasting impressions are burned into our minds about what love is, how the world works and what we ought to do when we are older.

As if settling down, getting married and having children is the benchmark for success.  But who is really to say what happiness is and what it looks like?

Maybe some of us are perfectly happy, just being alone…

1.  Dogmas and social conditioning don’t phase you

You have navigated the emotional concourse of societal expectation and found that it just doesn’t resonate with you.  Instead you listen to your heart and follow your inner voice, wherever it might lead.

2.  You screen your phone calls

If you find yourself waiting to respond to text messages and emails after they light up on your screen, this is a sure-fire sign that you prefer your privacy.  Setting your own boundaries for what you allow into your personal zone and when.

3.  You aren’t desperate to make plans on the weekends

You are confident enough in yourself and do not seek externally for the temporary and fleeting satisfaction that others bring.  You prefer to set your own schedule and make plans that you know you’ll enjoy.

4.  You enjoy your freedom

A cluttered calendar leaves no time for numero uno and you strive to clear off as many duties as you can, to allow more time for your own personal freedom.

5.  You are confident as a party for one

You are complete and well-rounded and don’t feel uncomfortable being the ‘fifth wheel’, neither do you mind eating alone.  You find clingy couples a bit needy and prefer others who are more self-reliant.

6.  You put yourself first

You don’t allow the pressures of others to persuade you from achieving what you want to get out of life.  You know that every minute is precious and you always make the most of it.

7.  You do what you want when you want

You follow your gut and trust your instincts. You find that living in the flow of life, is the best way to stay balanced and centered.

8. You’re genuinely happy

Constantly being bombarded with people can be draining, especially for an introvert like you.  Being alone brings you happiness, and relieves you from all of the personal drama of others.  Being genuinely happy means being happy with yourself.  When you love and accept yourself, you become all that you will ever need.  It is then a choice to be with others and share your gift to the world.

9.  You bask in peace and quiet

You would prefer to live in the countryside, or outside of the city. Apartment buildings and condominiums are a living nightmare for you. You strive to take time out in nature, finding remote spots with serene views to just read a book or meditate.

10.  You enjoy your own company

You prefer dining, watching movies, taking a walk in nature or exercising by yourself and are very comfortable in doing so.  You laugh at your own jokes, and enjoy the lightness of just being you.

11.  You sleep better alone

Cuddling is nice, for a few minutes… and then the blanket war, leg war and breathing war all begin.  Quite simply, a nice big bed all to yourself is your vision of perfection.

12.  You are a deep thinker

 Last but not least, you prefer the time and space to be with your own thoughts and highly regard this time.  You enjoy the self exploration and inner transformation of giving yourself the moments needed to just think it out.

 
 
 
~via In5D.com

SPIRITUAL UNITE: “10 Signs You’re A Deep Thinker Who Loves Solitude”

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In this article we discuss, why you love being a deep thinker. Deep thinkers dive into their soul and every essence of being more conscious, so being a deep thinker is great.

It has been once said that we are a product of the environment, when we were young, society has burned into our mind what love should be, how this planet works and what we will be doing when we reach old age.

It seems today’s benchmark and success is to get married and have children. But no one can really tell you what happiness is and what it would look like. Some people are perfectly fine being alone.

Deep Thinker Definition:

Definition of a deep thinker is someone who thinks beyond the obvious, someone who has profound thoughts and very intellectual. I am sure you can relate to this?

Can Being A Deep Thinker Be Curse Or A Gift?

It can be a curse if friends and family tell you that you are sensitive and you don’t have the channels to make sense of the insights you are getting from within.

However it is also the greatest gift if you have the channels to apply what you have recognized when you are going deep with your thoughts and views. The channels have to be stable emotionally, so you have the push to go forward and be practical with your observations.

Signs Of A Deep Thinker

Social Conditioning Never Phases You

You have found what society can offer and it does not resonate with you, it never meets your expectations. You are one who follows their heart and soul instead.

Never Alert To Cell Phones

You don’t constantly check your cell phone, or when you receive a text or email you wait and respond when you feel you are ready. This is for sure a sign you are a deep thinker and you prefer privacy. You have boundaries for what you permit into personal life.

Never To Make Plans

You are never seeking external satisfaction by others instead you make plans that suit you even if it means means being on your own.

Love Your Freedom

You allow time for yourself and personal freedom. You know that cluttered calender means there is no time for yourself.

You Are Confident On Your Own

Another sing of a deep thinker is that, you are complete and enjoy being on your own, you don’t mind eating alone. You don’t like clingy people and prefer someone who is self reliant.

You Put Yourself First

You are never pressured by others, no one can persuade you, you do whats best for you. You also know that time is precious and make the most of it.

You Follow Your Instincts

You are one who trusts their intuitions. You find the best way to live your life and keeping yourself balanced is to flow through it.

You Are Happy

You are an introvert but a happy one, too many people drain you of your happiness. You are genuinely happy with yourself.

Prefer Nature

Your preferred place to live would be in the countryside away from the city, nightmare places to live would be apartment buildings. You love to meditate in nature.

You Are A Deep Thinker

You love space and time to be with your own thoughts. You seem to enjoy self exploration and inner transformations.

  • You love nature and enjoy being on your own
  • You are an introvert and happy
  • You are intuitive
  • You can never be pressured by others
  • Prefer a simple life

Conclusion

It’s a great gift to be a deep thinker, you need to be stable in your emotions to understand and process your thoughts or you may end up being too sensitive. We know that people who are deep thinkers enjoy being alone, love nature and are never pressured by society. Does that describe you?

 

 

~via spiritualunite.com

LIMITLESS MINDS: “8 Ways To Cleanse Yourself From The Negativity Of Other People”

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If you are a highly empathetic person, you are willing to listen to others, understand and support them. But often you cannot protect yourself from other people’s negative emotions and energy. Therefore, compassion, no matter how good it sounds, it may show the other face.

It’s Important to Keep Your Energy

Most people want to be in the company of empathetic person because it makes them feel recognized and accepted. But being empathetic may be a source of great difficulties. Other people’s trouble can totally block us and often we are not in a position to react and fix the situation that we were upset about. That’s why is important to set boundaries between yourself and others, and realize when a healthy understanding and acceptance of other people’s feelings becomes our problem.

If you identify yourself as a highly empathetic person, it is good to take some action so you won’t be upset about things that have nothing to do with you. Keep the energy for yourself and people you love, and don’t let this information, energy and emotions to enter into your system and draw your strength. Try to do that, through these 8 steps:

1. Explain it to Yourself

When your good mood suddenly changes, when emotions like fear, pain, sadness and anger raise, ask yourself – whom did you interact last; what information have you received from the environment; did you attend any unpleasant events. If yes, try to explain to yourself that the emotions you have are not yours, but you absorbed them from the outside. If you are in a position to change someone’s situation, help, comfort or consult them, do that, but if you are not in that position, tell yourself that there is nothing you can do about it and concentrate on yourself. Free yourself from the negative emotions, because you cannot help anyone, neither yourself if you are feeling bad. If you continue to go through all the feelings of others, you are exhausting your strength, rather than investing it in something constructive.


2. Look Deeper Inside

Ask yourself, what’s that inside you that makes you feel bad, just because someone else is feeling bad. Have you ever experienced something similar? Are there any feelings for someone that you suppress? Think about your problems and start dealing with them. Look deeper into yourself and start healing your old wounds. Accept all your suppressed feelings, embrace them with tenderness, let them be the way they are, express them and then release them. An important part of this process is forgiveness of self and others i.e. forgiveness to all who have caused those negative emotions.


3. Take Time to Be Alone

When you are alone with yourself you are in a position to reexamine, cry or rid of the negative emotions on any other way.


4. Imagine a Shield Around You

When you are around a toxic person, or you find yourself in an environment full of bad energy, visualize a white, transparent shield around you, that doesn’t transmit negative energy and doesn’t let other people’s negative emotions to reach you.


5. Use the Power of Water

After a contact with a highly negative person, it will be good for you to wash down all the negative energy from yourself. If you are not able to take a shower, then at least wash your face and hands. Visualize how the accumulated negative energy is falling off of you.


6. Express your Emotions

Whatever you fell, express it. No one ever gained anything good by suppressing their emotions, on the contrary, that’s a highway to various diseases. Allow yourself to express concern, fear, anger, disagreement or anything else that you feel.


7. Ground Yourself

Visualize that you are connected with the ground by a tube, through which you send all the negative energy that you have absorbed, and then you are getting positive energy from the earth. This exercise increases the flow of healthy energy within us.


8. Spend Some Time Outdoors

There is nothing more healing than the nature. Try to often be in contact with the water, earth, fresh air… Let the wind take away the negative energy that is accumulated in you.


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LJ VANIER: “7 Surprising Reasons Why You Need to Spend 2 Hours Per Day in Complete Silence”

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In our busy, hectic lives; days and years go by without us paying attention to how polluted our brains are because of everything constantly happening around us. There is also the pollution of sound that overstimulates our brains causing stress, moodiness, depression, anxiety among other things.

We are programmed to hear certain sounds in our everyday lives without even noticing them. The sound of the TV, radio, or the crowd outside, our cell phones, strangers talking, traffic, noises from the street, noises from the neighbour’s house… noises everywhere, all the time. We don’t even realize what this overstimulation of our hearing does to our brain cells.

Scientific studies show it causes more damage than we realize. Could this damage be reversible? Yes, scientific studies also show that silence has repairing powers and this is how it does that:

  1. Silence helps us calm down and feel more peaceful

If we could give ourselves, one or two hours of silence every day, we would be doing something very healthy to our mind and to our body. During silence, our brains start adjusting to the calmer state of being and we feel relaxed and peaceful. We regulate our breathing by slowing down our brains and not focusing on the stressful events. We might even feel sleepy. Imagine not having to watch TV or listen to radio, or not having to keep your cell phone on. Away from technology for a little while. In touch with your inner self. Silence gives that to you.

  1. Silence repairs our brain cells

It is a proven fact that silence has the power to rejuvenate and repair our brain cells. If you expose yourself to two hours of silence daily, your brain will start the repair process. You will find that your memory will start improving, you will be rested and your stress tolerance will increase as well. A stronger brain means a stronger body. Everything starts in those little grey cells. They respond to what we expose them to. So if we nourish our brains with good food (figuratively speaking), it will become healthy and the aging process will also slow down.

  1. Silence gives us more satisfaction in the long run

Hopefully you are not addicted to TV, radio, and smart phones, game consoles etc… well, chances are, we are addicted to one of these things if not more. It is the contemporary lifestyle. There is no easy escape. Have you ever stopped and thought about what would your life be like if you did not own a TV? Think about all the meaningless shows and biased news we watch on TV. In the end what do we do? We work, we come home, we fall asleep in front of TV, we go to bed, we get up the next day and do it all over again. By taking these things out of your life, you will actually find better ways to spend time either with family and friends or with yourself, and most probably you will be doing things that are better in quality. That is why, the satisfaction comes when you kick the bad habits and replace them with better ones. You will like yourself so much more, it is guaranteed.

  1. Silence improves our 5 senses

When we sit in silence, we actually become more aware of our surroundings but in a different dimension altogether. We hear sounds we haven’t noticed before, like the sound of the wind, or maybe the leaves gently touching one another, tree branches moving, maybe a distant sound of an animal… if we are in the city, we start paying attention to every single sound but in a constructive way. Not only our hearing improves but all our other senses also move into a different dimension where we get the most of them. We might see things we haven’t noticed  were there before, or something that touches our skin feels different, or when we touch something we might notice more details about it. Silence cleans our senses and unblocks them.

  1. Silence improves our attention

When we sit quietly, we give our brains exactly what it needs: focus. It comes naturally. By focus we don’t mean thinking of something specific or the kind of focus we try to achieve during meditation. It’s a different kind of focus where your mind is actually allowed to wander from thought to thought. But you will notice, by practice, whether you do it intentionally or unintentionally, your pace will slow down and you will reflect inwards in a much healthier way. This will help you improve your attention and concentration skills. Once you improve these skills, your learning ability will start increasing and so will your memory.

  1. Silence makes us more honest

You can not run and hide from your innermost thoughts when you sit in silence. At one point you will find that you are indeed being more open to your own self about your feelings, your thoughts, your desires, your regrets, your sadness… When you spend this time alone, you are looking in and beginning to see yourself not as a reflection in the mirror, but with different pair of eyes. The eyes of your mind. Learning to be honest with yourself will improve your communication skills not with yourself only but with the rest of the world. You will be able to better identify your problems and you will be able to approach them in a calmer and more reasonable way which will enable you to find solutions easily.

  1. Silence slows down our fast pace

In our busy lives, we get carried away with work, family problems, problems caused by others… we live in a hurry and life passes us by. We need to slow down and taste each present moment while it is there so we can appreciate what we have before it is gone. Silence helps us with that. It slows our bodies down, and relaxes us. It makes us more aware of the present moment and it teaches us to appreciate “now”.

 

 

 

 

 

~via isoulscience.net

LAUREN MARTIN: “Simple Life: 10 Things People Who Love Being Alone Never Worry About”

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I’m a recluse as much as the next guy… At least, that’s what I thought.

After a recent move to a city that welcomed one too many nights out and one too many clubs to name, I came to the harsh realization that my aversion to nights out and the company of others was not normal and I was coming off as, well, rude.

I thought there was nothing wrong with choosing to spend Friday night in the company of myself and my empty apartment.

I thought it was okay to enjoy walking alone more than with a friend. I thought it was healthy to relish in all those moments of solitude.

To people trying to be my friend, or at least use me as a pawn in their game of nights out, I was the antithesis of everything they wanted.

I tried to make myself go out more, push myself to spend Friday nights in the company of others and try to enjoy all that mindless chit chat that came with money spent on too many drinks.

Soon, I began to hate myself and those around me. I started worrying about insignificant nonsense that shouldn’t bother me.

And after one too many nights spent around everyone but myself, I decided that enough was enough and I would spend as much time alone as I ******* please.

I like my company, even if it’s just a little too much, because there’s something beautiful about being at peace with yourself. There’s something comforting about knowing I can come home to myself every night and love it.

There should be more respect for people who can relish in themselves. There should be more admiration for those who aren’t scared of being alone.

There should be some nice words about the loners and the introverts who are content with themselves and don’t need anyone to feel better.

Because loving your alone time is many times a lot healthier than hating it. Those who bask in their own company are the ones with significantly fewer worries than those who need to be around people to fill that void.

The loners, introverts and asocial people of the world are the ones spending their time creating and growing from themselves, rather than worrying about what everyone else is thinking.

They never worry about how they come off

People who like to be alone are more secure than those who are so good at showing face. They are the ones who are never second guessing their actions or working on their appearance.

They don’t care what people think of them because they, themselves, are their harshest critics.


They never worry about what they just said

The only times people who like their alone time are going out is with people who deserve their shared time. They don’t spend it with people who will judge them or people they worry about taking what they said the wrong way.

They don’t spend hours lying in their beds thinking about what they said or didn’t say back there. They are confident around the people they choose to talk to.


They never worry about acting like they have something to prove

People who enjoy their own company are not the types to put on airs. They never have to act like they have something to prove because they never have anyone to prove anything to.

When you meet them, you will see they are completely themselves, because that’s who matters to them. If you don’t like them, that’s just one fewer person they need to worry about hanging out with.


They’re never worried about doing things they don’t want to do

They don’t sit in bed wishing they didn’t have to go to a party where they hate most of the people just so they won’t spend Saturday night stuck with their own thoughts.

They never replace alone time with empty interactions. Their solitude is never rationalized or bargained for by trivial moments with undeserving people.


They’re never worried about ending up alone

They don’t have that irrational fear of never finding someone. If anything, they fear they will never understand how to share their alone time.

They don’t date people just for the company or settle for unfulfilled love just so they won’t end up alone.


They never worry about finding something to say

Because they’re not constantly putting themselves around others, they’re not constantly searching for new topics and talking points.

They know who they are and what they like and they don’t have to pretend to be interested in things just to keep the conversation going.


They never worry about missing out on something

They never have fear of missing out because there’s no place they’d rather be than with themselves. They don’t find it a wasted evening when they don’t go out.

In fact, they see it as the opposite. In our hectic schedules, getting a night to ourselves is easier said than done.


They never worry about being single

They search for meaning in themselves and take pride in that relationship. They don’t need to feel validated by the significant others they’re supposed to have.

They make sure they are completely in love with themselves before they worry about finding someone else to love.


They never worry about needing time to think

They spend their alone time exploring all the unexamined spaces of their mind. They don’t go to parties or friends’ houses wishing they could just have a moment to think, alone.

They are constantly thinking and constantly wondering. They are never without moments to ponder those questions that need time.


They never worry about having to lie or exaggerate

Their lives are complete by themselves. They don’t have to name drop or worry about being cool enough around the people they’re with because they don’t care about impressing current company or making new acquaintances.

They aren’t about collecting friends or racking up phone numbers. They know who they are and there’s no need to exaggerate about that.

 

 

 

 

 

~via EliteDaily