THE MINDS JOURNAL: “10 Signs You Have A Toxic Partner Who Will Try To Take Away Your Happiness”

One form of love, which is considered the most frequent, is, unfortunately, toxic love. This love appears as a result of insecurity or fear, and it does not do favors to anyone.

Our environment will become even more toxic when we get attached more and more to those people that are wrong for us. Toxic people have the ability to drain us of our happiness, regardless of the fact if we allow that or not. These people build their toxic relationships on an unstable foundation.

Here, we will present you some sign which indicated that you might be in such a relationship, or signs which suggest that you are with a toxic partner. You will definitely need a change when you notice these signs because toxic people and relationships cannot be suitable for every one of us.

10 Signs You Have A Toxic Partner Who Will Try To Take Away Your Happiness

 

1. You are not a priority.

Sorry about this, but when you are not your partner’s priority now, you will never be. He or she has to hold you on the identical standard they hold themselves. Refusing to do that will be a sign that you have to move on, as you deserve a lot more.

2. They’re always blaming you for their mistakes.

The mistakes they made cannot be yours; they have to be prepared for everything they say or do. You should never be blamed for their own mistakes. Toxic people are obsessed with the idea of bringing other people down, especially those that they are closest with.

3. They have serious double principles and standards.

These people believe that they can do everything, while their partners are not allowed to do those same things. For example, you would like to go outside and spend some time together with friends, and in the same time, your partner is also with his friends; however, they will refuse that right when you ask them. Remember that they see you just as their property and not as their loved one.

4. They don’t like your loved ones.

Usually, toxic people will not really like the ones that really matter to you. They will not like that idea as those that care about you will normally see their true self. In fact, toxic people hate this, so they are going to try hard in order to keep you far from your loved ones.

5. They disrespect your boundaries.

Toxic people will never respect your limits, and they are always going to do something or force you into certain things which you wouldn’t like to do. As a result of this, you will find yourself in uncomfortable situations, which are not supposed to happen.

6. They always make you feel sad.

They seem like they try their best in order to bring those that love them down. Toxic people will not support those around them, but they will tear those people apart. For example, when you are happy about something, they are going to everything in order to ruin your happiness. This pleases them after all.

7. They tend to lie to you a lot.

So, for some unknown reasons, toxic people feel good when they lie. So, they are going to lie you about something that is insignificant and goes too far in order to reach their goal, which is making you feel terrible. Remember that you cannot trust someone you love although you would like to do it with your whole heart.

8. They won’t give you a space for yourself.

Toxic people never allow their partners to have their personal space. For example, having your personal space means having time to reflect and think, and thinking well may make you come to the decision of leaving your partner. These people love crossing boundaries, so when you do something without their permission, they will be furious.

9. They attempt to control you.

These people adore controlling you, and not only you but every single thing in life. This type of control means the ultimate superpower for them. Just said, they would like to have the ability to control you and make you do what they want you to do. They are going to cut ties when they see that they are not able to control you.

10. They don’t care about your necessities.

These people are never going to listen to you or care about your own necessities. They are selfish people, so they don’t want to worry about you or about everything you need. They practice only self-care, although you may be in a relationship for a long time.

 

~via TheMindsJournal.com

PIA LLAMA: “8 Signs You Are the Designer of Your Life”

There is always a great storm before the sky clears to let in the most astounding light. The storm is dark and heavy and may feel like hell but no transformation was ever easy. Be present with yourself in this time, you’re on the right track.

Here are 8 signs that your life is getting better, even though it seems difficult.

1)  You’re starting to make major changes in your lifestyle

You stop procrastinating and do what you really want to, simply because you believe you can. You may make changes in your diet, start eating better and successfully stick to exercise regimes. You choose to do things out of a sense of adventure not necessity or obligation.

2)  You feel like the world is full of opportunity, perhaps too much of it!

When you realize your true capabilities and your interests, you may feel confused or misguided. That’s okay, try your hand at whatever your heart desires and see where it takes you!

3)  As you begin to get closer to your real self, you wonder whether you’ve abandoned some distinct parts of you

Everything that becomes a subconscious pattern, attaches itself to the ego and molds our ‘persona’. When we start shedding negative, redundant patterns, we often feel like we’ve lost a part of ourselves.

In reality, we are growing into the version of ourselves that we always wanted and were at our core. So don’t be afraid and know that you are the conscious creator of your life and mind.

4)  You are not afraid to speak your mind

You’re no longer afraid to speak your mind and make your truth known to others. This newfound sense of self will often affect your relationships; some might wither away making way for healthier ones.

Just remember that they cannot love or appreciate what they cannot comprehend and require time to understand the real you.

5)  With an increased self-awareness you start to understand what you truly want

You stop repeating the same mistakes. Through the laborious process of trial and error you have gathered enough self-awareness to live your life honoring your wants and needs. You shed old patterns not only as a consequence of this self-awareness but also, self-love.

You no longer see the point of putting yourself through situations that aren’t in favor of your well-being. All decisions come from a deep, intuitive knowing.

6)  You notice things you didn’t before

You may start to feel like you can see right through people’s true intentions. This may scare you at first as some may have less than noble intentions, but it is the gift that comes with being in touch with your intuition. Don’t ignore the signs, always trust your gut!

7)  Your sensitivity is through the roof!

You don’t know why you’ve been bursting into tears at the drop of a hat. You’re more empathic toward yourself and others, as you notice more dissonance between you and people you love.

It all points toward healing the self and relationships. Everything that you feel, must be let out and felt completely.

8)  You stop playing the blame game

Finally, you realize that you are the one solely responsible for your actions and happiness. No one else is to be blamed except you. Stop waiting for a person or situation to arise in your life for you to experience happiness.

Reclaim your well-being. See your own divinity, your natural state.

 

~via FractalEnlightenment.com

KELLY ASHLEY: “Top 23 Spiritual Awakening Signs and Symptoms”

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If you’re reading this you’ve probably spent some time scouring the internet looking for lists of signs or symptoms of spiritual awakening.  It’s probably not the first time you’ve searched for that either.  How do I know this?  Because I was once in the same position — endlessly trawling the internet in the search for answers too.  I didn’t really find them at the time and I secretly worried that I might have gone mad.  Fear not, dear friend, you are absolutely not crazy (although some of your spiritual experiences might be).  You’re going through a spiritual awakening.

Let’s take a look at some of the signs and symptoms that can be experienced during the awakening:

1.  Physical sensitivity — sensitive to light, noise, certain foods

2.  Emotional sensitivity — extreme highs or extreme lows, wild or erratic mood swings, unexplained depression or sudden waves of emotion

3.  Energetic sensitivity — picking up on energies or feelings from people, places or things. Feeling overwhelmed by your own energy or others

4.  Unusual sensations — tingling, tickly feelings, buzzing or prickling, shivers or shaking

5.  Feeling drawn to metaphysics or spirituality — healing, religion, meditation, practices etc.

6.  Ringing in the ears or feeling frequency changes

7.  Synchronicity — seeing number patterns, peculiar coincidences, meaningful signs or symbolism

8.  Lack of interest in negative vibrations or interests, loss of interest in old friendships, places or behaviors

9.  Knowing that something has changed within you or your life, even if you can’t explain what

10.  Becoming more introverted or sensitive, craving more time alone

11.  Aversion to superficial, fake or inauthentic people, places or things

12.  A deep yearning to find meaning in life, to help others, to fulfill a life purpose or soul mission

13.  Powerful aversion to traditional work, the system, or having to work for money

14.  Increased psychic or intuitive abilities — senses, visions, knowing, hearing or even seeing

15.  Changes in appetite and eating habits — you may find you are suddenly much hungrier, craving protein or unusual foods.  Sudden aversion to drinking alcohol, eating meat, chemical laden food or unnatural substances, or less need to eat at all.

16.  Changing sleep patterns — unable to sleep, waking during the night feeling wired or overstimulated, sometimes more than once

17.  Sudden health complications, ailments or injuries — old issues held in your energetic blueprint are being released

18.  Vivid, meaningful dreams, or lucid dreaming

19.  Confusion in life or inability to make decisions

20.  Impatience — perhaps you know something is supposed to happen and you feel you literally can’t wait for it, or you feel a soul call or life purpose that needs to be fulfilled.  A feeling of time running out

21.  Communications with spirit, Creator, guides or ascended masters, angels or even ET beings

22.  Awareness of soul mates, twin flames or soul counterparts

23.  Past life memories or current life issues rising to the surface to be released and healed

Experiencing something that’s not on the list?  Bingo!  That’s exactly how I felt when I searched too.  It’s not good for us, and I actually questioned whether I should create a list at all because it encourages you to fit your experience into a pre-defined framework.  That means, that if your experience doesn’t fit the list, you’ll begin to question yourself and everything you’ve been through.

You might even secretly fret that you’ve gone mad (don’t worry, I did too). I want you to know that each and every awakening experience is entirely different, unique and specific to the individual.

You are an amalgamation of all your past lives, all of your parallel lives, all your heartaches and belief systems.  Awakening is the process of UNDOING those exact things.  Its the process of releasing everything that isn’t who you truly are so that you can identify the divinity beneath.  That unraveling isn’t the same for everyone — it can’t possibly be.  You have a divine reason for being here — you had something special and unique to bring.  Don’t stifle that by defining the way your awakening must go.  Allow your soul to lead the way — don’t squeeze it through someone else’s framework — even mine.  Your soul knows exactly what its doing, let it get on with it.

However, I know from first hand experience that that isn’t so easy.  Awakening can be a crazy time and feel incredibly out of control.  You need to find a way to flow through the awakening without it throwing you around like a rag doll (which it will do, if you let it). And that involves grounding.

Grounding is the foundational step to moving through your awakening more quickly, easily and joyfully.

Why Is Grounding Essential?

Spiritual awakening can be very confusing.  It can leave you feeling lost, lonely and disconnected (not to mention, crazy).  It can simultaneously be the highest point of spiritual connection and the lowest point of physical existence.  It can even bring you to crisis point.  But here’s the thing — it only becomes confusing, frightening or isolating when you are out of balance.  You’re up too high without a hold in the physical.  The higher you float, the less of a grip on reality you have and the harder it is to handle physically being here.  Balance is needed, and that starts with grounding.

The purpose of awakening is to balance heaven and earth — high spiritual connectedness with physical presence — it’s like merging two worlds.  All of that wonderful connectedness, experience and insight can feel pretty useless if you’re not grounded in the physical to process it, share it or do something with it — and you’re definitely not going to be able to do that if your body, mind and energy are all over the place.  Give your mind a chance to catch up to these energetic changes and see the magic that happens.  You brain begins to make cognitive shifts.  Your mind can process and understand the experience.  Wonderful insights surge forward that can become the basis of your new renewed self and life.  You see, grounding is vital to get out of that stagnant, stuck and stale energy and step forward into the ‘new world’ that we’ve all been waiting for.

Struggling to Ground Yourself?

It’s challenging!  I know this because I went through the exact same thing during my own awakening experience.  The old methods just didn’t work (especially in cases of spiritual emergence). I tried everything — visualization, meditation, crystals, essential oils, incense.  Nothing worked.  It took a long time of repeatedly and desperately trying to unsuccessfully ground myself with these methods to realize that they didn’t bring me back down into my body, they were taking me back up.  I could see that because of the intensity of my spiritual awakening, they just wouldn’t work.

The best practices for grounding yourself during spiritual awakening are actually non-spiritual practices.  Focus on your body.  Focus on being present.  What can you perceive with your physical senses?  What can you do that’s actually fun and makes you want to stay in your body, present in the moment?  Try walking in nature, eating a delicious meal or laughing with some friends.  Grounding is the physical, earthly part of the merging process.  Do earthly, physical things and in time, you’ll find that your awakening becomes much more stable, flowing and enlightening.  The way it should be.

 

 

About the author: Kelly Ashley is an intuitive therapist assisting others with their spiritual awakening process after experiencing her own spiritual emergence. She has a passion for helping others manage the process in a stable, grounded, yet spiritual way. Get your FREE 5-day eCourse to help you stabilize your awakening, calm uncontrollable symptoms and ground your awakening here: http://www.spiritualawakeningsigns.com ~via In5D.com

JOHN HOLLAND: “Synchronicities And You”

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Is your soul trying to get your attention?

Synchronicities and so-called coincidences are clear signs that the Divine Source is knocking on your door.  Sometimes it could be a soft tap or for those times when you’re not paying attention, it could be a loud bang!

When source works through synchronicities, it can manifest itself in some pretty unique ways.  I have my own definition and refer to them as my divine nudges.  For example, it’s when I hear the same phrase or saying from more than one person in a day?  It’s when the same numbers keep showing up in your life?  Has someone mentioned the same person you were just thinking of?  Have you met someone out of the blue who seemed to answer a question that you were just pondering?

How to tell if it is synchronicities?

These are all just signs for you, and I encourage you to pause, be open, and pay attention but most importantly, acknowledge that the source is sending you a message.

I know this man who was having a hard time switching careers and it was clearly causing him a lot of stress with all the unanswered questions.  He was offered a new job and wasn’t sure if he wanted to leave the security of his existing job where he’d worked for years.  One day as he was driving to work and in a state of indecisiveness, he found himself asking himself all the nagging questions that torment us at such times:

  • “Should I take the new job?”
  • “Will I be happy?”
  • “Am I doing the right thing?”

At that precise moment as he was churning the questions over and over, he looked up and saw a bus drive by and for some reason, he read the billboard on the side of the bus. It was a Nike advertisement with the slogan:

“Just Do It!”

These are not just coincidences!  I don’t believe there are accidents in this intelligent universe.  It’s times like these that you should ask yourself: “What am I supposed to be learning or doing right now?”  I feel when these synchronistic events happen, it’s the inner workings of your soul showing up in your outside physical world.

Tips on tapping into, and working with, synchronicities

This week try to notice if synchronistic events are happening around you and your life.  Here are a few tips to assist you to Begin to notice and act on those divine nudges.

The more you notice and pay attention to meaningful synchronistic events and coincidences, the easier it gets for them to multiply in your life.

  • Notice when you run in to people unexpectedly.  Really listen to what’s being said in the conversation and the hidden message that could be there for you.
  • If there’s a certain problem in your life, try to let it go and turn it over to synchronicity.  What you’re saying to the Divine Source is: “OK, show me! Let me be aware and act when the answer or guidance is being presented to me.”
  • Work with your journal and intuition to become even more aware when source is knocking on your door.
  • Believe that it’s possible.  A positive attitude enhances the experience, just as a negative attitude will shut it down.

This article maybe the first from me you have seen, you may have had this forwarded to you from a friend, or someone might have simply had you read this after you just told them of a so called coincidence that has or keeps showing up in your life.  You were meant to receive this newsletter with this message.  This is another example of synchronicity trying to get your attention.

As I’ve said: “There are no accidents!  I truly believe that life tries to show us miracles every day, if we would simply notice — and act upon them.”

Live a Soul-Filled Life!

 

 

About the author: John Holland is an artist, author, public speaker, and psychic medium. To learn more about John Holland, visit http://www.johnholland.com.  ~via BodyMindSoulSpirit.com

 

MASHUBI ROSHELL: “Developing Discernment: Learning to See Truth in Today’s Complex World”

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Learning to See Truth in Today’s Complex World:

A new time is upon us as the many challenges of today’s world escalate and cry out for healing.  What is needed now is concerted action on the part of each individual, to join together with others to create positive change in the world.  This is not always as easy as it sounds, for the problems we face individually and collectively are multi-layered, and the process of attempting to create positive change activates many forces that oppose change.

Another challenge faced by anyone who wished to help create positive change in the world, is that of developing discernment and the ability to see underneath the surface of things to understand what is really going on.  This ability to discern truth will become even more important in the years ahead.

In today’s world, there is much at stake and all of us have a part to play in helping to create the kind of world that we wish to leave to our children and grandchildren.  How then do we navigate the enormous complexities of today’s world, and make the kinds of decisions and choices that will have a positive outcome?

The following are some ways that you can begin to hone your innate sense of truth and to develop discernment in relation to the information you receive.

1. Truth has a vibration, a quality of energy that can be felt.

We are born with the ability to sense this, and many of us had to “learn” to ignore our truth sense in order to survive in the world.  Truth can be felt in the body, the mind and the heart.  You can begin to develop discernment by having the intention to do so.  Your intention will activate a learning process that will create a healing process that restores your natural inner sense of truth.

2. Remember that all information has a bias.

In today’s world, the mainstream media sources of information all have vested financial interests and biases that they transmit through their broadcasts.  You need to develop the ability to question what you are hearing or seeing, to do your own research, and then asking your “inner truth meter” whether the information feels credible to you.

3. When you need to make important decisions about people, you need to have your own experience of that individual.

It is not enough to listen to experts commenting on that person, you need to see and hear them yourself, or read what they have written in their own words.  Pay attention not just to the words, but to what is said underneath the words, through the body language and energy of the person.

4. Learn to pay attention to your body’s subtle physical and emotional signals, which often have information that your conscious mind may have learned to ignore.

This is useful in all situations, and especially in relation to listening to other people speak.  Your innate inner truth sense is always operating, even when you may have learned to not listen to it.  For example, you notice that whenever you hear a particular person speak, you find yourself feeling tense and getting a little spaced out, and you “tune out” their words.  Another person that you see appears seems likeable enough, but your “gut feelings” put up a red flag, and just don’t trust them.  Another person speaks and you find yourself feeling empowered and uplifted, and want to hear more of what they say.  These body signals can provide important information to you that is beyond what your conscious mind is aware of.

5. Become aware of your own emotional baggage that you carry, that may influence your choices.

For example, if you grew up with an abusive father and developed a problem with authority figures, become aware of the emotional dynamics that are operating in your life as a result of this.  How does your past affect the choices you make in your life today?  How do these influence your perceptions of people?  Do these choices empower you today?  You have the ability to see clearly, beyond your personal emotional pain of the past.

As each of us creates the intention to see clearly and to make choices based on our own inner sense of truth, we can expand the network of love, light and truth in the world and help to create a more positive future for all of humanity.

~via HowToExitTheMatrix.com