The self-help and spiritual community is a brilliant one where one could really grow and become the best version of themselves spiritually and mentally.
But somehow, even this community has become contaminated, not because of any corruption, but because of their lack of self-realization. There have been numerous occasions where I was sitting in front of a healer, a mentor, or a teacher, but they could not really heal me.
Rather, I found that they were wounded themselves and their wounds were reflected through me. What it showed me is that their wounds were affecting me and not in a good way.
Wounded healers can’t really help you much, they don’t practice what they preach. As a result, you only end up being worse than you already were.
It’s common knowledge — you will only trust professionals when they actually do what they are supposed to do. You would not visit a surgeon who knows all the basics of conducting an operation but does not know the practical application of the same, right?
That’s the case with a wounded healer. They know all the theoretical means to make someone spiritually healed, but since they have not practiced healing themselves, they fail to do anything about their patient. Oftentimes, they forget that we have been through this as well.
As a healer, I have been wounded too, and I have understood it when a wounded healer is trying to heal me. Similarly, as a wounded healer myself, I had tried to help others heal as well.
The vibrational energy that a healer has which should envelop a wounded person just doesn’t click. On top of that, if you are a healer and you are wounded, you cannot pose yourself as a healer. That is called fraud and you should not do something like that.
When you are trying to heal someone, or at least, when you are trying to become a healer — you have to ask yourself some important questions. They will be hard ones and you might find it difficult to answer them, but you must:
Have you been wounded before and have you become a healer without addressing the wound?
Are you still suffering from the wound but are trying to pretend that you are not and that is taking up a lot of energy?
These are internal questions that you must ask to finally understand yourself. If the answers are ‘Yes’, then you should stop being a healer for others and try to release your own wounds first.
How Can You Do it
Sit with yourself and go inside. Confront your wound, however painful it turns out to be. Don’t shy away from it. Remove any obstacle that is trying to stop you from transforming. Become free! Become a living experience of what you have always preached.
Don’t go about preaching to others when you need to direct your teachings to your inner-self. I have been in the same position. I became my own quantum alchemist and started to do some inner work to release all my blocks and transform myself.
It was painful and it does not go away immediately. I still work on it. Yes, my business failed during this time, but that’s okay. At least I was true to myself.
Before you engage in this intensive programme, you have to go through some self-realization. First, you have to ask yourself:
Is it your service time that triggers your wounded self?
Do you have a specific kind of structure that makes you believe you can be a mentor or a healer?
If the answers are yes, then go on with your services.
But if it is no, then stop. Heal your wounded child. Become what you teach first. Transform yourself and then you can transform others.
The world needs healers, but it does not need wounded ones. Be a proper healer and help the world grow.