LISA RENEE (Time Shift Blog): “Hero-Savior or Messiah Complex”

“The Hero-Savior or Messiah Complex is double sided, showing an outer persona that is much different than the hidden or inner persona. On the surface, the general belief system is that the people around them need saving and are helpless and powerless, and therefore they need a savior or messiah. In the subconscious mind and in the hidden aspects of the personality, the negative ego may actually desire to steal another’s resources and energy to accomplish their own selfish goals. They are looking to cull groups of people in order to get the energy or prestige they are looking for in order to fill the inner void. This is so that they can feel or be more powerful than the people they say that they are saving. It’s a deeply buried subconscious complex, usually driven by mind control tactics, to feel more powerful than others by gaining fame or status, and to make up for feeling powerless and insignificant deep down inside.”

~Lisa Renee

 

Controller Programs is a term used to describe multiple layers of Victimizer Mind Control that is used psychologically and emotionally to program humanity to think in polarizing thoughts of division, violence and hatred in order to believe in the fear based control systems that shape the death culture. The death culture is backed by the Archontic Deception Strategies used by the NAA forces to divide and conquer humanity. The enforcement of these Controller Programs is accomplished by forcing false egoic identities and related thought patterns into the minds of the people that are called Victimizer Archetypes. When we understand these Victimizer Archetypes are being targeted into the collective consciousness of the human race, we can learn how they work to drain our energy and feed Consumptive Modeling, and Parasitism. Thus, we can stop playing into these harmful archetypes, as well as feeding into the dramas they generate, by not letting other people project these archetypes onto us. Essentially, we refuse to take the bait of emotional manipulation in those attempting to draw us into playing out these destructive archetypes, many times for the purpose of dividing and polarizing issues into more destructive conflicts that exist between groups of people. Through the intentional Psycho-Spiritual Warfare made against the minds of the human population, the masses are made pliable and subservient to follow the NAA masking themselves as the False King of Tyranny archetype. This is in the attempt to find absolute rule and control by the Power Elite, by manipulating the False Parent archetypes to gain a False Father authority over the masses.

As an unconscious reaction to the ongoing spiritual oppression and persecution complex rampant on the planet, some awakening people fall prey to the victimizer archetype that is used to intentionally generate the destructive sides of the hero-savior or messiah complex. A messiah complex (also known as the Christ complex or savior complex) is a state of mind in which an individual holds a belief that they are destined to become a savior. The term can also refer to a state of mind in which an individual believes that he or she is responsible for saving or assisting others from achieving certain doom on a grand scale.

Hero-Savior or Messiah Complex is a Victim-Victimizer software mind control archetype that is used to target Starseeds and spiritually developing people in so to derail them, and to ultimately mentally and emotionally fracture them. Many guru types are targeted with this archetypal programming in so they will fall into more mental and emotional body distortions, to the point they lose coherence and all semblance of clear discernment in their own actions. Over time, when a person in leadership is not taking responsibility for their actions because they believe they are a hero-savior or messiah and thus, above all reproach, this is a blaring blind spot for dark manipulation, gaslighting and even possession to take hold. This is one of the Controller Programs that is a sub program of the Victim-Victimizer software program and is a collective miasm on the earth, that has been accumulated through many traumatic and tragic events in our history taking place over many generations.

The Hero-Savior or Messiah Complex is double sided, showing an outer persona that is much different than the hidden or inner persona. On the surface, the general belief system is that the people around them need saving and are helpless and powerless, and therefore they need a savior or messiah. In the subconscious mind and in the hidden aspects of the personality, the negative ego may actually desire to steal another’s resources and energy to accomplish their own selfish goals. They are looking to cull groups of people in order to get the energy or prestige they are looking for in order to fill the inner void. This is so that they can feel or be more powerful than the people they say that they are saving. It’s a deeply buried subconscious complex, usually driven by mind control tactics, to feel more powerful than others by gaining fame or status, and to make up for feeling powerless and insignificant deep down inside.

Currently, the term “messiah complex” is not addressed formally in the psychology field in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM), as it is not a clinical term nor diagnosable disorder. However, the symptoms of the disorder closely resemble those found in individuals suffering from delusions of grandeur, an inability to see the actual reality as it is. Recorded accounts specifically identified messiah complex in the category of religious delusion, which pertains to strong fixed beliefs that cause emotional distress or disability. This form of delusional belief is most often reported in patients that are suffering from bipolar disorder and schizophrenia. In spiritual context, these mental disorders are closely related to soul fragmentation and attachments which cause disordered and incoherent thinking. When a messiah complex is manifested within a religious individual after a visit to Jerusalem, it may be identified as a psychosis known as Jerusalem Syndrome.

In mainstream psychology, Adolf Hitler is considered to have had an acute case of the messiah complex. This was evident in his preoccupation with himself as a political actor, his meticulous concern for his self-presentation, and his negative ego identification with himself as the hero-savior of the German people. Hitler believed that he was fated by higher powers to lead Germany to a thousand-year-long period of European domination and that he was chosen to rid Europe of undesirable people. This example shows how the messiah complex in such rare individuals can cause unimaginable destruction when combined with narcissistic and paranoid traits. In the Guardian context, Hitler was groomed and aided by the Black Sun Orion Groups. Thus, his mental and emotional weaknesses were exploited to intentionally murder many people for blood sacrifice, and essentially an egoic monster and demonic presence was co-created within him in order to carry out his brutal crimes against humanity.

According to the website People Skills Decoded, “The savior complex is a psychological construct which makes a person feel the need to save other people. This person has a strong tendency to seek people who desperately need help and to assist them, often sacrificing their own needs for these people.”

Emotionally codependent people, often live in denial and self-deception. When emotionally codependent people begin to awaken into spiritual experiences and shift into new age thoughtforms, this can be a toxic combination if that person is unwilling to face their own shadow selves, and take responsibility to do the inner emotional work to regain more emotionally healthy patterns. Thus, they may refer back to similar patterns and characteristics that may describe Hero-Savior or Messiah Complex such as:

  • They may believe that other people are incapable of taking care of themselves, that they are powerless or helpless and need them to be a messiah.
  • Believing that they are a savior, messiah or guru, specially chosen by God above others. That they alone are responsible for miraculous acts of healing, this is a part of Spiritual Ego or Messiah Complex.
  • They may attempt to convince or manipulate others in what to think, do, or feel because they believe they have the answers or know better. Some want to be famous under the guise of spreading their message.
  • They freely offer advice and direction without being asked, and may even get mad if you don’t take their advice.
  • Many have to feel needed by others, a sense of belonging or in authority, in order to have a relationship with others.
  • Project or transfer their own hidden negative traits onto other people or situations around them. A common retort is, “You must not be conscious enough to see how evolved I am…etc.”
  • Perceive themselves as completely selfless and dedicated to the welfare and wellbeing of others around them, many times when they are actually psychic vampires and emotionally draining to be with.
  • Have difficulty admitting mistakes, not able to address conflicts, change negative behaviors or apologize when it’s appropriate to do so.

Awakening Starseeds are commonly targeted from lower energetic discernment levels to put themselves in dangerous or destructive scenarios because they believe “God or their Guides told them to do that”. Newly awakening people generally have to heal the Hero-Savior complex as if not corrected, this error in thinking will form into spiritual ambition that is based in unhealthy Negative Ego attitudes. Usually, this means the person becomes an endangerment to themselves, because they put themselves in the hero position thinking they are needed to save others, but really they are getting caught in the crossfire of spiritual battle. They misinterpret their personal awakening experiences that may form into hero-savior complex. That they are here to save the world, because the people around them do not have the level of intelligence or Consciousness awareness that they may feel they are accessing. As usual, kernels of truth are manipulated in order to create great confusion and chaos, in so that the awakening person is not effective or successful in their mission, but taken off course through a series of delusions.

Generally, in spiritual community, it is common that the person with unhealed Hero-Savior complex will attempt to save people around them from some imagined threat or vision fed to them by the NAA in Holographic Inserts in order to divide and conquer the group effort or disrupt group projects. Thus, the person in the hero or messiah complex is used skillfully by the NAA and becomes a dark portal used to destroy group unity by feeding dramas, malicious gossip, divided competition and making assumptions without having the facts. Usually, these are garden variety negative ego power games and emotional dramas that are carried out in the guise of needing to save others from some imagined wrong doing or person that is evil.

When we are empathic to the pain of others, we can be easily manipulated by the pain we feel, in that we may not understand its actual causal source or where the pain is really coming from. The Victimizer Collective Archetypes that contain empathic feelings are designed to instigate the Hero-Savior or messiah complex in order to trap that person into sacrificing themselves for others, or being led into destructive situations, thereby they are set up to be easily persecuted and victimized. On planet earth, many awakening people, especially Starseed people, have been implanted with false memories or cloned memories of famous religious or spiritual personalities recorded throughout planetary history. Multiple thousands have been implanted with holographic inserts that feed false memories of the Guardian Christos Mission, such as Yeshua and Mary, Akhenaten and Nefertiti, as well as many other significant people and timelines that are given as the standard curriculum about human history. Obviously, this was a tactic to confuse the origins of our real history and hide the identity of significant people, Jesus and Archangel Michael being some of the most cloned images used by the imposter forces to manipulate the human race.

The dark is fantastic at finding weaknesses inside us and then exploiting and manipulating them on the external. We can use these opportunities as spiritual lessons. As when we can see our weaknesses, locate our vulnerability and participate consciously with it by surrendering, and calling out imposter spirits, we gain immense inner clarity. May you devote your life to serve God or your highest spiritual expression.

 

(Ascension Glossary: Messiah Complex, Dark Force Manipulation Methods, Victimizer Archetypes)

 

~via EnergeticSynthesis.com – Time Shift Blog – posted April 23, 2019

MATEO SOL: “11 Traps That Sabotage Spiritual Growth”

“No matter what the practice or teaching, ego loves to wait in ambush to appropriate spirituality for its own survival and gain.”

~Chögyam Trungpa, Cutting Through Spiritual Materialism

 

Spiritual growth is an experience we all go through once we have experienced the spiritual awakening process. As we begin to awaken to the truth of who we are, we develop a connection to our authentic essence, higher nature or Soul.

As we progressively advance on our paths, our spiritual essence begins to blossom like a luminous flower deep in our heart. And the more we clear away the dead, gnarled and overgrown beliefs, perspectives, and emotional baggage within us, the more clearly we feel our divine essence. When we maintain our inner garden, we feel more and more love, wisdom, peace, and wholeness as our True Nature is revealed slowly to us.

Yet, like any garden, our metaphorical inner landscapes can be consumed by weeds, plagues, and forms of pollution that strangle anything beautiful we have been nurturing. Sometimes, we even sabotage the growth occurring within us ourselves, without knowing it.

What is Spiritual Growth?

“This isn’t a journey about becoming something.  This is about unbecoming who we are not.”  

~Adyashanti, The End of Your World

 

Spiritual growth is the process of awakening to your true nature, purpose, and potential. When you undergo spiritual growth you experience an expansion in awareness and insight, also known as higher consciousness. All spiritual growth has one objective: to help you embody your Soul, Higher Self or Atman. Once you are able to unite with your Soul, you will experience what is understood as enlightenment, “heaven,” Oneness or moksha.

The problem with the spiritual journey is that it is often laden with traps of many kinds. These traps are not physical, but they are instead mental and are often referred to as anti-awakening forces.

As we process life primarily through the mind, we also tend to approach spirituality with the mind. The issue with this is that spirituality cannot be contained by the limitations of thought. Once spirituality is captured within a thought, it ceases to maintain its true essence and instead becomes a constricting belief or dogma. In other words, spirituality loses its alive, ever-flowing essence once it is compartmentalized within the mind.

Think about it this way: have you ever felt immense awe and wonder in the presence of something beautiful and enchanting like a sunrise? The moment you stop immersing yourself in the feeling of the sunrise, and start taking a photo of it or describing it in a text message, is the moment you are no longer truly present with the sunrise. Instead, you are filtering it through your thoughts or through a lens of some kind. The same can be said with spirituality.

The more we use the mind to approach our Soul, the further our Soul feels. But the moment we drop our thoughts and allow ourselves to purely feel our Soul, suddenly we feel at home once again. Think of it like this: when you chase the sun on the horizon thinking you will reach it, you never will, because it is an illusion. But when you stop and feel the sun’s presence shining on your skin already, you will no longer chase anything.

It is difficult for us, as mind-oriented beings, to become conscious of our thoughts, as we have been conditioned to identify with them since a young age. But once we can observe our thoughts and how they tend to sabotage our happiness, we will experience true spiritual growth.

11 Traps that Sabotage Spiritual Growth

Below I want to share with you eleven of the most common traps that we fall into on the spiritual path. I have personally experienced these pitfalls many times, and they have resulted in a lot of pain and struggle. See how many of these traps you can identify with:

1. The trap of spiritual bypassing

Spiritual bypassing is the practice of using spirituality to avoid, suppress or escape from certain emotions or situations in life. Common types of spiritual bypassing include:

  • numbing one’s emotions through “spiritualized” repression and avoidance
  • unhealthy obsession and attachment to the positive (e.g. positive thinking) and adopting a passive-aggressive “nice” mask
  • debilitating judgment about one’s negativity or shadow self
  • anger-phobia
  • weak personal boundaries
  • blind or excessively tolerant compassion (to the detriment of oneself and the other)
  • forcefully trying to “kill” the ego and condemning it as “bad/evil”
  • exaggerated detachment
  • getting stuck in theoretical spirituality and dogmatic beliefs about “truth”
  • denial of self-responsibility by placing it on another higher being (e.g. spirit guide, angel)
  • delusions of having arrived at a higher level of being
  • using spiritual practices to escape unpleasant emotions; for example, using meditation to dissociate from emotions, rather than transmute them

2. The trap of superiority

This manifests as the tendency to “look down” upon others who are not as “consciously advanced” or “awakened.” The trap of superiority can be seen as a subtle feeling of “being better” than others who aren’t “spiritual.” In more extreme cases, this trap can appear as the tendency to lash out at people who are still “asleep,” “blind” or “sheep” of society. This kind of reactive behavior can often be seen in people who have just “woken up” to the state of the world, yet have undergone minimal spiritual growth. We need to remember that everyone is doing the best they can at their level of consciousness. When the time comes, they will awaken too.

3. The trap of forcefully trying to wake others up

Once we have awoken out of the “matrix” it is common for us to desperately want our loved ones and fellow peers to awaken. We can see how much pain and delusion other people are in, and that riles up in us the intense desire to “show them the truth.” However, often our attempt to forcefully awaken people misfires quickly. Even though we have good intentions, our desire to “save” others causes them to backlash in ways that infuriate both them and us. The less responsive they are to our pushy attempts to “wake them up,” the more frustrated and alienated we become. Eventually, trying to force others to wake up ends up harming both ourselves and others. Not only that, but this trap generates a lot of anger and misunderstanding, which results in further ego ensnarement, sabotaging our spiritual growth. Let people wake up when they are ready.

4. The trap of wanting to help others

This trap is closely entwined with the previous trap except it is more geared towards giving others advice. There is nothing wrong with wanting to help others, as long as you respect their boundaries. But sometimes developing an expanded spiritual perspective gives the ego an opportunity to feel more “knowledgeable” than others still trapped in illusion. When unsolicited advice is given to others, the results can be disastrous (think anger, upset, offense etc.).

Wanting to help others can also be used as a way of escaping our need to help ourselves. Under the guise of being “spiritual” and compassionate, helping others can be just another form of spiritual bypassing.

5. The trap of wanting to revolutionize the world

Once we wake up to the lies and corruption present in our current societal structure, many of us want to desperately change society. We fall into the trap of thinking that freedom, honesty, and justice can be created by changing the external system. As a result, we buy into the “us versus them” and “divide and conquer” mentality that is a product of the ego’s tunnel vision. We don’t realize that we’re actually fuelling the corrupt system which depends on anger and chaos to thrive and survive. Instead of understanding that all true change comes from an internal revolution, we get caught up in the pursuit of external revolution which is fragile and transient.

6. The trap of meaninglessness

Once we experience divine and transcendent states of being in which we become One with all, we can fall into the trap of spiritual nihilism after the experience passes. In other words, once we realize, from the perspective of the Universe, that nothing we do ultimately matters because all is passing, we can fall into a depressive mindset. Using truths such as “All is an illusion,” the person who falls for this trap tends to filter life through the mind. By mentally clinging to these truths, they become beliefs that the ego uses as an excuse to paradoxically feel separate from existence.

7. The trap of avoiding everyday responsibilities

Some people get so infatuated with the spiritual path that they avoid dealing with ordinary, everyday affairs. This form of escapism can lead to leeching off others, not paying bills, evading taxes, obsessing with “living off the grid,” etc. When avoiding everyday responsibilities is worn as a badge of being consciously elevated or “more spiritual” this too is a form of egotism in disguise. Avoiding ordinary responsibilities which are not perceived as being “spiritual enough” can also be a form of distraction that the ego uses to limit spiritual growth. The more concerned and obsessed you are with living an outwardly “spiritual” looking life, the more distanced from your inner work you become. Sometimes we need to feed the sharks to keep the calm and live balanced lives.

Remember the old Zen saying: “Before Enlightenment: chop wood, carry water; after Enlightenment: chop wood, carry water.” We need to be humble and recognize that ordinary daily life is the perfect place to spiritually grow and mature.

8. The trap of self-victimization

Soon after we experience a spiritual awakening and wake up to the insanity of the world, it is common for us to get stuck in self-victimization. We may start to perceive the world as a “prison” and other people as the “captives” or even “capturers.” The shock of awakening may send us spiraling into anxiety and paranoia. Inevitably, we may start feeling like victims resulting in us blaming other people and the higher powers for how we feel. The spiritual trap of self-victimization can be seen a lot on social media which often tends to become a pity party for spiritual fledglings. At the end of the day, we need to see that it is actually our thoughts that cause us to suffer, not other people or situations. Once we can take self-responsibility for our perspectives and beliefs, we can become empowered once again.

9. The trap of the Savior Complex

This trap is related to the previously mentioned trap of wanting to help others. The Savior Complex is adopted by people who feel a sense of superiority to the rest of humanity. Their sense of being “different” and more “spiritually elevated” can make them feel as though they are destined to fix the world. The Savior Complex can most often be seen within the “lightworker/Starseed/healer” circles who tend to put themselves up on pedestals, believing it is their cosmic duty to “save the planet.” This perception aligns with the belief that there is something “wrong” with reality and that other people are “broken” and need to be fixed (which is an ego perspective). This perception also reinforces the ego’s sense of “specialness” and self-importance.

The Savior Complex can go one step further and evolve into a Martyr Complex. Martyrs believe they must “bear the burdens” of others. Obviously, this is an extremely unhealthy way of living which is based on Christian conditioning (think of the story of Jesus). By “carrying” other people’s pain, Martyrs bypass taking responsibility for their own happiness and enable other people’s immature behavior. Read more about the Martyr Complex.

10. The trap of attachment

After experiencing profound and expansive mystical experiences which often come after significant spiritual growth, it is common for us to attach to the experience. It can be painful to come down from these experiences and return back to usual, unenlightened reality. We can also attach to our “stories” and beliefs about spirituality. Because the mind tries to make sense of this transcendent experience, it will often latch onto various ideas as a form of control. But the more we attach to our beliefs, stories, desires, and mental interpretations, the more we suffer. We forget that everything passes, even transcendent experiences. Enlightenment isn’t a destination, it is a complete surrender; a fundamental shift in the way we approach life.

Attachment is perhaps the most common trap that sabotages our spiritual growth. On one hand, attachment to ideas helps us to grow, but ultimately, those ideas that we are unwilling to let go of end up stagnating our growth. When ideas become protection blankets rather than catalysts for our growth, there is a big problem. We need to realize that freedom cannot be experienced through the mind. Freedom is felt when we can be liberated from attachment to our thoughts.

11. The trap of relying on external answers

As we progress through our spiritual paths it is normal, and beneficial, for us to seek out external support. Reading books, attending workshops and seminars, going to retreats, practicing holistic techniques, and getting a personal guru all help us experience spiritual growth. However, after a while, it is common for us to become too dependent on external answers for our freedom and happiness. This pitfall can be seen in many spiritual seeker’s obsession and glorification of their gurus (in other words, projecting and disowning their divinity onto another).

Eventually, as we become accustomed to constantly searching outside of ourselves for answers, we forget the presence of our own Souls. We forget that our ultimate source of guidance and wisdom comes from within us, and instead, we keep chasing things outside of ourselves that we believe will “enlighten” us.

We need to stop, pause, and reflect on our spiritual journeys. Are we seeking out first-hand experience or second-hand experience given to us by others? Don’t forget to look within for your answers as well because it is by connecting with your Soul that you will ultimately experience freedom.

Final Thoughts

In order to see through and extricate ourselves from these traps, we need to be radically honest with ourselves. We need to be willing to see that we have indeed gone astray and have fed into the ego. We will also immensely benefit from exploring our Shadow Selves and exploring our mistaken beliefs.

Don’t worry if you have fallen into any of these traps. We all become ensnared by the ego. It can be particularly difficult for us to see clearly when the ego “spiritualizes” certain beliefs and ideas. The more open, humble, and honest you are, the more you will be able to see through these tricks and liberate yourself.

Finally, don’t be afraid of the dark. Don’t be afraid of being wrong. Everything, no matter how painful, is a learning opportunity. At the end of the day, your Soul is everything you have been searching for.

If you have any extra thoughts or insights about traps that sabotage spiritual growth, please share below. I would also love to hear your own journey.

 

~via WakeUp-World.com

MATEO SOL: “6 Ways You Hinder Your Self-Growth Without Knowing It”

Our “self-esteem” is a very delicate illusion. We are so off-centered when it comes to locating the origin of our self-worth, that the smallest realization of an imperfection in ourselves can bring up all kinds of insecurities.

When a person begins working with their soul, they will start through self-exploration to gain energy, vitality, and clarity. They will also, however, notice the ‘shock’ of beginning to see their own unconscious selves and their deep inner fragmentation (e.g: all your sub-personalities).

These contradictions within ourselves that speak of who we truly are beyond the social and cultural conditioning in our lives, are humbling, but more importantly, they can also be disturbing. If we were to discover and consciously become aware of all these contradictions at once, the shock would be so great we would most likely go insane.

Our brains have a limited capacity to process all the intellectual and sensory information that we encounter at any given moment, and because of this the unconscious mind exists. In essence, the unconscious mind is a psychological “buffer” which is a part of the brain that stores all the unprocessed information the conscious mind can’t handle.

The unconscious mind works as a shock-absorber, and in psychology this is known as a “defense mechanism”. There are an infinity of defense mechanisms going on within us at any given moment, but these are some of the most common I’ve observed in our practices:

Innocent Bystander

One of the greatest hindrances in anybody’s journey of self-growth is to fool themselves into thinking they haven’t done anything wrong. This may be why the recovering addict’s first step is to acknowledge they have a problem. Most people live in denial or avoidance of exploring themselves because it keeps them from properly recognizing their more unsavory traits and capacities.

“The world is screwed up but I’m completely guilt free” is their basic outlook on life. They refuse to see the interconnection between their actions and lifestyle with the external world around them.

Innocent Critic

This defense mechanism is very similar to the Innocent Bystander, only this one avoids guilt by actively criticizing the world and people around them. Criticizing is our way of rebelling against society and wanting to find a way out, of wanting to be outside of the ‘herd’ while still feeling a sense of false participation.

Critical thought is a necessary instrument in any persons self-growth. But often these “critics” use critical thinking as way of boosting their ego, to feel smarter than the ‘herd’ who haven’t realized what the critic has. Unfortunately, noticing what’s wrong with the state of affairs of the world isn’t enough unless you actively apply a solution to the problem. It’s the essential difference between the paths of self-discovery and self-understanding.

Suppression

Unquestionably, a major obstacle in living a fulfilling life to the maximum of your potential is your inability to be authentic to yourself (it’s the key element in Self-Love). All too often we live with an inner tension of controlling desires that we fear will be socially unacceptable. Let’s say you like a movie or a song that you know your friends don’t like, or maybe you are attracted to someone you know everyone will disapprove of, so you suppress that feeling.

The suppression won’t make the feeling go away, in fact, what happens is that you might be so good at suppressing the feelings that your unconscious mind learns to switch between your authentic self (“I like this person or thing”) to your false sub-personality (“I don’t like the person or thing anymore”).

In the end, the unconscious defense mechanism of “suppression” is protecting you from experiencing confusion as to whether you like something or not by jumping from one extreme to the other. Not only does suppression hinder your self-growth, but it can also contribute towards emotional, psychological and physical repression resulting in a host of sicknesses.

Repression

Repression differentiates from suppression in one important way. While suppression is initially a conscious process of having a desire and learning to avoid or ignore is, repression is an entirely unconscious process.

For example, you might have had a traumatizing experience as a child that unconsciously affected your feelings towards whatever the experience involved. This unconscious defense mechanism basically serves to protect you from feeling pain or other difficult emotions connected to the memories of what is being repressed.

Sometimes, religious beliefs or social conditioning can be so strong that desires that would normally be consciously suppressed (such as sexuality for instance), become automatically unconsciously repressed. You don’t even become aware of what exactly were the desires of your original authentic self, and this makes you completely out of touch with your true self. This self-denying defense mechanism makes it very difficult to learn and cultivate Self-Love.

Reactive Extremes

In psychology the technical term is “reactive formation”, and this is something you’ll observe everywhere. The nature of the unconscious mind is that it requires absolute certainties — it needs to see the world in black or white. There is no grey, or “in between”.

Many people who had a very strict religious upbringing for example, grow older and become disillusioned with the dogmatic ideas they’ve been taught. These people unconsciously find atheism a very attractive option, and become fanatical anti-God advocates, almost dogmatically. Another example of a reactive extreme is the person who finds it difficult to deal with, or understand, other people, and as a reaction decides to become a hermit and go live in the mountains.

Going to reactive extremes can also be illustrated in the case of sour grapes (or the false pretense that we don’t care for something we really do care for, which can be illustrated in the Fox and the Grapes fable). In this situation, our unconscious mind realizes that we are fixated on a certain topic so it protects us by going from one extreme to the other, e.g. from love to hatred.

Blameless Victim

I’m sure we’ve all come across an angry victim of life, someone who blames other people or the world for their difficulties. But everyone uses blame as a defense mechanism to some extent. In truth, what we’re defending ourselves from is our own responsibility for dealing with the unpleasant experience we’ve been given.

To indulge in blame is to give up personal responsibility and mentally delegate it to someone else, convincing ourselves that we are not responsible for the state of our lives, instead blaming it on some “outside force”. The blameless victim mechanism blocks us from seeing clearly just how we are contributing to our own suffering.

Essentially, the blameless victim is one of the fiercest protectors of our ego. It causes us to feel that we’re never failing ourselves, or that we lack the maturity or strength to come to terms with the reality of the situations we’re confronted with. Whatever happened is not evidence of our own inadequacy, but of someone else’s.

Have you observed any defense mechanisms in yourselves or in others? Let me know in the comments below!

 

~via Wake-UpWorld.com