DEJAN DAVCEVSKI: “The 3 Best Mental Tools You Already Have That Will Help You Build A Better Life”

Most of us know how we want to live. We know exactly what we need to do, maybe even how, and yet less than 1% of the people are living on their terms. Why is this?

The short answer is that people lack proper education, nobody has told them that there are mental tools they can learn to use, nobody has showed them how.

Just like you need tools to build, for example a house, you need mental tools to build the reality you want to live in.

There are countless mental tools developed by people who were in desperate need of them. These people needed these tools so much that they created them to help themselves.

Before you go out exploring all the existing mental tools, here are the 3 best and most essential ones you will need to create a better life for yourself.

The 3 Best Mental Tools To Build Better Life:


1. The 5 Second Rule.

Most of you know “The 5 Second Rule” to be something that applies to food that you might have dropped. But this is a different rule.

This is a mental tool developed by TV host, author and motivational speaker Mel Robbins and it’s the main thing that helped her rise even higher when she was hitting rock bottom.

This so called “5 Second Rule” is really simple. All it means is that whenever you want, or need, or should do something, count from 5 to 1 and lift off into action.

Mel first started using this mental tool in the mornings, when she felt like not getting out of bed. She started counting 5, 4, 3, 2, 1, and on 1, without thinking, she just got up.

The truth is, you will never going to feel like it’s the perfect moment for taking action. However, with this simple tool you will have mental leverage to launch yourself into action.

2. Turn ANTs Into PETs.

So, of course, we are not talking about actual ants. ANT is short for Automatic Negative Thoughts and PET is short for Positive Encouraging Thoughts.

Dr. Daniel G. Amen got the idea when his home was infested with ants. He looked at the real ants and realized that most people have minds that are infested with negative thoughts.

Most of us think the same 90% of the thoughts every day, and most of these thoughts are negative. There are over 20 mental distortions that twist our reality to seem more negative.

There is an easy tool that Dr. Daniel developed, to turn ANTs into PETs, and it’s in a form of asking yourself 5 simple questions whenever you notice a negative thought.

Is the negative thought true? Can I absolutely know that it is true? How do I react when I feel this thought? Who would I be without this thought? What’s the opposite thought?

3. What’s Pulling, What’s Pushing?

If you are like most of us, you have had a dilemma when you didn’t know what to choose between two or more choices. Most of us have such dilemmas daily.

And this is normal. However, most people don’t really know how to choose the best out of all their conflicting options.

There is a simple mental tool you can use, in a form of 2 simple questions that will clarify so many things for you.

Whenever in a dilemma between two choices ask yourself “What’s pulling me in that direction, love or fear, abundance or scarcity?”

Now ask yourself “What’s pushing me in the opposite direction, love or fear, abundance or scarcity?” Choose the options that are inspired by abundance and love.

 

~via LifeCoachCode.com

ELIZABETH RENTER: “7 Ways To Better Listen To Your Intuition”

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Have you ever been in a situation where your “gut feeling” told you one thing, but your rational mind said another?  If you went with your brain rather than your intuition, there’s a good chance you ended up regretting your decision.  Your intuition is the subconscious leader that many people fail to give proper respect to.  But learning to listen to this internal compass could help you make better decisions and live a more fulfilling life.

It’s unconscious reasoning, the guidance that compels you to turn left when all signs may be pointing right.  It’s often the whisper inside that can lead you to the best results possible, if you will just learn to let go and give it a chance.  Intuition is commonly associated with New Age mysticism or a metaphysical way of thinking, but it doesn’t have to be so.  Our intuition was here long before anyone even gave a word to it, and it will be here long after other fad words expire.

Warm up to the idea that you don’t have to control everything.  Life is going to happen whether you overthink it or not.  Relax.”

Whether it’s deciding which job to take, which direction to turn when you’re lost, or how to handle a conflict in your family, intuition sometimes knows better than the rational mind.  The problem is that many of us have buried that little voice so deeply within, we have a hard time hearing or feeling where it is guiding us.

The good news is that your intuition is still there, you merely have to learn to hear it again.

To better listen to your intuition, try:

1.  Meditation:  Spend time in silence, simply listening.

2.  Commune with nature:  Aim to get at least sometime outside every single day.

3.  Creativity:  Tap into your internal artist by drawing, writing, painting, or making music.

4.  Learn to listen:  In general, listen to friends, families, silence, and yourself.

5.  Be body conscious:  Learn to appreciate the little signs and signals from your body, when it tells you it’s tired, joyful, in need of love, or getting sick.

6.  Let go:  Warm up to the idea that you don’t have to control everything.  Life is going to happen whether you overthink it or not.  Relax.

7.  Stay positive:  Being in a good mood boosts participant’s abilities to make intuitive calls in a word game.  So smile!

Working on becoming more intuitive requires you to adopt healthier habits and a healthier mindset.  These are things that are good for your mental, emotional, and physical wellbeing, no matter your end goal.  And if cultivated regularly, they could lend themselves to better decision making and more happiness overall.

 

 

~adapted via NaturalSociety.com

PAUL LENDA & CHRISTIE SHELDON: “16 Ways to Bring Positive Energy Into Your Life”

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You’ve felt it.  You’re in a group of people, and somebody walks in with a black cloud hanging over their head.  Their energy repels you, and you may find your own mood affected by it.  So how can you NOT be one of those people?  We all have bad days, but with a few simple tricks, you can avoid letting that black cloud grow and hover over you.

1.  Do not dwell on the negatives.

Stuff happens.  It’s how you respond that matters.  If you choose to be victimized by what happens, your negative energy will gain momentum.  Instead:

 —Stop thinking about it if there’s nothing you can do to improve it  (if a thought comes up about that situation, do not allow it to continue — force yourself to think about something else).

 —Do not talk about it anymore than you absolutely have to.  Don’t give it energy!

 —Find the blessings and lessons in the situation.  This may take some time, but if you stay busy looking for them, you won’t dwell on how something negatively impacted you.

2.  Do not speak of your problems, diseases, illnesses or worries.

The more energy you give what is wrong, the more it persists.  Yes, we all need to vent once in a while but if you vent, or even when you’re just thinking about what’s wrong, here are some rules:

 —Don’t think or say: “I’m so sick, I feel like I’ve been run over by a truck!  I don’t know how I’m going to get through the week!”  Do think or say: “I caught some bug but I’m taking good care of myself and I’m feeling better every day!”

 —Don’t think or say: “This job is terrible! My boss is a jerk and nobody appreciates me!”  Do think or say: “I’m looking for a better job and meantime I’m trying to learn as much as I can so I benefit. In fact, my boss is the perfect example of how not to treat employees!”

3.  Love and accept yourself.  As you are.  NOW.

It’s easy to beat yourself up about what’s wrong, but how much energy do you give to your positive qualities?  Do that more.  For every negative comment you make about yourself, give yourself FIVE compliments.

4.  Let go of the past.

You can’t undo anything.  It’s done.  Forgive others, forgive yourself… learn from your mistakes, learn from others’ mistakes, remember that NO unkind or thoughtless action ever comes from love but from a place of deep inner pain  (you can be compassionate to that pain without condoning the acting out of the pain) and release the energetic burden you carry: grudges, resentments, pain, hurt, disappointments, sadness, anger, guilt… let it all go.

5.  Don’t give away your power or your happiness.

Remember that when you criticize, judge or blame others, you are choosing to focus on what they’re doing wrong or what’s wrong with them — and you give these people the power to control your mood and state of mind.  Ask yourself why somebody’s behavior irritates you so much that you allow yourself to get upset about it.  Why let others’ behavior affect your mood?  Why give them the power to control your happiness?  Instead of criticizing, judging or blaming, find something you can compliment them on.

6.  Do not say yes when you mean no.

Honor your needs, priorities, time and energy!  You’ll resent it.  Save your precious time and energy for things that are meaningful to you, or in instances where others ask you to do something, make sure that it brings you satisfaction and joy.  Otherwise, politely decline.

7.  Laugh!  Smile! 

Surround yourself with upbeat people who make you laugh.

8.  Be grateful.

Appreciate the many blessings, but also appreciate the struggles and frustrations.  How have you become enriched because of them?

9.  Don’t worry.

Use your imagination to visualize what can go right, instead of what can go wrong.  Train yourself to visualize the best-case scenario.  Be solution-oriented, not problem-oriented.  Think only about the ideal situation, not the current problematic situation.

10.  Run it off.

Exercise physically removes you from your problems, and it also removes you mentally.  If you’re worried about something, you need to give your brain a chance to process things.  Exercise will flood your system with feel-good endorphins, release stress and in the middle of a long bike ride, walk or swim… or in the middle of the climbing wall, you may suddenly have an epiphany.  Or, at least for a while, you will be fully present and not worried about the future.

11.  Be present.

Speaking of being present, be interested in what you’re doing, no matter how “boring” or “mundane” it may be — quotes intended, because any activity can be made as interesting as you are willing to make it.  This will keep you in the moment and will keep your mind off your troubles and worries.

You have the power to control your mood.  Use these positive-energy-boosting exercises every single day.  Before long, you will be the high-vibrating ray of sunshine that brightens everyone’s mood!  We all have the ability to look to our mind for ways to not only dissolve that sadness, but to cultivate such a positive state of mind that we won’t fall easily back into melancholia.

There are many ways in which we can cultivate positive energy five ways to transform your mindset from darkness into light, sadness into happiness.  May they also help lift up your soul.

12.  Appreciation

When you appreciate someone, you’re tuned into their positive qualities and express your empathy and gratitude for them.  It’s a simple way to refresh yourself and establish heartfelt connections with ourselves and others.

With so much beauty all around us, it is easy to show our appreciation to others, and nature, on a daily basis.  Try appreciating the simple things you might take for granted, for example, a deep relaxing breath of crisp outdoor air or the pleasurable radiant warmth of the sun at noon.  Or the thing we should be the most grateful for  (but the one we often forget) — that we’re alive and so fortunate to experience each and every day.

As you do this, try to focus completely on the good this experience offers you and acknowledge that you — and only you have created it — no matter how it came to you.  Regardless of your condition or circumstances, there will always be something that you can find to appreciate.

13.  Forgiveness

Forgiveness is the moment-to-moment experience of peace and understanding that occurs when the suffering of someone who feels injured has their suffering reduced as they transform the grievance that initiated that suffering.  By embracing the feeling of forgiveness as something that can help us, we accept it as an aspect of acceptance, love, peace, and truth instead of experiencing hatred, negativity, and falsehood — all of which are faces of resentment.  By being forgiving, we acknowledge that people make mistakes and release the emotional burden that holding a grudge has on us.

14.  Selflessness

When we are selfless, we shift our focus onto the needs of others, rather than keeping it on ourselves.  It’s the practice of being unselfish and minimizing the gratification of the ego’s wants and desires.

In order to make the life-redefining shift from selfishness to selflessness, go and focus on the well-being of others.  This can be done in countless ways.  You can clean up your life and surrender a fully healed body, heart, mind and soul to others when entering a relationship.

You can also be ready to share any amount of time needed by others whenever they need it  (don’t allow yourself to be used, however).  Be happy with your life and with whatever you are offered by others.  Whenever you are sure to give your very best, you are receiving exactly what ever you need for your greatest possible benefit.

15.  Wonder

Experiences of wonder can lead us to a sense of transcendence and realization of higher states of consciousness.  From a mystical perspective, it relates to affirmation, as wonder openings reveal the infinite and the source of all that is, which operates as gateways to uniting experiences.

Buddhism muses that distinctions limited to relative or empirical reality are just an illusion; resulting in the continuation of anguish, pain and frustration because we become alienated from experiencing reality through the eyes of a child where everything was wondrous.  In short, wonder leads us tasting a unified and infinite existence that enriches our life experience.

16. Nostalgia

Nostalgia is a yearning for a return to some past period or seemingly irrecoverable condition that’s seen in a positive light.

Studies have found that people who have a heightened level of nostalgia have higher self-esteem and are less prone to depression.  Thinking of good memories for just 15 or 20 minutes a day can make you more cheerful than you were the week before, and happier than if you think of your current life.  Nostalgia is a very potent mood booster, so if you seem to be in a bit of a funk, think about good memories of times past and you will experience higher self-esteem and feel more positive about friendships and close relationships.

~via In5D.com

JERRY SERGEANT: “10 Ways To Live Your Greatest Life”

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Every human being on this planet is incredible and has the potential to live their greatest life possible. With that being the case, why isn’t everybody happy, successful and in beautifully loving relationships? Why do people work a job they do not like? What makes human beings live a mechanical, systematic lifestyle where they suffer, go through school, possibly university, follow a career, get a mortgage, get married, retire and live their lives out struggling until their time comes to depart this beautiful big blue planet? And, not forgetting, most people live in fear of death, dreading the day when all is lost.

It seems to me that humanity, on the most part is surviving not living. Why is this So, when there really is an abundant world awaiting us?

The issue is that most of us live in groups or communities. We have become dependent on so-called governments and others is our groups, and we have handed our power over to others, thinking and believing that we need the help or guidance to survive here on Earth.

We are living in fear. The fear of leaving the known and stepping into the unknown. We have cornered ourselves. We have a desire to be psychologically secure.

Over centuries we have become conditioned. We fear leaving the group or whatever we are a part of because we believe that if we do we may not survive. Or we will be alone. When it fact alone means to be ‘All One’. Being alone will bring you closer to the whole than you have ever been before, but our thoughts, which are based on fear keep us stagnant.

It’s time to stop believing and start knowing. You see, all beliefs are based on thought and all thought is based on fear. This is a notion that totally defies everything you have ever been taught so it will take serious self-reflection to see the underlying truth in what is.

If you want to live your greatest life and realise your full potential you must take full responsibility for you, and not depend on anyone or anything for your survival.

Here are 10 ways to realise your full potential.

10 Ways to Live Your Greatest Life

Greatest Life Tip #1

Do not give your power over to anyone

Nobody in this world has any authority over you. Including any member of society, government, friend, partner, mother, father, son, daughter, school teacher, policeman or woman – Absolutely no one. You are a human being and you’re free. Meditate on this fact. I must point out that this is not an idea. It is a fact, it’s true. Know that you have the power to be or do anything and no one has the power to influence you unless you let them.

Greatest Life Tip #2

Create space in your life

You can do this by creating space in your mind. You, like most people will think too much. You must break that pattern of thought by meditating. Meditating every day will enable your awareness to grow. This awareness will give you space and from that space, clarity, focus and energy will flow.

Greatest Life Tip #3

Leave the crowd. Be different

As long as you are trying to blend in with society you will become a sheep, moving with the tide, getting nowhere very fast and helping other people live their dreams instead of creating your own.

Greatest Life Tip #4

Face your fears

To leave the crowd you must face your fears and venture into unknown territory. This will crush you or make you. The further you move towards your fears the smaller they will get and eventually you will realise that your fears are an illusion, created by thought, in your mind. Facing your fears is easy, all you have to do is follow your life compass – your heart. It will lead you in the direction of your dreams, and always, without a shadow of a doubt, straight through your fears.

Greatest Life Tip #5 

Be fit and healthy

Eat natural foods, exercise daily, drink at least 3 litres of filtered water per day, juice every morning, go to bed early and try drinking a cup or urine every morning. Trust me, it’s the only liquid on the planet that contains all the information on your own body. It contains all the goodness. I will write another article specifically on this topic soon. It is a real game changer in terms of your health.

Greatest Life Tip #6 

Surround yourself in a bubble of positivity and tranquillity

Stay away from the naysayers and be around people that inspire you. After all, you become like the company you keep. So keep World Class Company.

Greatest Life Tip #7 

Guard your dreams

Don’t tell everyone what you are going to achieve. They will try and shoot you down, even those closest to you. Inspire through action, not idle chatter. Get the job done. Actions speak louder than words.

Greatest Life Tip #8 

Stay away from secondary activity

Keep your eye on your dream and learn to say no. Saying no is mission-critical as the closer you get to your desired outcome, the more offers you will get to side track you. Saying no will keep the train from being derailed. It’s so important to keep a laser focus.

Greatest Life Tip #9 

Go all out and never quit

The bigger your dreams the bigger the challenges. So learn to turn all of your obstacles into opportunities for growth. Be grateful to everything that is thrown at you because I promise you, once you look back along your journey, from the pinnacle of success, you will see that everything was designed perfectly, by a mind that knew more than you or I. The journey is the most rewarding part because it creates you, the human being you become once you are where you know you can be.

Greatest Life Tip #10

Know you are destined to reach your full potential

Know you are special and were born with a purpose. Follow these steps and you will realise the power you have and the magic will spill into your life.

 

 

 

 

~via starmagichealing.com