SIMON SEGAL: “Tired Of Being A Negativity Sponge? What You Need To Know To Reclaim Your Energy And Prevent Energy Infiltration”

Everything has a vibration — smells, sounds, colors, objects, animals, people. We are in a continual energetic cycle of communication with everything around us, and what we let to affect us is what we become.

And as much as we have the power to affect the world around us with our energy, sometimes we seemingly lose that ability because our vibration becomes lowered and weaker than the surrounding sources.

In this lowered state, we become negativity sponges. Everybody is looking for a place to dump their negativity because it’s very hard to deal with. And when you become an energy dumpster… well, I don’t have to say too much about it — you are well aware what happens.

The sad truth is that we often choose to lower our vibration for all the wrong purpose. I’m not talking about going against our innate goodness (that is self-explanatory). I am talking about destroying our shield out of goodness.

Although it’s always important to lower your shield when you want to connect with people, we often go a step too far, compromising our energy, and ending up in a messed up energetic state.

So, here’s how to know what is that one step too far and how you can reclaim your vibration.

1. Avoid connecting with people through negative emotion

It may seem like an unavoidable scenario: your friend feels sad, and you match emotions to connect with them — to make them some kind of consolation-company. This way, we even our vibration with theirs to be on the same wavelength, and we thus lower our vibration.

Some may argue that this is very normal and expected from those who are close to you. I’d argue against it, though. It’s true that misery likes company, but this kind of company will never help anyone out.

If you truly hold that person dear, you should offer them a higher vibration so that they can get out of that lowered state. This way, you not only help them, but you also help yourself by not getting down in the dumps. In the end, how can you help someone out if you start suffering from the same problem as them?

2. Some things are not your responsibility — and they shouldn’t be

We all face challenges that are set there to make us grow. These challenges may often feel negative and almost impossible to handle. However, the worst you can do for them is take their responsibility upon yourself.

We often start feeling as if we are supposed to fix other people’s problems simply because they complained about how difficult they were for them. Other times, when we are asked to help, we decide to take one step further and start doing the things they are supposed to and can do.

However, you shouldn’t forget that we all carry our own baggage and we are responsible for it more than for the baggage of others. Giving help doesn’t mean grabbing their bags and pulling them with our teeth because our hands are already full.

No matter how ready you feel to do this, it doesn’t do the other person any good because they won’t learn anything from that challenge — they won’t grow. The better option is to encourage them to use their knowledge and power and face the challenge because they are readier for it than you can imagine.

Nobody needs a problem-solver. We just sometimes need a little push and some encouragement.

3. Substitute compassion for sympathy

Sympathy is a poison. Many people don’t understand this and find me cold-hearted when I say this, although I know how much love I have for this world. And why is it a poison? Because it leads nowhere but in the worst direction.

Sympathy means that you feel sorry for someone’s struggle, and when you feel sorry for them, it means that you don’t believe they are capable of coping with that challenge. Why would you think that? Our ability to tackle the most difficult of challenges is something we are born with.

So, why underestimate the person by feeling sorry for them? Compassion is a much more evolved approach that lets you understand their struggle, accept their position, and empower them (if you can) to overcome the obstacles.

You need to have more trust in the people you love — you need to trust their ability, that requires a simple spark of love and understanding to come to the surface. Compassion is a force that promotes growth and bonding — sympathy is a force that destroys the person before they were given the chance to fight.

4. Don’t be so sure that you know better

A person’s life is such a complex thing that you cannot possibly imagine everything that makes that complexity. So are life situations, in which everyone has their smart opinion — until they are faced with one too.

I have never asked for a piece of someone else’s mind on things that are happening to me. Do you know why? It takes a lot more than words for me to explain everything that is part of that problem, and I don’t see why this would be anything different from you or the next person.

And no matter how much you know about someone’s problem, they will always know one thing more. Which means, no matter how good your advice is, no matter how better you think you know — your advice will most often be a dead end for them.

Why a dead end? Because they didn’t act the way they would and listened to you. Being true to yourself and to your nature is the most important thing. Every mistake I have made because it was my decision has been better than the seemingly ‘best things’ I’ve done under other people’s instruction.

So, no, you can’t know better. Allow the person to act as they naturally would.

5. Never take sides

Oftentimes people we know get into a quarrel and try to put is in the middle by making us choose sides. They try to achieve dominance in numbers and don’t really care about your opinion, which can be felt clearly.

In most of the scenarios, you simply want to be objective and rational, so as to help your, say, friends, to overcome the communication problem and make up.

However, bias, pressure, and thinking that we know it all make us jump in the middle and become bombarded by two clashing sources of negative energy. In the end, you don’t help in any way and end up feeling drained and guilty that you stepped in, in the first place.

And really, why should you take sides in a problem that isn’t yours? Instead of choosing the sides of the story, you should embrace them and accept that people need to solve their differences without your meddling.

6. Never become a people pleaser (and if you are, start saying NO)

I have yet to learn to say NO to some situations, as all of us empaths have that people-pleasing gene that is screwing us over. But really, putting others in front of you may feel rewarding and selfless, although it’s actually ridiculous  and those others usually know it.

If everyone acted this way, we would live in a Utopia, I suppose. The truth, though, is that it’s impossible because we were simply born in our own skin, not that of the others — which means we need to start from ourselves.

Putting others before yourself and giving your energy away like you won it off in a casino is a self-betrayal that people won’t appreciate in you, no matter how much you hope that you’ll be appreciated for it.

A better option is to always ask yourself: ‘Can that person do that themselves?’ ‘Can that person wait?’ ‘Do I have to do something related to my life first?’ Even mothers shouldn’t bend to every of their children’s ideas and wishes, right? Why should you?

7. Mind your own business

It’s our eternal pain to learn what others think of us. Many have started revolving their lives around other people’s thoughts and opinions of them. It’s saddening and sickening, really.

I have the reputation of a ‘cold,’ ‘reserved,’ ‘arrogant,’ and whatnot person because I keep my healthy distance and don’t allow people to gobble up my life force and personality. And you know what? I don’t really care. In fact, I’m glad.

Everybody knows me for who I am, and I have never thought twice before saying the things I mean and standing up for myself because I don’t expect anyone else to do it for me.

I know I have an unlimited source of love for this world — but sometimes naughtiness can’t be rewarded with candy, right? Unless it’s cute, I suppose!

The most important thing is that you can’t define your life on the basis of other people’s opinions and thoughts about you. Those who like to judge you for who you are can freely do it, and you can freely not give an f*, because in the end: THAT’S YOU AND YOU SHOULDN’T CHANGE YOURSELF BECAUSE OF ANYONE’S OPINION.

Reclaim your identity, because if you lose it, nobody will be there to find it and bring it back to you. By reclaiming your identity, you reclaim your energy. Respect yourself and respect everyone around you, but know your boundaries.

 

~via ConsciousReminder.com

SUSAN VIVYAN: “Thoughts And Words Are So Important”

Watch your words carefully as they carry more power than you realize.  Many are becoming aware of the power of thoughts, words and are more discerning in their choices.  Yes, it is a choice moment by moment.  More immediate results than you realize.

It is via stillness, meditation, concentration, awareness that you become aware of the power of your thoughts; words leading to actions.  When one is the observer in the 3rd person and not immersed in the drama of their own making a wiser perspective emerges.  Greater understanding with more discernment guides daily choices.  The inner reflects the outer and more discretionary decisions are made.

One can still be very present, live in the moment; however, the focus of an aware life is more refined like sand which slowly and gently flows through your fingers with little abrasive quality.

Listen to the words of others but more importantly discern your own thoughts and words.  Become a detached observer with no judgment or criticism.  Allow corrections to your thought patterns and/or actions to be done with gentleness and softness.

Treat yourself with respect.  Embrace your imperfections.  Allow growth to emerge with constant nurturing and self-love.  Focus on your thoughts, your words.  Refine your choices.

You are important!

 


Susan Vivyan; M.A.T. (Art Therapy), B.S. (Art Education); Art Transformative Facilitator/Educator, Writer, Artist. You can find her Soul Essence paintings on Facebook @EssenceArtBySusanVivyan

 

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NORMA LEHMEIER HARTIE: “How To Remove Negative Energy From Your Home”

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The main reason to clear a space — your home, your car or your office — is to remove negative energies.  Negative energies occur for a number of reasons.  They include:

Metaphysical

  • Negative thoughts from current or previous owners or occupants
  • Disturbed emotional energy of current or previous owners or occupants
  • Disturbed environmental energy
  • Dimensional beings

Earth Energies

  • Faulting pressure (Faults are breaks in the Earth’s crust where chunks of land on each side move in different directions.  Land suddenly shifting along fault lines is the primary cause of earthquakes.)
  • Negative magnetic fields
  • Disturbances from naturally occurring underground water

Technology

  • Electrical appliances such as cell phones, computers, microwave ovens and hair dryers

Objects

  • Antiques
  • Used or new furniture
  • Second-hand jewelry
  • Works of art
  • Crafts
  • Anything made by hand, including such possessions as rugs

Every time you clean your home you are removing negative energy.  Cleaning your home or workspace will make it lighter and more positive.  This is a result of organizing, of ridding yourself of things you no longer need and removing toxic products from your environment.  Just opening windows brings in fresh, positive energy.

Other space clearing techniques include dowsing; smudging with herbs or incense; clearing with bells, cymbals and singing bowls; and clearing with chanting.

How to Clear Your Home of Negative Energy

No matter what method or methods you chose to clear negative or disturbed energies, always clear mindfully and without distractions. Turn off the stereo and television—you need to clear in a quiet atmosphere. Your intent is to clear disturbed or negative energies. When clearing, visualize these energies disappearing. The reason that you should be specific is that you want the good energy left undisturbed. If you chose to smudge with herbs, for example, speak aloud or silently words to convey that you are removing negative energy.

Clearing is done in a meditative-type state — slowly and with focus — so the words are much like a mantra.  Keep them simple.  For example, if I am smudging, I will think “negativity be gone!” or “if there is negative energy present, please leave.”  At the same time, I visualize the space vibrant with only positive energy.

Every home and workspace should be cleared periodically.  It is impossible to say exactly how often, as it depends on your situation.  You will develop a feel for how often you need to clear negative energies.  The following is a guide for good times to clear negative energies.

When and What to Clear of Negative Energy

  • When you move into a new residence, clean and clear the space meticulously.  You are clearing any possible negative or disturbed emotions of the previous occupants and other negative or disturbed energies.  Clear your new office for the same reason.
  • Following an illness of a member of a household the negative energy should be cleared.
  • All objects that are antiques, previously used (particularly jewelry), works of art, crafts and anything made by hand should be individually cleared of negative energy.  When feasible, wash items as well.  If you buy an antique rocking chair, for example, that chair may have been sat on for years by the same person.  This is great if it was a happy person — not so great if it was a miserable person.  The energy of the rocking chair’s previous owner is in that chair.

On the subject of buying something that was previous used, I highly recommend that you do not purchase a second-hand bed.  So much time is spent in bed — therefore, too much energy of the previous owner(s) is in a bed.  Do you really want to gamble on who spent time in your bed?  If you already have a used bed that you love, or insist on buying a used bed, learn how to dowse or hire someone to dowse it for you.

Jewelry, Crystals and Gemstones

Second-hand jewelry should be cleared, as jewelry picks up the energy of the wearer.  You may wish to clear all your jewelry, crystals and gemstones, especially if you have been feeling poorly.  Be especially mindful of clearing only negative energy when working on an inherited piece from a loved one.

There are a number of methods for clearing jewelry, gemstones and crystals:

  1. To clear gemstones and crystals, sea salt works well.  Salt can be dissolved or used dry.  For salt water, mix a tablespoon of sea salt with a cup of cold water in a glass or ceramic container.  Do not use plastic or metal containers.  Place the stones in the solution for several hours or overnight.  With dry salt, bury pieces in a glass or ceramic container and leave for several hours or overnight.  When clearing gemstone necklaces, use dry salt, as the water solution will deteriorate the cord that the beads were strung on.  Discard salt.
  2. Wash in the ocean.
  3. Clear in sunlight — allow to sit in the sun for a day.
  4. Clear in moonlight.  Bury in the earth overnight with a full moon.
  5. Smudge all jewelry, gemstones and crystals.
  6. You can clear jewelry of negative energy with a pendulum.

 

Clear negative energies if you or other members of your household are feeling poorly for any unexplained reason.  This can include any mental, physical or emotional upset.  This is most notable if a change occurs following a move into a new home or office.

 

Excerpt from Harmonious Environment

~via HowToExitTheMatrix.com