DEJAN DAVCEVSKI: “The 3 Best Mental Tools You Already Have That Will Help You Build A Better Life”

Most of us know how we want to live. We know exactly what we need to do, maybe even how, and yet less than 1% of the people are living on their terms. Why is this?

The short answer is that people lack proper education, nobody has told them that there are mental tools they can learn to use, nobody has showed them how.

Just like you need tools to build, for example a house, you need mental tools to build the reality you want to live in.

There are countless mental tools developed by people who were in desperate need of them. These people needed these tools so much that they created them to help themselves.

Before you go out exploring all the existing mental tools, here are the 3 best and most essential ones you will need to create a better life for yourself.

The 3 Best Mental Tools To Build Better Life:


1. The 5 Second Rule.

Most of you know “The 5 Second Rule” to be something that applies to food that you might have dropped. But this is a different rule.

This is a mental tool developed by TV host, author and motivational speaker Mel Robbins and it’s the main thing that helped her rise even higher when she was hitting rock bottom.

This so called “5 Second Rule” is really simple. All it means is that whenever you want, or need, or should do something, count from 5 to 1 and lift off into action.

Mel first started using this mental tool in the mornings, when she felt like not getting out of bed. She started counting 5, 4, 3, 2, 1, and on 1, without thinking, she just got up.

The truth is, you will never going to feel like it’s the perfect moment for taking action. However, with this simple tool you will have mental leverage to launch yourself into action.

2. Turn ANTs Into PETs.

So, of course, we are not talking about actual ants. ANT is short for Automatic Negative Thoughts and PET is short for Positive Encouraging Thoughts.

Dr. Daniel G. Amen got the idea when his home was infested with ants. He looked at the real ants and realized that most people have minds that are infested with negative thoughts.

Most of us think the same 90% of the thoughts every day, and most of these thoughts are negative. There are over 20 mental distortions that twist our reality to seem more negative.

There is an easy tool that Dr. Daniel developed, to turn ANTs into PETs, and it’s in a form of asking yourself 5 simple questions whenever you notice a negative thought.

Is the negative thought true? Can I absolutely know that it is true? How do I react when I feel this thought? Who would I be without this thought? What’s the opposite thought?

3. What’s Pulling, What’s Pushing?

If you are like most of us, you have had a dilemma when you didn’t know what to choose between two or more choices. Most of us have such dilemmas daily.

And this is normal. However, most people don’t really know how to choose the best out of all their conflicting options.

There is a simple mental tool you can use, in a form of 2 simple questions that will clarify so many things for you.

Whenever in a dilemma between two choices ask yourself “What’s pulling me in that direction, love or fear, abundance or scarcity?”

Now ask yourself “What’s pushing me in the opposite direction, love or fear, abundance or scarcity?” Choose the options that are inspired by abundance and love.

 

~via LifeCoachCode.com

SUSAN VIVYAN: “Thoughts And Words Are So Important”

Watch your words carefully as they carry more power than you realize.  Many are becoming aware of the power of thoughts, words and are more discerning in their choices.  Yes, it is a choice moment by moment.  More immediate results than you realize.

It is via stillness, meditation, concentration, awareness that you become aware of the power of your thoughts; words leading to actions.  When one is the observer in the 3rd person and not immersed in the drama of their own making a wiser perspective emerges.  Greater understanding with more discernment guides daily choices.  The inner reflects the outer and more discretionary decisions are made.

One can still be very present, live in the moment; however, the focus of an aware life is more refined like sand which slowly and gently flows through your fingers with little abrasive quality.

Listen to the words of others but more importantly discern your own thoughts and words.  Become a detached observer with no judgment or criticism.  Allow corrections to your thought patterns and/or actions to be done with gentleness and softness.

Treat yourself with respect.  Embrace your imperfections.  Allow growth to emerge with constant nurturing and self-love.  Focus on your thoughts, your words.  Refine your choices.

You are important!

 


Susan Vivyan; M.A.T. (Art Therapy), B.S. (Art Education); Art Transformative Facilitator/Educator, Writer, Artist. You can find her Soul Essence paintings on Facebook @EssenceArtBySusanVivyan

 

~via In5D.com

CHRISTIE SHELDON: “How Negative Energy Affects Your Life and How to Clear It”

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“Consider this: since when does ‘being realistic’ necessarily mean that things will go wrong and that you have to accept that as the truth?”

~Christie Sheldon

 

You know that like attracts like, right? So here’s the deal: Positive people are drawn to positive energy; negative people are drawn to negative energy.

We tend to perceive negative energy as something other people have. Sure, sometimes we feel negative – as in, “go away and leave me alone, world!” but did you know that negativity can be so ingrained in you that it goes unnoticed?

That’s because negativity sometimes wears a disguise called ‘reality’. It’s easy to rationalize that you’re ‘just being realistic’ in not daring to act on a dream – and believe it!

You may assume that positive people are not being realistic – that they’re being naive, that they are in denial with their heads stuck in the sand, that they put on fake smiles in the face of difficulty and so forth.  But are they really happy idiots or is there something to their positivity?

Consider this: since when does ‘being realistic’ necessarily mean that things will go wrong and that you have to accept that as the truth?

That doesn’t mean that being realistic is automatically negative. When you view the world from a ‘realistic’ standpoint, you can’t help but be negative IF your version of reality is negative.

If your version of reality is negative, you are conditioned to believe that whatever can go wrong, will go wrong and whatever can go right, will probably go wrong too. Your unconsciously held beliefs make you into a negative person without your being aware of it!

So – if this negativity is so ingrained in you that you don’t notice it, how do you determine whether you’re stuck in a cloud of negative energy that is attracting the wrong people, wrong situations and wrong feelings? And how can you be sure you’re not perpetuating that negativity?

Here’s a quick quiz to gauge the level of negative energy within you:

  • Do you complain? All the time or just sometimes?
  • Do you often discuss what’s wrong in the world more than what’s right? This includes the ‘terrible’ weather, ‘horrible’ traffic, ‘idiotic’ government, ‘lousy’ economy, ‘stupid’ in-laws, etc.
  • Do you criticize? All the time or just certain people?
  • Are you attracted to drama and disaster (can you unglue yourself from the TV when there’s a news story of a disaster and can you avoid getting involved in the lives of dysfunctional celebrities?)
  • Do you blame? All the time or just certain situations?
  • Do you believe that you have no control over most of your results?
  • Do you feel like a victim? Do you talk about people doing things to you?
  • Are you grateful for what is or will you be grateful when things finally start going right for you?
  • Do you feel like things are happening to you? Or do you feel that they are happening through you?

This last two points are important:

If you’re not grateful except when things go right, you are negative. Gratitude is positive. If you are grateful for what is (including the unpleasant school of life lessons, then you can invite more and more positive energy into your life.

Believing that things happen to you puts you in the role of victim; then it’s easy to be negative because it’s convenient to give up that power. So consider this alternative: who or what is to blame when GOOD things happen to you? Do you acknowledge that you are responsible for the good things – as in, you worked hard, you earned it, etc… but blame external events or other people for your failures? So how come, when good things happen, they are a result of what you do, but when bad things happen, they are not your fault?

Nobody likes to hear that. It takes courage to accept that you create your life experience!

If you answered yes to any of the above questions, you are holding on to negative energy to some degree! To clear your negative energy and raise your vibration, you will need to retrain yourself to choose a positive attitude.

Here’s another interesting idea to consider: have you noticed that positive people seem to get what they want out of life, and even if things don’t go their way, they still enjoy their lives… while negative people whine and moan about their misfortunes and even the good things in their lives?

To clear negative energy, try this 3 -step process

1. Take ownership: “When you think everything is someone else’s fault, you will suffer a lot. When you realize that everything springs only from yourself, you will learn both peace and joy.” – the Dalai Lama

2. Cancel negative thoughts and replace them with positive thoughts. This takes practice, dedication and making a decision to see the world through the eyes of “what can go right” instead of “what can go wrong.” You’ll have to catch yourself anytime you are acting out or speaking out your negativity, and immediately change your tune.

3. Use the Love or Above Spiritual Toolkit to clear your energy and bring more light and love into your life;  visualize the positive instead of getting sucked into negativity; overcome past conditioning; think intuitively from the soul instead from ‘reality’; create a new, desired reality in your imagination and manifest it in the outer world. Nobody wants negative energy to permeate their lives, yet many of us allow it. But we allow it unconsciously, based on past conditioning that suggests an inevitable outcome to certain situations. When you overcome that conditioning and realize that the future is NOT cast in stone but that you have more control over your circumstances than you believe – then you can begin to consciously design your life.

What’s going to happen then? Your positive energy will magnetically attract what you consider to be good and right for you: people, situations, things… and you’ll notice a huge, huge increase in your happiness and inner peace.

Why not choose positive energy? Make some changes within, and you’ll quickly see positive changes in your life. Enjoy the good feelings and abundance!

 

 

 

~via loveorabove.com

ANDREA SCHULMAN: “When Everything Changes”

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If you are consciously working at raising your vibration, it’s important to get used to change. In my experience, when we work to ascend into a higher state we’ll find that change is very, very common. In fact, sometimes EVERYTHING changes!

What kind of changes, you may ask? Well, careers, relationships, homes, towns, health, interests, hobbies, languages, whatever!

See, if you are anything like me, then everything changed when you learned about the Law of Attraction and the importance of raising your vibration. Suddenly, you understood that you had a tremendous amount of creative power, and you started to direct that power in a more positive way.

Then, what used to “work” for you, just is no longer a match to the “new” you. You’re just no longer able to hang out in the same place you used to, because you are no longer energetically compatible.

For example, if you suddenly come into the vibration of abundance, living in poverty just doesn’t work anymore. Suddenly, you find yourself moving into a place that better represents you abundance around more and more abundant people and able to do things that you never used to dream of. Sometimes this happens intentionally, but others you are literally forced into the more abundant reality.

Or, if you eliminate gossip and drama from your life, some people are either going to drop out of your life or they will change to become more positively oriented to match you. You simply can’t keep up a relationship built on negativity if you are no longer negative.

The longer I am on this journey, the more changes keep coming. This is a good thing, so if you are in a situation where things are changing rapidly-well done! There’s no greater sign of a shifting alignment than shifting changes in your life.

Stick with it! Embrace the changes, and more good ones will come your way.

 

 

 

My name is Andrea Schulman, I am a former high school psychology teacher and the creator of ‘Raise Your Vibration Today.’ I teach people about the Law of Attraction with fun, clarity and success! Check out my member website to learn how to create your reality with your thoughts.

ALEXA PELLEGRINI: “You’re Worth It: Triumphing Over Your Inner Self-Saboteur”

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To say that we’re our own worst enemy is an understatement. As an astrologer that focuses specifically on healing wounds from the past by decoding the karma of the stars, I’ve seen how most of us rarely catch a glimpse of how much we undermine ourselves in everyday life. Observing the 12th house of hidden self-sabotage in the natal chart, I’ve easily been able to see how my clients have accidentally shot themselves in the foot – even though they were usually unaware of this until I pointed it out to them! But it doesn’t take an astrologer’s touch to figure out where you’re undermining your own goals and happiness in daily life. By increasing your self-awareness and positive self-talk, you can avoid harmful patterns of behavior that only fuel your inner self-saboteur.

Where Does Your “Dark Side” Really Come From?

Self-sabotage is a tricky business. Just when your new job or your relationship seems to be going in an amazing direction, negative self-talk may begin to flood your thoughts. Paranoia about criticism from your co-workers or an old ex reappearing back on the scene just won’t stop plaguing you. It’s utterly maddening! What gives?

The simplest way to stop self-sabotaging behaviors is to look deep within to discover the root of your behaviors. When we begin to question if our wonderful new job is really going to be that amazing, or wonder if our partner really loves us as much as we love them, these self-sabotaging thoughts are a direct reflection of our hidden fears of loss and failure and feelings of unworthiness. By anticipating the worst, we may think we’ll divert a crisis when in reality, we’re creating a harmful self-fulling prophecy. While it’s easy to play into old patterns of negative thinking, remember that the only significant person telling you that you don’t deserve love and happiness is you. What other people told you or how they treated you in the past is irrelevant. You are in control of your will, and your self-image shapes the person who you are, not the judgements of others or past mistakes. When you begin to truly love yourself and realize you are worthy of everything you have, your inner self-saboteur will flee the scene.

Harmful Phrases to Avoid Self-Defeat

Without realizing it, the words we speak and the thoughts we project into the Universe have a much greater effect on our energy than we may realize. We can convince ourselves that we’re worthless and poison all positivity with a brigade of self-loathing thoughts in a matter of minutes! However, there is a way out of this trap: watch the words you speak, and keep your thoughts in check. Here are some ‘red alert’ phrases  to watch out for:

  • “I just feel powerless.” If you believe you’re powerless, how have you come this far? Did someone magically take care of all of your problems for you? Don’t even your most basic achievements, like getting up on time every day, account for your strength? Even if we’re placed in a situation in which we’re at a disadvantage physically, financially or emotionally, we still have the power within to remain grounded. It is only when we lose control of our thoughts, emotions and intentions that we truly become powerless.
  • “I don’t know what I’m doing.” When your life feels like it’s collapsing, it’s tempting to say “I just don’t know what I’m doing” or “I’m not sure what to do.” But by uttering these words, you’re sending out a message not only to yourself but also the Universe that you’re a victim of circumstance and helpless to take control over your life and your choices. This will only make your situation increasingly negative.
  • “My entire life is horrible!” Seeing things strictly in black and white and believing that one negative incident or relationship serves to define your entire existence only serves to draw negativity into your life. If a horrible situation, a failed relationship or getting fired from your job has caused you great suffering, turn this phrase around and address your feelings for what they are: “XYZ has caused me great pain and suffering – life itself has not, and I can turn my life around.”
  • “My feelings got the best of me, I can’t help myself.” Anything along these lines is an immediate red flag that you’re denying responsibility for your emotions. Anger is often the one emotion that can consume us and create devastating consequences in our lives, yet we often feel compelled to blame anger itself instead of taking accountability for our faults! In his book “Be Nobody,” Lama Marut eloquently explains that instead of believing it’s rational to be angry or hateful, express anger toward that afflicted side of yourself that goes into a rage and “…avoid the temptation to give in to the siren song of the afflictions.”

 

 

 

 

 

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