LISA RENEE (Shifting Timetimes): “Individualism, Autonomy and Self-Leadership”

“We have been intentionally confused to discern the qualities of leadership and authoritative influence over others as defined by egocentric and alpha type of aggressive behaviors, which lead to control oriented and tyrannical oppression. We all want to stay clear of feeding the tyrant as a leader or giving them authority. Tyranny is no substitute for leadership and should never be confused with leadership. We have been conditioned to give our power away to tyrannical psychopaths, so to change the power structure we must become aware of how we have given our personal power away to people and structures that abuse authority.”

~Lisa Renee

 

Dear Ascending Family,

The current culture wars are using aggressive mind control tactics to purposely attack Individualism, Autonomy and Self-Leadership, to cultivate a generation of non-critical thinkers who automatically follow collectivism, coercion and blind obedience to another level of global tyranny. The problem, reaction, solution stage is being set, pushing for another round of cultural Marxism or socialism instigated from the World War era, designed to fulfill the satanic collectivist nightmare of the New World Order. As more awakening people choose to become public figures to help guide the paradigm shift, they need to become aware of their sphere of influence and recognize that they have become a leader by default. With whistleblowers, independent journalists, disclosure teams, experiencers and spiritually awakening people are acting as the main platforms of relevant news dissemination of ongoing planetary events, it is easy to see why cultivating self-leadership is important. The spiritual-disclosure-ascension communities are plagued by psychological warfare tactics to incite meaningless dramas that confuse and derail those thrust into the leadership by default position. Given the current escalation in war over consciousness, how do we more deeply understand Individualism, Autonomy and Self-Leadership? How do we recognize the NAA playbook and pressures being exerted, while staying focused on full spiritual embodiment, capable of travelling freely on multiple dimensional planes, where autonomy and freedom are the natural state of existence for the eternal living spirit?

Humanity is currently enduring a powerfully transformative phase in the planetary dark night of the soul, which has generated deep divisions between many societal groups as a result of the socially engineered culture wars. The culture wars are a planned psychological warfare tactic used against the population to attack concepts of Individualism, Autonomy and Self-leadership, designed to demoralize the public into class struggles that generate more victims and victimizers. Demoralization tactics attack our mental body and distorts our mental map, so that we give up our personal autonomy and capacity for self-leadership, not believing in our own innate abilities to co-create a fulfilling and meaningful life for ourselves. Dehumanization tactics are attacks made against our core soul essence, distorting our minds into believing that humans are not worthy of humane treatment, leading to increased violence, war crimes and genocide. As a result, many people have been conditioned to dehumanize themselves, believing they are worthless, and thus easily give up their personal right to express Individualism, Autonomy and Self-leadership. These are human rights that are protected in the natural laws, and when we live in alignment to natural laws, our divine right to express our authentic spiritual nature and true self becomes increasingly evident as we spiritually awaken.

The acceleration of the culture wars also reflects the global war over consciousness that is occurring in the macrocosm at the planetary, galactic and Universal levels. The intensifying culture wars manifesting in the outer physical reality are a direct reflection of the intensifying events occurring in the war over consciousness, the spiritual warfare that is happening in the inner non-physical realities and within many of the invisible realms. The spiritual war is being waged at the end of the ascension cycle to attempt to enslave the human body, human mind and human soul, in order to strip individuals of their divine rights of personal autonomy and to hand over their consent to the Controller’s or False Alien Gods, who then have full authority over the consciousness of that individual.

In the center of this chaotic struggle for full spectrum dominance, the primary goal of the Controllers is to continue to push for the centralization of their global control efforts through the manipulation of these culture wars into a fragmented assortment of class struggles. The culture wars are based on problem, reaction and solution, a mass marketing and propaganda effort for selling a structure of society to the people. In this case, in order to get them to believe that the power elite want to enact a world centralized government that intends to equally serve the working classes of the entire global population. Essentially, this is the same flavor of the Black Sun satanic ideology that came from the German philosophers of the late nineteenth century, leading into the World Wars, which slaughtered untold multiple millions from the promotion of these same class struggle ideologies. These class struggle ideologies are the basis of collectivism and eugenic theories, which fundamentally make up atheistic forms of socialism and communism. These are easily corruptible governmental structures that fully support victims and victimizers, where there are absolutely no protections for personal liberty or individual freedoms. Individuality and the ranges of unique group expression are not recognized as a valid identity in one centralized power governing a global controlled society and thus, Individualism, Autonomy and Self-leadership are not respected or allowed to be expressed under its oppressive tyrannical social control. According to collectivism ideologies like communism, an individual’s life is not their own, but belongs to the social group and has no rights except those which that society permits him to enjoy.

In order to route groups of people to become identified with the class struggle ideologies and behave as victims, it is imperative to not treat people as individuals or responsible for their own behaviors, but to lump them into marginalized collective groups with a similar belief system in which they can ego-identify. Thus, the person considers himself as ego-identified with an oppressed smaller group enduring a class struggle, unable to think beyond classifications and see the unique individualism that exists in all people that are ultimately connected within one unified group of humanity. This myopic strategy also acts as a cover up for the global enslavement agenda, because that person is unable to connect the dots to comprehend the larger picture of global slavery that is being enforced by the Controllers. Only focusing on the smaller details of their group reality bubble and the conflict inherent in their ego-personalized belief systems, serves the controller agenda as these groups many times conveniently assign blame to others.

The Controllers make up a small minority of the global population. When the smaller power group wants to control the rest of the population, all decision making and policy making has to become centralized. This is the power elite’s main ideology for systematically destroying the autonomy that exists within nations and in people, in order to create the collectivism inherent in the New World Order. Engineered culture wars are used to incite intense conflicts between an assortment of social groups and classifications, in which the people use to identify with different ideals, beliefs and philosophies. To weaken a powerful group or nation the goal is to infiltrate the culture, destroy traditions and historical records, and promote conflicts into greater division in order to continually spread confusion and misdirection into violence. The invasion happening in Europe to destroy the historical records and the existing culture of powerful cities and nations reveals this tyrannical strategy very clearly. When targeting an opponent that is powerful because it is large and unified through a common ideology, the entire group is more easily defeated and controlled by separating them from one another or separating them into smaller units. Separation into ever smaller group units is achieved through classifications for race, color, political party, sexual orientation, atheists or religious, and so forth. When the separation of groups into smaller units is successful, the attack is then directed on their common bonds of unity. This is to splinter the group itself to further create division and then hijack the group to centralize its level of control. Seeking to confuse the group with fear and misinformation so they will not know which way to turn, what to expect or whom to trust, collapses the group from within and thus destroys their power and influence.

The more diversity that exists within smaller groups that have gained financial power and influence in decision making, such as smaller nations that have the full economic power to enact and enforce their own policies, the less control the power elite have over that particular group or area. In order to secure their centralized global power, the Controller must accumulate the majority of all of the global wealth and resources. These can be fully utilized to gain control through lobbying, bribery and blackmail, in which the multinational corporations and government organizations are infiltrated, to serve their highest interest of divide and rule agendas. This is the broader definition of global tyranny, access to unlimited and unrestrained authority and abuse of power over others. A governmental or corporate structure or totalitarian dictatorship, which exercises full power and enforces the right to control how individuals are able to live, without any accountability or limits. Thus, the seeds of the culture wars are pushing for another round of cultural Marxism or socialism instigated from the World War era and is designed to manipulate and lead assorted nation’s leadership and the world population into global tyranny to fulfill the satanic collectivist nightmare of the New World Order. This is the Controller agenda backed by the NAA. This oppressive structure of tyrannical rule will never treat individuals as individuals, it will never recognize the divine right of the unique living soul expression to freely exist on the living soil of planet earth. The planet earth is the macrocosm of our human body and we belong to each other.

The anti-human agenda is to deny the existence of individualism and individual soul, and to refuse to treat people as unique individuals capable of autonomy and self-leadership. To become unified as a species, it requires that we remove the many societal labels and manufactured classifications and be able to see people as unique individuals with their own individual behavior based upon their unique soul blueprint. Individuals should be considered competent based upon their own demonstrated behaviors and personal merits, and to know that all unique souls on the earth belong to the human race and are worthy of respect, dignity and opportunity. Simultaneously, barbaric and cruel behaviors which have been made acceptable within poverty stricken, survival orientated and violent cultures must be corrected through re-education. As well, there must be consequences for violent behavior and that which is directing intentional harm, in an enlightened society that protects freedom and values human lives.

Individualism

Individualism is the knowledge that the individual’s life belongs fully to him or her. That he or she has an incontrovertible right to live their life as they see fit, to act upon their own judgment, to keep and use the product of their own effort, and to pursue the value system of their own choosing. This comprises the idea that the individual is sovereign, an end in himself, and the fundamental basis of deciding the personal values of ethical and moral concern. This is the ideal that the American Founders set forth and sought to establish when they drafted the Declaration and the Constitution and created a country in which the individual’s rights to life, liberty, property, and the pursuit of happiness were to be recognized and protected. When we have a greater knowledge of the energetic alignment made between the American constitution to the Universal Natural Laws, then it becomes clear as to why the secret society band of Controllers have had the agenda to infiltrate, corrupt and destroy it covertly over the last 240 years. As it is the last vestige of legal governmental instruments that support a structure of society that is actually designed to protect human freedoms.

The concept of individualism includes the philosophy or societal perspective that emphasizes the moral worth of every individual, that all human beings deserve to be treated with compassion, dignity and respect. Individualism treats individuals as individuals, giving equal value for the right of each individual to pursue freedom of expression and self-realization, which are critical components for all people to experience personal happiness and spiritual fulfillment. Essentially, individualism as well as humanism, hold value and reverence for humanity and life, even when it generally does not recognize the existence of the soul. The inability to personally know the existence of the soul within, is a blind spot prone to negative ego manipulation. However, classic individualism and humanism are opposed to external methods of interference, such as mind control coercion influencing an individual’s choices, whether made by society, collective groups, government institutions, religious dogma or even a non-human species. Clearly, humanity cannot fully address the true meaning of individualism and humanism until it is recognized and understood that the planet has been subjected to hidden non-terrestrial interference, covert military grade global mind control targeting of its inhabitants, and that this interference has many residual effects against the organic thoughts, beliefs and state of consciousness of the individual.

It is impossible to know what it is to be an authentic human when our planet is subjected to an aggressive and ongoing alien hybridization agenda, shaping human culture to become more hospitable to the master-slave narrative imposed by the handlers. How can humanity pursue concepts of authentic individualism or humanism when it is being covertly exposed to electromagnetic signals and chemicals designed to mind control the population into a destructive, damaged and devolving state of consciousness? Hence, full disclosure must be a part of our true spiritual awakening, as we cannot know our innate human-ness until we can see that we have been subjected to a death culture that is based in slavery and anti-human control.

To preserve our sanity in the world we must find the energetic balance that exists between individual freedom, demands of others, and the conformity of society that exists as a group consciousness, along with the hidden targeting of mind control tactics. Global mind control is designed to fully strip humanity of individualism, autonomy and self-leadership, so these are the very qualities we must value, appreciate and bring into greater focus inside ourselves. In order to empower ourselves to continually expand our consciousness and heighten our personal lightbody frequency during the spiritual ascension process, it is helpful to see this agenda and to develop these qualities in ourselves.

Classic concepts of individualism have been infiltrated with the skewed misconceptions of the negative ego, generating classic egotists in Service to Self, who remain unaware of the anatomy of the soul and consequences of actions that are related to the fact that everything is energy, all is conscious. Many satanic and luciferian cults represent themselves as proponents of individualism, but either secretly pretend to dismiss it or totally ignore the reality of consciousness and intelligent energy. However, the marriage between the concepts of individualism and knowing that everything is governed by blueprints of intelligent energy and consciousness, and that there are consequences to every action, must be synthesized in order to achieve energetic balance between the organic functions of the body, mind and spirit.

Individualism and Gnosis

All individuals have outer organs of perception, as well as inner higher sensory abilities that make it possible to perceive and feel the environment, physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually, and while in this process of integrating life’s experiences, are continually gaining deeper knowledge about the self and the nature of reality. Individuals gain knowledge through a range of life experiences and by consciously participating with the spiritual development path through these direct experiences is called Gnosis. Gnosis is the practical, fact-based knowledge of consciousness that guides us to fulfill our highest potential and directly experience our spiritual connection with Life. It allows us to be a knower of purpose and to feel the source of our innate happiness that is connected to our heart and soul.

All individuals have the capacity to use their mind, but in the controller culture we have not been educated or trained to use our mind for the greater purpose of positive development, gaining knowledge and self-realization. Knowledge is the by-product of the observation, mental integration and the state of consciousness of an individual formed through their perceptions of reality and the self-awareness that has been gained throughout life experiences.

The concept of individualism, as in every person’s life is their own, is critical to comprehend in cultivating the self-knowledge and self-awareness that is gained through Gnosis. Once individualism and the rights for personal autonomy are stripped away, independent and critical thinking are replaced with the authoritarian socially imposed group think, which forms into a hive mind based in collectivism. This prevents the individual from gaining direct knowledge through Gnosis, and is why the Controllers continually push for mind control and use propaganda, for positive promotional marketing for societal structures based in collectivism ideology. To be on the path of Gnosis in order to gain greater self-knowledge, every individual first must take complete ownership over themselves and dedicate themselves with effort, towards building greater personal autonomy and skills of self-leadership.

Personal Autonomy

Personal autonomy is the capacity to make an informed, un-coerced decision for oneself and to pursue that course of action in one’s life, to be self-governing towards free expression as long as these actions do not infringe on others liberties and freedoms to exist as they are. Autonomy is the concept of protecting the right of each individual to develop one’s own unique self, giving them freedom of expression as long as it does not generate harm towards others right to exist. Autonomy allows people to choose for themselves what is in alignment to their interests, and that social structures refrain from infringement of those rights unless they are incapacitated from making choices based on informed consent. When individuals have a concept of personal autonomy, they own their own actions and have the opportunity to live in their personal truth, which builds confidence, critical thinking and strength in their purpose in life. However, as we make informed decisions for ourselves, in some cases we must consider unified cooperation or reasonable interactions that are required to achieve the balance in our decision making, that allows us to develop and exercise our right to live in autonomy while living in a world with many others.

The concept of personal autonomy takes on a multidimensional orientation when recognizing the existence of consciousness as an intelligent energy, along with the structural anatomy of the consciousness bodies of soul, monad and avatar. In this context, personal autonomy is defined as the most coherently harmonized and highest spiritually embodied person, as a station of identity travelling freely on multiple dimensional planes, as autonomy and freedom are the natural state of existence for the eternal living spirit. The complete soul-spirit body infuses the personality to align itself in accordance to the natural laws through synchronistic alignment and natural self-governance by living in truth, as it is. When we are existing as our true selves, our natural state of being aligns us to divine laws, and we are removed from artificial laws and synchronistically self-organized into direct connection with our Source. This means we have removed authority to serve the ego or manmade laws, and instead align to the higher authority of serving our spiritual expression and inner truth based upon the divine laws.

Self-actualization and becoming an authentic human being, knowing the higher identity and divine purpose for unique expression, is the goal of spiritual ascension. Awakening to embody our soul and spirit is to ultimately achieve self-realization into complete personal autonomy governed by our higher consciousness, which grants us spiritual freedom and cosmic citizenship beyond the fetters of time. To achieve self-ownership, one must make the effort to know their innermost selves, understand how their body and consciousness works, and become aware of personal motivations and perceptions that influence their life decisions and quality of lifestyle. To master ourselves on the earth plane is to attain self-mastery, which is the process by which a person may have the freedom to take control over the direction of their own life, body, mind and spirit. To accept personal autonomy or sovereignty over one’s complete self, also means that person must accept self-responsibility no matter what has happened to them. As you increase your use of free will, you also increase the responsibility for your own actions and reactions, taking ownership over your life and the direction of your consciousness body.

Self-Leadership

Any person that has a sphere of influence that impacts others is a leader by default. Whether we want to be a leader or not, many awakening people, Starseeds and Indigos that are spiritually activated now, are leaders by default, as the activated lightbody causes ripple effects that greatly influence other people and the environmental energies. When we have energetic influence over others, we must recognize that we hold a higher responsibility during interactions, as a person that is unaware has less influence in cause and effect, than a person who is activated and awakened beyond others. There can be no competent and integral leaders without that person having made effort towards improving self-leadership skills. Additionally, self-leadership skill sets give one the confidence and strength to manage their stress and improve their lives in a multitude of ways, which is ultimately personally empowering and spiritually strengthening. When we are truly empowered, confident and strong inside ourselves, and we have a strong spiritual connection, we know who we are and cannot be easily mind controlled or manipulated by human or nonhuman forces.

Essentially, self-leadership is an integrated skill set that is formed through deep self-inquiry and reflection, in which a person seeks to know who they really are, what their strengths and weaknesses are. They are working to communicate that honestly with self and others, and are then cultivating personal behaviors that align them to who they really want to be, which is their highest expression. Every person has a unique spiritual blueprint that holds the fundamental basis of what is more natural and aligned for that individual’s unique spiritual expression. When we are able to creatively connect within and express our spiritual blueprint, we are content and happy, we experience meaningful connection and blissful joy in our life. Expressing our spiritual purpose is what makes us truly fulfilled and happy, no matter what is happening in the state of the world we coexist within.

Simultaneously, we must awaken to recognize that we exist in a mind-controlled reality in which every single human has been oppressed, traumatized and derailed from expressing their true spiritual blueprint, as the Controllers attempt to prevent mass awakening and spiritual ascension on the earth. To oppress and derail the spiritual activation and higher purpose of each individual, the main psychological warfare techniques are aimed to incite fear-based thoughts that destroy the concepts of individualism, autonomy and self-leadership in the minds of human beings.

To strengthen spiritually and develop our best qualities, we must accept that life is filled with constant challenges that offer us lessons to grow, and that we cannot fear change or the unknown. We can take these challenges in life and consider them opportunities to develop our self-awareness, self-confidence and self-efficacy in developing skills, so that we can fully actualize our highest spiritual expression. All events in our life have purpose to help us grow and evolve to actualize our spiritual blueprint, and we must remember that nothing is wasted, all is supplied for us to take the opportunity to master ourselves, lead our lives, and actualize our purpose.

In order to move into self-leadership skillsets, the first hurdle is to overcome fear and the mental and emotional triggers we have that descend us into automatic negative reactions. This is because we can never self-lead or be a competent leader for others if we are constantly being triggered by pain, fear or trauma that we have not cleared from ourselves. Triggers will always take control of your mental and emotional body, and will cloud and confuse discernment into impaired decision making. Triggers are also commonly used or played upon by dark force manipulation. They amplify chaos and energy blockages that insert more problems into the situation, while they form etheric attachments into the energetic ball of pain that amplifies the trauma memory. It is highly suggested to revisit the newsletter, Overcoming Fear, for further support.

When we hold awareness of our triggers, then the next step is to become aware of where we place intent, consent and authority. To have integrity and authenticity within our creations, we want to be clear about our personal value system, how we want to hold our intentions for the life we build. When we direct our consciousness energy onto a singular focus or goal, this event produces a powerful and significant force known as intention. When we place attention on cultivating our connection with higher consciousness in order to develop deeper clarity of our truthful intentions, this act towards self-realization conducts the transformation of our energies into the manifestation of whatever we have intended. Consent is an act of the power of the mind to think and understand, to reason and perform careful consideration of participation with something, and to reflect on the consequences of that participation. The proper meaning of consent is a person who exercises sufficient mental capacity to make an intelligent decision that is demonstrated through the genuine willingness of an action. Our placed consent leads into the authority of the forces we interact and commune with in co-creation, so discerning the quality of these forces around us is important, so we do not jump on the bandwagon of those who remain unaware and asleep to the war over consciousness.

Self-Leadership Guideline Quick Summary

Self-Awareness: Become self-aware of strengths and weaknesses through observation and perceiving triggers, clearing out fear-based reactions, and work to clear triggers and remove negative impulses from clouding your discernment and decision making. Pay attention to clear survival fears. As we develop self-awareness, we are developing the right relationship to the self. We cannot know the highest expression of our nature, until we know the deepest inner contents of our own being.

Personal Value System: Choose who you want to be and what your personal value system entails. Then align your thinking and speech to be coherent with your personal value system, while balancing this understanding to nurture emotional needs. Guide your life towards building a lifestyle that reflects your personal value system. Practice generous amounts of self-love, self-acceptance and self-respect to restore personal dignity. Do not listen to naysayers.

Quality of Intention: Consider the intentions and motivations behind your thinking and life goal, which is to actualize your highest expression. When noticing misalignment, make corrections that more fully align to who you want to be. Set all personal intentions to be fully aligned to your highest expression, in service to God/Higher Self.

Consent: Inquire on the consent of the quality of intention, and what forces may be involved in the interactions with others, and adjust actions or decisions for consent accordingly. Consult inner guidance on direction and listen for when to take action. Informed consent is directly related to preserving a human being’s right to self-determination, autonomy and the prevention of abusive conduct. If we are forced to be in consent via participation with a 3D legal instrument, affirm, “I command true spiritual law, all manipulated consent and karmic consequence is made null and void”.

Sphere of Influence: Pay attention to the inner and outer energetic environment. Consider how your decisions and actions may impact or influence others around you, as well as consider the consequences of decisions made upon the future. Notice the response or reaction you may get at any given time from people, places and things, and consider this as feedback from the environment sending you intelligent messages. Utilize this subtle information to make ongoing adjustments accordingly.

Self-Confidence: Confidence comes from deeply knowing yourself and following your personal value system. Be true to yourself in all interactions with others. Learn from lessons or missteps, knowing as we make decisions and take actions, we gain the experience that develops confidence in our abilities to overcome anything. Know that no experience is wasted, all is a valuable learning which may further develop self-confidence. Believe in yourself.

Responsibility and Accountability: Self-leadership develops autonomy, which is taking ownership over choices which leads to greater responsibility and accountability. Taking responsibility for our feelings and taking responsibility for our actions, not expecting others to resolve our conflicts. Hold healthy boundaries without infringing on others boundaries. Accountability encompasses the ethical conduct necessary to model integrity through being answerable to the consequences of one’s choices and actions, especially in regard to the impact made upon others, or impact made to a group, organization or impacts made to planetary resources.

Self-Leadership is essentially an ongoing process of inner self-reflection, emotional self-regulation and outer observation to truly know ourselves, and in the process learning to more deeply understand the motivations and behaviors of those around us, which shapes a more accurate assessment of environments. Self-leadership is the humble process of growing into adulthood or into developed maturation, where we become responsible for ourselves and thus stop blindly giving our authority to others, and giving our power away. Self-leadership is about becoming conscious and awake.

When we are children or lack self-leadership, the natural reaction is to project our authority onto other people, groups, organizations and governments that want to take our power away. In this undeveloped or immature state, we look at these outer influences in the culture that promote dominate authority and then use them to determine our personal belief systems, which establish our sense of moral code and conduct. In our community, projection of authority onto an abuser or abusive system is referred to as the False Parent archetype. The False Parent is a mind control program that is used to condition adults back into an immature state, based on the childhood trauma they experienced with their biological parents, so they will give all of their power and consent in adulthood to the Controller Pillars of Society. While self-leadership focuses on observing and managing the self towards fulfilling the highest expression, leadership focuses more on how one influences others around them.

Leadership by Default during Planetary Crisis

We are enduring a massive paradigm shift on planet earth, with immense pressures accumulating towards revealing disclosure events as the war over consciousness is reaching its pinnacle stage of conflict, that can generate explosive changes in the way we live. Everything we have known and have been told about the nature of reality is to be gradually revealed as a mass deception. Humanity is standing in the crossroads of major transformation and powerful evolutionary changes that are inciting spiritual crisis, and this pressure will continue to mount into an assortment of global humanitarian crises.

Thus, developing emotional competence is mandatory for not only managing stress calmly and progressing in self-leadership, but in developing positive and effective teamwork, professional and strategic leadership models that will be required in order to move through this paradigm shift. With whistleblowers, independent journalists, disclosure teams, experiencers and spiritually awakening people acting as the main platforms of relevant news dissemination of ongoing planetary events, it becomes clear how important self-leadership is. As more people choose to become public figures to help guide the paradigm shift, they should also become aware of their sphere of influence, and recognize that they have become a leader by default. If we are influencing others in this way it becomes important to have increasing levels of personal integrity and trustworthiness, in which all could benefit from directly improving their leadership skills. The spiritual-disclosure-ascension communities are plagued by psychological warfare tactics to incite meaningless dramas that confuse and derail those thrust into the leadership by default position. Thus, to develop improved leadership skillsets would deflect more of the psychological impacts and the targeted electromagnetic attacks that are specifically designed to divide and conquer spiritual communities or disclosure groups.

In the inverted system, most of the leadership examples are filled with people that cannot manage themselves, are lacking self-control and filled with negative ego behaviors, demoralizing their teams, abusing their power and clearly unable to prioritize and use resources wisely. Most poor leadership is the result of a lack of self-awareness combined with emotional incompetence and personal insecurities.

Emotional competence refers to one’s ability to express or release one’s inner feelings and emotions in positive or productive ways. It allows the ease to communicate with other people, the ability to face stressful challenges without indulging in destructive behaviors, and determines one’s ability to effectively and successfully self-lead and communicate in social situations. Emotional competence is an essential social skill to recognize and interpret, including the capacity to respond positively to emotions in ourselves and others. When many people are in desperate states of emotional and spiritual crisis, a leader by default needs to have reasonable levels of compassionate communication and emotional competency skills to navigate group environments.

Real leadership is founded upon a deep appreciation of human potential and human dignity, and in our interpretation, recognizing and cultivating the highest expression within the divinity of each person. When a person is strong in self-leadership, these inner qualities are extended to others in order to appreciate the unique expression, creative potentials while holding dignity and respect for those around them.

Thus, in this collaborative and chaotic environment, training people to become self-leaders, helping to support spiritual group members who are self-aware, setting intent and consent, who can set clear space and take initiative, who are kind and can compassionately communicate to solve problems in any organization or group is more important than ever.

Humanity is evolving into learning how to better function within group consciousness as a byproduct of the paradigm shift during the Ascension Cycle. Thus, many of us are purposefully thrust into situations that involve navigating group consciousness, such as communities, organizations, memberships, professions, and a multitude of other types of group relationships. Many people on the Ascension path are guided into some form of spiritual or consciousness community. This is not only to learn and develop themselves spiritually, but to explicitly gain self-knowledge in how to successfully navigate group dynamics by improving conflict resolution and communication skillsets, without being negatively triggered. We have to learn how to get along with each other peacefully and harmoniously in a group setting, and many of us will be facing these kinds of social challenges now. As we face an array of social challenges, we will be measuring our energetic output and input as forms of available energy, in order to determine what activities expend too much energy, and when we need to conserve energy. Evolving into group consciousness does not mean we become homogenized as a race, it means we give up our intrinsic selfishness and learn how to preserve our individualism, autonomy and be of service to the whole, by respecting and allowing others to be a reflection of our true interconnectedness. This is unified cooperation.

Leadership Vs. Tyranny

We have been intentionally confused to discern the qualities of leadership and authoritative influence over others as defined by egocentric and alpha type of aggressive behaviors, which lead to control oriented and tyrannical oppression. We all want to stay clear of feeding the tyrant as a leader or giving them authority. Tyranny is no substitute for leadership and should never be confused with leadership. We have been conditioned to give our power away to tyrannical psychopaths, so to change the power structure we must become aware of how we have given our personal power away to people and structures that abuse authority.

When we are able to clearly identify control-oriented authority and tyrannical authority based on the negative ego profiles shared here, we are more equipped to discern proper authority patterns when involved with any kind of leadership scenario. Wherever there is an organization or group, there will be some kind of stewardship or responsibility of authority to serve that organizations interest. In the highest expression, we want to learn how to self-lead in a healthy and balanced way through the development of strong moral character and trustworthy traits, that should be modeled through the community or group organization that we may participate with. This way by learning self-mastery or self-leadership skills, one is building confidence in free thinking and free expression while embodying the ethical conduct necessary to become spiritually sovereign. This is the further personal development of individualism, autonomy and self-leadership, while participating in any kind of group consciousness setting.

Otherwise we are mind controlled puppets playing out cycles of archetypes of drama in our negative ego, and like a hamster on a wheel, running in circles of karmic looping and repeating destructive timelines. When we develop improved skills of discerning trustworthiness and competencies in ourselves and others, we develop stronger self-leadership qualities. This helps us to prevent the rewarding of destructive behavior in others, and prevents us from giving authoritative power in any way to those who demonstrate narcissistic and psychopathic behavior.

Discerning Controllers, Tyrants, False King of Tyranny

The NAA and power elite do not want to spiritually heal and thereby integrate into human society as an equal. They want to spite the beauty of the human spirit, and rule humans on the earth with an iron fist of absolute authority, through the Controller archetype of the False King of Tyranny. This archetypal force is also called Patriarchal Domination, which generates a destructive imbalance between the gender principles. The power elite are the group of humans that have been handed the control over the majority of the resources of the planet, in order to carry out the Archontic Deception Strategy that the NAA has put into place to ensure the mind control programming continues to divide and conquer the human population on the earth. This is a self-enforcing system of mind control promoted through all world organizations, to shape ideologies and values based on the Archontic Deception Behaviors of the predator mind of the Negative Aliens. Through its archetypal overlay implanted into the planetary brain with artificial intelligence machinery, humanity has been forced to submit to and worship a False Father Reptilian God through religious violence, atheistic deception and salvationistic theology. (see False Gods).

Leaders Vs. Tyrants

This information is provided to help better discern the qualities of Leadership Vs. Tyranny in group consciousness settings or in any type or organizational structure.

Leaders 

  • Visionary; holds a clear, compelling, well thought-out, and constructive vision for the future. Focused while maintaining broad perspective.
  • Determined; they persistently pursue their goal and are undaunted by obstacles and setbacks.
  • Passionate; remains committed and focused on the goal with heart and soul.
  • Increase trust. Followers are intrinsically motivated and provide enduring support.
  • Enthusiastic and positive. Connected with others. Appreciative.
  • Empathy for others. Humble.
  • Healthy self-esteem. Accurate and realistic self-appraisal. Solicits and accepts feedback and criticism. Has self-leadership skills.
  • Primarily concerned for the cause, the organization, and the people being led.
  • Service to Others. Broadly and ethically principled. Fair and generous.
  • Responsible and accountable for actions.
  • Consistent, reliable, logical, authentic, well adjusted, and emotionally stable.
    Realistic.
  • Listens and dialogues.
  • Respects reciprocity and symmetry.
  • Open, communicative, honest.
  • Concerned with substance and quality.
  • Evidence based. Considerate and kind.
  • High, relevant, consistent, and attainable performance standards.
  • Provides helpful and balanced feedback.
  • Understands boundaries and respects sexual energy.

Tyrant

  • Visionary, but fixated on a narrow view. Narrowly focused. Project success or failure reflects self-worth.
  • Relentless, tenacious, unyielding, rigid, close-minded, dogmatic, and stubborn.
  • Influential; communicates passionately to engage people. Influential, charismatic, captivating, engaging, seductive.
  • Obsessed; the goal is all that matters. It must be achieved at all costs.
  • Increase fear. Followers are extrinsically motivated and support ends when the coercion ends. Often resentment endures.
  • Zealot, self-righteous.
  • Separate from others. Isolated, alone and apart. Elitist.
  • Apathy for others. Arrogant.
  • Low, or fragile-high self-esteem.
  • Egotism, narcissism, or even psychopathic.
  • Inaccurate and Unrealistic self-appraisal.
  • Avoids and rejects criticism and all but overwhelmingly positive feedback.
  • Concerned only for the self. Service to Self.
  • Unprincipled or narrowly principled. Selfish.
  • Irresponsible. Blames others.
  • External Focus of Control.
  • Volatile, whacky, irritable, emotionally unstable.
  • Optimistic but unrealistic.
  • Monologs, lectures, preaches and engages in tirades.
  • Strongly asymmetrical.
  • Secretive, triangulates, dishonest.
  • Concerned with image and appearances.
  • Dominance or fear based.
  • Invasive, intrusive, and obnoxious.
  • Perfectionist, demanding, inconsistent.
  • Critical and demanding. Belittles others.
  • Abuses power through sexual control.

Discern Competence

Leadership competence is successfully meeting an optimum challenge in a group environment, which is similar to the capacity of a basic human need like exerting healthy personal self-control and self-discipline in one’s life. These are requirements of self-mastery before leadership competence in any group environment is possible. By paying attention to consistent and demonstrated behaviors in leadership and having awareness of negative ego, tyrant behaviors, pain body, lack of empathy and other Archontic Deception Behaviors, one can develop much more accurate assessments of group conditions, and therefore have improved discernment. Leaders are humble servants to the people. When the attitude of humble servant is forgotten, the road leading to tyranny is just around the corner.

Tyrants and Controllers have several perceptions and beliefs that are out of balance and potentially destructive.

The mistaken belief that what “I can control fully cannot hurt me” drives the negative ego behavior of many control freaks and tyrants. Others are driven by their internal fear that they will lose control over the situation and the people involved. Their anxiety results from vulnerabilities that the control freak tries to eliminate by controlling every aspect of the environment and the people in it. They try to control every perceived threat, whether it is real or imagined. They lose track of what they can change and what they cannot change, descending even further into destructive behaviors and pathologies. They choose an ineffective approach to cope with their anxiety by attempting to control and manipulate others around them, many times lying, deceiving and cheating to get what they desire.

The consumptive modeling of energy vampirism, through a person that does what they can to exert control over others while manipulating scenarios, is entirely exhausting. Uncontrollable adverse events can often lead to sensations of learned helplessness and extreme mismanaged stress. Control freaks exert control over others in order to prevent feelings of learned helplessness and the feeling of powerlessness. Tyrants attempt to reduce their own fears by removing anyone and anything that may pose a threat to their personal needs, belief systems, or whatever else.

True leadership is not about controlling people, it’s about caring for people and being a useful resource to help guide and develop people to reach their highest selves. The best leaders help people to harmoniously work together and do their best to inspire the group to achieve an important goal. Their actions are focused on accomplishing goals through unified cooperation, as a team effort, because working together as a group accomplishes much more than one person can do alone. Leadership is about helping people to find their highest expression in the process of attaining a goal, it is not about glorifying the leader. Tyrants do not serve others and humble servants do not control.

Why is Self-Leadership Important?

Comprehending self-leadership and discerning true leadership qualities are important factors in how you lead and direct your own life, setting your course and cultivating personal fulfillment and joy through finding spiritual purpose. Some people are born with a blueprint that helps them to become natural leaders, while others can cultivate these qualities by desiring to improve themselves and their lives through expressing more joy, meaning and purpose. Self-leadership is directly related to personal spiritual development, to know thyself. By having greater self-awareness, personal values and self-confidence, you will better discern others deeper motivations and not blindly follow other people and organizations that abuse power and authority. By understanding our own unique gifts, being honest about personal strengths and weaknesses, and being willing to learn lessons through day to day experiences, we gain immense clarity and knowledge about the interactions we have in every area of our lives. This clarity allows us to prioritize and find single-minded focus for the things that we truly value, and through our direct focus and attention, want to create more of in building a rewarding lifestyle.

The current culture wars are using aggressive mind control tactics to purposely attack individualism, autonomy and self-leadership, to cultivate a generation of non-critical thinkers who automatically follow collectivism, heteronomy (coercion), and blind obedience to another level of global tyranny. This culture war is being marketed through the acceptable mainstreaming of satanism, as many are unaware that the roots of these slavery ideologies are indeed satanic. With this in mind, it is worth reflecting on the current macrocosm of world events, and noting how these many mainstream influences may impact your personal life.

  • What do I believe in and give value to in my life?
  • What are my strengths and weaknesses, what can I improve?
  • Where am I going?
  • Am I able to withstand discomfort in order to make the changes required to be my highest self?

When enduring times of great turmoil that can act as a spiritual catalyst, this is when we undergo tests of moral character, tests of self-awareness in order to refine and distill the purity of our inner spiritual essence. In these challenging stages, we may be met with an increased sensation of dark entity attacks, astral related phenomena, victimizer programming, audio inserts of self-doubt dialogues, all related to perpetuating fear-based programming out to the masses. The intensity of these experiences can help us to better comprehend the self-mastery we must develop over the hidden shadow aspects, as we rise above the fear in order to propel ourselves forward to another stage of spiritual awakening, to arrive at inner clarity.

Please only take what is useful for your spiritual growth and discard all the rest. Thank you for your courage and bravery to be a truth seeker. I am God, Sovereign, Free!

Until next, stay in the luminosity of your Avatar Christos Sophia heart path. Please be kind to yourself and each other. GSF!

With a Loving heart, Lisa.

 

~via EnergeticSynthesis.com – Shifting Timelines – March 2019

VEIL OF REALITY: “Love Bite Plus — Panel Discussion on Paranormal Interferences In Human Love Relationships”

Ascension Avatar note: Got 3+ hours to burn? I certainly didn’t, but thankfully, have never allowed anyone or anything into my life describing this scenario… and never will! 

By Bernhard Guenther

We have completed a 3 hour and 22 minute Panel Discussion on The Love Bite and The Dark Side of Cupid topic (October 17th, 2015). This is the most comprehensive discussion yet available on the internet on the theme of paranormal interference in human love relationships.

Panel Discussion participants:
 Eve Lorgen, James Bartley, Laura Leon, Bernhard Guenther, Carissa Conti, Tom Montalk, Arella Eliora.

We covered many topics, shared our experiences, research, pathways towards healing, protection and much more.


Discussion Bulletin Points:

  • The history of how the term “alien love bite” came about.
  • The alien love bite and the Dark Cupid “love bite” symptoms.
  • The targeting aspect of Dark Side of Cupid connections.
  • Obsessive aspect of the love bite, love and drug attachment extremes.
  • How the love bite can trigger life threatening conditions.
  • How ETs/aliens handlers keep us in states of prolonged isolation where emotional needs go unmet, thus setting us up for love bite relationships.
  • Trust issues, intimacy issues as a result of abduction histories.
  • The inverse of the Love Bite—disrupting true love and how its not unusual for truth seeking abductees.
  • How others connected to the “abductee” can be manipulated to keep the abductee from awakening.
  • The Predator vs Prey set up in Love Bite/Dark Cupid.
  • One of the persons, the “prey victim” is usually more spiritually evolved because essentially they are being targeted.
  • How the Predator in the duo tends to have Narcissistic traits or personality disordered. How the predator can mirror our needs so well. Sexual attraction high. How both the Predator and the Prey are both empathic and psychic.
  • How it feels like one is under a spell and the “red flags” of true intuition get overridden.
  • How some people are groomed to be addicts of love.
  • How the predator types are acting like “organic portals”, puppet people and are very destructive. Some predators are possessed by high level entities and demons, psychic vampires.
  • Many victims of the DSOC were literally targeted by sorcerers, “hosts” for inter dimensional entities.
  • How true soul sparks or Twin Flame true love partners will be targeted to be set up in counterfeit “twin flame love bites” so that they don’t meet the real soul mate partner. How to tell if its a real twin flame versus the imposter love bite.
  • Many online Twin Flame web sites, forums, gurus are actually part of the parasite/predator program to keep and ensnare people in love bites. How difficult it is to “deprogram” people from the belief in their twin flame when the red flags of a love bite are glaring at them. Denial.
  • Cult leaders especially dangerous and often are hosted by parasitic beings who encourage and set up love bites in masse. (octopus head feeders)
  • The feelings of when your own intuition is being overridden, like you are in a trance but somehow just “go along with it”.
  • Our bodies can react with psychosomatic symptoms when we have invasive negative energy beings invading our energy bodies. Dark beings should be incompatible with our frequency hence unusual physical symptoms or pain.
  • Sexual interaction the most potent form of energy transfer between two people and with entities.
  • Some fractured people are groomed to be “empty vessels” and puppets for mind control agendas that may play out in love bite scenarios.
  • False timeline reality creation, through “black magic like” rituals can bring in dark beings, and cause a true destiny distortion, and a love bite instead of “true love”.
  • Love spells can yield love bites.
  • Solar plexus chakra affected in many love bites, where our will is weakened
  • Childhood wounding can contribute to vulnerability to love bites, and also be the source of great learning and healing.
  • Drug use can open one up to entity possession, unhealed wounds, fracturing of personality.
  • Narcissists and entity possession often go hand in hand.
  • How the narcissist uses blame, projection, shame, guilt and punishing tactics.
  • How you cannot rationally communicate to a narcissist because they twist, blame, shame and project so much it’s futile. Just disengage.
  • Healing discussion in love bite situations.
  • Self-awareness and self-correction necessary to re connect with spirit and intuition.

 

~via HowToExitTheMatrix.com

THE MINDS JOURNAL: “10 Signs You Have A Toxic Partner Who Will Try To Take Away Your Happiness”

One form of love, which is considered the most frequent, is, unfortunately, toxic love. This love appears as a result of insecurity or fear, and it does not do favors to anyone.

Our environment will become even more toxic when we get attached more and more to those people that are wrong for us. Toxic people have the ability to drain us of our happiness, regardless of the fact if we allow that or not. These people build their toxic relationships on an unstable foundation.

Here, we will present you some sign which indicated that you might be in such a relationship, or signs which suggest that you are with a toxic partner. You will definitely need a change when you notice these signs because toxic people and relationships cannot be suitable for every one of us.

10 Signs You Have A Toxic Partner Who Will Try To Take Away Your Happiness

 

1. You are not a priority.

Sorry about this, but when you are not your partner’s priority now, you will never be. He or she has to hold you on the identical standard they hold themselves. Refusing to do that will be a sign that you have to move on, as you deserve a lot more.

2. They’re always blaming you for their mistakes.

The mistakes they made cannot be yours; they have to be prepared for everything they say or do. You should never be blamed for their own mistakes. Toxic people are obsessed with the idea of bringing other people down, especially those that they are closest with.

3. They have serious double principles and standards.

These people believe that they can do everything, while their partners are not allowed to do those same things. For example, you would like to go outside and spend some time together with friends, and in the same time, your partner is also with his friends; however, they will refuse that right when you ask them. Remember that they see you just as their property and not as their loved one.

4. They don’t like your loved ones.

Usually, toxic people will not really like the ones that really matter to you. They will not like that idea as those that care about you will normally see their true self. In fact, toxic people hate this, so they are going to try hard in order to keep you far from your loved ones.

5. They disrespect your boundaries.

Toxic people will never respect your limits, and they are always going to do something or force you into certain things which you wouldn’t like to do. As a result of this, you will find yourself in uncomfortable situations, which are not supposed to happen.

6. They always make you feel sad.

They seem like they try their best in order to bring those that love them down. Toxic people will not support those around them, but they will tear those people apart. For example, when you are happy about something, they are going to everything in order to ruin your happiness. This pleases them after all.

7. They tend to lie to you a lot.

So, for some unknown reasons, toxic people feel good when they lie. So, they are going to lie you about something that is insignificant and goes too far in order to reach their goal, which is making you feel terrible. Remember that you cannot trust someone you love although you would like to do it with your whole heart.

8. They won’t give you a space for yourself.

Toxic people never allow their partners to have their personal space. For example, having your personal space means having time to reflect and think, and thinking well may make you come to the decision of leaving your partner. These people love crossing boundaries, so when you do something without their permission, they will be furious.

9. They attempt to control you.

These people adore controlling you, and not only you but every single thing in life. This type of control means the ultimate superpower for them. Just said, they would like to have the ability to control you and make you do what they want you to do. They are going to cut ties when they see that they are not able to control you.

10. They don’t care about your necessities.

These people are never going to listen to you or care about your own necessities. They are selfish people, so they don’t want to worry about you or about everything you need. They practice only self-care, although you may be in a relationship for a long time.

 

~via TheMindsJournal.com

MICHELLE WALLING: “11 Signs That You May Need A Soul Shard Retrieval”

Traumatic physical and emotional events can cause shards or pieces of our soul’s energy to fragment away. Soul loss is a mechanism which serves to protect us from unbearable suffering. These soul shards usually return back after a few hours or even days, but in some extreme cases these shards can stay fragmented. Soul shards can also be caused by a psychic attack from someone practicing black magic on us.

When we have an emotional trauma happen to us, we actually may leave a part of our energy “frozen” in that time or moment. This keeps us from actually being able to feel better and move on. If we do not “heal” or retrieve our energy several things can happen to these soul shards, but mostly they fall into these categories:

—A shard can become an entity of its own, a copy of you. This entity could wander off into the astral realms and eventually forget where it came from. This entity could eventually need an energy source, which could cause it to use the original soul and physical body to get energy in many ways.

—A shard can be captured in the etheric realms by Artificial Intelligence and used to siphon energies from other humans or to create new realities.

—A shard can just sit outside of the original body, perhaps on the shoulder or back. It can remotely influence the person’s thoughts but cannot fully return. One of these Shards can actually get so used to being the puppeteer that it does not want to integrate back at all.

I would say that almost everyone on Earth has had a traumatic event happen to them. Their ability to process emotions and to feel supported depends on how whether they can process and integrate the energy back. I would also say that this hi-jacked reality causes trauma to occur that tried to keeps us fragmented for the purpose of energy vampirism.

Here are 11 signs that you may need a soul shard retrieval:

1. You feel a bit spaced out or don’t feel fully present all the time.

2. You have lost your creative spark.

3. You have addictions and/or self destructive behaviors.

4. You have become a recluse and you prefer to be alone, but your physical body/ego/human self yearns for love. You cannot feel love or have never “fallen in love”.

5. You have borderline or full on psychopathy or narcissism. Most of the time someone will have tried to point this out to you.

6. You feel that your soul is not connected to your physical body. You also have difficulties connecting with your higher self.

7. People tell you that you say things but you do not remember saying them.

8. You think you might have multiple personalities.

9. You have relationship and communication issues.

10. You feel powerless.

11. You have a negative psychological habit you just can’t seem to break.

How to retrieve soul shards

First let me say that the positive aspect of this interactive matrix is the ability to have opportunities for healing as you live every scenario out that unfolds in your daily reality. Also, even extreme cases of fragmentation can be handled by experienced shamans, but eventually we will have technology that will be able to help us heal very quickly. Soul fragmentation has been happening for aeons and there is no one way to do this type of healing. I would say that this is one of the most important things we can work on for ourselves.

To start the healing process, the intention by speaking a prayer or mantra to begin to call any split shards you think you might have home to you. Call out to your higher self, guides, and Source connection for assistance. In your mantra, magnetize any splintered shards of your soul back to you, intend that they be cleansed, and imagine integrating them into your heart space. Ask Source that this be accomplished with ease and grace. This will create the energy in motion for you to begin to recognize what needs attention.

Many people need further assistance with soul shard retrieval through hypnosis. This, of course, requires that the hypnotized subject’s higher self guides them to that trauma so that it can be healed.

Personally, I created my own life review where I spent a few days in reflective meditation and re-visited the many traumatic things that had happened to me in this lifetime. I felt the emotion of the event and I also saw the event from the other person’s perspective. I then felt love and forgiveness for the person, realizing that it was only their wounded selves lashing out at me and not their true soul essence. Some of the things occurred as lessons for my soul growth yet my ego was lashing out as a victim, which caused unnecessary arguments and trauma. A lot of tears were shed in this process but in the end I felt more healed. This process was suggested by my higher self after asking for help. This is often the ” shadow work” that people find the hardest to do. Recognizing the shadow or darkness as a part of ourselves and healing through love and acceptance of experience, forgiveness, and soul growth magically reverses the polarity of the trauma’s energy and magnetizes it back to you.

Advanced soul shard retrievals can be assisted by experienced “seers” or tracker shamans who will be able to identify the status and location of the lost shard. If it is being held prisoner, it will need to be rescued and sometimes a fight literally ensues. If it has become its own personality or entity, it will need to understand that it is not whole and needs to be healed and integrated.

All energy will need to be cleansed before being integrated back to the whole of the person. Love and golden Source light works really well. Once all soul shards have been retrieved, one begins to become more “whole” and re-gains their connection to their “oneness” or Source.

Ancient tradition shamans use sacred plants to induce the person to “face their demons” so to speak. In my opinion this is a harsh way, but I can’t disregard it because it’s better than ignoring the issues. However, ejecting yourself into the astral can be a very daunting and dangerous task, especially if you haven’t changed a lot of your polarity from fear to love. You also are out there trudging around with other people’s shadow selves and wounded self creations! With a really good shaman and with a more advanced conscious awareness of the process, many people have reported good results with healings with The Mother.

The more awareness we have about soul shard retrieval, the more experienced healers are surfacing to help humanity heal themselves with more current methods.

I have focused on current lifetime healing rather than previous lifetimes because time does not actually exist. Anything from a past lifetime can be accessed in the now and probably only occurred in this lifetime because it already occurred in a past lifetime. On top of that, new fractures probably occurred in this lifetime. However, past life regression and healing can also heal maladies that are manifesting in the present lifetime. It seems easier to me to look at this current reality unfold and to see that things happen concurrently with the “past”, but many people are able to remember their past lifetimes. If that is the case then it can be accessed there. Also, much of what is set up for us in this lifetime actually leads to opportunity for soul shard retrieval even if we do not recognize it as such!

Furthermore, there may be soul retrieval occurring on solar, galactic, and universal levels as well. Rather than get too caught up in the expanse of this, you can focus on starting with your intentions to heal, ask for guidance, and do your basic mantras and then identify what is left from there based on how you are feeling and how your reality is unfolding. I would say that this is a gradual and ongoing process rather than a quick overnight fix.

This article in intended to be an introduction to this topic. If you feel a resonance to this material, please do your own research and ask your inner guidance what the best method of action is to retrieve your energy. The more we work on ourselves to become whole, the more we can help the collective. We are getting more help now than ever in doing the “work” necessary to become our true multidimensional selves once again.

 

~via HowToExitTheMatrix.com

ALETHEIA LUNA: “Being Spiritual Doesn’t Mean Sh*t If You Can’t Hold Space for Others”

“If we ever hope to grow at a deep level and feel authentically connected to others, we need to learn how to hold space for both ourselves and others.”

~Aletheia Luna

 

So, here’s the thing. We might do Instagram-perfect yoga. We might meditate for at least an hour a day. We might pray. Say mantras. Do mudras. Send love to the world. We might have a hoard of crystals and other spiritual trinkets. We might do elaborate daily rituals, eat a cruelty-free whole food diet, and fast every month. We might burn incense, smile all day, say affirmations, and say “love and light” or “namaste” a lot. We might call ourselves spiritual seekers, healers, empaths, intuitives, old souls, or yogis.

But in my humble opinion, all of this doesn’t mean sh*t if we can’t show compassion and be there for others.

The Hypocrisy of Saccharine Spirituality

Firstly, I want to start by saying that I am by no means innocent. I have judged others before, turned a blind eye, shown unkindness, and committed spiritual bypassing — all while under the self-designated label of being “spiritual.”

I think to some extent, we all have. That is why I feel that the topic of this article is so important to cover — hypocrisy is something that we’re all capable of. The tendency is latent within each and every one of us. And I think we all need to understand and work to be aware of that.

But there are some things in life that tend to trigger, bring out, and exacerbate this hypocrisy. In this case, I am referring to a certain popular variety of spirituality. I call it Saccharine Spirituality — and it is a type of spirituality that is defined by a sickly sweet emphasis on “good vibes only” and “love and light” without much depth or real-life rawness.

Saccharine spirituality is the type of spirituality out there that involves worshiping the “feel-good” and “high vibe,” but actively avoids, denies, or shuns anything negative and uncomfortable. Saccharine spirituality is all about feeling empowered, developing self-love, and celebrating forms of spirituality that look good on the surface — but at the same time, it produces a phobia of anything too real, too emotionally challenging, too blood-and-dirt, too “unawakened” or “low vibe.”

And it doesn’t take much to see that saccharine spirituality is alive and thriving more than ever. We can literally see it everywhere: on social media, in real life, and in all spiritual and religious spheres.

I first witnessed saccharine spirituality growing up in the Christian church I was raised in. I remember how the church abandoned, passively shunned, and ignored one of the women who had been attending the church for 20+ years. This woman’s husband had been prosecuted for child molestation and was going to prison. I was the only one who spoke to this gentle soul, despite the fact that we were all supposed to be “brothers and sisters in Christ.”

I now witness this type of abandonment and hypocrisy in the spiritual realm.

I hear and witness self-described sensitive “empaths” show an extraordinary lack of empathy and self-entitled judgment towards others.

I watch “old souls” tear each other apart like animals.

I see spiritual seekers ostracize and react harshly to any person who thinks critically.

I look on as “healers” rush to fix, ignore, predict, or diagnose the suffering of others.

I watch as “psychics/mystics/witches/yogis” (*insert spiritual label here*) love talking and posting about themselves, but ignore meeting others on a deep level.

I’m sorry. I don’t care if you’re a talented healer or psychic. I’m not interested in whether you’re a self-identified empath or spiritual seeker. I don’t want to hear about how much mystical power or intuitive prowess you have. Being spiritual doesn’t mean sh*t if you can’t hold space for people.

What Does Holding Space Mean?

Holding space is very simple. It means being completely present with another person. Holding space means giving another the opportunity to be completely heard, seen, and understood. I’m not talking about trying to fix, give advice to, or pathologize the other person — when I say holding space, I mean it in the most simple way possible: just being 100% there for the person, without trying to change or force advice onto them.

To witness another person and be completely receptive to what they have to share is scarcely practiced. How often have you felt deeply heard, seen, and understood by another? How often has someone sat down with you and genuinely asked: “Hey, share with me how you feel” and held space for all your joy or sorrow? If you’re like most people: pretty rarely.

It’s no wonder that most of us are so emotionally starved. It’s no wonder that most of us are so desperate to be seen.

In a world full of stress, incessant business, emotional isolation, and self-absorption, holding space for someone is the most precious gift you can give. That is why I say that being spiritual doesn’t mean shit without this one important practice. Who cares if you possess extrasensory gifts or can meditate for six hours straight? Who cares if you have deep self-knowledge or can enter alternate planes of consciousness at will?

If you can’t bring those skills into your life in a down-to-earth way, they mean nothing.

If you can’t practically apply them in the blood-and-grit of daily life, they mean nothing.

If you can’t connect or show kindness to others, they mean nothing.

If you can’t sit down with a person and ask “Hi. How are you really?” and actually listen wholeheartedly, don’t even bother.

In the end, if your brand of spirituality encourages self-absorption and a superficial feel-good denial of other’s pain, it’s a waste of time.

“Your pain, your sorrow, your doubts, your longings, your fearful thoughts: they are not mistakes, and they are not asking to be ‘healed.’ They are asking to be held.” ~Jeff Foster

 

How to Hold Space for People

Holding space is about giving space.

Too often we jump to the part where we want to fix, instruct, or heal the person — or even worse, hog the conversation, talk about ourselves, and “one-up” the other person’s pain. But the truth is, most people (including ourselves) are just looking for a person who will sit with them in all of their joy or misery, and BE.

Mindful presence is the core of what holding space means. In other words, holding space means that we simply sit with a person and give them our undivided attention in the spirit of kindness.

“Undivided attention!?” you may think, “I don’t have the energy to do that!” Don’t worry. I realize that holding space for others isn’t always possible. You’re not alone. If you’re anything like me, your energy reserves are very limited. So it’s unrealistic to expect ourselves to always hold space for others, especially when we are tired, stressed, or sick. In which case, don’t be a martyr. Take care of yourself. Have a break. Step away. Have a nap. Top up your energy reservoir.

But if you’re still struggling to hold space for others, there might be a deeper underlying issue that you need to work through.

For example, do you often feel yourself talking over or interrupting others? Do most of your conversations center around your issues, thoughts, and feelings? Do you feel uncomfortable when others get too emotional? Do you find deep topics of conversation unsettling? These are all signs that you aren’t holding space for yourself. In such a case… how can you hold space for others when you aren’t holding space for yourself?

If we ever hope to grow at a deep level and feel authentically connected to others, we need to learn how to hold space for both ourselves and others.

Here’s how to do that.

Holding space for ourselves and others:

1. Mindfully tune into yourself

How can you become receptive and open to others without doing the same for yourself? Tuning into your thoughts and feelings is a practice called mindfulness. It requires you to become curious about what is going on inside of you. And to do that, you’ll need to slow down and breathe a little. Ask yourself, “How am I feeling at the moment?” “What type of thoughts/stories are running through my head?” Also be attentive to your body and notice whatever sensation, ache, or pain you feel. Simply note how you feel and move on with your day. If you need help doing this, I highly recommend that you use an app I use called ‘Calm’ — it will motivate you to develop mindfulness as a skill.

2. Be transparent with yourself

Express how you feel in an authentic way. Allow yourself to be seen by yourself. To do this, find a notebook or journal that you can dedicate to your thoughts and feelings. Journaling every day about what is worrying or concerning you will create more clarity in your life. Not only that but when you make this therapeutic tool a habit, you will feel more emotionally balanced and capable of truly holding space for others.

3. Release pent-up emotions

Don’t allow your emotions to build up inside of you. Find healthy outlets to express them such as through artwork, intense exercise, catharsis, or simply having a good cry. When we are motivated to “help” others out of the need to relieve our own internal discomfort, we’re not being kind. We’re not being empathetic. We’re just not. Instead, we are using others as a way to feel better about ourselves. Finding a safe form of catharsis will allow you to be calm and centered enough to show compassionate attentiveness to yourself and others.

4. Learn to listen more than talk

Master the art of listening. If you are a person who is used to chattering away, experiment with being quiet and allowing others to talk. How do you feel when you don’t talk so much? You might feel a sense of relief, or alternatively, you might feel unseen or ignored. Journal about these feelings. If you feel uncomfortable with allowing others to speak more than you, ask yourself “why?” In what ways are you depending on others to be seen and understood, rather than yourself? Practicing active listening involves making eye contact, letting others speak uninterrupted, indicating that you understand what the person is saying, and listening without judgment.

5. Let your mind be like water

Listen to other people without forming responses in your mind. How often has someone shared something interesting, and you miss the rest of what they say because you’re too busy constructing a clever/insightful reply? It’s tempting to fill the spaces in conversations with thoughts. After all, our minds think around 800 words per minute, compared to 125-150 words we speak per minute. But experiment with listening wholeheartedly to what a person says. If thoughts come into your mind, gently refocus your mind on what the person is saying. Then, after the person has stopped talking, give yourself a few seconds to gather thoughts, then respond. I promise that your response will be much more engaging and interesting to the other person because you have gathered all the nuances and details (instead of prematurely forming a response).

6. Let compassion guide you

The purpose of holding space for another isn’t to be a saint. It isn’t to be a martyr. It is to be entertained or to get karmic brownie points. To hold space for a person is an act of compassion, an expression of love for another human being. It not only makes you feel good, but it also makes the other person feel seen, heard, and understood. What could be more precious than that?

7. Practice with a friend or family member

An easy way to practice holding space is to schedule time every week with someone close to you, and to exchange mindful presence with each other. Notice how it feels to be completely received by another person. Imagine giving that to others on a regular basis!

8. Know your limits and take self-responsibility

Are you tired, cranky, overwhelmed, or otherwise incapable of holding space for another? Relax. It’s normal and 100% fine to feel that way. But make sure that you take responsibility for how you feel.

Final Thoughts

Holding space for others doesn’t mean that you have to be a pushover, doormat, or unnecessarily submissive person. Sometimes you will need to hold space for yourself more than others. Sometimes you will enter long periods of life where you are incapable of being present with others. That is normal. Not all of us can be Eckhart Tolle 24/7. So do the compassionate thing and draw a line. Learn to say a gentle no to others and be OK with it. If someone is becoming overly clingy or needy, be assertive, draw clear boundaries, and step away in a firm but caring manner. It is OK to be selective about who you hold space for, particularly if you dislike the person and struggle to stay present with them. (Hey, we’re all human!)

You might also be short on time, but still wish to hold space for another. In this case, explain to the other that you only have a couple of minutes to spare, or set another date and time to catch up.

Remember, holding space needs to come out of a place of compassion and the desire to help others be seen, heard, and understood. If you are doing it out of obligation, pressure, or duty, take a step back. Change course. Do something else.

The most important ingredient for holding space for another is the ability to hold space for yourself. By genuinely taking the time to wholeheartedly listen to your inner thoughts and feelings, you will be better equipped to show the same to others.

Spirituality is not just about learning to love ourselves. It is also about learning to extend that love and care to others in a down-to-earth way. One of the best and easiest ways to do that is by simply listening to others. You don’t need to always give them pep talks. You don’t need to always rush to prescribe a solution to their problems. Often, what people need the most is just a person who is receptive enough to simply listen without judgment.

To be completely seen, heard, and understood in the presence of another living soul is one of the most healing forces in the world. I hope you take the time to share this gift with others.

 

~via LonerWolf.com