LUMINITA D. SAVIUC: “15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy”

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“The most important thing is to enjoy your life — to be happy — it’s all that matters.” 

~Audrey Hepburn

 

Here is a list of 15 things which, if you give up on them, will make your life a lot easier and much, much happier.  We hold on to so many things that cause us a great deal of pain, stress and suffering — and instead of letting them all go, instead of allowing ourselves to be stress free and happy — we cling on to them.  Not anymore.  Starting today we will give up on all those things that no longer serve us, and we will embrace change.  Ready?  Here we go:

1. Give up your need to always be right

There are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being wrong — wanting to always be right — even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others.  It’s just not worth it.  Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question:

“Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?”  ~Wayne Dyer

What difference will that make?  Is your ego really that big?

2. Give up your need for control

Be willing to give up your need to always control everything that happens to you and around you — situations, events, people, etc.  Whether they are loved ones, coworkers, or just strangers you meet on the street — just allow them to be.  Allow everything and everyone to be just as they are and you will see how much better will that make you feel.

“By letting it go it all gets done.  The world is won by those who let it go.  But when you try and try, the world is beyond winning.”  ~Lao Tzu

3. Give up on blame

Give up on your need to blame others for what you have or don’t have, for what you feel or don’t feel.  Stop giving your powers away and start taking responsibility for your life.

4. Give up your self-defeating self-talk

Oh my.  How many people are hurting themselves because of their negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating mindset?  Don’t believe everything that your mind is telling you — especially if it’s negative and self-defeating.  You are better than that.

The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly.  Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive.  ~Eckhart Tolle

5. Give up your limiting beliefs

Give up your limiting beliefs about what you can or cannot do, about what is possible or impossible.  From now on, you are no longer going to allow your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place.  Spread your wings and fly!

A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind.  ~Elly Roselle

6. Give up complaining

Give up your constant need to complain about those many, many, maaany things — people, situations, events that make you unhappy, sad and depressed.  Nobody can make you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to.  It’s not the situation that triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it.  Never underestimate the power of positive thinking.

7. Give up the luxury of criticism

Give up your need to criticize things, events or people that are different than you.  We are all different, yet we are all the same.  We all want to be happy, we all want to love and be loved and we all want to be understood.  We all want something, and something is wished by us all.

8. Give up your need to impress others

Stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not just to make others like you.  It doesn’t work this way.  The moment you stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not, the moment you take off all your masks, the moment you accept and embrace the real you, you will find people will be drawn to you, effortlessly.

9. Give up your resistance to change

Change is good.  Change will help you move from A to B.  Change will help you make improvements in your life and also the lives of those around you.  Follow your bliss, embrace change — don’t resist it.

Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls.  ~Joseph Campbell

10. Give up labels

Stop labeling those things, people or events that you don’t understand as being weird or different and try opening your mind, little by little.  Minds only work when open.

The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about.  ~Wayne Dyer

11. Give up on your fears

Fear is just an illusion, it doesn’t exist — you created it.  It’s all in your mind.  Correct the inside and the outside will fall into place.

The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself.  ~Franklin D. Roosevelt

12. Give up your excuses

Send them packing and tell them they’re fired.  You no longer need them.  A lot of times we limit ourselves because of the many excuses we use.  Instead of growing and working on improving ourselves and our lives, we get stuck, lying to ourselves, using all kind of excuses – excuses that 99.9% of the time are not even real.

13. Give up the past

I know, I know.  It’s hard.  Especially when the past looks so much better than the present and the future looks so frightening, but you have to take into consideration the fact that the present moment is all you have and all you will ever have.  The past you are now longing for — the past that you are now dreaming about – was ignored by you when it was present.  Stop deluding yourself.  Be present in everything you do and enjoy life.  After all life is a journey not a destination.  Have a clear vision for the future, prepare yourself, but always be present in the now.

14. Give up attachment

This is a concept that, for most of us is so hard to grasp and I have to tell you that it was for me too, (it still is) but it’s not something impossible.  You get better and better at with time and practice.  The moment you detach yourself from all things, (and that doesn’t mean you give up your love for them — because love and attachment have nothing to do with one another,  attachment comes from a place of fear, while love… well, real love is pure, kind, and self less, where there is love there can’t be fear, and because of that, attachment and love cannot coexist) you become so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and so serene.  You will get to a place where you will be able to understand all things without even trying.  A state beyond words.

15. Give up living your life to other people’s expectations

Way too many people are living a life that is not theirs to live.  They live their lives according to what others think is best for them, they live their lives according to what their parents think is best for them, to what their friends, their enemies and their teachers, their government and the media think is best for them.  They ignore their inner voice, that inner calling.  They are so busy with pleasing everybody, with living up to other people’s expectations, that they lose control over their lives.  They forget what makes them happy, what they want, what they need… and eventually they forget about themselves.   You have one life — this one right now — you must live it, own it, and especially don’t let other people’s opinions distract you from your path.

 

 

 

Luminita, the Founder of PurposeFairy.com, is an enthusiastic student of the arts, psychology, and spirituality. Her acclaimed blog post,15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy , was shared by over 1.3 million people on Facebook. Later on, it became the heart of her book, 15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy., book that was published by Penguin Random House. For more details check out the 15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy Book Page.

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INSPIRATION FOR THE DAY ~ Luminita D. Saviuc: “27 Life Changing Lessons to Learn from Nikola Tesla”

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Known as the genius that lit the world, Nikola Tesla inspired nations to come together in the name of peace and science. And he also inspired me to write this post. As a visionary far ahead of his time, Nikola Tesla has become for me, a source of inspiration and great wisdom. And today I would like to share with you 27 of the many lessons I have learned from this incredible man.

Enjoy 🙂

1. Science can make more progress by studying the non-physical phenomena.

“The day science begins to study non-physical phenomena, it will make more progress in one decade than in all the previous centuries of its existence.” ~ Nikola Tesla

2. Your body is a priceless gift.

“Everyone should consider his body as a priceless gift from one whom he loves above all, a marvelous work of art, of indescribable beauty, and mystery beyond human conception, and so delicate that a word, a breath, a look, nay, a thought may injure it.” ~ Nikola Tesla

3. If you want to find the secrets of the universe, think in terms of energy, frequency and vibration.

“If you want to find the secrets of the universe, think in terms of energy, frequency and vibration.” ~ Nikola Tesla

4. Genius requires solitude.

“Be alone, that is the secret of invention; be alone, that is when ideas are born.” ~ Nikola Tesla

“Most persons are so absorbed in the contemplation of the outside world that they are wholly oblivious to what is passing on within themselves.”

5. The brain is only a receiver.

“My brain is only a receiver, in the Universe there is a core from which we obtain knowledge, strength and inspiration. I have not penetrated into the secrets of this core, but I know that it exists.” ~ Nikola Tesla

6. The gift of mental power comes from God.

“The gift of mental power comes from God, Divine Being, and if we concentrate our minds on that truth, we become in tune with this great power. My Mother had taught me to seek all truth in the Bible.” ~ Nikola Tesla

7. Instinct transcends knowledge.

“Instinct is something which transcends knowledge. We have, undoubtedly, certain finer fibers that enable us to perceive truths when logical deduction, or any other willful effort of the brain, is futile.” ~ Nikola Tesla

8. The more we know, the more ignorant we become.

“It is paradoxical, yet true, to say, that the more we know, the more ignorant we become in the absolute sense, for it is only through enlightenment that we become conscious of our limitations.” ~ Nikola Tesla

9. If the hate of men could be turned into electricity, it would light up the whole world.

“If your hate could be turned into electricity, it would light up the whole world.” ~ Nikola Tesla

10. If you can imagine it, you can achieve it.

“My method is different. I do not rush into actual work. When I get an idea I start at once building it up in my imagination. I change the construction, make improvements, and operate the device entirely in my mind.” ~ Nikola Tesla

11. When natural inclination develops into a passionate desire, one advances towards his goal in seven-league boots.

“When natural inclination develops into a passionate desire, one advances towards his goal in seven-league boots.” ~ Nikola Tesla

12. Life is a mystery to be lived.

“Life is and will ever remain an equation incapable of solution, but it contains certain known factors.”

13. Our virtues and our failings are inseparable.

“Our virtues and our failings are inseparable, like force and matter. When they separate, man is no more” ~ Nikola Tesla

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14. Misunderstandings are always caused by the inability of appreciating another’s point of view.

“Fights between individuals, as well as governments and nations, invariably result from misunderstandings in the broadest interpretation of this term. Misunderstandings are always caused by the inability of appreciating one another’s point of view.”

15. You may live to see man-made horrors beyond your comprehension.

“You may live to see man-made horrors beyond your comprehension.” ~ Nikola Tesla

16. A man cannot be saved from his own foolishness by someone else’s efforts.

“My mother understood human nature better and never chided. She knew that a man cannot be saved from his own foolishness or vice by someone else’s efforts or protests, but only by the use of his own will.” ~ Nikola Tesla

17. Peace can only come as a natural consequence of universal enlightenment.

“What we now want is closer contact and better understanding between individuals and communities all over the earth, and the elimination of egoism and pride which is always prone to plunge the world into primeval barbarism and strife… Peace can only come as a natural consequence of universal enlightenment…” ~ Nikola Tesla

18. All that was great in the past was ridiculed.

“All that was great in the past was ridiculed, condemned, combated, suppressed — only to emerge all the more powerfully, all the more triumphantly from the struggle.” ~ Nikola Tesla

19. The future will evaluate each person according to his work.

“Let the future tell the truth, and evaluate each one according to his work and accomplishments. The present is theirs; the future, for which I have really worked, is mine” ~ Nikola Tesla

20. The influences that shape our destinies are very subtle.

“As I review the events of my past life I realize how subtle are the influences that shape our destinies.” ~ Nikola Tesla

21. It’s not the love you make. It’s the love you give.

“Its not the love you make. It’s the love you give.” ~ Nikola Tesla

22. The wonders of yesterday are today common occurrences.

“We crave for new sensations but soon become indifferent to them. The wonders of yesterday are today common occurrences.” ~ Nikola Tesla

23. Every living being is an engine geared to the wheel-work of the universe.

“Every living being is an engine geared to the wheel-work of the universe. Though seemingly affected only by its immediate surrounding, the sphere of external influence extends to infinite distance.” ~ Nikola Tesla

24. Patience is key. 

“That is the trouble with many inventors; they lack patience. They lack the willingness to work a thing out slowly and clearly and sharply in their mind, so that they can actually ‘feel it work.’ They want to try their first idea right off; and the result is they use up lots of money and lots of good material, only to find eventually that they are working in the wrong direction. We all make mistakes, and it is better to make them before we begin.”

25. Races and nations come and pass away, but man remains.

“The individual is ephemeral, races and nations come and pass away, but man remains.” ~ Nikola Tesla

26. We are all ONE.

“Though free to think and act, we are held together, like the stars in the firmament, with ties inseparable. These ties cannot be seen, but we can feel them.”

27. Money does not represent such a value as men have placed upon it.

“Money does not represent such a value as men have placed upon it. All my money has been invested into experiments with which I have made new discoveries enabling mankind to have a little easier life.”

With all my love,

 

 

 

 

 

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