TONI EMERSON: “Can We Live In A Constant State Of Love?”

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When we fall in love, our heart becomes full of feel-good qualities that infuse our life with joy and excitement. Everything feels light, fresh and more vibrant. We wake up to a brighter day, the air is warmer, the sun is brighter, everything is right with the world.

Living life through the interactive and colorful kaleidoscope of love is one of the highest human experiences. Wouldn’t it be fantastic to capture this experience and transform it into a permanent state of being? In my next few articles, we will formulate our unique blueprint to reconnect to our love source and transition from experiences of love which come and go to living love at its fullest moment to moment.

Love & Emotions

Understanding the difference between love and the many feelings inspired by love is essential in realizing that love is the baseline from which everything else emerges.

As human beings, we experience many emotional states under love’s vast umbrella, yet each one of them fails to convey the totality of what love is. Love is not equal to the sum of its parts. It is far more powerful than transient emotions. It is an integral state of being waiting to be rediscovered.

Each deeply nourishing emotion ushered by love stands on its own merits and offers its own specific gifts. These emotions assist us in reaching our full potential as human being by deepening our interior faculties and also by giving us the human qualities that propel us into action to help others in need and to make our world a better world.

Love’s Ambassadors

Love’s ambassadors enrich our life experience and increase our range of perception. Love’s ambassadors are: compassion, joy, kindness, wisdom, peace, gratitude, equanimity, appreciation, pleasure, acceptance, intimacy, benevolence, grace, generosity, respect, sympathy, among others.

All these supreme heart qualities advocate on behalf of love and fall under its vast umbrella, but none of them define what love is. They suggest what love might feel like, they point in the direction of love, but they individually and collectively do not come close to the full spectrum of love’s power. Each heart quality is unique and offers special gifts. For example, appreciation may feel like love but actually represents a recognition of a certain quality. It has a finite characteristic. So does gratitude which has many uplifting vibrations and is essentially the crystal clear awareness and heartfelt acknowledgement of life’s gifts.

Compassion, Love’s Favorite Wingman

Many of these qualities are considered to be divine in nature because they embody the highest human values. Wisdom traditions foster these qualities of the heart while making the distinction between love and its ambassadors, most notably between love and compassion. The tender feeling evoked by compassion is considered to be a universal virtue, one we extend towards ourselves but more frequently towards other people’s suffering. Compassion has a global history with various ways of expression, depending on cultural differences, yet it has held throughout times its distinct benevolent meaning and its position as love’s favorite wingman.

One of the Buddhist interpretation of compassion is the desire to relieve sentient beings of suffering, while love is the desire to bring happiness to sentient beings.

The Christian tradition holds universal love to be the principal message of Jesus (the Gospels), with many direct references of love in the Bible, and compassion is viewed as the method for enacting this love as part of our responsibility to alleviate human suffering in the world.

In Hinduism, all love for others is considered self love as brahma (universal soul) manifested in the individual (atman) while seva (selfless service) is a central theme of life, practical compassion in action and our duty to humanity.

Love Is A State Of Being

“I’m not interested in being a “lover.” I’m interested in only being love.” — Ram Dass

Love evokes the largest colony of feelings known to man. Nothing else comes close. It commands basic emotions, activates a host of feel good feelings and also has the unique capacity to deactivate negative feelings on contact.

The power of love to dissolve negativity cannot be underestimated. This power becomes our closest ally in removing the emotional blocks that keep us isolated from our love source.

Love is not an emotion. Happiness, in contrast, is an emotion, and as with any other emotion, it comes and goes depending on the circumstances triggering it.

We often make the mistake of reducing love to the level of emotion, thereby diluting its power and settling for small love experiences that indeed come and go. If we become aware of this type of love, its qualities, where it comes from, why it comes up in our lives, we notice that generally the emotion we call love is but a shadow of the deeper state of love which is our essence.

Love is not sentimentality or even romanticism. Those are what we do with love to express its many delicious ways and plays.

When love is a state of being, we can actually experience unhappiness and still be rooted in love. We can feel love amidst other emotions. Love is the background on which all other emotional scenery go by.

These distinctions are sometimes faint, delicate, because they are translated according to the depth of our perception. Psychological well-being does not indicate the presence of love, but rather the absence of turmoil, and remains very dependent on the pendulum of life forever swinging from one side to the other, from pleasure to pain. Love as a state of being is independent of outside circumstances.

So far, we have been used to the smallest indication of what love really is. We have limited love to an intellectual idea or a set of well delineated beliefs. That is hardly satisfying to the soul, isn’t it? It does not come close to the actual experience of living in a state of love.
The absolute difference is to be felt, not just understood.

Searching for the state of being called love leads us to the ultimate discovery of who we really are and what our purpose is. Please join me on this adventure, and In the next articles let’s recognize together love in a new light and realize that it has been inside of us all along.

Love is just waiting to be discovered, again.

 

 

 

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BRENDA BENTLEY: “Stuck in the Muck?”

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Sometimes, when I allow myself to sink deep into my emotions, fear crops up and I begin to feel ‘stuck in the muck’. This actually happened to me the other day, as I began to sink deeply into feelings of sadness and disappointment. Suddenly, I began to feel overwhelmed, unable to manage those deeper emotions. And, that is when fear stepped in –   fiercely driving me to what felt like quicksand.  I felt myself getting stuck into some rather old feelings and thought patterns.  For me, it goes something like this: “What’s the use, you’re really no good at managing these emotions, and they really are bigger than you, so why not just let them take over and give up.  You’ll never win.” 

At that point, as the ANTS (Automatic Negative Thoughts) started to crawl over and consume me, I panicked. I could sense how they were directly feeding into some deeply held core beliefs that I have been carrying inside of me that have to do with my worthiness.

For many of us, It’s often easier to sink back into old self-sabotaging behaviors and patterns because, sometimes, that mud feels more comfortable then learning new ways to master emotions.  The question for me at this point is, how can I do both – release the old thought patterns and core beliefs about myself AND raise my awareness while learning from this experience that is feeling quite negative?

Treasure Chest

I have discovered how to dig deeply into what I call my ‘treasure chest of tools or jewels’ to help me not just survive – but thrive. It’s a rather interesting treasure chest for each ‘jewel’ is a ‘tool’ that carries very high energies and frequencies allowing me to rise above the present situation so that I can see my path more clearly and find a new, healthier way of being. Some of the tools include crystals such as my ‘power pendant’ that I use to cleanse my auric field, protect me from negative energies, and keep me grounded.  Other tools include transformational coaching, NLP, EFT, working with other heart-centered individuals and re-membering to care for myself in all ways…. body, mind and spirit.  All of these tools help me view my situation from a higher perspective. But more about the treasure chest in later blogs.

Treasure Chest

Use it or Diffuse It

One jewel I have unearthed is the awareness that “I am not my thoughts”.  We have thoughts constantly running through our mind like the static on a radio station. When I hear this static, rather than become annoyed, I’ve learned how to tune in and say: “Self, is this thought helping me”? Based on my values and my journey, will this particular thought get me there or will it sideswipe me and take me off track and stuck in the muck?”.  When I get a ‘yes’, I then give myself permission to use it.  If it is a ‘no’,, I diffuse it so I can clearly see the truth.

I believe we are all gifted the opportunity to expand our conscious awareness, by fine tuning our free will, so that we can lift the muddy veils of illusion and confusion.  Be seeing things from a new and higher perspective, we open ourselves for healing to take place.

It is from this new perspective that we are able to rise above the Automatic Negative Thoughts (ANTS), and gaining deeper clarity from our higher plane of consciousness.

Stay tuned for next week’s blog on more jewels from my treasure chest.  To learn more about the power of transformational coaching, I invite you to visit brendabentleycoaching.com

Blessings filled with love and light,

Brenda

 

Brenda Bentley is a Certified Life Coach, Hypnotherapist and Spiritual Guide.  She is an avid collector of crystals, metaphysical tools and indigenous artwork and understands the energies around them.   She enjoys spending time in nature and working with others.  She offers her coaching services and customized CDs at www.brendabentleycoaching.com. Brenda Bentley Coaching is on:  Facebook | LinkedinTo learn more about coaching and to speak personally with Brenda, she is currently gifting a free 15-minute phone consultation.  She can be reached at: www.brendabentleycoaching.com or by email at: brenda@brendabentleycoaching.com.
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MICHELLE DAWN: “What Happens When the Mind Looks at Itself”

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In the absence of mindfulness, it is easy to get caught up in difficult situations without even realizing we’re caught up in them. Perhaps it is a difficult person, an obstacle in a relationship, or a financial struggle. It could be any type of burden upon the spirit. When we start investing more energy toward observing the burden than toward the cultivation of our self-awareness, we begin to experience suffering. We may even sometimes project the suffering onto other people. We may [unintentionally] judge someone when we are suffering in this way — especially if we perceive that person to be the cause of our suffering.

This is not compassion. 

This is not awareness.

In a past situation when I acknowledged that my lack of personal awareness was what was truly affecting me, I could see that I was putting too much effort in trying to be helpful (and getting nowhere in the process) which I believed was causing me to suffer. Implementing mindfulness allowed me to communicate calmly, openly, and honestly. I now have an entirely different view and a deeper understanding of things, as well as a clear view of my own path.

We can only move forward when we recognize what it is in ourselves that is allowing the suffering to occur. Perhaps we can find ways to grow in the situation, or perhaps we find that it really is time to move on from it in order to grow. Either way, choosing to stay in the situation without any hope for it to improve infects and disrupts the situation further.

“The human mind has the capacity to look at itself.” — Thay Phap Luu

I was deeply moved by a dharma talk by Thay Phap Luu “The Practice of Non-Fear” which helped clarify how, through mindfulness alone, we can embrace difficult, unexpected, and emotional situations.

The Steps to Mindfulness

Breath | Mindfulness. Practice of mindfulness begins by following the breath. Simply noticing the breath as it flows into and then back out of the body, the way the lungs expand when we inhale, and then contract again when we exhale.

Recognizing | Developing Concentration.   We cultivate our awareness as we learn to follow the breath all the way through the inhale, continuing all the way through the exhale. We notice when our attention comes away from the breath and must come back to the breath through our intention. Thay Phap Luu defines this as recognizing.

Embracing | Experiencing the Body. We can then begin to apply recognizing to other situations. For example, when we are able to recognize when our emotions are difficult, we can choose not to plant the seed of that emotion or allow those challenging feelings to turn into negativity. We can simply recognize them, choose to embrace them, and then more easily choose to let them go.

Soothing | Calming the Body. We create a larger capacity to soothe ourselves as we continue to train ourselves to recognize and accept who we are. Through this we are not only settling the mind, but also calming the body. This leads us to the threshold of creating the habits which can lead us to personal freedom.

Experiencing Joy. By continually choosing to care for ourselves in this way, we create conditions for joy to become possible. The experience of joy is a sign of freedom in the purest form.

While developing a mindfulness practice, it is important to remember that it is not something to be perfected, but rather something to be practiced. It is a continuum. The beauty of practicing is that we can and will learn from each experience, as we consciously guide ourselves to becoming more emotionally and spiritually mature.

 

 

 

 

 

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