VERNON HOWARD: “20 Powerful Secrets To Meaningful Relationships”

The following twenty powerful relationship secrets is an excerpt from Mystic Path to Cosmic Power, by Vernon Howard

20 Powerful Secrets To Meaningful Relationships

1. When two people meet, the prize always goes to the one with the most self-insight. He will be calmer, more confident, more at ease with the other.

2. Never permit the behavior of other people to tell you how you feel.

3. Pay little attention to what people say or do. Instead, try to see their innermost motive for speaking and acting.

4. Any friendship requiring the submission of your original nature and dignity to another person is all wrong.

5. Mystically speaking, there is no difference between you and another person. This is why we cannot hurt another without hurting ourselves, nor help another without helping ourselves.

6. When we are free of all unnecessary desires toward other people, we can never be deceived or hurt.

7. You take a giant step toward psychological maturity when you refuse to angrily defend yourself against unjust slander. For one thing, resistance disturbs your own peace of mind.

8. You understand others to the exact degree that you really understand yourself. Work for more self-knowledge.

9. Do not be afraid to fully experience everything that happens to you in your human relations, especially the pains and disappointments. Do this and everything becomes clear at last.

10. The individual who really knows what it means to love has no anxiety when his love is unseen or rejected.

11. If you painfully lose a valuable friend, do not rush out at once for a replacement. Such action prevents you from examining your heartache and breaking free of it.

12. Do not be afraid to be a nobody in a social world. This is a deeper and richer truth than appears on the surface.

13. Every unpleasant experience with another person is an opportunity to see people as they are, not as we mistakenly idealize them. The more unpleasant the other person is, the more he can teach you.

14. You can be so wonderfully free from a sense of injury and injustice that you are surprised when you hear others complain of them.

15. We cannot recognize a virtue in another person that we do not possess in ourselves. It takes a truly loving and patient person to recognize those virtues in another.

16. Do not mistake desire for love. Desire leaves home in a frantic search for one gratification after another. Love is at home with itself.

17. There are parts of you that want the loving life and parts that do not. Place yourself on the side of the positive forces: do all you can to aid and encourage them.

18. You must stop living timidly from fixed fears of what others will think of you and of what you will think of yourself.

19. Do not contrive to be a loving person: work to be a real person. Being real is being loving.

20. The greatest love you could ever offer to another is to so transform your inner life that others are attracted to your genuine example of goodness.

 

~via BodyMindSoulSpirit.com

QUANTUM WORLD: “Has Your Spiritual Awakening Cost You Some Family And Friends?”

Look back on the documented history of humans. You’ll find that the events or evolutionary processes that are backed by scientific data, witness testimonial, videos or faith are just merely someone else’s interpretation.

For many reasons, the truth may be distorted or hidden. But mostly, it is for power or control.

Do you feel comfortable talking to your friends about the universe?

Do they know what chakras are?

Or what a stargate is?

Do they know what ascension is?

The earth’s evolution or spiritual enlightenment? Most people tend to stay “in the box” when you talk about the creation myth and they stay in a belief system that supports the story of creation according to religion. If you raise questions about our true origins, it tends to separate people and relationships between those who think outside the box versus those who think inside the box.

When these topics are discussed within relationships, they often create disagreements. It’s hard for anyone to admit they’ve been deceived for so long and even more difficult to admit they were possibly wrong in their assumptions.

So who’s right? If you look into the origin of mankind you’ll find an excess of creation myths from all different cultures that have varying dates of existence.

Our educational systems keep us locked inside the box without questioning anything about what we’ve been taught. And this is a prime example of this. Those who remain inside the box are afraid of what others might think if they venture outside the box, so they remain comfortable and subservient while conforming to what society dictates rather than relying on their own intuitions, perception and judgment.

People could live their entire lives pretending to be what society expects them to be and not even know it! What have we truly been taught? From an ego perspective, our thoughts are basically cultivated by what we’ve learned from our family, friends, educational systems, government, political and religious beliefs.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 ~via qwaym.com

LAUREN MARTIN: “Simple Life: 10 Things People Who Love Being Alone Never Worry About”

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I’m a recluse as much as the next guy… At least, that’s what I thought.

After a recent move to a city that welcomed one too many nights out and one too many clubs to name, I came to the harsh realization that my aversion to nights out and the company of others was not normal and I was coming off as, well, rude.

I thought there was nothing wrong with choosing to spend Friday night in the company of myself and my empty apartment.

I thought it was okay to enjoy walking alone more than with a friend. I thought it was healthy to relish in all those moments of solitude.

To people trying to be my friend, or at least use me as a pawn in their game of nights out, I was the antithesis of everything they wanted.

I tried to make myself go out more, push myself to spend Friday nights in the company of others and try to enjoy all that mindless chit chat that came with money spent on too many drinks.

Soon, I began to hate myself and those around me. I started worrying about insignificant nonsense that shouldn’t bother me.

And after one too many nights spent around everyone but myself, I decided that enough was enough and I would spend as much time alone as I ******* please.

I like my company, even if it’s just a little too much, because there’s something beautiful about being at peace with yourself. There’s something comforting about knowing I can come home to myself every night and love it.

There should be more respect for people who can relish in themselves. There should be more admiration for those who aren’t scared of being alone.

There should be some nice words about the loners and the introverts who are content with themselves and don’t need anyone to feel better.

Because loving your alone time is many times a lot healthier than hating it. Those who bask in their own company are the ones with significantly fewer worries than those who need to be around people to fill that void.

The loners, introverts and asocial people of the world are the ones spending their time creating and growing from themselves, rather than worrying about what everyone else is thinking.

They never worry about how they come off

People who like to be alone are more secure than those who are so good at showing face. They are the ones who are never second guessing their actions or working on their appearance.

They don’t care what people think of them because they, themselves, are their harshest critics.


They never worry about what they just said

The only times people who like their alone time are going out is with people who deserve their shared time. They don’t spend it with people who will judge them or people they worry about taking what they said the wrong way.

They don’t spend hours lying in their beds thinking about what they said or didn’t say back there. They are confident around the people they choose to talk to.


They never worry about acting like they have something to prove

People who enjoy their own company are not the types to put on airs. They never have to act like they have something to prove because they never have anyone to prove anything to.

When you meet them, you will see they are completely themselves, because that’s who matters to them. If you don’t like them, that’s just one fewer person they need to worry about hanging out with.


They’re never worried about doing things they don’t want to do

They don’t sit in bed wishing they didn’t have to go to a party where they hate most of the people just so they won’t spend Saturday night stuck with their own thoughts.

They never replace alone time with empty interactions. Their solitude is never rationalized or bargained for by trivial moments with undeserving people.


They’re never worried about ending up alone

They don’t have that irrational fear of never finding someone. If anything, they fear they will never understand how to share their alone time.

They don’t date people just for the company or settle for unfulfilled love just so they won’t end up alone.


They never worry about finding something to say

Because they’re not constantly putting themselves around others, they’re not constantly searching for new topics and talking points.

They know who they are and what they like and they don’t have to pretend to be interested in things just to keep the conversation going.


They never worry about missing out on something

They never have fear of missing out because there’s no place they’d rather be than with themselves. They don’t find it a wasted evening when they don’t go out.

In fact, they see it as the opposite. In our hectic schedules, getting a night to ourselves is easier said than done.


They never worry about being single

They search for meaning in themselves and take pride in that relationship. They don’t need to feel validated by the significant others they’re supposed to have.

They make sure they are completely in love with themselves before they worry about finding someone else to love.


They never worry about needing time to think

They spend their alone time exploring all the unexamined spaces of their mind. They don’t go to parties or friends’ houses wishing they could just have a moment to think, alone.

They are constantly thinking and constantly wondering. They are never without moments to ponder those questions that need time.


They never worry about having to lie or exaggerate

Their lives are complete by themselves. They don’t have to name drop or worry about being cool enough around the people they’re with because they don’t care about impressing current company or making new acquaintances.

They aren’t about collecting friends or racking up phone numbers. They know who they are and there’s no need to exaggerate about that.

 

 

 

 

 

~via EliteDaily

 

LUMINITA SAVIUC: “51 Everyday Ways to Make Someone You Love Feel Special”

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Do you have a person that is extra special in your life? Want to give them an idea of just how special they are?

Whether it’s your parents, siblings, bestie, or significant other, making someone you love feel special doesn’t have to be complicated, and you can do it every day.

(No skywriting required.)

51 Everyday Ways to Make Someone You Love Feel Special

1. Make time. Vow to yourself that you won’t let “life” get in the way of letting them know how important they are.

2. Listen to the full story and ask questions. Listen to them vent without solving the problem (unless they want you to!). Listen to what they are really trying to tell you. Listen with your undivided attention.

3. Ask them to teach you something.

4. Try to learn one of their hobbies.

5. See them. I mean REALLY see them. See their endless potential. See their unique beauty.

6. Recognize what makes them special and let them know it.

7. Send something handwritten. No one seems to do this anymore. It can be a thank you note, a birthday card, or a letter just because.

8. Learn all of their favorites and surprise them with something you know that they’ll just LOVE.

9. Put the phone away when you are together…

10. Or pick it up when you’re apart. Go beyond a text and give them a call to let them know you’re thinking of them. Return their calls if you missed them.

11. Go on an adventure. Set aside a day or a weekend to spend time together. Invite them along somewhere that neither of you have been.

12. Create a new memory together.

13. Share a memory that you have of them. The best are those situations that they had no idea you’d remember.

14. Share your side of the story of how you met.

15. Follow up with them after they’ve shared something important with you or after spending time together.

16. Introduce them to the important people in your life.

17. Connect them with someone you know they’ll hit it off with.

18. Ask them what they want to do.

19. Or take care of all of the planning and let them just relax.

20. Show them affection in whatever way they’re comfortable with.

21. See the best in them.

22. Let them know that the way they feel or the way they see a situation is real and understandable.

23. Get them out of the house on a beautiful day.

24. Stay in and have a Netflix marathon together on a gloomy day.

25. Be there when they need you, even if you need to cancel your plans.

26. Let them get to know the real you. Share your dreams and your fears.

27. Get to know the real them. Fears, dreams, imperfections – everything.

28. Send an article that you think they’d enjoy. Let them know that it made you think of them.

29. Take pictures together. Splurge on professional pictures, hop in the photo booth at the mall, or whip out the camera for an impromptu photo shoot.

30. Go with them on their quest to find the perfect pair of jeans. Or shoes. Or sunglasses. Or…you get the idea.

31. Offer to help them with a tedious task.

32. Include them in group plans.

33. Remind them of how amazing they are any time they forget.

34. Stand up for them if you hear someone gossiping about them.

35. Speak kindly of them – even when they’re not there.

36. Keep their secrets as if they were your own.

37. Share secrets of your own.

38. Remember their important days. What is their favorite holiday? What is the day that they start a new job? When are their kids’ birthdays? Make an effort to remember and check in with them on the important days in their life.

39. Give heartfelt compliments, apologies, and thanks.

40. Bring them soup when they’re sick. Bake them cookies when they’re sad.

41. Offer to be by their side on their worst days.

42. Be their person. No questions asked.

43. Surprise them with something totally ridiculous just because you know that they’ll get a kick out of it.

44. Check in on them when you’re worried.

45. Celebrate their successes.

46. Help out someone that is important in their life.

47. Let it be about them. Don’t turn their story or their problem into your story or problem, and don’t try to outdo them. Let the day, the story, the situation be about them.

48. Believe in them when they are in doubt.

49. Hang in there when things are rough between the two of you.

50. Support them in their goals and aspirations. If they need you to dress up as a hot dog and pass out fliers, you’re the one to call.

51. Do all of this and ask for nothing in return but true friendship and caring.

Have a #52 of your own? I’d love to hear it! Leave a comment and share how you make your person feel special.

With all my love,

 

 

 

 

http://www.PurposeFairy.com

ANNA LEMIND: “6 Signs You Have Found Your Path In Life”

Signs You Have Found Your Path in Life

Finding one’s path in life is not an easy task. It takes years of trying, failing and searching.

It’s sad that most people never find the right path and end up spending their life surrounded by wrong people and doing things they don’t enjoy. In today’s society, it’s particularly easy to get confused as to what we want in life since we are constantly told by the mass media and mainstream culture what we should be like, what we should do and how we should look. Still, there are individuals who don’t conform to what the majority wants and listen to the voice of their own soul.

Are you one of those people? To help you find out, here are some signs that indicate you have found your path in life.

1. You make a living doing what you love

One of the most obvious signs that someone has found their path in life is working for a higher purpose than just making an income. Whatever it is – your own business, a creative career of an independent artist or a “normal” job – the point is that it brings you joy and gives you a feeling of fulfilment, as well as helps you with your personal development. You may be doing it to make the world a better place or help others, but the only thing is clear – your motives go far beyond just working for a salary to pay the bills. Your work is a vital part of your soul’s calling and is a means to serve your life purpose.

2. You strive for value-based goals and appreciate the things that matter

A true life purpose is never focused on material and ephemeral things. Thus, if you have found your path in life, your goals will probably be value-based. Everyone comes to this world to fulfil a different mission. For some, it may be devoting themselves to their family and raising kids. Someone may be a talented artist who wants to inspire and encourage people with their artwork. Whatever you are born for, it’s focused on the eternal human values. Modern society needs such individuals more than ever since today’s people are constantly losing the connection with their souls and forget about the things that matter for the sake of material gain and superficial aspirations.

3. You feel like everything is in its place and are content with your life

You feel like everything that has ever happened to you happened for a reason and helped bring you where you are today. Even your past disappointments and failures are now making sense. Failed relationships, behaviors you may now be ashamed of, jobs you hated – everything contributed to making you a person you are today. You deeply realize that and feel grateful that things happened the way they did because everything is in its place now.

Even if you are not content with every single aspect of your life, you have a general feeling of fulfilment and can say that you are a happy and evolved person.

4. You are in a healthy relationship or are happy alone

A person who has found their path in life knows exactly what he or she wants. That’s why you won’t spend your time being in an abusive or unhappy relationship. You prefer to be alone rather than with a wrong person. If you are in a relationship, then you are quite sure that you’ve found your soulmate and that you want to spend the rest of your life with your partner. You complement each other and your relationship is a deep connection based on similar values and life goals.

5. You have cut people out of your life

One day, you realized that some people you believed were your friends don’t really give a shit about you. Everyone has this kind of people in their life who seem to be very friendly and supportive till the moment you are in trouble and need their help. This is when you suddenly see that these alleged friends don’t deserve to be a part of your life.

You may also come to the same conclusion about some people simply because you don’t vibe with them. You no longer see the point in hanging out with them because it feels more like a social obligation than a sincere desire for communication. Now you want to surround yourself with likeminded individuals you resonate with and let into your life only those who have a genuine interest in you and share the same values with you.

6. You have realized that other people’s opinions mean nothing

Being social creatures, we often fall into a trap of following what others expect from us and thus tend to give importance to their opinions about us and our life. Though, when you find your path in life, you realize how insignificant they actually are and how silly it is to care about what other people think. Now you know that this is your life and you are the only one who is to decide what is better for you. Similarly, you no longer feel the need to impress people and try to prove you are better, smarter and more successful than they are.

Do you feel that you have found your path in life? If yes, do these signs ring true for you? We’d love to hear your thoughts.

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