MATEO SOL: “5 Things Every Sensitive Man Should Know”

If you have grown up as a male in our society you’ve been taught one very clear message: emotions are a weakness, big boys don’t cry.

Being “strong” means you have to be forceful, aggressive, competitive and largely unemotional. If for some reason you are born sensitive, cooperative and compassionate, you are perceived as “weak,” “effeminate” or “weird.”

Throughout history, men have gained their identity, peer respect and self-worth through status, sexual prowess and money all of which contributed to their sense of power. In a physically demanding hunter-gatherer and agricultural world, men had to be the warriors that shouldered the responsibility of providing for their families. But now as women have become more independent with our society shifting to value mental labor over physical labor, men are struggling to let go of their old warrior habits and role dynamics.

However, regardless of our external bodies and sexual orientations, we all carry differing degrees of masculine and feminine energy. Some people will carry equal amounts, others will carry more of one than of the other (which might oppose their physical bodies), as can be seen in females referred to as “tomboys” and sensitive men.

It saddens me to see so many fellow men who outright ignore their sensitivity, or are aware of it but choose to reject or hide it. Many people associate sensitivity with neuroticism or low self-esteem, and courage with “numbing the pain.” Sensitivity and courage are not mutually exclusive. To be sensitive is to be aware of the feelings and perspectives of other people as well as your own. To be courageous means to be completely aware and to feel fear yet to still fight for what you feel is right or what you want.

In fact sensitivity and courage can compliment each other; the greater your sensitivity and fear is, the greater your courage has to be to fight through it.

In psychology, Carl Jung was aware of the differences between masculine and feminine energy, and divided them into his Anima and Animus Archetypes. Personally, I’ve found that by embracing my sensitivity as a male and using it alongside my logic and courage, I have become a much wholer human being. In the end, to be intelligent is useless unless you can combine it with sensitivity. When intelligence is filtered through sensitivity, it becomes wisdom.

5 Things Every Sensitive Man Should Know

Here are some vital lessons I’ve learned as a sensitive man that I want to pass on:

1. Sensitivity Helps You to Grow Deeper Connections

When a man is capable of transforming his insecurity about being sensitive into something empowering, it can allow him to create deeper connections with others. For instance, I’ve found that when I go beyond simply sharing factual information and opinions with my male friends, I see a whole new side to them which is more meaningful and creates a deeper long-term bond.

2. Sensitivity Encourages Emotional Maturity

I feel that the evolution of men will be one towards a balance of strength and sensitivity. One of the biggest struggles for men in relationships is to openly express their emotions or show vulnerability. This emotional distancing is done to display “strength,” but quite often the more sensitive female lover perceives this as ambivalence, being “unavailable” or even a phobia towards commitment. To be able to give love, show love and receive love freely is incredibly attractive.

3. Sensitivity Makes You More Body-Conscious

Sensual awareness is not limited to sex (although it does make you a better lover), but rather, it extends to the body as well. The greater your sensitivity is to your body and its senses, the more you’ll learn about yourself, the better you’ll be able to take care of yourself, and the healthier you’ll feel. However, I’ve observed that often many sensitive male students of mine have tried to drown their emotions out with food as an unconscious buffer.

As a sensitive man, I’ve discovered a variety of foods that I can feel my body quickly rejects by making me feel subtly ill. I’ve also learned that having long hair not only allows me to express my Anima externally, but it also serves as an extension of my nervous system amplifying my empathic senses. It’s no surprise that the Incas, Mayas, the Samurai and the Native Americans were aware of this (the latter using their hair almost like “antennae.”)

4. Sensitivity Allows You to Become More Creative

Creativity is not the result of logical empirical deduction, it is the child of playfulness and sensitivity. Creativity is born in the right side of the brain instead of the left.

To be a painter, writer, musician, actor, photographer or anything creative requires a sensitivity towards beauty and emotion.

5. Sensitivity Helps You to Grow Spiritually

A thirst for wisdom and truth can only come to those who possess a spiritual sensitivity. To strive toward a better society and the peace of man demands an immense amount of courage to stand up against the status quo and a great spiritual sensitivity to question it.

Jesus, Buddha, the Dalai Lama, Mahatma Gandhi, and Martin Luther King Jr. were all figures who possessed this quality to speak the truth and question cultural morality, virtue and justice. Many people who have embraced their sensitivity will know that they are often the ones whom their friends come to, to ask for counsel and advice.

How to Embrace Your Sensitivity

In our society men are rarely taught how to express their feelings, and so it can be very difficult to know where or how to begin. In fact, if you are like most men, you’ll find it difficult to even become aware of what you’re feeling in the first place, e.g. how the mood of your boss may be affecting you, or how the stress from your busy schedule is making you short-tempered. And when someone asks how you are, you are so disconnected from your emotions that you’ll resort to the habitual “I’m fine,” making it harder for anyone to provide any support.

Ignoring feelings won’t making them disappear though, in fact, the more we ignore our feelings the larger they’ll grow. I’ve often seen men who appear to be well and calm before they burst out in an explosion of anger or rage when something bad happens. It’s often these very same men who become isolated and depressed due to their tendency to avoid and limit their social contact to avoid emotional vulnerability.

How do we embrace our sensitivity? Recognizing and accepting ourselves as sensitive men is the first step. No matter what “macho” ideals you’ve been taught, sensitivity is a gift, not a weakness. To be more empathetic and to be able to appreciate art, music and beauty, is a blessing. While burying our feelings is certainly easier, acknowledging our feelings helps us to empower ourselves which requires much more courage, and is a lot more rewarding. Can you imagine how many wars and ecological forms of destruction could have been avoided if we all cultivated greater sensitivity?

The next step is to examine your feelings about sensitivity. Is it a “weakness” or some kind of illness to you? You’ll have to change the core beliefs you hold about masculine sensitivity in order to accept it. Only after this can you integrate aspects of your sensitivity into your daily life. You can do this by changing your old habits of ignoring or hiding your sensitivity and instead decide to slowly process through them, expressing them to yourself and your trusted loved ones.

It takes time and effort, but changing our personal paradigms is essential in order to embrace our own sense of personal power. It’s time to change this outdated male ideal of aggressiveness, thick-skin and emotional retardation. By empowering sensitive men with self-confidence, we’ll all contribute to a more peaceful, balanced and healthy planet.

Once you become aware of your feelings and have learned to express them, you’ll begin drawing loving people into your life, you’ll be able to help others through their own problems, and you’ll be able to feel as though every part of you is living life to the fullest.

 

 

 ~via LonerWolf.com

GOSTICA: “Cats Are Empathetic Too and Help Us Heal”

Cat Empathy

As claimed by the Egyptians, the cat appears to see the spirits of the dead… and much more.

Anyone who has a cat, usually sleepy and lazy, has noticed that it sometimes looks up, even blowing furiously, towards something that the owner does not see.

The ability that cats have, for example, to be able to see that particular phenomenon that consists of the orbs, balls of energy appearing in photographs taken with digital cameras or with more sensitive film, is easily demonstrated and verifiable.  Indeed, there are several photos showing the cat observing with curiosity and interest in the direction of the Orbs spheres, invisible to man.

How is it possible?  In the specific case of Orbs, if it were an optical defect due to dust, as some scientists suggest, how could the cat show interest or fear for a simple speck of dust?  If, however, they were different entities, not necessarily spirits, but only energy, then the special cat ability to sense vibrations and frequencies unknown to man, could be explained in scientific terms.

The particular sensitivity would allow cats to see objects and phenomena that the human senses, not particularly developed, cannot perceive.

Just because scientists do not have the tools to observe a phenomenon, it does not mean it does not exist.

Cats appear to possess a range of specific skills, such as, empathy.  Who owns a cat, has certainly experienced the phenomenon whereby when you’re not well, our friend somehow “feels” it and tries to transmit energy to the diseased part.  A stomach ache, an intestinal disorder… that’s where our cat curls up on, giving us a warmth and a feeling of incredible well-being.

No coincidence that today we are using this empathy for the famous Pet Therapy, which successfully cure various ailments also psychic.  It is not the only power available to our four-legged wonder: unique among animals, the cat tries to sleep on the so-called Hartmann Nodes, like those particular intersections of the Earth’s magnetic field lines, which envelop the entire planet regular intervals.

If a man stayed long over one of these nodes, would have a feeling of fatigue: it is not so for the cat, which seems contrary to relax over these nodes avoided by all other animals.  Because?  This perception of magnetism is known in many animals, such as migratory birds.  But the cat does more, it is as if it was in connection with the Dark Energy that permeates the entire Universe.

Is this is the secret of cats?  Is this warmth healing that they transmit us when we are sick?  If we think that this energy – theorized and demonstrated through mathematical calculations, but not yet spotted because the aforementioned sensory deficit in human beings – is related to the ancestral magic rituals related to the concept of the Mother Goddess, it explains how the Egyptians had been able to deify the cat, as an exponent of the same ground universal female deity.

But in all this, what are the practical consequences?

On the one hand, you consider the cat as an evolved, intelligent and sensitive, perhaps even more than the man on an emotional level.  For this reason it is necessary to treat it in an ever respectful behavior, however, that you should keep with all living beings.  And to observe its nuances and learn to perceive the subtle worlds, invisible dimensions that surround us.

 

 

~via Gostica.com

SPIRITUAL UNITE: “Are You A Highly Sensitive Psychic?”

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What is a highly sensitive psychic you may ask?  They are someone who is very sensitive to any environment, to them the energy they feel is heightened but there is more to it than that.  If you are a highly sensitive psychic then you pick up more information than anyone else and you are more aware of what’s going on around you.

A highly sensitive person gets overloaded by too much stimulation, you could be susceptible to the environmental toxins and pollutions.

As a highly sensitive psychic, it’s paramount to become aware of what’s happening and learning to manage it.  As the world is getting more crowded, everyone is trying to get somewhere very fast, and you have to make choices which are healthy for you even if your friends and family don’t understand.

Extrasensory Perception

As a sensitive psychic you have psychic abilities or even healing abilities although you don’t recognise it yet.  You should know that people with psychic and healing abilities are commonly known as sensitives.  People with psychic abilities pick up more information than others.  Also, people with psychic abilities have extrasensory perception.

Those with extrasensory perception tend to receive more information beyond the five senses.  Other than just feeling things touch them, they can also feel other emotions.  As well as feeling things, they may also see energy and auras.  They can also hear psychic communication that can’t be heard by the ear.

When Your Psychic Abilities Are Underdeveloped

In a modern world psychic abilities tend to be a new age fad, so we are never taught about this highly intuitive ability, in fact, it may be frowned upon by some people, but most of us have psychic abilities, but we don’t even know it.  You may experience the sensations in your mind’s eye, but you tend to shut it down because you don’t understand the process.

If you were to be aware of the extrasensory gift, you would probably not allow it to register.  However, if you did allow information to enter your consciousness, you would probably question your sanity, and so you shut it down.  Psychic abilities are never gone but stay dormant and undeveloped within you.

Many Different Ways Of Being Psychic

There are many misconceptions out there.  People think a highly sensitive psychic can only see the future, seeing the future is just one of their ability.  There are many other abilities like being aware of energy, seeing auras, feeling other people’s emotions, communicating with spirit and even interpreting dreams are all psychic abilities.

Another misconception is that you’re either psychic or not.  Psychic abilities stay dormant within you, and you just have to train yourself to use your abilities, it’s a bit like learning to sing, if you train yourself every day, you get better the more you practice.

The Many Problems Of Being A Highly Sensitive Psychic

There are many challenges of being a sensitive psychic and they all have a connection with your physical body.  The psychic energy can cause many physical symptoms including headaches, fatigue, back problems, stomach problems or even long-term serious diseases.

As a sensitive psychic you can absorb other people’s energy, which can cause a lot of challenges.  You may start feeling emotional, but these emotions are not yours.  You might feel tired without knowing why.  In crowded places you may get overloaded with energy and this will become unbearable for you.  It’s imperative to know how to respond effectively and manage the situation.

As a highly sensitive psychic it’s crucial to become aware of these situations, so you can learn to manage them better.  When you have a better understanding of who you are and your abilities, then you can make choices that are healing for you.  Rather than feeling like you have lost your sanity, you can begin to realise you are different and be more open to your psychic abilities.

 

 

~via spiritualunite.com