NIKKI SAPP: “How To Be Confident While Remaining Humble”

“There’s a thin line between confidence and arrogance… it’s called humility. Confidence smiles, arrogance smirks.”

~Unknown

 

Somewhere along the line what we recognized as confidence may have been misconstrued a little. We started associating traits like aggressive, loud, opinionated and arrogant with being a confident person. You’ve probably seen the type, or maybe you are the type.

They know FOR SURE that what they believe is the unequivocal truth. Therefore they need to tell everyone about it… constantly.

When they aren’t able to convince someone to believe exactly as they believe they may be caught calling others, “asleep” or a “sheep” or any other plethora of derogatory names that I probably can’t mention here. We also may have misconstrued what it means to be humble a little bit too. Being Humble is associated with weak, shy, meek, and someone who cowers to others.

Someone who is so unsure of themselves or their beliefs that they keep them to themselves and are too insecure to tell everyone they meet their opinion on everything. Is there a way to be both? Can a confident person also be a humble person? In order to answer that question we must dissect what it means to be truly confident, and how does “artificial confidence” come about.

“Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself the whole world accepts him or her”

~Lao Tzu

 

There are many reasons a person may develop artificial/arrogant confidence. One may be cognitive dissonance, which means they may be holding on to a belief so tightly that when evidence is presented that contradicts this belief they may be completely unwilling to look at the new evidence. They may have become so attached to this belief that it has become a part of their sense of self.

Since they are completely attached to who they think they are it may be a painful experience for them to open their mind up and see things from a different perspective. The actual energy behind holding on to a belief so tightly that you are unwilling to let it go is fear.

The human ego is always afraid to be found out, so to speak, therefore, any threat of someone or something coming along and debunking one of its belief attachments may bring about a negative emotional reaction such as anger. Anytime anger is involved we can be assured that fear is the culprit behind it.

Genuine confidence doesn’t need to get angry because there is no part that fears being wrong or that others aren’t believing them. Another reason a person may develop artificial confidence is because they are insecure.

An insecure person may not truly believe in their theory or themselves so they feel if they can convince others that they are absolutely the right one they can at the same time convince themselves.

This is often done in an aggressive manner, because they are attached to the outcome of people believing them. Again, the fear behind not achieving the outcome they desire is causing them to act in a rude or aggressive manner. Genuine confidence can remain quiet, kind and humble because there is no underlying fear that needs other people to believe exactly what they are saying.

Genuine confidence is humble. It kind of realizes that most people are operating from their own level of understanding and trying to convince them that they are “stupid” or “wrong” usually won’t work anyway. The humble part of them realizes that LIVING and BEING their truth is always more effective than incessant talking or convincing ever will be.

Also, humble confidence isn’t attached to being right. In fact, it happily welcomes new ideas and beliefs because it knows that only when it opens itself up to seeing things from all perspectives is it able to perhaps learn something new.

“The time which people spend in convincing others, even half of this time if they spend on themselves, they can achieve a lot in life.”

~Arvind Katoch

 

In order to maintain humble confidence about our beliefs we must do two things. One is question ourselves….constantly. You may ask yourself, “Do I know absolutely without a doubt that this belief is true?” Meaning, “Did I see it with my own eyes”- normally the answer to this will be no.

So not to say that you won’t have some beliefs about things that involve situations that you weren’t physically there, but it just means that you always maintain a healthy sense of doubt about your beliefs.

This doesn’t mean that you’re unsure of yourself, it means you are wise, because it means you are open to hearing new evidence. Or you can ask yourself, “Is it possible that I am so attached to this belief that it has become a part of who I think I am?” Or even, “Does it matter if the person I am telling about my belief believes me or not? In this present moment does the fact that they are convinced or not convinced change anything in this exact moment in time?”

“Confidence is silent.

Insecurity is loud.”

~Unknown

 

You may find that most of the time, the answer to that is “no.” The other thing a person can do in order to remain humbly confident in their beliefs is to realize that every person they come in contact with can only understand things from their own level of understanding. Which means they are only operating from their own personal programming which may or may not be completely different than yours.

So yes, there may be times when you tell someone something and you enlighten them to something that they hadn’t thought of before but there will also be times where any effort to convince will fall on deaf ears.

When you are unattached to the outcome, you will be fine with either without getting frustrated or angered. Once we realize that our “truth” may not be someone else’s “truth” we can completely relax into interpersonal relationships and take every interaction with a human being as a potential learning experience, which will allow us to always be learning and growing as a person.

 

~via FractalEnlightenment.com

THE MINDS JOURNAL: “10 Signs You Have A Toxic Partner Who Will Try To Take Away Your Happiness”

One form of love, which is considered the most frequent, is, unfortunately, toxic love. This love appears as a result of insecurity or fear, and it does not do favors to anyone.

Our environment will become even more toxic when we get attached more and more to those people that are wrong for us. Toxic people have the ability to drain us of our happiness, regardless of the fact if we allow that or not. These people build their toxic relationships on an unstable foundation.

Here, we will present you some sign which indicated that you might be in such a relationship, or signs which suggest that you are with a toxic partner. You will definitely need a change when you notice these signs because toxic people and relationships cannot be suitable for every one of us.

10 Signs You Have A Toxic Partner Who Will Try To Take Away Your Happiness

 

1. You are not a priority.

Sorry about this, but when you are not your partner’s priority now, you will never be. He or she has to hold you on the identical standard they hold themselves. Refusing to do that will be a sign that you have to move on, as you deserve a lot more.

2. They’re always blaming you for their mistakes.

The mistakes they made cannot be yours; they have to be prepared for everything they say or do. You should never be blamed for their own mistakes. Toxic people are obsessed with the idea of bringing other people down, especially those that they are closest with.

3. They have serious double principles and standards.

These people believe that they can do everything, while their partners are not allowed to do those same things. For example, you would like to go outside and spend some time together with friends, and in the same time, your partner is also with his friends; however, they will refuse that right when you ask them. Remember that they see you just as their property and not as their loved one.

4. They don’t like your loved ones.

Usually, toxic people will not really like the ones that really matter to you. They will not like that idea as those that care about you will normally see their true self. In fact, toxic people hate this, so they are going to try hard in order to keep you far from your loved ones.

5. They disrespect your boundaries.

Toxic people will never respect your limits, and they are always going to do something or force you into certain things which you wouldn’t like to do. As a result of this, you will find yourself in uncomfortable situations, which are not supposed to happen.

6. They always make you feel sad.

They seem like they try their best in order to bring those that love them down. Toxic people will not support those around them, but they will tear those people apart. For example, when you are happy about something, they are going to everything in order to ruin your happiness. This pleases them after all.

7. They tend to lie to you a lot.

So, for some unknown reasons, toxic people feel good when they lie. So, they are going to lie you about something that is insignificant and goes too far in order to reach their goal, which is making you feel terrible. Remember that you cannot trust someone you love although you would like to do it with your whole heart.

8. They won’t give you a space for yourself.

Toxic people never allow their partners to have their personal space. For example, having your personal space means having time to reflect and think, and thinking well may make you come to the decision of leaving your partner. These people love crossing boundaries, so when you do something without their permission, they will be furious.

9. They attempt to control you.

These people adore controlling you, and not only you but every single thing in life. This type of control means the ultimate superpower for them. Just said, they would like to have the ability to control you and make you do what they want you to do. They are going to cut ties when they see that they are not able to control you.

10. They don’t care about your necessities.

These people are never going to listen to you or care about your own necessities. They are selfish people, so they don’t want to worry about you or about everything you need. They practice only self-care, although you may be in a relationship for a long time.

 

~via TheMindsJournal.com

SOUL TRAVEL RULES: “5 Signs You Are Dealing With a Complete Narcissist”

Narcissists are people who are always full of themselves. They don’t look beyond themselves. They end up hurting people around who are compassionate and sensitive.

Narcissists always want to be the eye of the storm. They want constant attention. They dump the burden of their insecurities on others. Narcissists make people miserable in a number of ways. The term narcissist has its root in the Greek mythology. It comes from the myth about Narcissus. Narcissus was a man who fell in love with his own reflection. This self-obsession led to his demise eventually.

Freud has often theorized about this idea of narcissism and self-absorption. He had claimed that such people are far from the real world and often lead to their own doom. Moreover, it is not very tough to spot narcissists around us these days.

Here is a list of signs that show that you are dealing with a complete narcissist:

1) They think they are the masters of everything and know almost everything.

They can preach a doctor about medicine. This is how they are. Highly interruptive, narcissists hate those conversations which are either neutral or not about them. They crave attention and try to drive the conversations towards themselves only.

2) They are never the rule, always the exception.

Just as they assume they are superior to others in every way possible, they also believe themselves to be at the top of the ladder. They believe that laws and dictates are below them.

3) Their first impression creates a deep impact within us.

However, with time, their true colors are out there for people to see. They exude charm, and confidence. But they wear off and emotionally drain you.

4) They feed their ego by bringing people down.

Narcissists tend to use rage to put you into a submissive stance so that they can naturally dominate and rule.

5) They have zero empathy.

They aren’t wired to be sensitive towards others. Though neutral themselves, they know the tactics of how a human empath can be manipulated.

 

~via SoulTravelRules.com

ASCENDING HEARTS: “6 Traits of Emotionally Immature People”

“Emotional immaturity can be defined as a condition where people have not renounced their childhood desires or fantasies, and consequently, their behaviors. They still believe that the people and the world revolve around them and is there to satisfy their wishes and whims, or that reality must conform to what they desire.”

 

What characterizes the emotionally immature people? The issues of maturity and immaturity are raised with them many myths. People do not admit to being labeled or analyzed by only one aspect. Each of us is a chalice in which different forms of consciousness are mixed: we are ignorant and wise, children and old, mature and immature. We are a mixture, although depending on the moment some characteristics stand out more than others.

Emotional immaturity can be defined as a condition where people have not renounced their childhood desires or fantasies, and consequently, their behaviors. They still believe that the people and the world revolve around them and is there to satisfy their wishes and whims, or that reality must conform to what they desire. Likewise, emotional maturity can be defined as a state of strength and temperance that leads us to realistic and balanced behaviors.

Maturity begins to manifest when we feel that we care more about others than about ourselves.

~Albert Einstein

 

More than an abstract definition, maturity or immaturity is shown through characteristics of behavior. Here are six traits that are characteristic of emotionally immature people.

 

6 Traits of Emotionally Immature People

 

1. They are self-centered people

To realize that the world does not revolve around you is a big step in the process of maturity. The baby does not know that. So he asks to feed at 2 in the morning and does not care if it affects his parents’ sleep. As you grow older, you learn to recognize that you can not always get everything you want, that other people and your world also have their needs.

Ripening involves getting out of the prison of oneself and losing the illusion that surrounds the life of a baby: just ask for a need or desire to be satisfied. While we are gradually losing this fantasy, we are also becoming aware of a beautiful possibility: the adventure of exploring the universe of others. If all goes well, we will learn to preserve self, and we will come to you.

2. The difficulty of making commitments

A clear sign of immaturity in people is the difficulty of making pledges and keeping promises. For a child, it is tough to give up what you want at that time to achieve a long-term goal. If we give him a treat and tell him that if he does not eat it at that moment, he will gain one more, the desire to eat the delicacy he has in his hand will prevail.

Through the process of maturity, we understand that sacrifices and restraints are necessary to achieve success. Committing oneself to a goal or a person is not a limitation of freedom, but a condition for projecting yourself better in the long run.

3. The tendency to play the blame game

Children are directed to much of their lives by other people and do not act according to their will. However, they are in the process of formation and insertion into a culture. While they are small, they believe that error carries a punishment. They do not care much about the damages they have caused, but with the penalty or sanctions, they may receive.

To grow is to abandon this sweet state of irresponsibility. To mature is to understand that we are the only ones responsible for what we do or do not do. Recognize your mistakes and learn from them. Learn to repair the damage you caused and learn to ask for forgiveness.

4. They establish dependency bonds

For immature persons, others are a means and not an end in themselves. They do not need others because they love them, but they love them because they need them. In this way, they often build bonds through dependence.

To establish connections based on freedom, we are obliged to have autonomy. However, emotionally immature people do not have a clear sense of independence. Often, they believe that meeting their wants is an autonomous behavior, but to take the consequences of their actions, they need others to cushion, hide or alleviate their responsibility.

5. Irresponsibility in money management

Impulsiveness is one of the most striking features of immature people. Impulsiveness that is often expressed in the way they manage their resources, such as money. So, to satisfy your desires immediately, buy what you do not need the money you do not have.

Sometimes they embark on bizarre financial adventures: they do not objectively analyze investments and fail to assess the consequences in the medium and long-term. Therefore, they always live indebted, only to satisfy all their whims.

6. They are control freaks

The Immature person has difficulties in letting the things be as they are, and frequently feel the need to be in control of everything and everyone. Their Comfort Zone is variable in direct proportion to the acceptance of their ideas, words and general behavior. They have their own Ideas of perfection and Order.

The person does not decide to be immature. All these characteristics of immaturity do not arise or remain with the conscious decision of individuals. They almost always result from gaps or gaps suffered in childhood or may be the result of unhappy experiences that have prevented it from evolving and letting these experiences go. If you are like this or know someone like that, do not judge him. In fact, the important thing is to realize that boosting their own emotional growth, it can lead them to a better life.

 

 

~via OMTimes.com

LISA RENEE (Time Shift Blog): “Becoming Transparent”

Dear Ascending Family,

Certainly, its been a rough time for many people, and I’ve received countless emails from people that are feeling desperate from the confusion, pain and anxiety they are experiencing.  It has been hard to hold neutral space, and to know the best way to help others, when observing so many people in a state of extreme suffering.  Since last October and into the new year of Morphogenesis, it’s clear to me that where there are blind spots or deep wounds that have been buried or hidden, these wounds are exploding to the surface for many people who are disorientated about what they are supposed to do about it.  I’ve also noticed that lightworkers that never had negative attacks or had not been exposed to the underbelly of the war over consciousness, many of them are being initiated into a stream of dark manipulation and aggressive psychic attacks, and they are caught in total surprise that this is happening to them.

Its clear that one cannot really understand the severity of the consciousness war, and the attack against our creative forces and soul-spirit, until that person has been directly targeted for embodying this higher aspect of their consciousness.  Many star people have been dealing with this for many years already, and we all have to come to the acceptance that is how it is on planet earth.  However, now more people are awakening to a certain level, and they are getting a ration of negativity in which they are struggling deeply to comprehend.  In some ways this can be positive, because it means more people are awakening to the fact we are not free beings on planet earth.  This goes much further than the office of president, or world governments, or corporatocracy, as the source of total control over the level of consciousness that earth humans are allowed to have, as it was decided by the slave owners.

From my vantage point, since we moved into the bifurcation of time, those that are struggling with mental and emotional confusion, pain or fear, have really been amplified.  When a person is primarily seated in the intellect over their spiritual guidance system, this can really do a number on those that are awakening.  Unfortunately, there is no magic pill to clear out mental confusion and emotional pain, this is the inner work that every single one of us must do in order to become mentally and emotionally free from its grip.  Our clarity and discernment will remain very poor until we do the inner emotional work and get the ego/intellect out of the driver’s seat of our life.

At the same time, I’d like to say that for many awakening people that have been committed to do the inner work, they are feeling freer and more supported than they ever have.  This is true for me.  When the Krystal Star anchored here in late 2012, my entire life changed, and I went into a role reversal which was startling to say the least.  Over many years, the people that had known what had happened to me and thought of me as “there must be something wrong with her”, started to undergo dismantling and completely changed their tune.  All of the sudden, I was considered an expert in an area that most people had ridiculed me for.

From this very difficult place of observing people in pain, I’d like to share some qualities that I feel are absolutely critical to cultivate in these tumultuous times in order to navigate the energetic chaos and insanity in the outer world, and still maintain inner peace, coherence and clarity.

An important key is allowing yourself to feel incredibly uncomfortable sometimes in order to cultivate deeper clarity and discernment in situations, which gives you the ability to be transparent to outer influences.

Being transparent in the face of aggressive outer forces, and intimately knowing my weaknesses to protect myself, is how I navigate incessant attacks for sharing this information with the public.  I would not have made it this far, if I did not comprehend the importance of developing these qualities in myself.  I always look to be aware of my energetic weakness in every situation and commit to knowing the truth, even if it could be painful.  We all can become transparent to a degree in order to neutralize dark attacking, in which these forces cannot penetrate deeply enough into our lightbody to do real energetic harm.

Energetic harm comes when you feel emotionally devastated for a sustained period of time.

Thus, we all must cure ourselves of this pain body weakness by embodying our soul-spirit, because our unhealed pain will be the first item exploited to cause you agony.  This kind of emotional pain is temporary, and you can free yourself from experiencing this kind of suffering.

There is no real emotional and spiritual growth without some personal discomfort.  It is impossible to make an spiritual impact in the world, if you are unwilling to be uncomfortable and are unwilling to learn something new to improve yourself.  Learning never ends, and there is always something new to learn and improve.  This is how it is.

Clarity

Clarity is the quality of being clear through developing Self Awareness, it is the quality of Coherence that is the natural result of having a full comprehension, awareness or perception of something.  To develop strong Discernment of the energies around us, we must develop some degree of self-awareness and Self-Responsibility for the situations we may find ourselves, in order to arrive in some degree of personal Clarity.  Clarity and Discernment are life mastery skills that we must cultivate into positive attributes that radically improve the quality of our life, and which take time, dedication and practice.  Having clarity about things that are happening in our life, by seeing the macrocosm or bigger picture, helps us to avoid entangling ourselves into difficulties in such way we increase the dark resistance to those energies that we have labeled as negative or bad.

If we increase resistance to the negative energy we have perceived through our intellect, the negative ego, those particular energies will tend to amplify and magnify to become even stronger.

Therefore, to neutralize energetic entanglements and dark manipulation, we observe, discern and accept those energies into Neutral Association.  Our blind spots are generally caused by subconscious wounds, Pain Body, and lack of self awareness that generates the filter for Confirmation Bias that clouds our vision and reactions.

To develop personal Clarity, we need to discipline our intellect to have stillness within, generating a clear inner mirror which allows for Engaged Detachment to discern outer influences, even when these influences make us incredibly uncomfortable.  Spiritual Maturity is the process of dedicating to the expansion of consciousness in that one is willing to be uncomfortable in order to stretch beyond personal limitations.

Generally, we do not see our personal limitations and areas we can improve, until we are made very uncomfortable inside ourselves.  This discomfort can be mental, emotional and even physical.  Spiritual and emotional growth requires that we get comfortable with discomfort, knowing that we can learn something by inquiring on the reasons we feel uncomfortable.

When we have clarity, it produces the authentic state of energetic coherence in such way it allows more light, intuition, insight and energy to pass through you Transparently.  Clarity supports an increased accurate assessment of our environment and the humble ability to assess ourselves in our competencies, which is an effective tool for gaining self mastery.  To arrive at personal clarity for increased discernment in order to remain transparent to adversarial or opposing energies, we must do the inner work and be able to resolve, integrate and neutralize the subconscious wounds or emotional conflicts we carry.

The opposing forces use dark manipulation to direct strong resistance to amplify the areas we carry pain, and these events will reveal to us where we have energetic weakness and vulnerability through these unhealed wounds.  Dark forces will continue to agitate us through our energetic weakness, caused from pain, fear and avoidance, in order to generate as much confusion and misery in the human mind as possible.  If we are feeling mental and emotional pain, we must be willing to do the inner work at some level, and ask for help, in order to come to some resolution that allows neutrality to replace the pain.

The more clarity we have developed, the more authentic we become and the stronger our energetic aura to repel dark forces.

Transparent

As we evolve into higher initiations of Embodiment we are then increasingly able to become more Transparent to the external environmental energies.  Learning how to become more transparent to the external pressures and energies is a necessary skill at this time.  This starts with total Neutrality and non judgment, applied to all that is being observed externally.  A good practice now is to strengthen and develop your witness consciousness now moment awareness, to include Neutral Association to all events, circumstances and situations as best as you are able.  This means you will be less likely to interfere or become entangled with external events that may drain your energy.  Protecting your energy field by becoming self contained and inner directed is important at this time.  The 12D Shield practice is a primer to this process of learning energetic self containment.

During this time humanity has an increased access similar to a broadcast channel to higher intelligence fields, where our Higher Self has a Station of Identity existing at that plane.  These current stellar alignments greatly assist us in accessing the clarity of communicating with our higher aspect or Inner Christ Self.  Many of us are being spiritually initiated now.

It is important at this time to learn how to become Transparent to these external energies.  Do not attach or make judgment on any external behavior, only observe and hold peace inside yourself.  We are traversing some major phases of growth, which require we witness what has happened to our race so that we can become aware of what has happened in so we may choose to heal and change.  The change starts from within us.

Discernment

Being Transparent and clear when exposed to adversarial energies sourcing from the environment and others is a much needed skill set these days.  Without using ego judgment, or assigning a label, test out the personal resonance of people, events and circumstances that you are choosing to engage with or exchange with, determining which is either aligned to your person or not aligned to your person, in that moment.  There is no right or wrong answer, only personal resonance and choice.  That answer may change continually in different timelines depending on when you ask the question and what powers of discernment are cultivated.

Learning personal discernment builds our necessary boundaries to discover what is productive and supportive for fulfilling our spiritual path or not.  Discernment allows for continual productive growth and for the effective use of our personal energies and focused attention.  By upholding our personal boundaries and applying discernment towards all things that we focus our energy and our attention upon, we are more effectively managing our Consciousness and life force.

Thus, we may need to call upon the Spirit of Patience in many difficult situations we may find ourselves.  I find that when clarity or answers elude you, it is usually one of these two factors – Timing and Location.  One must wait for right timing, or there is a need to change your location.  Timing and Location for gaining clarity on your spiritual purpose is really crucial.

The Spirit of Patience is an essential aspect toward developing Spiritual Maturity and growth into a strong moral character.  Developing the Spirit of Patience allows us to develop strength in ourselves to expand our consciousness and go beyond our perceived Ego/Personality limitations.  Learning and acquiring patience will take an individual far out of their comfort zone and thrust them into lessons of transformation.

Patience is required to develop deep empathy and compassion towards others which allows us to be generous with Forgiveness.  Patience is the endurance of meeting life challenges without negativity, in so that we can build our core strength to be effective and powerful vessels of God Spirit.  Without the strength of the Spirit of Patience we can digress into self entitlement and emotional tantrums to get what we want from the selfish Negative Ego desires and its whims.

Sending much love, prayers of strength to all, in these challenging but beautiful times of Ascension.  We are in this together, and it is not an easy time to be on the earth!  But we have come here to learn and we can grow in quantum leaps if we choose to!

With a Loving Heart,

Lisa

 

(Source: Ascension Glossary: Clarity, Discernment and Transparency)

 

~via EnergeticSynthesis.com – Time Shift Blog – June 12, 2018