MATEO SOL: “6 Ways You Hinder Your Self-Growth Without Knowing It”

Our “self-esteem” is a very delicate illusion. We are so off-centered when it comes to locating the origin of our self-worth, that the smallest realization of an imperfection in ourselves can bring up all kinds of insecurities.

When a person begins working with their soul, they will start through self-exploration to gain energy, vitality, and clarity. They will also, however, notice the ‘shock’ of beginning to see their own unconscious selves and their deep inner fragmentation (e.g: all your sub-personalities).

These contradictions within ourselves that speak of who we truly are beyond the social and cultural conditioning in our lives, are humbling, but more importantly, they can also be disturbing. If we were to discover and consciously become aware of all these contradictions at once, the shock would be so great we would most likely go insane.

Our brains have a limited capacity to process all the intellectual and sensory information that we encounter at any given moment, and because of this the unconscious mind exists. In essence, the unconscious mind is a psychological “buffer” which is a part of the brain that stores all the unprocessed information the conscious mind can’t handle.

The unconscious mind works as a shock-absorber, and in psychology this is known as a “defense mechanism”. There are an infinity of defense mechanisms going on within us at any given moment, but these are some of the most common I’ve observed in our practices:

Innocent Bystander

One of the greatest hindrances in anybody’s journey of self-growth is to fool themselves into thinking they haven’t done anything wrong. This may be why the recovering addict’s first step is to acknowledge they have a problem. Most people live in denial or avoidance of exploring themselves because it keeps them from properly recognizing their more unsavory traits and capacities.

“The world is screwed up but I’m completely guilt free” is their basic outlook on life. They refuse to see the interconnection between their actions and lifestyle with the external world around them.

Innocent Critic

This defense mechanism is very similar to the Innocent Bystander, only this one avoids guilt by actively criticizing the world and people around them. Criticizing is our way of rebelling against society and wanting to find a way out, of wanting to be outside of the ‘herd’ while still feeling a sense of false participation.

Critical thought is a necessary instrument in any persons self-growth. But often these “critics” use critical thinking as way of boosting their ego, to feel smarter than the ‘herd’ who haven’t realized what the critic has. Unfortunately, noticing what’s wrong with the state of affairs of the world isn’t enough unless you actively apply a solution to the problem. It’s the essential difference between the paths of self-discovery and self-understanding.

Suppression

Unquestionably, a major obstacle in living a fulfilling life to the maximum of your potential is your inability to be authentic to yourself (it’s the key element in Self-Love). All too often we live with an inner tension of controlling desires that we fear will be socially unacceptable. Let’s say you like a movie or a song that you know your friends don’t like, or maybe you are attracted to someone you know everyone will disapprove of, so you suppress that feeling.

The suppression won’t make the feeling go away, in fact, what happens is that you might be so good at suppressing the feelings that your unconscious mind learns to switch between your authentic self (“I like this person or thing”) to your false sub-personality (“I don’t like the person or thing anymore”).

In the end, the unconscious defense mechanism of “suppression” is protecting you from experiencing confusion as to whether you like something or not by jumping from one extreme to the other. Not only does suppression hinder your self-growth, but it can also contribute towards emotional, psychological and physical repression resulting in a host of sicknesses.

Repression

Repression differentiates from suppression in one important way. While suppression is initially a conscious process of having a desire and learning to avoid or ignore is, repression is an entirely unconscious process.

For example, you might have had a traumatizing experience as a child that unconsciously affected your feelings towards whatever the experience involved. This unconscious defense mechanism basically serves to protect you from feeling pain or other difficult emotions connected to the memories of what is being repressed.

Sometimes, religious beliefs or social conditioning can be so strong that desires that would normally be consciously suppressed (such as sexuality for instance), become automatically unconsciously repressed. You don’t even become aware of what exactly were the desires of your original authentic self, and this makes you completely out of touch with your true self. This self-denying defense mechanism makes it very difficult to learn and cultivate Self-Love.

Reactive Extremes

In psychology the technical term is “reactive formation”, and this is something you’ll observe everywhere. The nature of the unconscious mind is that it requires absolute certainties — it needs to see the world in black or white. There is no grey, or “in between”.

Many people who had a very strict religious upbringing for example, grow older and become disillusioned with the dogmatic ideas they’ve been taught. These people unconsciously find atheism a very attractive option, and become fanatical anti-God advocates, almost dogmatically. Another example of a reactive extreme is the person who finds it difficult to deal with, or understand, other people, and as a reaction decides to become a hermit and go live in the mountains.

Going to reactive extremes can also be illustrated in the case of sour grapes (or the false pretense that we don’t care for something we really do care for, which can be illustrated in the Fox and the Grapes fable). In this situation, our unconscious mind realizes that we are fixated on a certain topic so it protects us by going from one extreme to the other, e.g. from love to hatred.

Blameless Victim

I’m sure we’ve all come across an angry victim of life, someone who blames other people or the world for their difficulties. But everyone uses blame as a defense mechanism to some extent. In truth, what we’re defending ourselves from is our own responsibility for dealing with the unpleasant experience we’ve been given.

To indulge in blame is to give up personal responsibility and mentally delegate it to someone else, convincing ourselves that we are not responsible for the state of our lives, instead blaming it on some “outside force”. The blameless victim mechanism blocks us from seeing clearly just how we are contributing to our own suffering.

Essentially, the blameless victim is one of the fiercest protectors of our ego. It causes us to feel that we’re never failing ourselves, or that we lack the maturity or strength to come to terms with the reality of the situations we’re confronted with. Whatever happened is not evidence of our own inadequacy, but of someone else’s.

Have you observed any defense mechanisms in yourselves or in others? Let me know in the comments below!

 

~via Wake-UpWorld.com

LISA RENEE (Time Shift Blog): “Denial and Blame Shifters”

“Psychological projection is when humans defend themselves against their own unconscious impulses or qualities by denying their existence inside themselves, while attributing those same qualities to others.  For example, a person who is habitually rude may constantly accuse other people of being rude.  This incorporates blame shifting.  Denial of the truth is the seed of all Ego Defense Mechanisms.”

~Lisa Renee

 

When we understand how fear is created in the body, it is helpful in releasing the grip of anxiety and fear patterns.  People that are triggered into fears and mental anxiety may impulsively turn to blame shifting or the projection of their fears onto others.  When people are in deep pain and they are suffering, many times they will move unacceptable impulses in themselves and place them onto someone else.  Sometimes, if another person or situation makes them feel uncomfortable, the person will blame them for their own discomfort.  In this way, it is a denial of personal responsibility by attributing to others their own unacceptable or unwanted thoughts or emotions.

When a person is shifting blame to an intuitive empath type of person, this can feel like someone throwing an energetic weight on top of them, while trying to make the empath process another person’s emotional garbage.  In this way, the blame shifter is throwing off his emotional garbage onto another person whom he perceives can process his emotional stuff.  This throwing off energetic weight in blame shifting or projection is a method used in order to release his or her own internal anxiety, in which that person seeks to release inner pressure that makes them feel immediately better about themselves.  There is an emotional pay off that exists in blame shifting.  Blame shifters tend to need to find self-justification for their own negative behaviors.  They conveniently place blame onto others in order to continue with their own sense of self entitlement to behave in the ways that make it easier for them to cope with stress.  Rather than get to the root of problems, they deny them by shifting blame of their issue onto others.

Psychological projection is when humans defend themselves against their own unconscious impulses or qualities (both positive and negative) by denying their existence inside themselves, while attributing those same qualities to others.  For example, a person who is habitually rude may constantly accuse other people of being rude.  This incorporates blame shifting.  Denial of the truth is the seed of all Ego Defense Mechanisms.  The concept of denial is particularly important to the study of addiction as facing the denial is getting to the root and cause of the addictive personality.  When denial occurs in more mature minds, it is most often associated with death, dying and rape.  Such as thoughts that are made towards crimes against humanity that are too terrible and fear inducing for that person to actually consider as accurate or truthful information, so they deny them instead.  Extremely difficult topics, like SRA [Satanic Ritual Abuse] or dying, may trigger great inner anxiety and fear, and are generally shut down from further discussion because many people are too afraid to confront these topics for a variety of reasons.

Denial is putting up a thought barrier and arguing against an anxiety-provoking stimuli by stating that it doesn’t exist.  When we live in denial we are refusing to perceive the more unpleasant aspects of the external reality, as well as many unpleasant aspects that may be hidden in our own behavior and personality.  Denial may also mean denying the happening of an event or the reliability of information, which can lead to a feeling of indifference on the topic in general, and to completely ignore the possibility of beneficial information.

A person that is rejecting unpleasant or painful truths inside themselves or in situations may use:

  • Simple Denial: deny the reality of the unpleasant fact altogether.
  • Minimization: admit the fact but deny its seriousness and impact through a combination of denial and rationalization.
  • Projection: admit both the fact and seriousness of the issue, but deny personal responsibility by blaming somebody or something else as the problem.

It is important to note that what makes denial denial and not just the refusal to admit to or accept a truth or fact, rests in the degree of that individual’s direct experience and awareness of the actual existence of the truth or fact.  In denial, an individual does not see or is mostly unconscious of the existence of the truth or fact.  The choice to refuse reality, then, is unconscious as well.  Refusal to admit to or accept a truth or fact differs from denial, in that the individual recognizes or is conscious of the existence of the truth or fact but consciously refuses to accept it as such.  Refusal to admit to a truth or fact, especially when it concerns others involved, can be considered a complex psychological and emotional manipulation tactic that is designed for selfish motivations.

When we are unaware of our subconscious reactions and thoughts, it is easy to project one’s unconscious qualities onto others, and this is a common occurrence in everyday life.

It is helpful to understand that dark forces in humans and nonhumans, commonly use blame shifting as a psychological warfare tool to weaken and exploit spiritually awakening people.  Blame shifting is a potent way to use trauma based mind control to weaken people, and so controller and manipulator types use this tactic skillfully to exploit those around them.  Blame shifting can also be accompanied with Gaslighting.  We must remember the goal of dark forces is to exploit and weaken those spiritually activated.  Thus they will target the mental body, emotional body and spiritual body, in so to exploit personal weaknesses.  The plan of action is to make that person doubt themselves or second guess what actually happened to them, even if they remember what has happened very clearly.  When a person is in perpetual self-doubt, this greatly weakens his or her mind and spiritual communication.  Gaslighting is a form of psychological-emotional abuse that Controlling types of personalities and dark forces use to which a victim is manipulated into doubting and discrediting their own memories, perceptions, experiences and sanity.  When people do not have the whole picture of events, and they are being deceived and manipulated with only limited access to the truth contained in circumstances, it obfuscates their ability to make informed, clear and well thought out decisions.  Thus human and non-human Gaslighters like to tell other people what they are feeling, what they are perceiving, what they should be doing, and criticize and condemn anything else they do not agree with in that persons experience, because it is not favorable to serve their own selfish agendas.  By attempting to gain total control over another person, this directly leads to control over the mind of another person, and this is what dark forces are striving for.  As long as they have some influence or control over the mind, they continue to have control in the mind, body and spirit of that individual.

These dark forces can be included in the subconscious fear content that exists in the fragmented parts of the individual’s mental body, in which great darkness has been allowed to grow and even flourish from feeding the fear.  When a person has not taken care of their subconscious fears, the inner darkness may explode from inner to outer, in which blame shifting and projection becomes a part of that person’s survival mechanism to cope with life.  When the negative ego and all of its shadows are feeling threatened, it will attack and lie in order to preserve itself, in a variety of ways that is described as ego defense mechanisms.

Anytime we reject the unpleasant truth to remain comfortable within our belief system, or from our fears of self-annihilation, we easily accept lies as truth.  When a person believes the negative thoughts they received from a negative entity, are actually coming from their own mind, and they act out that destructive behavior, the entity is successful in deceiving them.  Generally, entities use an emotional bait hook based on manipulating the type of pain or trauma that specific person carries.  The dark force will find an inroad into the weakness of that person, and possibly bind itself to the wounds of that person, through the consent that was made during the destructive behaviors that person has acted out in the past or present.  In order for that dark force to remain connected to manipulate the subconscious mind of the unaware person, they will use deflecting tactics to keep attention away from their existence and to keep the focus on other people and things on the external that can be used for blame shifting.  This is a potent way to continue to lodge the programing for fear bondage loops of victim-victimizer archetypes, which amplify polarities in the energies, and thus are feeding parasites and predators.

Being able to own your own emotional conflicts without blame or projection upon another person by making it their fault is the hallmark of personal responsibility.  Do not assume that you know anything about that person that can be judged for what you cannot see or really know about them, as you have not walked in their shoes.  When feeling upset towards somebody else, restore balance to your heart and aura by lovingly holding boundaries without violating others boundaries.  It is a violation of another’s healthy boundaries by expecting them to resolve your conflict and process your emotional content.  Be willing and open to learn what the real issue is that has created the conflict that exists within you.  Most of the time, we’re upset about something deep down from our own inner fears and it’s not what it appears to be on the surface of life.  By going deeper and reflecting on forgiveness of ourselves and forgiveness of others, while allowing the time and space needed to heal, helps to neutralize the conflict in most cases.  We all must learn how to become responsible for our own behaviors, thoughts and actions.  Accepting Self-Responsibility is a major step of productive negative ego clearing, in which we stop blame shifting or projection when it is merely convenient for us to unload our emotional garbage onto other people.

(Ascension Glossary: Denial, Blame Shifting)

 

~via EnergeticSynthesis.com – Time Shift Blog – May 29, 2018

LISA RENEE (Energetic Synthesis): “Splitting Behaviors”

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Splitting is a very common Ego Defense Mechanism. Splitting (also called black and white thinking or all-or-nothing thinking) is the failure in a person’s thinking to bring together the dichotomy of both positive and negative qualities of the self and others into a cohesive, realistic whole. Usually one small piece of the overall picture is focused upon, while ignoring other details that the person is not willing to look at. It can be defined as the division or polarization of beliefs, actions, objects, or persons into good and bad by focusing selectively on the judgments or perceptions of positive or negative attributes. Splitting is a coping mechanism which diffuses the internal anxiety that arises from our inability to grasp the subtleties and complexities of a given situation or state of affairs. The situation is broken down into smaller parts in order to simplify and schematize the situation, thereby making it easier to think about and rationalize. Splitting also reinforces our sense of self as good and virtuous by effectively demonizing all those who do not share in our same opinions and values. Through the course of growing up from childhood into adulthood, we develop coping skills and will come to label people, places or objects in the environment that are acceptable or not acceptable in our belief systems. Ego defenses are similar to mental racketeering programs that are commonly used as coping mechanisms for reducing day to day anxiety, fears, and obsessions that are related to thought addiction or the need to control the environment. When we are addicted to our thoughts, we have lost balance with our feelings and sensory abilities that allow us to be fully present in the moment and be in a receptive mode to better discern the environment and their energies.

One day, friends and lovers are being thought of as personified virtue, and then when something displeases them, they may suddenly think that same person is evil or bad. (flipping back and forth).

Such a narrow compartmentalization of opposing energies leaves the person using splitting behaviors with a distinctly distorted picture of reality and limited within a small and restricted range of thoughts and emotions. It also affects that person’s ability to attract and maintain relationships, not only because splitting is tiresome and draining, but also because it can easily flip at any moment. One day, friends and lovers are being thought of as personified virtue, and then when something displeases them, they may suddenly think that same person is evil or bad. (flipping back and forth).

Splitting also arises in groups, when members of the in-group are seen to have mostly positive attributes, and whereas members of out-groups are seen to have mostly negative attributes, This is a phenomenon that contributes to group think and, indeed, may include inflexible attitudes of xenophobia. Xenophobia is intense or irrational dislike or fear of people that we consider strangers or that are unfamiliar to us.

Splitting in Relationships

Splitting creates instability in relationships because one person can be viewed as either personified virtue or personified vice at different times, depending on whether they gratify the subject’s needs or frustrate them. This, along with similar fluctuations in the experience and appraisal of the self, leads to chaotic and unstable relationship patterns, identity conflicts, and sudden mood swings. The therapeutic and healing process can be greatly impeded by these sudden emotional or mental oscillations, because the therapist or healing tool can be seen as all good or all bad. To attempt to overcome the negative effects of emotional instability and rapidly shifting moods from confusion around personal identity, constant re-interpretations and self-inquiries on personal progress to become more emotionally and mentally stable is needed.

Splitting contributes to unstable relationships and intense emotional experiences. Splitting is not uncommon during adolescence, but is regarded as temporary. Splitting has been noted especially with persons diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. Treatment strategies have been developed for individuals and groups based on opening the dialogue to explore unconscious and conscious behaviors, and for deeper exploration between couples. There are also self-help books on related topics such as mindfulness and emotional regulation that have been helpful for individuals who struggle with the emotionally devastating consequences of splitting.

Narcissistic personality disorder

People matching the diagnostic criteria for narcissistic personality disorder also use splitting as a central Ego Defense Mechanism. Most often the narcissist does this as an attempt to stabilize their sense of self positivity in order to preserve their Self Esteem, by perceiving themselves as purely upright or admirable and others who do not conform to their will or values as purely wicked or contemptible. Given the narcissist’s perverse sense of entitlement and splitting, he or she can be equally geared, psychologically and practically, towards the promotion of projects simultaneously, while promoting the demise of that same collectively beneficial project. The cognitive habit of splitting also implies the use of other related Ego Defense Mechanisms, namely idealization and devaluation, which are preventative attitudes or reactions to narcissistic rage and narcissistic injury.

Depression

In depression, exaggerated all-or-nothing thinking can form a self-reinforcing Negative Ego cycle. These recurring or obsessive thoughts might be called emotional amplifiers because, as they go around and around, looping, and with each cycle of looping, they become more intense. Typical all-or-nothing thoughts:

  • My efforts are either a success or they are an abject failure
  • I am/other people are either all good or all bad
  • if you’re not with us, you’re against us

Triangulation

Triangulation is a situation in which one member will not communicate directly with another member, but will communicate with a third member, which can lead to the third member becoming part of the triangle. The concept originated in the study of dysfunctional family systems, but can describe manipulative behaviors used in other systems as well, including work or group dynamics. This is a common method to spin disinformation between multiple parties to increase Compartmentalization within organizations or employ divide and conquer strategies.

Triangulation can also be a form of “Splitting” in which one person plays the third family member against the one that he or she is upset about. This is playing the two people against each other, but usually the person doing the splitting will also engage in some form of character assassination, only with both parties.

The key word here to remember is Character Assassination. Gossip and triangulation is the method used for Character Assassination. The NAA Victim-Victimizer software is specifically designed to assassinate the character of any person that is publicly involved in the Law of One and Ascension material, especially if you are a Starseed and not culled by them in their programs of mind control, and including MILAB groomed abductees with genetic enhancements that turn into whistleblowers.

Compartmentalization

Compartmentalization need-to-know-basis is a mind control strategy to contain and control the field of academics, scientists, military and government personnel who are complicit in carrying out the destructive and harmful behavior of the NAA and Power Elite, and are rewarded monetarily and socially for going along with reinforcing the alien invasion of our planet and enslavement of humanity.

Compartmentalization is the Mind Control method used to shut down and destroy open mindedness, critical thinking, independent thinking and creative thinking. Compartmentalization is an unconscious psychological defense mechanism used to avoid cognitive dissonance, or the mental discomfort and anxiety caused by a person’s having conflicting values, cognitions, emotions, beliefs, etc. within themselves. Compartmentalization allows these conflicting ideas to co-exist by inhibiting direct or explicit acknowledgement and interaction between separate compartmentalized self-states. Splitting behavior is the result of the compartmentalization of accurate facts or complex situations, in order to remove the conflicting details that cause one internal anxiety.

False Truce

False Truce is a Victim-Victimizer software mind control archetype that is used to target spiritually developing people. This is one of the Controller Programs that is a sub program of the Victim-Victimizer software program and a collective miasm that has accumulated over many generations.

As the Victimizer Archetypes and related programs that are embedded in the cellular matrix are very enhanced now, especially in adjunct to Life Review patterns for many of us now on the ascension path. This is explosive for some of us now, and I am observing these traps for ensnarement, and like Addiction, are jaws attempting to latch on to our vulnerability.

A False Truce is when a person who has had a conflict with another person, is not interested in resolution or ending the conflict, but in promoting the conflict further. This is the guise of pretending that they are perfectly okay with whatever conflict had transpired. Because they have not accepted any Accountability to their role in the conflict, they will usually spread gossip, defame the character of the other person (Character Assassination), to retaliate for the self-justification they made up from their Ego Defense Mechanisms.

Character Assassination

Character Assassination is a deliberate and sustained process that aims to destroy the credibility and reputation of a person, institution, social group, or nation. Agents of character assassinations employ a mix of open and covert methods to achieve their goals, such as raising false accusations, planting and fostering rumors, and manipulating information.

Character assassination is an attempt to tarnish a person’s reputation. It may involve exaggeration, misleading half-truths, or manipulation of facts to present an untrue picture of the targeted person. It is a form of defamation and can be a form of ad hominem argument.

For living individuals targeted by character assassination attempts, this may result in being rejected by their community, family, or members of their living or work environment. Such acts are often difficult to reverse or rectify, and the process is likened to a literal assassination of a human life. The damage sustained can last a lifetime or, for historical figures, for many centuries after their death.

In practice, character assassination may involve Doublespeak, spreading of rumors through Malicious Gossip, innuendo or deliberate misinformation on topics relating to the subject’s morals, integrity, and reputation. It may involve spinning information that is technically true, but that is presented in a misleading manner or is presented without the necessary context. For example, it might be said that a person refused to pay any income tax during a specific year, without saying that no tax was actually owed due to the person having no income that year, or that a person was sacked from a firm, even though he may have been made redundant through no fault of his own, rather than being terminated for cause.

Transference

Transference is a phenomenon characterized by unconscious redirection of feelings from one person to another. One definition of transference is the inappropriate repetition in the present time of a relationship pattern from the past that was important in a person’s childhood, to which the conflict was never resolved. Another definition is the redirection of feelings and desires and especially of those unconsciously retained from childhood toward a new object or person. Still another definition is the reproduction of emotions relating to repressed experiences buried in the unconscious mind, and the substitution of another person to be thought to be the cause of these buried emotions, instead of uncovering the original object or causal event of the repressed impulses.

Splitter Tech

Splitter Tech is a type of AI encoding that run as a Mind Control script that is embedded into a variety of types of media, such as written words, spoken words of an infected individual, video or audio recordings, that can pass on that same scripted code to another person that resonates with that same frequency or information. It reveals a profile that is commonly observed in very academic or intellectually controlled or developed people, and tends to be attached to highly mentalized persons with dominating Negative Egos, judgmental perceptions and little to no heart opening. When a person is aware of the NAA and is also aware of the fact that Controller forces have a Psychopathic personality, this means they have Lack of Empathy, and no true developed Compassion for others, as they do not have a Soul, and thus cannot experience any higher emotional spectrum. They are indeed, heart-less, and unable to feel emotions and ruled by instinctual forces.

To a coherent, clear and energetically balanced person, when reading words or being exposed to Splitter Tech script, it feels like your brain is getting scrambled and thoughts are scattering, and maintaining clear focus is nearly impossible. It also is sprayed as implants to divert attention and focus within a group environment, as one person may be a booby trap with Splitter Tech that is used to disrupt or divide and conquer the entire group objectives. Patterns include running AI induced embedded code through a “signal” that may influence a splitting effect, also known as ‘bi-polar’ or Bi-Wave Influences to align the target or subject to Metatronic Reversal, Metatronic Spiral or Entropic Systems of energy.

As one learns how to refocus one’s thoughts, one prevents overwhelming states of emotion from triggering impulsive behaviors and angry reactions into splitting behaviors. As one develops strong impulse control they are learning a form of ego discipline through applied patience and diligence. If we check in and find that we do not like what we may be feeling, we can learn better the reasons for that by further shifting into the observer mode. In our community, we call that process of observing as shifting from identifying with a thought or feeling by moving ourselves into the compassionate witness. As a Compassionate Witness we have no judgment of thoughts or feelings, we hold no judgment of what we are observing in the external, we only observe those thoughts and feelings in our self and others. When we can fully observe through our own Compassionate Witness, we then become neutral and centered. Then, we can immediately find relief from our inner anxiety, fears and a host of other thought distortions. This process is key to shifting ego defense mechanisms, thought addiction tendency and releasing the anxiety or fear of feeling emotional depth or pain that contributes to splitting behaviors. By continually using an ego defense mechanism to avoid facing the source causation of the anxiety or deeply rooted fear, (which is unresolved pain or trauma) we are only perpetuating the mental looping which uses denial of the truth in order to avoid feeling pain or discomfort. Denial of accurate accounts of the truth is the seed of all Ego Defense Mechanisms that stunt our continuing path of emotional and spiritual development.

 

 

 

 

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