CONSCIOUS REMINDER: “Use These Crystals To Help You Through The Upcoming Mercury Retrograde”

Summer is almost here! But this summer does not mean good news for everyone. For those who have been living under a rock, Mercury has influence over communication and technology.

So, when it goes to retrograde, it starts affecting all these sectors of our lives. Mercury retrogrades are common — going 3 to 4 times every year. This time, the retrograde takes place July 7 – July 31. This means there will be a lot of chances in passion and problematic responses.

Keep a check on yourself. And if you really want to stay protected, go for these crystals:

1. Amethyst

With the feminine energy of Amethyst, you can activate your creative forces. You can finally communicate your needs and start activating your passionate side. Writing and painting will become your way of dealing with the retrograde. Express yourself through your art.

Using it: Start with your creative projects. Meditate with an amethyst crystal in order to open up your third eye. Write down all your themes. Start planning.

2. Danburite

Mercury retrogrades bring a lot of stress. After all, technology and communication are important parts of our life and when these take a hit, we invite more stress. But Danburite makes it all so easy for us. It relieves our mind from this tendency to speed up in this fast-paced world and controls your worries.

Using it: It acts like the deep breathing remedy when you have a panic attack. It cancels out any misunderstanding and the vibration levels will bring peace in our mind. Let peace fall over you during this period with this crystal.

3. Smoky Quartz

Summertime is great for vacations but the retrograde just had to come during this time! Smoky quartz brings you luck and safety, generally which is associated with travelling. It can also help by grounding you — something necessary during Mercury Retrograde.

Using It: Keep it like a pendant when you are going somewhere for travelling. Use it for grounding purposes too.

4. Amazonite

Communication will get really difficult during this retrograde. How to get a cure? Well, you can bring in your stronger game in communication with the Amazonite stone. It will clear up your mental processes and help you express things better. It will also help you improvise when you are having discussions.

Using it: Meditate with this stone if you are going for a serious conversation with a partner or a boss. Keep it with you during the conversation. You will see how smoothly it goes.

 

~via ConsciousReminder.com

CONSCIOUS REMINDER: “Making A Connection With The Energies Of Your Crystals And Stones”

The primary step for knowing how you can work with stones and crystals will be learning to sense their energy. There are a few ways in which you can open the paths of establishing communication between your crystal and you.

However, the most significant thing when it comes to working with stones and crystals would be to have personal experiences with stones and crystals.

In order to start a particular relationship with stones or crystals, you can start rubbing the hands together so that you can awaken the centers of energy in the hands.

In this way, you create a field of energy. You can even become conscious of certain sensations in the hands, and warmth or tingling may also arise.

After that, you should put the hands over your crystal or stone, or you can place it directly in the hands. Then, tune into its frequency and notice if any sensation is there that you can feel. What can you feel from the crystal? That the needed time in order to truly connect or tune into what you sense.

You can begin with the physical body. While you hold the crystal, think of the physical sensations which you pick up. Do you sometimes feel cold or hot, grounded or energized?

Is your heart beating faster or are you feeling lightheaded? You have to check how the physical body feels while you are still holding the stone.

Then, keep holding the stone, while you are tuning into emotional sensations which you can feel. Pay attention to how you actually feel on emotional level.

Do you sometimes feel excited or happy, grateful, calm, relaxed or sad? You have to pay attention to your feelings which you are still holding the stone.

The following step would be tuning into the mental state. So, what are your mental experiences? Are you feeling scattered? Do you experience mental clarity?

Can you feel the anxiety or stress melting away? You just have to tune into everything that happens and be in attendance with this experience for several minutes.

Right now, as you are having this information, or having these experiences with the crystal, you should see whether you may understand how this stone can be helpful for you in life. If this stone provided you with calmness and relaxation, it may be the perfect one you can utilize for relieving stress or sleeping.

Perhaps this stone provided you with awakening and excitement. This may be the ideal crystal you may utilize when you feel the need of being more productive or energized.

There will really be no wrong or right to the interpretations when it comes to using your stone. You should be your personal guide and believe in everything that comes towards you.

You can even hold the crystals at the Heart Center, listening for any message from it. Remember to thank your stone and also sent it some light and love for the connection it had with you.

 

~via ConsciousReminder.com

NANICE ELLIS: “Are You In A Chaotic Or Energy-Sucking Relationship?”

Are you in a chaotic or energy-sucking relationship?  If so, you need to know about the social/relationship disorder known as “Amorphia”!

Do you have a friend, partner or parent who spews their emotions, crosses boundaries or manipulates the relationship according to their needs?  If so, they may be suffering from the social/relationship disorder called Amorphia!

The term “Amorphia” is derived from the word amorphous which means “indefinite character without defined shape or form; lacking clear structure, boundaries or focus.”

Although the word “amorphous” is most commonly used to describe undefined circumstances or shapeless substances, such as clouds or chemicals, people can also have amorphous tendencies.  In fact, in many cases, amorphous behaviors can turn into a social dysfunction that negatively affects relationships.

Even though I usually prefer to avoid labels, I also know that it’s impossible to heal a relationship without first identifying the core issue. As a result, I have personally coined the term “Amorphia” to describe this relationship dynamic.

So, what exactly is Amorphia?

You know all those people who drain your energy? Well, in all likelihood, many of them suffer from some degree of Amorphia, and, therefore, they can be defined as “Amorphics”! Although severe Amorphics are often described as “energy sucking vampires,” in most cases, the signs and symptoms of Amorphia are more subtle.

Although Amorphia can manifest as a wide range of behaviors, it can be defined as the misuse and abuse of energy, and this means that Amorphic people are not responsible with their energy (aka emotions, behaviors actions, etc…).

For instance:

  • Amorphics are often unpredictable and unable to commit to even simple choices, and because they have poor follow through, many don’t honor the commitments or choices they do make.
  • Amorphics often display inconsistent behavior and cannot be pinned down, and because they want to keep their options open, they may say one thing and do another.
  • While having poor boundaries, Amorphics frequently shift responsibility and use their emotions to manipulate others.
  • Since many Amorphics don’t value other people’s time and energy, they’re known to be insensitive or undependable (they are often late for appointments).
  • Amorphics can change their mind in a flash without any discussion; not even communicating with those involved.

Even though many Amorphics don’t understand how their behavior negatively affects others, the combination of mixed messages and broken promises results in ongoing arguments and chaotic relationships.

Chances are, if someone is not consciously using their energy, they’re unconsciously abusing it!

Projectors vs. Sponges

Although Amorphia can show up in many different ways, Amorphics can be divided into two distinct categories:

  • Amorphic Projectors
  • Amorphic Sponges

While Amorphic Sponges absorb, distort and/or project energy, they are more likely to be overly sensitive “people pleasers,” and while Amorphic Projectors project and distort energy, they are noticeably insensitive and more likely to develop narcissistic tendencies.

Amorphic Sponges seek approval, acceptance, appreciation, validation, etc…, and in order to get one or more of these emotional needs met, they may change their behavior to please others; this often results in self-suppression and disempowerment.

Amorphic Projectors seek respect and recognition in order to feel superior, and they always have to be right. Since they have to control the energy in any room or relationship, they often use their energy to over-power and suppress others.

While Amorphic Sponges need others to lift them up, Amorphic Projectors use others to lift them up.

The 4 Dynamics of Amorphia

Despite their differences, Projectors and Sponges share many common traits, and, in fact, they both misuse their energy in the same four ways.

So, unless otherwise specified, the following applies to both types of Amorphics.

#1 – Emotions

Both Amorphic Projectors and Amorphic Sponges project their energy through emotions — often using their emotions to manipulate others. While Amorphic Projectors are more likely to project anger, frustration, etc… and Amorphic Sponges are more likely to project sadness, disappointment, etc…, guilt and obligation are commonly used by both.

Since Amorphics project their energy/emotions onto others, if they’re feeling something, they want others to feel it too, and, in fact, it’s common for Amorphics to make other people responsible for their emotions. For example, it’s common to hear Amorphics say things like, “You made me angry.” By spewing blame and disappointment, they also make others responsible for their happiness.

Although some Amorphics wear their emotions on their sleeves, many are emotionally unavailable and hide their emotions. It’s also common for Amorphics to be emotionally reactive and quickly jump to conclusions. So, if something goes right, they’re happy, and if something goes wrong, they’re distraught.

Moreover, Amorphics may try to enroll others in their story by chronically validating their fears with “horror stories,” thereby manipulating people to feel what they feel. For example, if an Amorphic person is afraid of dogs, they may frequently share stories about random dog attacks.

Although Amorphics may spew their fears without ulterior motives, many intentionally provoke fear in order to control a partner’s, friend’s or child’s choices. For instance, to convince a partner not to go out with friends after work, an Amorphic partner may start talking about a local crime trend.

Furthermore, the Amorphic Sponge is an “energetic sponge” who takes on other people’s energy, emotions, and drama, and this means that if a friend or relative is sad, they’re sad. As a result, many Amorphic Sponges are ungrounded and emotionally unstable. In fact, they may expect a significant other to ground them or play the responsible adult.

On the other hand, the Amorphic Projector often diverts other people’s energy and may not seem to care how anyone feels — this dynamic results in, what appears to be, self-righteousness and a lack of compassion.

#2 – Responsibility

Rather than taking responsibility for their own lives, it’s common for both types of Amorphics to shift responsibility. Therefore, instead of taking responsibility for bad choices or negative circumstances, Amorphics either portray themselves as victims or justify their behavior with excuses.

By making others responsible for their feelings, they naturally project expectations, and when those expectations are not met, they project blame and disappointment.

So, no matter what happens, they have a distorted sense of responsibility.

However, even though Amorphics don’t take responsibility for their own lives, they may somehow believe that they have the right to manipulate others, and, when this is the case, they can either be over-protective people pleasers who feel responsible for everyone (aka Sponges) or over-bearing control freaks who always know best (aka Projectors)!

In addition to their emotions, Amorphics often manipulate others through judgment and blame, and if those strategies don’t work, threats and consequences are common. For instance, they might threaten to withhold love or approval, and if they don’t get their way, follow through accordingly. And, when all else fails, some Amorphics resort to suicidal threats, possibly escalating to tangible plans, and this means that the Amorphic person makes another person (usually a romantic partner) responsible for whether they live or die.

While Amorphic Sponges are more likely to hurt themselves, Amorphic Projectors are more likely to hurt others. Believing that they have the right to over-power or control another person, in extreme cases, Amorphic Projectors use their energy to violate others, and this can manifest as anything from bullying and verbal threats to physical violence.

Furthermore, whenever you see domestic violence, there’s always an Amorphic Projector acting as the abuser and an Amorphic Sponge portraying the victim.

#3 – Communication

By sharing too much information or asking inappropriate/personal questions, Amorphics can make people feel uncomfortable, and, furthermore, many Amorphics consistently ignore social signals.

On the other hand, in order to remain non-committal, some Amorphics share too little information. In fact, based on their needs or a desired outcome, Amorphics might omit pertinent information altogether, and, as a result, they’re often accused of lying.

Since the person who withholds information has greater power, their friends, relatives and colleagues are often at a disadvantage.

Furthermore, because Amorphic Projectors don’t consider the needs or wants of others, they often make choices without consulting those involved, and if they always have to be right, everyone else has to be wrong.

Not surprisingly, Amorphics often make their partners (and others) feel like they’re going crazy!

#4 – Boundaries

Both Amorphic Projectors and Amorphic Sponges have unclear boundaries, and many don’t know where they begin and others end.

While Amorphic Projectors may take advantage of others, Amorphic Sponges may allow people to take advantage of them.

Not knowing how to respect (or recognize) another person’s boundaries, both types of Amorphics often infringe their needs upon others, and this means that they may regularly expect help, support, money, etc…, and, in fact, they may chronically borrow money and default on promises of repayment.

Furthermore, if the Amorphic Sponge is emotionally needy or constantly seeking approval, others may experience his or her “energy” as an infringement in their space.

Since many Amorphics don’t respect privacy, they’re often found eaves-dropping or breaking into private emails. By getting into other people’s business, they frequently interfere where they don’t belong, and depending upon their intention, this can manifest as anything from unsolicited advice to downright manipulation. And, while the lines are blurred, this type of behavior can easily escalate into stalking.

Moreover, when Amorphics don’t respect physical space, it’s common for them to stand too close to other people or demonstrate inappropriate touching. On the other hand, it’s also common for Amorphic Projectors to hide behind a big wall, and by projecting “defensive energy,” keep everyone at a distance.

Additionally, with or without physical touching, some Amorphics use sexual energy as a form of manipulation, and in extreme cases, this can result in sexual harassment or assault.

By “manipulating” the boundaries of an intimate relationship, and justifying infidelity, Amorphics are more likely to cheat on their partners.

Role dysphoria is also common among Amorphics, and when this is the case, they may inappropriately take on the role of a parent or child.

The good news is that, in most cases, Amorphia has a cure!

Here’s How to Heal an Amorphic Relationship

If you’re in a relationship with an Amorphic, it’s safe to say that you’re in an Amorphic Relationship. However, once you understand the underlying dynamics, it’s possible to heal the relationship.

As the friends, partners and relatives of Amorphics, we often unknowingly perpetuate certain dynamics with our own behavior, and, therefore, by identifying and changing certain behaviors in ourselves, we have the power to heal our Amorphic Relationships.

So, if you’re the partner, friend or relative of an Amorphic, here’s what you need to do:

First, identify Amorphic patterns by pinpointing the ways in which Amorphia is showing up in your relationship.

Second, identify the hidden costs: energy draining, disruptive, frequent arguments, chaos, lack of intimacy, etc…

Third, identify your role in the Amorphic Relationship by answering the following questions:

  • Do you have unclear or non-existent boundaries?
  • Do you ever undermine your own worth?
  • Do you feel responsible for the Amorphic and his or her feelings?
  • Are you a people pleaser who doesn’t want to disappoint others?
  • Do you ever change, or hide, certain behaviors in exchange for approval or acceptance?
  • Do you ever change, or hide, certain behaviors in order to avoid guilt?
  • Do you ever change, or hide, certain behaviors in order to avoid someone’s anger, frustration or disappointment?
  • Are you afraid of consequences and threats (especially from the Amorphic Projector)?

If you answered yes to any of the above, you’ve spotlighted, at least, some of the ways in which you might be perpetuating an Amorphic Relationship.

Fourth, if you want to change an Amorphic’s behavior and heal an Amorphic Relationship, you must first change complementary behaviors in yourself!

For example, when it comes to an Amorphic partner, friend or parent:

  • Don’t be a people pleaser.
  • Don’t try to prove your worth.
  • Don’t allow yourself to be controlled by emotions.
  • Don’t be manipulated by guilt and obligation.
  • Don’t change or hide certain behaviors to avoid an Amorphic’s anger, disappointment, etc…
  • Don’t take responsibility for an Amorphic’s
  • Don’t take responsibility for an Amorphic’s
  • Don’t change your behavior in exchange for approval or acceptance.
  • Don’t inhibit your behavior because you’re afraid of consequences or threats.
  • If you believe that you’re in a dangerous situation, get professional help to get out.

Boundaries are Non-Negotiable!

Furthermore, if you’re in a relationship with an Amorphic, set and enforce clear boundaries. Since you can’t assume that someone will know exactly what you mean, always spell it out!

For example:

  • If you want your privacy respected, be perfecting clear that it includes no snooping, ease-dropping and interfering.
  • If you want to create positive and upbeat relationships, set a boundary that says no judgment or negativity.
  • If you want others to value your time, request that they keep their commitments, arrive on time and communicate changes promptly.

When one of your boundaries is crossed, make sure to respond immediately. If you wait to talk about it, your Amorphic partner, friend of relative might deny that it ever happened or reinterpret the event. Therefore, immediately pinpoint the Amorphic behavior and clearly state the boundary that’s been crossed — be clear and decisive without getting into a debate.

Remember, if you want others to respect your boundaries, you must also respect theirs.

Last but not least, cultivate the ability to say “no” and always be “at choice” for all you do and don’t do.

No doubt, it can take time to transform an Amorphic Relationship, and some relationships may need to end, but with love and patience, many relationships can endure — and even thrive.

With grace & gratitude,
Nanice

 

~via WakeUp-World.com

CONSCIOUS REMINDER: “Your Guardian Angels Communicate With You — These 6 Subtle Sensations Reveal Their Presence”

Are you trying to connect with your Guardian Angel? Do you feel that you are not able to receive their messages?

Well, the thing is that maybe your Guardian Angel is reaching out to you but you aren’t realizing it. Here are some of the different ways in which your Guardian Angel is trying to send you a message through touch; so you can actually feel these messages as they have a physical manifestation:

1. Embrace Or The Angel Hug:

Sometimes when you are trying to connect with your Guardian Angel, you might feel as if someone is hugging you. Yes, you might feel as if someone is holding your hands gently and giving you a warm loving embrace. Well, that’s a sign that your Guardian Angel is around you and trying to help you out. This usually happens when you are very stressed and tired and the Angel wants to show that they are around you to help you get better. So, it’s their unique way of telling you that you are important to them and thus they care for you enough to give you a warm loving hug.

2. A Warm Feeling:

If you are trying to connect with you Guardian Angel and you begin to feel that the temperature around you is rising, this means that they are around you. Yes, they want to literally make you feel warm and this is one way in which you can realize that they are around you and acknowledging that you’re longing to connect with them.

3. A Current Of Electrical Power:

Sometimes you may also feel a current of electrical power. This also means that they are around you. This electrical power may just affect your body but not in a negative way. It may shock and stun you and it might actually be very powerful. But don’t worry, it is just a sign that your Guardian Angel is around you. They are just making sure that you know and recognize their presence more than ever and this is why they are using a strong sign to tell you about their presence.

4. Angelic Wind Or Breeze:

You might also feel the presence of you Guardian Angel in a very easy breezy way; yes; actually with an angelic wind or breeze around you. The Guardian Angel may just be trying to tell you that they are hearing you and assuring you of their love and affection. Also, the breeze can be a way of soothing you and bringing peace and good wishes in your life. The breeze is a sign of how your prayers are being heard and good things are coming your way.

5. Liquid Sensation:

Guardian Angel may also give you a sensation as if a thick liquid is falling on your body. It might feel like honey and this liquid sensation is also proof that your Guardian Angel is around you and trying to tell you something that you don’t know about.

6. Feeling As If Someone Is Sitting Beside You:

Sometimes you may also feel that someone is sitting with you while you are struggling to connect with your Guardian Angel. Well, that’s none other than the Guardian Angel themselves. It may seem creepy but it surely isn’t. There is no one that you can trust more than your Guardian Angel. So, don’t get uncomfortable or scared if you feel they are around.

 

~via ConsciousReminder.com

CONSCIOUS REMINDER: “How To Cope With Spiritual Skeptics”

We all know how important spirituality is in our lives…

It is the deepest connection that a soul experiences and it is absolutely different from the connections we experience in this material world.  Spiritual connection nourishes the soul and makes the soul reach ultimate happiness and solace.

Needless to say, spiritual connection is required in order to lead a happy and fulfilling life.

But there are two problems that occur when we strive for a spiritual connection.  The first is that while yearning for a spiritual connection we may come across people who are not active in the spiritual domain.  The second is that you may come across spiritual pessimists who will try to affect you with their negative thoughts and views.

We will talk about these spiritual pessimists at length now.  They are the kind of people who aren’t happy with the fact that you are spiritually growing.  They feel inconvenient and hence they try to stop you from going further on your path.  They do this by creating negative energy around you.  Thus, they try to snatch your peace and comfort in order to make you feel miserable because they themselves are not happy with their own lives.

Here’s how you should deal with a spiritual pessimist:

1. They won’t understand, no matter what:

The thing is that people barely understand each other these days.  We live in a world where a serious communication breakdown is taking place.  So, firstly we should not be expecting everyone around us to understand us.

More so, never think that the spiritual pessimist will ever understand you.  This is also due to the fact that the path you have chosen for yourself cannot be understood by the spiritual pessimist.  They are still on a journey that is very, very disparate from yours.

2. Don’t justify your actions to them:

Never justify your actions to a spiritual pessimist.  This is because they have already formulated an opinion about you that is premised on their bias and prejudices.  The spiritual pessimist is so stubborn that no matter what you say to change the opinion that they have made about you, they are not going to change their opinion, not even a jot.

They will continue to think what they want to think about you and not a single action of yours can change that.  So, the better thing is to not waste your energy in justifying your actions. Instead, walk on your path and don’t worry about them.

3. Meditation might help you:

Meditation will give you the much required peace and comfort.  It will also give you energy to fight with the negative energy of the spiritual pessimist.

Meditation will help you see things in a different perspective and this will make you happier than before.  This will also help you on your spiritual journey.  So, meditate if you can. If not, even a walk in nature might help you.

4. Have a conversation with your healer or spiritual partner:

Talk to your healer or your spiritual partner.  They must have gone through the same at some point of time in their journey.  They will surely have the solution to your problem.

Don’t let the spiritual pessimist affect your spiritual journey.  Focus on yourself and try to stay calm and composed around the naysayers.

 

 

~via ConsciousReminder.com