Most of us know how we want to live. We know exactly what we need to do, maybe even how, and yet less than 1% of the people are living on their terms. Why is this?
The short answer is that people lack proper education, nobody has told them that there are mental tools they can learn to use, nobody has showed them how.
Just like you need tools to build, for example a house, you need mental tools to build the reality you want to live in.
There are countless mental tools developed by people who were in desperate need of them. These people needed these tools so much that they created them to help themselves.
Before you go out exploring all the existing mental tools, here are the 3 best and most essential ones you will need to create a better life for yourself.
The 3 Best Mental Tools To Build Better Life:
1. The 5 Second Rule.
Most of you know “The 5 Second Rule” to be something that applies to food that you might have dropped. But this is a different rule.
This is a mental tool developed by TV host, author and motivational speaker Mel Robbins and it’s the main thing that helped her rise even higher when she was hitting rock bottom.
This so called “5 Second Rule” is really simple. All it means is that whenever you want, or need, or should do something, count from 5 to 1 and lift off into action.
Mel first started using this mental tool in the mornings, when she felt like not getting out of bed. She started counting 5, 4, 3, 2, 1, and on 1, without thinking, she just got up.
The truth is, you will never going to feel like it’s the perfect moment for taking action. However, with this simple tool you will have mental leverage to launch yourself into action.
2. Turn ANTs Into PETs.
So, of course, we are not talking about actual ants. ANT is short for Automatic Negative Thoughts and PET is short for Positive Encouraging Thoughts.
Dr. Daniel G. Amen got the idea when his home was infested with ants. He looked at the real ants and realized that most people have minds that are infested with negative thoughts.
Most of us think the same 90% of the thoughts every day, and most of these thoughts are negative. There are over 20 mental distortions that twist our reality to seem more negative.
There is an easy tool that Dr. Daniel developed, to turn ANTs into PETs, and it’s in a form of asking yourself 5 simple questions whenever you notice a negative thought.
Is the negative thought true? Can I absolutely know that it is true? How do I react when I feel this thought? Who would I be without this thought? What’s the opposite thought?
3. What’s Pulling, What’s Pushing?
If you are like most of us, you have had a dilemma when you didn’t know what to choose between two or more choices. Most of us have such dilemmas daily.
And this is normal. However, most people don’t really know how to choose the best out of all their conflicting options.
There is a simple mental tool you can use, in a form of 2 simple questions that will clarify so many things for you.
Whenever in a dilemma between two choices ask yourself “What’s pulling me in that direction, love or fear, abundance or scarcity?”
Now ask yourself “What’s pushing me in the opposite direction, love or fear, abundance or scarcity?” Choose the options that are inspired by abundance and love.