DEJAN DAVCEVSKI: “3 Things To Do This August To Be A Better Version Of Yourself”

The past month we focused more on reconnecting with yourself but we didn’t say how important nurturing yourself is.

This month we will be doing exactly this. We will learn how to nurture and take care of ourselves, our needs and our emotions.

As we heal past trauma and inner wounds it’s important to create moments for yourself when you take a break, recharge and care for your needs.

This journey of becoming our best selves is not all about overcoming obstacles, facing wounds and being persistent without taking a look at ourselves.

It is crucial to take a moment and show loving care for ourselves. It is crucial to cater to our own needs because after all, we are human beings.

Yes we can crawl through everything, but it’s dishonorable to not reward yourself for everything you went through. So here is what we say you should do.

3 Things To Do This August To Be A Better Version Of Yourself:

1. Find what your essential unmet needs are and fulfill them.

We all have personal needs and desires. However, as we try to live up to society’s standards we tend to push these needs and desires away. But this is turning your back on yourself. If you need to take a day off, take it. Find what are your essential needs that you have left unmet and fulfill them for yourself. You can be imperfect and irresponsible for a day as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone. What do you need for yourself? Find out and meet your needs.

2. Let your emotions be free and accept them without judgment.

We tend to try and control our emotions. But all that we do is control our actions while suppressing our emotions. We cannot actually control an emotion, just as we cannot control the words that we read. We can control the actions we take based on those emotions, the message we understand and the lesson we learn, but we cannot control the emotion itself. Thinking that we control our emotions means we label them as right or wrong and put the wrong ones aside, somewhere within us. This is not just turning our back on ourselves, but we also fail to hear the message the emotion has to tell us. So this month let the emotions you’ve been suppressing within you free. Accept them as what they are and stop trying to control or change them. Stop resisting them. Dive into them. Feel them. See what they say to you. Do not judge them as neither emotion is bad by itself. Fully embrace them and love them. Stop being afraid of them as they cannot harm you. As you do this you will realize that these bottled up emotions will fade much quicker than you imagined. But you will also realize the messages they tell you are one of the most important and insightful lessons you can learn about yourself.

3. Go on a vacation or at least take spa day.

All of us need a vacation. Some say make your life like a vacation but you will need a vacation from such life too. It doesn’t matter how you live, taking time off from your regular activities, changing your environment and lifestyle is a need for everyone. It’s something we all need to recharge our batteries from the mundane everyday life. Just like a muscle needs a day off when you exercise it, you need a vacation to refresh and realign. If you are not in a position to take a 10 or 7 day vacation at least take a day off and go to the spa. Nurture your body, mind, spirit and heart. Whatever you do, just take a day for yourself with intent to show kindness and care, to recharge and to produce some feel good emotions. And not just one day, do one nurturing thing per day and see how you feel.

 

~via LifeCoachCode.com

NEZEL PADAYHAG: “5 Types Of Fear That Are The Opportunities To A Positive Change In Your Life”

Considered to be an emotional response triggered by an imminent threat, our fear is the greatest challenge we all need to face and overcome in our life.

If our fear is always being avoided, it will become a monster that locks us up in the dark prison of our minds.

We hide, we run, we act stupidly just to avoid fear. And the more we resist it the bigger monster we create of it.

The truth is, fear has full control of us because we don’t live in the present moment, but in our mind, and in our mind fear can be anything.

Fear is a protective program, it’s not against you. But if we let fear to make the decisions for us it will protect us to the point where we find ourselves locked within our own prison.

Behind every fear there is a truth that needs to come out into the open. Every kind of fear is just a door that hides some truth inside.

Once you find the courage to open what’s hidden inside, you will find the biggest opportunities for growth and evolution in your life.

There are different types of fear. We are affected by different type of fear at different points in our life depending on what we need most for growth and what holds us back.

Here are the 5 most common fears that are disguises for big opportunities. Find the one that has the biggest effect on you right now and see what kind of truth it’s within.

5 Types Of Fear That Are The Opportunities To A Positive Change

1. The fear of change.

You’re afraid of change because familiarity breeds comfort. Like a child who doesn’t want to lose sight of his mother on the first day of school, you don’t want to get out of your comfort zone because it’s where you feel protected and secure.

But as you grow older and start to see the world, you realize how small your awareness had been.

Had you not let go of the sight of your mother, you would not have known another world that is open for you to explore.

If you’re afraid of change, you deprive yourself of growing, evolving, and of testing your limits. The fear of change keeps you locked up in an unhappy place, be it a toxic relationship or unfulfilling career.

This fear is an opportunity to accept the inevitability of change and proactively step out of your comfort zone and grow. It highlights the limits of your comfort zone so you will know where growth and evolution begin.

2. The fear of being alone.

Most often, the fear of being alone is prompted by your own feelings of insecurity. You don’t feel secure with yourself because you feel you’re not good enough on your own.

You have been used to relying on other people for your security and happiness. Dependence isn’t the same with sharing and working together.

Being separated from your mother as early as infancy makes you feel disconnected. As a child, you have an unmet need that needs fulfillment.

But as you grow up you can take care of yourself. This dependency, if not overcome, creates a fear of being alone.

And ironically, if you do not spend time alone you cannot prove to yourself that you can be just fine by yourself, hence, you cannot overcome this illusion of dependency.

If being alone is one of your fears, it only means you need to work on your self confidence and self worth.

Once you’re confident to spend time being alone, without feeling less, you will find your own self worth. You will begin to see that a lot of people are like family.

Look into this fear and provide comfort to your inner child. It’s one way of healing yourself from this fear.

This fear is an opportunity for you to become self sufficient and independent. It highlights all the things you think you cannot do by yourself. Look at these things and do them by yourself. Each activity will reveal more of your self worth.

3. The fear of standing for your own truth.

Being conditioned to get validity from others for every word that you say leads you to be afraid of standing for your own truth.

Even if you know your idea is much, much better than that of the common belief, you refuse to speak thinking others might disagree.

This fear might have started in your childhood when you experienced bullying or when you were ridiculed by your immediate family or caregivers for saying your truth.

As a result, you guard yourself against anything that doesn’t feel comfortable, hiding your true self.

But your truth is a gift not anyone possesses. No one can see things the way you do. When you follow your own truth, you attract like minded people who want to live freely like you.

The way to get out of the cocoon you have built for yourself is to open up and be your genuine self.

This fear is an opportunity for you to be and express more of yourself. It highlights where you are incongruent in your reality. Use this knowledge to tell your truth and your reality will reshape with things you love and resonate with.

4. The fear of trying.

You’re afraid to try because of the possibility of failing, or succeeding, which is what terrifies us the most.

It’s normal to fail. Only a few endeavors succeeded with the first try. Most successes passed through the bridge of failures. And we think we want to succeed.

But most often, we are terrified of both of them. In fact, we are afraid of trying because it means we will face reality and it’s either not the way we think it is, or it is and we are right.

Either we are wrong and we cannot fantasize anymore, or we are right and we might get the results we want and they are disappointing in reality.

In both cases, we cannot fantasize about our results. We face reality and we either fail or see it’s not like we fantasized.

The fear of trying comes from loving our fantasy for the result more than the result itself. But reality is better than fantasy, even if it’s not exactly how we fantasized it.

This fear is an opportunity for you get what you want to get. It highlights the things that really matter to you. Use this fear to see the things you really want to get, however, let go of fantasizing and try to actually get them.

5. The fear of rejection.

The fear of rejection has something to do with being afraid of not being good enough. It’s how society conditioned us to feel.

But if you’re able to tweak your mindset a bit you’ll see that rejection only means something better is within you and you are not showing it.

If you believe your lack of certain skills caused you to get rejected, then do something to improve those skills.

If you are scared of being rejected because you doubt you are good enough, open yourself to rejection.

In both cases you will improve yourself to be the best version of yourself. The point of this is the realization that the rejection has nothing to do with who you really are.

If you get rejected it has nothing to do with the real you. We are all good enough, but thinking that some outside factor can validate us makes us not good enough.

Open yourself to these things and be rejected, you’ll either see all the skills you want to improve or you’ll see they were never really a factor to tell your worth.

This fear is an opportunity for you to become the best version of you. It highlights all the things keeping you from becoming your best self. You do this with giving your power away to them by seeking validation. You decide your own worth.

 

~via LifeCoachCode.com

CHRYSILLA LEWIES: “Forgetful Lately? Here’s The Surprising Reason Why!”

Do you feel like you are losing your mind, forgetting simple details? Rest assured you’re not, it’s actually one of the ascension symptoms we are all currently experiencing.

You can’t seem to remember what someone told you yesterday or maybe it just feels like your mind is becoming a sieve. You start thinking that you might need Memory supplements, your friends suggest reading more to challenge your mind to keep it active; and It’s true, we all need to use our muscles to keep them healthy. The brain is a muscle, but we don’t seem to use it as much as we use to. Let’s face it, technology has taken over a lot of problem solving tasks, but this is not the reason we are losing our memory, it is actually the complete opposite.

Our consciousness is gradually splitting away from the physical world and we no longer need to rely on our physical mind as much as we have done in the past. We are moving into higher states of consciousness and moving into the era of knowingness.

Forgetful Lately? Here’s The Surprising Reason WHY!

There is no better time than the present to practice to trust your internal guidance and to follow your intuition. By sitting in quiet meditation and getting to know how the real YOU feel — your essence as a pure energy being. You will find the balance between the heart and mind as you become more aware of the changes happening within you. You will start to notice how your feelings are pulling you into the direction you are meant to be going. These thoughts might be as subtle as:

  • “I knew I should have taken that exit on the motorway!”
  • “I got a feeling that I should have taken different route home, but didn’t”, or
  • “I don’t think I should go to this event, something doesn’t feel right.”

When living in your thinking mind and you are analyzing every decision you make or would like to make — will lead you to miss crucial opportunities. If you do, it might lead you to look at something and instinctively where you will know that something might happen before it actually does. You may get a feeling of knowingness and you get the opportunity to follow and trust your intuition. But do you?

When you are consciously thinking, you can feel the mind as it is working, analyzing and compartmentalizing. Sometimes you get home after a long day at work and you are tired, but not because of the physical work but the mental thinking you have been doing. Moving into the era of knowingness, your mind will no longer have to work as hard. Your mind feels empty and it feels like you’re not retaining as much information as you used to. Think of it as you storing the information in ‘The Cloud’.

The knowingness will come to you in a manner where you will be able to automatically read a person by just being in their auric field or connecting to them through thought. You may experience having a knowingness of what they are feeling without being in their presence. You may be so connected to someone that you will immediately know when something is wrong, and you will be guided to pick up the phone and call them.

The key is to Trust.

Enhance your natural abilities through practicing psychometry, meditation and or any other techniques that will allow you to use your senses more, instead of your mind.

Intuition Group Exercise

One person should draw shapes of all kinds on different pieces of paper.

Shuffle them and then give one to each member in you group.

No one will know what was drawn but you.

Take turns, and tune into one drawing.

Guess by describing what you see.

A minimum of two can participate and an ideal group size of 6.

 

Have Fun!

 

 

~via In5D.com

MANIFESTING MARIA: “Manifesting Self-Reflection”

“Self-reflection is the capacity to exercise introspection and the willingness of humans to examine their fundamental nature, conscious thoughts and feelings, in order to learn more about their purpose and soul essence. It causes us to ask ourselves who we are, why we are, who we want to be and how we can be better.”

~Maria Palmeri

 

I don’t know about you, but just “being” isn’t enough for me. One of my core values is intentional growth. I have to strive to be my best and true self. To grow, to learn, to evolve, to have pride of character and to touch the lives of others and inspire them to the same. Don’t get me wrong, I won’t always be my best self, I make mistakes. I’m no spiritual snob… but I am always trying to understand myself and my motives so that I can try to manifest my best self and true desires. To do that, I always have to be conscious of who I am and what I’m reflecting.

I was talking with a friend the other day and we were commiserating about “Why are we on this quest of inner healing?” Why are we moved to emotionally twist ourselves up and chase down our demons to be our best selves when we can look around and clearly see that others seem to be comfortable walking around and interacting as their (for lack of a better word) “shitty-shit” selves?!

“Knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom. Mastering others is strength; mastering yourself is true power. ”

~Lao Tzu

It occurred to me that not everyone has self-reflection skills. Self-reflection is the capacity to exercise introspection and the willingness of humans to examine their fundamental nature, conscious thoughts and feelings, in order to learn more about their purpose and soul essence. It causes us to ask ourselves who we are, why we are, who we want to be and how we can be better.

Why is introspection so important?

It’s easy to get distracted by life, moving from one moment to the next. Too busy doing, reacting, blaming and ultimately delaying the critical thinking necessary to constructively examine our lives. By enhancing our ability to understand ourselves and our motivations, we bring our focus back from outside diversions to ourselves and inner self-growth. Self-reflection is the key to real and lasting, positive self-transformation and personal growth.

We have over 50,000 thoughts per day, over half of which are negative and over 90% of which are just repeats from the day before. Many people get stuck in the cycle of blaming their feelings of failure, unworthiness, or unhappiness on others, while remaining blind to what they do to create and re-create their circumstances. Without awareness, we can change behaviors but we will not manifest the real and lasting transformation that we desire.

“An unexamined life is not worth living.”

~Plato

If we can become experts in self, we can change our wasteful or negative thought patterns into positive, self-transformational thought patterns that benefit our lives, progeny and the collective community.

Resources on self-reflection practice:

87 Self-Reflection Questions:

https://positivepsychologyprogram.com/introspection-self-reflection/#references

The Lost Art of Introspection:

http://expertenough.com/2990/the-lost-art-of-introspection-why-you-must-master-yourself

Do you utilize self-reflection? How has it benefited your life?

Love, Maria

 

 

~via ManifestingMaria.com

MICHAEL FORRESTER: “The Powerful Effect of Heart-Centered Healing”

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Every cause of disease first begins with an imbalance in the body’s energy systems, specifically, the interaction between how the heart communicates with the brain and the body.  Fix that and there is no disease, ever.  The heart can produce an electrical field 100 times greater than the brain and a magnetic field 5000 times greater.  Which one are you using to heal?

Emotions are vibrations which influence consistently our reality.  We not only think and work our way through a day, meeting, assignment, but also feel and believe our way through it.  The outcome depends on both.

Simply put, the number one cause of health is your energetic and emotional state.  How you connect emotionally to your overall wellness and wellbeing is more important than any supplement, food, exercise or health treatment.  There is only one cause of disease and that has to do with the energy and frequency imbalances that exist within your body.  Rectify that, and disease cannot exist… it would be impossible.

All the emotions are varieties of two: fear and love.  Fear/stress is contagious and causes contraction: inhibits creativity, brain activity, inhibits the immune system, selective perception and over extensive periods of time leads to breakdown.  Love (positive beliefs and emotions) has high impact and causes expansion: creativity, physical and mental endurance, more productivity in shorter time because we take decisions quicker because we are receptive and highly perceptive.  This a question of Math, HeartMath, as per the contribution in this field of the HeartMath Institute: when one has accurate information, they make better decisions.

The research behind the evolution of HeartMath came from the idea that the body’s emotional response to events do not always occur from “top-down” processing (i.e., the brain sends signals to the heart and other organs, and the body responds accordingly).  Rather, it has now proven that often times our emotional state triggers our heart to send out its own signals to the brain and other organs, and the body then responds accordingly.  For instance, while two-way communication between the cognitive and emotional systems is hard-wired into the brain, the actual number of neural connections going from the emotional centers to the cognitive centers is greater than the number going the other way.  Have you ever: Made a “rash” decision?  Done something dangerous on impulse?  Taken a risk because you believed in it?  This research helps explain the influence emotions have on our ability to think and act.

In fact, researchers at HeartMath have determined that the physiology and nerve centers of the heart are so complex and active, that they constitute a “brain” all on their own, termed a “mini-brain.”  We now know that the heart contains cells that produce and release norepinephrine and dopamine, neurotransmitters once thought to be produced only by the brain and ganglia outside the heart.  Even more remarkable is the discovery that the heart produces oxytocin — the “love hormone” — in concentrations that are as high as those in the brain.

 

7 Simple Actions To Create Positive Feelings

 

1.  Think about the colleagues who helped you today.  Thank them in your heart.  Think about your current assignments.  Know that they will work out well and work from this space

2.  What is it that you would like to have professionally?  A new project?  With whom?  Think about it in detail, be specific and imagine you are already working on it.

3.  Entertain the feeling of celebration that arises in your heart.  From this space take the appropriate actions to make it happen.

4.  Find ways to help your colleagues, or make them feel that you care.  Do one invisible act of kindness per day, or more if you want to.

5Before starting your work day give thanks and envision it the way you want it to be.

6.  When finishing your work day give thanks and clear it of negative emotions (which come out of fear that we know now is illusion) Do not take them at home or preserve for the next day.

7.  Smile.

 

The time of crisis is literally here: there is the fast pace of our world, the assault of too much to do with too little time and resources.  Being in the present moment is just a concept for most of us and has little translation to daily life practice.  Fear is widespread and is polluting us on a very cellular level: hypertension, autoimmune diseases, cancer, infertility, chronic back problems, anxiety, and depression; the list could continue forever.  The difference is how we interpret crisis because we can be at complete peace in the midst of chaos.

Can we live the life we want?  Can we be authentic in our speech?  Can we identify and release our underlying limiting beliefs so that we begin a new commitment towards genuine compassion, abundance, love and connection?  Your commitment will show in your body and intentions.

 

 

~via PreventDisease.com