MARITSA PATRINOS: “15 Easy Things You Can Do That Will Help When You Feel Like Shit”

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1. Get a drink of water.

Get a drink of water.

You could be dehydrated! Your body needs water. Not juice, soda, or alcohol — get a tall glass of water and make yourself drink all of it.

2. Make your bed.

When you have a lot to do and it feels overwhelming, making your bed can be the first step in getting your life on track. It will also (hopefully) discourage you from getting back into it.

3. Take a shower.

Take a shower.

Life feels different when you’re clean! And it can give you a burst of energy if you’re feeling lethargic. Wash your hair and give yourself a head massage.

4. Have a snack — not junk food!

Did you eat enough today? It’s super tempting to eat junk food when you feel like crap. If you don’t feel like making a whole meal, maybe eat just a piece of fruit; something you can burn throughout the day and not in a burst of five minutes.

5. Take a walk.

6. Change your clothes.

Even if you aren’t going to leave the house today, put on real clothes. Or, if you’ve been wearing the same uncomfortable clothes all day and feel restless, change into your sleepy clothes and slippers and relax.

7. Change your environment.

Change your environment.

Staring at the same four walls day after day can be drudging. Can you work from a cafe, a library, or a friend’s house? If you can add going somewhere to the list of things you did today, you may feel more accomplished.

8. Talk to someone, not on the internet — it can be about anything.

If you don’t feel like talking through your troubles, that’s OK. Visit a friend, talk to them about a movie you saw. Call your mom and see how she’s doing.

9. Dance to an upbeat guilty pleasure song.

Dance to an upbeat guilty pleasure song.

NOT ELLIOT SMITH! Pick something high energy and bump it. Dance like a rock star for one song to get your blood pumping again.

10. Get some exercise.

Do some cardio, work up a sweat. If you don’t have the time for a whole workout, look up a sun salutation on YouTube and stretch for as long as you have time. Do some push-ups or sit-ups at your desk.

11. Accomplish something — even if it’s something tiny.

Accomplish something — even if it's something tiny.

Do you need to grab some groceries? Schedule a doctor’s appointment? Reply to an email? If you can’t get to the big stuff on your list, focus on the small stuff, and don’t forget to congratulate yourself for getting something done.

12. Hug an animal.

If you don’t have a pet, can you visit a friend’s? Or can you go to an animal shelter?

13. Make a “done” list instead of a “to-do” list.

Make a "done" list instead of a "to-do" list.

Instead of overwhelming yourself right now, start feeling better about what you did get done. You can add “brushed teeth,” “washed dishes,” or “picked out an outfit” to your list. It doesn’t matter how small the task, prove to yourself that you’re effectual.

14. Watch a YouTube video that always makes you laugh.

I personally recommend this one.

15. Give yourself permission to feel shitty.

Give yourself permission to feel shitty.

You’re allowed to have a shitty day, and you don’t have to fix it all right now. If you try to fix it and it doesn’t work, that doesn’t mean it’s hopeless. Give yourself the time and space you need to feel what you’re feeling.

BRENDA BENTLEY: “Stepping Out and Into the Light”

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Do you ever wonder why some people just seem to shine – inside and out? Whatever they have seems to glow from within. I like to call this their ‘inner light’. Not only does this light give them a youthful appearance, but everything about them seems lighter (pun intended), clearer and illuminated.

I believe that we all harbor this inner light, and it’s simply a matter of tapping into it. When we learn how to uncover this hidden light by getting in touch with what was previously buried deep inside of us we can then embrace it. Then, we are able to transform those parts that once made us feel separate, incomplete, alone and in the dark into a vibrant whole person.

Transformational Healing is the path to inner knowingness. When we discover our hidden resources, we learn to trust, accept and believe in the answers that are coming from within ourselves. For many of us, this is a foreign concept -almost a fear- because for years, we have been taught to hide or push uncomfortable feelings even deeper down inside.

 

Alchemical healing

I have learned the hard way. When I push those feelings and sensations deeper down and further away from my consciousness, havoc and chaos prevail. Why? Because those feelings (that we have previously ignored, denied or rejected) are simply parts of us that need to be felt, expressed, heard and acknowledged. By recognizing them, we are able to get in touch with our roots and learn how to gently integrate and love all aspects of ourselves. Now the healing begins because we are finally honoring all of the parts of ourselves that have been waiting to be seen and accepted. And, this is exactly what our true core inner being has been seeking all along.

The alchemical healing that occurs feels magical because, the place that stores the wounds we once perceived as our dark or shadow side, is actually a powerful and deep space that grants us passage to understand those hidden chambers. When deeply held beliefs and buried emotions are able to surface and be seen in the light, we gain clarity and begin to see truth in all situations. Dysfunctional emotions that have contributed to addictions, depression, anxiety, loneliness and separation are brought back into balance and we begin to heal both, on an emotional and physical level. When old wounds and hidden emotions such as grief, trauma and fear are released, we are able to open our hearts and minds to self-love which allows us to experience a sense of balance, emotional well-being, harmony and empowerment.

Love all aspects of self

Learning how to love all aspects of ourselves frees us from the emotional chains that used to grip us. As we embark upon this healing journey, it is important to be gentle with yourself and nurture self-acceptance and love in all ways.

Like the sun that rests in the darkness behind the clouds, once you ‘step out and into the light’, you will shine and illuminate others with your gifts of clarity, trust and inner knowingness. I invite you to reach out and start this journey of ‘your lifetime’ with me, NOW.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Brenda Bentley is a Certified Life Coach, Hypnotherapist and Spiritual Guide.  She is an avid collector of crystals, metaphysical tools and indigenous artwork and understands the energies around them.   She enjoys spending time in nature and working with others.  She offers her coaching services and customized CD’s at www.brendabentleycoaching.com.

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ALEXA PELLEGRINI: “Finding Beauty, Self-Awareness and Growth in Disappointment”

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All of us have experienced that terrible sinking feeling that accompanies disappointment. It’s all too easy to fixate on things that don’t go our way and resent life for not giving us what we want. But finding freedom from disappointment is as easy as changing your perspective on what disappointment is and the purpose it’s meant to serve in your life. Instead of seeing the disappointments you experience as tragic or punishments, you can use them to increase your self-awareness and spiritual growth.

Lose the expectations, lose the disappointment

expectationsFeeling disappointed is almost always the result of having unrealistic expectations. If our vision of what our lives should be doesn’t align with reality, our hopes are dashed and our spirits are crushed. The easiest way to avoid suffering from disappointment is to nix all expectations and open our minds to accepting everything life has to offer — disappointments included. Accepting disappointment allows us to live in the now and appreciate the present moment. No amount of sadness or anger we express toward our disappointments will make them completely disappear. And if we insist on getting our own way and coerce others into doing what we want so we can avoid experiencing disappointment, we’re simply cheating ourselves out of learning valuable lessons the Universe wants to teach us.

Behind every disappointment there is a lesson to be learned

If you feel like it’s impossible to cope with , it’s time to stop demonizing it. Many of us cast our disappointments in a negative light and fail to see the beauty in them. Our disappointments are meant to help us grow on a mental, spiritual and emotional level. As an intuitive counselor, I’ve worked with friends and clients alike who have struggled with disappointment, and I’ve drawn from my own experiences when giving advice about making the most of them. I avoid being overwhelmed by disappointment by seeing the potential for growth behind it, and I always urge others to do the same. 

disappointmentFor example: one of my greatest recent disappointments was submitting a few of my best poems to the Kenyon Review, an esteemed literary journal, and being rejected. After months of waiting for a response, I opened an email about my submission a few weeks ago and read that I hadn’t been selected. At first, I felt a sting of self-doubt and disappointment. The rejection even made me momentarily question if I’ll ever achieve my dream of being recognized by an acclaimed publication. However, I took a step back and saw that the rejection was merely a lesson meant to help me grow as a writer. I realized I was experiencing feelings of disappointment because I had expected being selected, even though my aims were unrealistic — I don’t have even a sliver of the experience of the background most writers have who submit to the Kenyon Review, a journal rooted in tradition. Instead of being swept up by my disappointment, I recognized that I need to slowly work my way up to avoid another incident of self-sabotage.

What you think you want isn’t always what you need

Disappointment arises when we ask for something and we don’t get it. However, it’s impossible for us to always know what’s best for ourselves. The greatest things that come our way in life are usually gifts from the Universe that we never asked for. While it’s tempting to believe we always know what’s best and can exercise complete control over our lives, the Universe is a powerful force that influences our existence in ways beyond logical understanding. Let’s look at relationships, for example: if you connected with your partner in one of your classes, at work or even through a friend, you never could have known your actions were leading up to you finding love. You didn’t sign up for a specific lecture or take a certain job with the intention of meeting your mate. Somewhere in your heart, you were finally open to the experience of love and embracing your worthiness, and the Universe responded to your vibrations. 

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Letting go of the desire to have total control over your life by recognizing the power of the Universe will allow you to free yourself from the prison of your expectations. The Universe gives us exactly what we need in the present moment so we can grow, whether it’s amazing gifts or challenging disappointments. Remember that what you want and how you think your life should be may not be what you need in this stage of your life.

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