SURVIVING NARCISSISM: “Narcissist, Sociopath or Psychopath? How To Recognize The Distinctions”

 

~via Surviving Narcissism

LISA RENEE (Time Shift Blog): “Hero-Savior or Messiah Complex”

“The Hero-Savior or Messiah Complex is double sided, showing an outer persona that is much different than the hidden or inner persona. On the surface, the general belief system is that the people around them need saving and are helpless and powerless, and therefore they need a savior or messiah. In the subconscious mind and in the hidden aspects of the personality, the negative ego may actually desire to steal another’s resources and energy to accomplish their own selfish goals. They are looking to cull groups of people in order to get the energy or prestige they are looking for in order to fill the inner void. This is so that they can feel or be more powerful than the people they say that they are saving. It’s a deeply buried subconscious complex, usually driven by mind control tactics, to feel more powerful than others by gaining fame or status, and to make up for feeling powerless and insignificant deep down inside.”

~Lisa Renee

 

Controller Programs is a term used to describe multiple layers of Victimizer Mind Control that is used psychologically and emotionally to program humanity to think in polarizing thoughts of division, violence and hatred in order to believe in the fear based control systems that shape the death culture. The death culture is backed by the Archontic Deception Strategies used by the NAA forces to divide and conquer humanity. The enforcement of these Controller Programs is accomplished by forcing false egoic identities and related thought patterns into the minds of the people that are called Victimizer Archetypes. When we understand these Victimizer Archetypes are being targeted into the collective consciousness of the human race, we can learn how they work to drain our energy and feed Consumptive Modeling, and Parasitism. Thus, we can stop playing into these harmful archetypes, as well as feeding into the dramas they generate, by not letting other people project these archetypes onto us. Essentially, we refuse to take the bait of emotional manipulation in those attempting to draw us into playing out these destructive archetypes, many times for the purpose of dividing and polarizing issues into more destructive conflicts that exist between groups of people. Through the intentional Psycho-Spiritual Warfare made against the minds of the human population, the masses are made pliable and subservient to follow the NAA masking themselves as the False King of Tyranny archetype. This is in the attempt to find absolute rule and control by the Power Elite, by manipulating the False Parent archetypes to gain a False Father authority over the masses.

As an unconscious reaction to the ongoing spiritual oppression and persecution complex rampant on the planet, some awakening people fall prey to the victimizer archetype that is used to intentionally generate the destructive sides of the hero-savior or messiah complex. A messiah complex (also known as the Christ complex or savior complex) is a state of mind in which an individual holds a belief that they are destined to become a savior. The term can also refer to a state of mind in which an individual believes that he or she is responsible for saving or assisting others from achieving certain doom on a grand scale.

Hero-Savior or Messiah Complex is a Victim-Victimizer software mind control archetype that is used to target Starseeds and spiritually developing people in so to derail them, and to ultimately mentally and emotionally fracture them. Many guru types are targeted with this archetypal programming in so they will fall into more mental and emotional body distortions, to the point they lose coherence and all semblance of clear discernment in their own actions. Over time, when a person in leadership is not taking responsibility for their actions because they believe they are a hero-savior or messiah and thus, above all reproach, this is a blaring blind spot for dark manipulation, gaslighting and even possession to take hold. This is one of the Controller Programs that is a sub program of the Victim-Victimizer software program and is a collective miasm on the earth, that has been accumulated through many traumatic and tragic events in our history taking place over many generations.

The Hero-Savior or Messiah Complex is double sided, showing an outer persona that is much different than the hidden or inner persona. On the surface, the general belief system is that the people around them need saving and are helpless and powerless, and therefore they need a savior or messiah. In the subconscious mind and in the hidden aspects of the personality, the negative ego may actually desire to steal another’s resources and energy to accomplish their own selfish goals. They are looking to cull groups of people in order to get the energy or prestige they are looking for in order to fill the inner void. This is so that they can feel or be more powerful than the people they say that they are saving. It’s a deeply buried subconscious complex, usually driven by mind control tactics, to feel more powerful than others by gaining fame or status, and to make up for feeling powerless and insignificant deep down inside.

Currently, the term “messiah complex” is not addressed formally in the psychology field in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM), as it is not a clinical term nor diagnosable disorder. However, the symptoms of the disorder closely resemble those found in individuals suffering from delusions of grandeur, an inability to see the actual reality as it is. Recorded accounts specifically identified messiah complex in the category of religious delusion, which pertains to strong fixed beliefs that cause emotional distress or disability. This form of delusional belief is most often reported in patients that are suffering from bipolar disorder and schizophrenia. In spiritual context, these mental disorders are closely related to soul fragmentation and attachments which cause disordered and incoherent thinking. When a messiah complex is manifested within a religious individual after a visit to Jerusalem, it may be identified as a psychosis known as Jerusalem Syndrome.

In mainstream psychology, Adolf Hitler is considered to have had an acute case of the messiah complex. This was evident in his preoccupation with himself as a political actor, his meticulous concern for his self-presentation, and his negative ego identification with himself as the hero-savior of the German people. Hitler believed that he was fated by higher powers to lead Germany to a thousand-year-long period of European domination and that he was chosen to rid Europe of undesirable people. This example shows how the messiah complex in such rare individuals can cause unimaginable destruction when combined with narcissistic and paranoid traits. In the Guardian context, Hitler was groomed and aided by the Black Sun Orion Groups. Thus, his mental and emotional weaknesses were exploited to intentionally murder many people for blood sacrifice, and essentially an egoic monster and demonic presence was co-created within him in order to carry out his brutal crimes against humanity.

According to the website People Skills Decoded, “The savior complex is a psychological construct which makes a person feel the need to save other people. This person has a strong tendency to seek people who desperately need help and to assist them, often sacrificing their own needs for these people.”

Emotionally codependent people, often live in denial and self-deception. When emotionally codependent people begin to awaken into spiritual experiences and shift into new age thoughtforms, this can be a toxic combination if that person is unwilling to face their own shadow selves, and take responsibility to do the inner emotional work to regain more emotionally healthy patterns. Thus, they may refer back to similar patterns and characteristics that may describe Hero-Savior or Messiah Complex such as:

  • They may believe that other people are incapable of taking care of themselves, that they are powerless or helpless and need them to be a messiah.
  • Believing that they are a savior, messiah or guru, specially chosen by God above others. That they alone are responsible for miraculous acts of healing, this is a part of Spiritual Ego or Messiah Complex.
  • They may attempt to convince or manipulate others in what to think, do, or feel because they believe they have the answers or know better. Some want to be famous under the guise of spreading their message.
  • They freely offer advice and direction without being asked, and may even get mad if you don’t take their advice.
  • Many have to feel needed by others, a sense of belonging or in authority, in order to have a relationship with others.
  • Project or transfer their own hidden negative traits onto other people or situations around them. A common retort is, “You must not be conscious enough to see how evolved I am…etc.”
  • Perceive themselves as completely selfless and dedicated to the welfare and wellbeing of others around them, many times when they are actually psychic vampires and emotionally draining to be with.
  • Have difficulty admitting mistakes, not able to address conflicts, change negative behaviors or apologize when it’s appropriate to do so.

Awakening Starseeds are commonly targeted from lower energetic discernment levels to put themselves in dangerous or destructive scenarios because they believe “God or their Guides told them to do that”. Newly awakening people generally have to heal the Hero-Savior complex as if not corrected, this error in thinking will form into spiritual ambition that is based in unhealthy Negative Ego attitudes. Usually, this means the person becomes an endangerment to themselves, because they put themselves in the hero position thinking they are needed to save others, but really they are getting caught in the crossfire of spiritual battle. They misinterpret their personal awakening experiences that may form into hero-savior complex. That they are here to save the world, because the people around them do not have the level of intelligence or Consciousness awareness that they may feel they are accessing. As usual, kernels of truth are manipulated in order to create great confusion and chaos, in so that the awakening person is not effective or successful in their mission, but taken off course through a series of delusions.

Generally, in spiritual community, it is common that the person with unhealed Hero-Savior complex will attempt to save people around them from some imagined threat or vision fed to them by the NAA in Holographic Inserts in order to divide and conquer the group effort or disrupt group projects. Thus, the person in the hero or messiah complex is used skillfully by the NAA and becomes a dark portal used to destroy group unity by feeding dramas, malicious gossip, divided competition and making assumptions without having the facts. Usually, these are garden variety negative ego power games and emotional dramas that are carried out in the guise of needing to save others from some imagined wrong doing or person that is evil.

When we are empathic to the pain of others, we can be easily manipulated by the pain we feel, in that we may not understand its actual causal source or where the pain is really coming from. The Victimizer Collective Archetypes that contain empathic feelings are designed to instigate the Hero-Savior or messiah complex in order to trap that person into sacrificing themselves for others, or being led into destructive situations, thereby they are set up to be easily persecuted and victimized. On planet earth, many awakening people, especially Starseed people, have been implanted with false memories or cloned memories of famous religious or spiritual personalities recorded throughout planetary history. Multiple thousands have been implanted with holographic inserts that feed false memories of the Guardian Christos Mission, such as Yeshua and Mary, Akhenaten and Nefertiti, as well as many other significant people and timelines that are given as the standard curriculum about human history. Obviously, this was a tactic to confuse the origins of our real history and hide the identity of significant people, Jesus and Archangel Michael being some of the most cloned images used by the imposter forces to manipulate the human race.

The dark is fantastic at finding weaknesses inside us and then exploiting and manipulating them on the external. We can use these opportunities as spiritual lessons. As when we can see our weaknesses, locate our vulnerability and participate consciously with it by surrendering, and calling out imposter spirits, we gain immense inner clarity. May you devote your life to serve God or your highest spiritual expression.

 

(Ascension Glossary: Messiah Complex, Dark Force Manipulation Methods, Victimizer Archetypes)

 

~via EnergeticSynthesis.com – Time Shift Blog – posted April 23, 2019

FIONA REILLY: “Four Tips for Effective Listening”

The gift of being heard is something really precious. Having someone listen attentively to our expression or story is very healing and can enable us find our own understanding, acceptance, balance and joy again. Listening sounds like a very simple thing and indeed it is, yet many of us struggle to listen effectively. Being a good listener requires being present and fully attentive to the other. It is not about offering advice or fixing anything or making the other feel better, it’s simply being there and paying attention.

 

“Whatever life we have experienced, if we can tell our story to someone who listens, we find it easier to deal with our circumstances.”

~Margaret J. Wheatley

 

Four Tips for Effective Listening

So how might we listen more effectively… there are many things that can help! Below I outline four suggestions that I have found to be fundamental to good listening.

Be Present

Initially, it is vital to be present and with the speaker, to give them our full attention. If possible find a quiet place for a listening exchange where you are unlikely to be disturbed. Turn off phones and any background noise. Honour your boundaries, if you feel you only have 20 minutes to listen, say so at the beginning so the boundaries are clear or explain that now is a not a good time and arrange to connect when the time is right. To the best of your ability come from a place of acceptance and compassion and avoid judgement of them or their story. Be fully attentive to them and the energy between you.

 

“Listening is such a simple act. It requires us to be present, and that takes practice, but we don’t have to do anything else. We don’t have to advise, or coach, or sound wise. We just have to be willing to sit there and listen.”

~Margaret J. Wheatley

 

Simply Listen

Many of us want to try to fix and make things better for the other person, yet the most beneficial way is for them to work through whatever is arising and to find their own solutions. The way to help someone feel better is to encourage them to be with their pain or confusion or whatever their experience is, to explore it and then they may feel empowered to move through it. Telling someone they need to be strong or things will get better or something similar isn’t effective longterm and can be disempowering. So try not to fix the situation or offer solutions unless they are invited. When listening our purpose isn’t to make a person feel better, simply by having their experiences heard in a non-judgemental and accepting way can allow things to shift and heal.

 

“The human soul doesn’t want to be advised or fixed or saved. It simply wants to be witnessed — to be seen, heard and companioned exactly as it is.”

~Paul Parker

 

Focus On the Speaker’s Perspective

While it’s useful to be able to identify with their experience, telling someone of your similar experience is not usually helpful, so try not to habitually compare their situation to one that you have experienced. It is of course fine if you are having a two way conversation, however if you want to encourage a person to explore their experience, your story isn’t what they need to hear, at least not until they have worked through their own stuff. It can take from what the speaker is saying and turns the attention away from them. Occasionally it may be appropriate to share your own experience, use your intuition on when that feels right. You could check with the speaker if they’d like you to share what happened to you, though mostly I find it best to stay with what the speaker is sharing.

In order to acknowledge their experience and what they have shared, you can reflect back to them what you heard them say, for example “You felt very angry when that happened”. Such a reflection does a number of things, it shows that you are listening, that their feelings or expressions are valid and enables them to go into more depth around the issues. In focussing on the other person you may notice the subtleties of body language, tone of voice… etc., which can sometimes indicate more than their words and again if appropriate you can reflect back what you notice.

Don’t engage in a drama or exaggerate the situation, sometimes what is being shared may arise feelings in you, acknowledge these internally though put them aside you can always return to explore them yourself at a more appropriate time.

Become Comfortable With Silences

For many silences or gaps in conversation cause discomfort and they rush to fill the quietness with something. However allowing a silence lets the speaker know that you are there for them and ready to listen when they are ready to speak. Speaking in order to break a silence usually ends up in directing the speaker in a different direction, than what may have otherwise arose next. If you do feel to ask questions, do so for clarity and understanding. The facts or details usually don’t matter. If you do feel to ask questions try to keep them open ended, you could you phrases like “How was that for you?” to encourage more disclosure or as I mentioned earlier reflect back what you have just heard.

Acknowledge Pain

This is an excellent video relating to how to support a grieving friend and the principles offered could be used with other challenging situations, not only grief. The way to help someone feel better is to encourage them to be with their pain, to explore and accept it and then they may feel empowered to move through it.

 

“One of the easiest human acts is also the most healing. Listening to someone. Simply listening. Not advising or coaching, but silently and fully listening.”

~Margaret J. Wheatley

 

With loving gratitude for all those who have shown me how to listen well and for my continued learning. I wish you well with your listening explorations,

Fiona

 

~via WakeUp-World.com

LIVE BOLD & BLOOM: “What Is Your Personality Type?”

It was no surprise to see I’m an ‘Idealist’… 🐬

“Knowing your personality type helps you understand yourself, your interests, your motivations, and your relationships. Although your personality type doesn’t completely define who you are, it helps you have much more awareness about yourself and gives you tools for making important decisions in your life.”

~Barrie Davenport @ Live Bold & Bloom

 

Take the quiz here:

https://liveboldandbloom.com/01/self-improvement/quiz-what-is-your-personality-type

 

~via LiveBoldAndBloom.com

CONSCIOUS REMINDER: “Are You Suffering From Post-Narcissist Stress Disorder?”

Ascension Avatar note: This brought a chuckle, but I suppose it would be no laughing matter for those who have experienced it (I’ve always kept narcissists out of my life…).

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Post Narcissist Stress Disorder or PSND affects those who have just managed to extricate themselves from a relationship with a narcissist. It is very much like PTSD.

PSND can be easily triggered by even the smallest thing the sufferer associates with the narcissist, be it a familiar smell or sound or taste.

Three major symptoms of PNSD:

1. Intrusive memories of the narcissist

Sometimes people suffering from PNSD are unexpectedly faced with triggers that send them into a nightmarish flashback about some incident with the narcissist.

They being to relive painful moments that involve narcissistic rage and other traumatic memories without being able to stop themselves.

Sometimes they begin to doubt their own sanity. Long periods of abuse may have conditioned them into believing that they are lacking in something.

They suffer nightmares and often have difficulty rebuilding their confidence in themselves.

2. Avoidance and emotional numbing

If you’re suffering from PNSD, you might begin to actively keep away from society and the things you once loved to do.

You’ll try your best to not dwell on the narcissist who hurt you. You’ll begin to feel like your mind is numb to all emotions.

Some try to overcome their issues by overusing recreational drugs or sedatives. Others might repress bad memories and have trouble focusing on even the simplest day to day tasks.

Forming new emotional connections will be hard and you might prefer to just hide yourself away from the world.

3. Anxiety and increased emotional volatility

Sufferers become very volatile and are prone to fits of irritability and rage while at the same time suffering from overpowering guilt which they try to hide.

Some may gaslight themselves (i.e., they begin to question every little action and memory and somehow bring all the blame onto themselves).

Insomnia, hyperventilation, hypervigilance, paranoia and distrust are also common symptoms.

 

~via ConsciousReminder.com