STEPHANIE: “11 Things You Should Know About Introverts”

“Small talk with strangers is my kryptonite.”

~Stephanie

 

11 Things You Should Know About Introverts

1) We need to recharge alone

This right here is the cusp of the entire introvert vs. extrovert debate (if there is one, anyway) — Introverts need to be alone to recharge. We tend to get completely worn out by socializing. This is basically what it means to be an introvert.

2) We don’t hate being around people, but we probably hate crowds

I love being with people, but if you drop me into a large crowd I instantly feel like I’m alone and invisible. I try to avoid situations where I feel that way, so I may decline your open invitation to some random event. It doesn’t mean I don’t like to be around you, it just means I like to have more control over my surroundings.

3) We don’t mind silence

I can sit beside you in silence and not think we are having a bad time. This is especially true on road trips and can be a little confounding to true extroverts. For this reason, I especially like going to the movies where it is already considered rude to chat. Rule #1 for dealing with introverts — Don’t tell me I’m “too quiet.” I hate that. Sorry I’m making you uncomfortable, but you really don’t get to decide how much I have to talk.

4) Just because we are introverted doesn’t mean we are shy

Introvert and shy are actually two different things. Google it! In my case, I’m a shy introvert (the double whammy!).

5) We can turn on an extroverted personality when necessary, but it is especially draining

See #1 and #2. I have no problem getting up in front of a group of people and giving a talk. I don’t even get nervous by a question and answer period. But — here is the thing — I will need major recharge time afterwards and I won’t be able to keep up this extroverted illusion all day. I can turn it on to dazzle a crowd, but if you take me out for lunch afterwards, I’ll probably just listen to you talk. I am an excellent listener.

6) We aren’t judging you

See #3. Did I get quiet? Do I have a mean look on my face? I’m not judging you; I’m just wrapped up in my thoughts with my resting-face on. I might have even forgotten you were there. Sorry, just poke me. I didn’t do it on purpose.

7) We secretly love it when you cancel plans

I like being with you, but finding out I suddenly don’t need to be “on” and it wasn’t actually me that backed out? — priceless! Don’t worry if you have to cancel, I’m probably thrilled to be able to stay in my pajamas.

8) We can get very wrapped up in our own thoughts

My inner monologue is epic. When you have a strong monologue constantly running in the background, it is pretty easy to settle-in and listen for a while. I have to work through things in my head before I proceed, so I usually need a few minutes. When I’m ready to move forward though, I am 100% on top of it!

9) We can be pretty bad at connecting

You know when you have had a really bad day and you just want to call up a friend and chat? Yeah, I’m bad at that. I tend to wait for extroverts to reach out and include me, so when the time comes that I need support, I can be a bit lost.

10) We don’t like to hang around

That time after an event or meeting ends and stragglers hang around to talk — yeah, I know this is the perfect time to make more plans, connect with new people, and get involved with future projects, but I really really really hate this. I’m probably already checking my phone in my car before you have even picked up your purse. Small talk with strangers is my kryptonite.

11) We have strong opinions

Just because I have difficultly sharing them sometimes doesn’t mean I don’t have opinions. Give me an extra minute to compose my thoughts and I will continue to push myself to speak up sooner. It is a give and take here.

 

BMSS Addendum by Gregg Prescott:

BMSS Addendum: On #2, we really don’t hate people or crowds… it’s just that most of us are empaths and we absorb everyone’s energies so it’s a lot easier staying away from crowds than being immersed in them. For me, if I were to go to some gala event, you would most likely find me near the outer wall of the room watching everyone and saying very little. Some would call this “antisocial” but as an introvert I know that it’s something that’s misunderstood by those who aren’t introverted.

If you’re an introvert (which is only about 25% of the population), don’t change yourself to appease anyone else. Just keep being YOU!

~ Gregg

 

~via BodyMindSoulSpirit.com

LJ VANIER: “12 Signs You’re A Deep Thinker Who Enjoys Being Alone”

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It is said that we are a product of our environment and when we are young, lasting impressions are burned into our minds about what love is, how the world works and what we ought to do when we are older.

As if settling down, getting married and having children is the benchmark for success.  But who is really to say what happiness is and what it looks like?

Maybe some of us are perfectly happy, just being alone…

1.  Dogmas and social conditioning don’t phase you

You have navigated the emotional concourse of societal expectation and found that it just doesn’t resonate with you.  Instead you listen to your heart and follow your inner voice, wherever it might lead.

2.  You screen your phone calls

If you find yourself waiting to respond to text messages and emails after they light up on your screen, this is a sure-fire sign that you prefer your privacy.  Setting your own boundaries for what you allow into your personal zone and when.

3.  You aren’t desperate to make plans on the weekends

You are confident enough in yourself and do not seek externally for the temporary and fleeting satisfaction that others bring.  You prefer to set your own schedule and make plans that you know you’ll enjoy.

4.  You enjoy your freedom

A cluttered calendar leaves no time for numero uno and you strive to clear off as many duties as you can, to allow more time for your own personal freedom.

5.  You are confident as a party for one

You are complete and well-rounded and don’t feel uncomfortable being the ‘fifth wheel’, neither do you mind eating alone.  You find clingy couples a bit needy and prefer others who are more self-reliant.

6.  You put yourself first

You don’t allow the pressures of others to persuade you from achieving what you want to get out of life.  You know that every minute is precious and you always make the most of it.

7.  You do what you want when you want

You follow your gut and trust your instincts. You find that living in the flow of life, is the best way to stay balanced and centered.

8. You’re genuinely happy

Constantly being bombarded with people can be draining, especially for an introvert like you.  Being alone brings you happiness, and relieves you from all of the personal drama of others.  Being genuinely happy means being happy with yourself.  When you love and accept yourself, you become all that you will ever need.  It is then a choice to be with others and share your gift to the world.

9.  You bask in peace and quiet

You would prefer to live in the countryside, or outside of the city. Apartment buildings and condominiums are a living nightmare for you. You strive to take time out in nature, finding remote spots with serene views to just read a book or meditate.

10.  You enjoy your own company

You prefer dining, watching movies, taking a walk in nature or exercising by yourself and are very comfortable in doing so.  You laugh at your own jokes, and enjoy the lightness of just being you.

11.  You sleep better alone

Cuddling is nice, for a few minutes… and then the blanket war, leg war and breathing war all begin.  Quite simply, a nice big bed all to yourself is your vision of perfection.

12.  You are a deep thinker

 Last but not least, you prefer the time and space to be with your own thoughts and highly regard this time.  You enjoy the self exploration and inner transformation of giving yourself the moments needed to just think it out.

 
 
 
~via In5D.com

SPIRITUAL UNITE: “10 Signs You’re A Deep Thinker Who Loves Solitude”

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In this article we discuss, why you love being a deep thinker. Deep thinkers dive into their soul and every essence of being more conscious, so being a deep thinker is great.

It has been once said that we are a product of the environment, when we were young, society has burned into our mind what love should be, how this planet works and what we will be doing when we reach old age.

It seems today’s benchmark and success is to get married and have children. But no one can really tell you what happiness is and what it would look like. Some people are perfectly fine being alone.

Deep Thinker Definition:

Definition of a deep thinker is someone who thinks beyond the obvious, someone who has profound thoughts and very intellectual. I am sure you can relate to this?

Can Being A Deep Thinker Be Curse Or A Gift?

It can be a curse if friends and family tell you that you are sensitive and you don’t have the channels to make sense of the insights you are getting from within.

However it is also the greatest gift if you have the channels to apply what you have recognized when you are going deep with your thoughts and views. The channels have to be stable emotionally, so you have the push to go forward and be practical with your observations.

Signs Of A Deep Thinker

Social Conditioning Never Phases You

You have found what society can offer and it does not resonate with you, it never meets your expectations. You are one who follows their heart and soul instead.

Never Alert To Cell Phones

You don’t constantly check your cell phone, or when you receive a text or email you wait and respond when you feel you are ready. This is for sure a sign you are a deep thinker and you prefer privacy. You have boundaries for what you permit into personal life.

Never To Make Plans

You are never seeking external satisfaction by others instead you make plans that suit you even if it means means being on your own.

Love Your Freedom

You allow time for yourself and personal freedom. You know that cluttered calender means there is no time for yourself.

You Are Confident On Your Own

Another sing of a deep thinker is that, you are complete and enjoy being on your own, you don’t mind eating alone. You don’t like clingy people and prefer someone who is self reliant.

You Put Yourself First

You are never pressured by others, no one can persuade you, you do whats best for you. You also know that time is precious and make the most of it.

You Follow Your Instincts

You are one who trusts their intuitions. You find the best way to live your life and keeping yourself balanced is to flow through it.

You Are Happy

You are an introvert but a happy one, too many people drain you of your happiness. You are genuinely happy with yourself.

Prefer Nature

Your preferred place to live would be in the countryside away from the city, nightmare places to live would be apartment buildings. You love to meditate in nature.

You Are A Deep Thinker

You love space and time to be with your own thoughts. You seem to enjoy self exploration and inner transformations.

  • You love nature and enjoy being on your own
  • You are an introvert and happy
  • You are intuitive
  • You can never be pressured by others
  • Prefer a simple life

Conclusion

It’s a great gift to be a deep thinker, you need to be stable in your emotions to understand and process your thoughts or you may end up being too sensitive. We know that people who are deep thinkers enjoy being alone, love nature and are never pressured by society. Does that describe you?

 

 

~via spiritualunite.com