“Unfortunately the great majority of people who know about twin flames believe that they have to be with their twin flame. And because of the free will choices and/or the karma buildup this is near impossible. But let me ask you this. Would you rather be or try to be with your twin flame and end up in a dramatic, painful and non-functional relationship? OR Would you rather be with someone who is not your twin flame and end up having the most fulfilling, higher loving and passionate relationship?”
~Gustavo Castañer
Today many are celebrating St. Valentines Day and you probably think that I’m going to tell you that being with your twin flame has to be the most romantic, passionate and spiritual thing you can experience…
Not really, let me explain.
If you do some research on twin flames on the internet you will find tons of dramatic and heartbreaking stories of people who have met their twin flames.
Instead of finding their true love many people find that a relationship with their twin flame most likely turns out to be like one of the following scenarios:
1) They live on the other side of the world and being together is near impossible.
2) The Runner-Chaser Karmic Loop — one person tries everything to make the relationship happen while the other one (usually the man) runs away.
3) The Ultimate Karmic Mirror — both partners mirror each other’s karma like a magnifying glass and unbearable pain results from this.
And yes, there are the rare twin flame relationships stories that turn out to be the most higher loving and spiritually conscious, but these are extremely rare.
Why Are Twin-Flame Relationships Like This?
The first thing you need to understand is that when it comes to relationships, even twin flame relationships, each person has free-will. Even though to one of them the twin flame connection is astronomically evident (pun intended) the other one might be oblivious.
People who are in twin flame relationships need to work on themselves 10 times more than people who are in any other type of relationship. And usually there is one person that is very focused on clearing their own emotional baggage, transmuting their karma and growing spiritually while the other person is not (once again, usually the man).
Some will try desperately to rescue the other person but this only aggravates the problem. It might not be easy but their free will must be honored.
The second thing you need to understand is that just because that person is your twin flame doesn’t mean that YOU HAVE TO be with them. What many people are not aware of is that you are not supposed to be together in a relationship in ALL lifetimes.
Unfortunately the great majority of people who know about twin flames believe that they have to be with their twin flame. And because of the free will choices and/or the karma buildup this is near impossible.
But let me ask you this. Would you rather be or try to be with your twin flame and end up in a dramatic, painful and non-functional relationship?
OR
Would you rather be with someone who is not your twin flame and end up having the most fulfilling, higher loving and passionate relationship?
The answer is simple. However, too many people get attached to the twin flame label. Don’t get me wrong, I know there is a spiritual connection like no other but if it’s not meant to be then it’s not meant to be. It takes two people to make it happen.
So if you find yourself in this twin flame predicament and you truly desire to be in a relationship then make yourself a priority and choose SELF-LOVE.
Don’t force the relationship with your twin flame or try to wait for them. Continue to raise your frequency and focus your intent on attracting a partner that will want to be with you and work towards it as you do.
After all, you will meet your twin flame again. 
And at some point, sometimes during their life review, he/she will most likely realize what an incredible opportunity he/she missed to be with you. Then on the next lifetime they will step up and do what it takes to find you and be with you.
In the meantime, make sure you enjoy this lifetime and cherish the wonderful experience that is being madly in love with someone who is madly in love with you.
Sincerely,
Gustavo Castañer
Founder of Ascended Relationships
~via AscendedRelationships.com
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