As humans we intrinsically yearn for that rare love, twin flame, relationship with another who understands and somehow completes us on the deepest spiritual level; one who cherishes us always. The reason we yearn for this is because when God created our spirit out of His spirit, he separated each of us into a male and a female counterpart. Although cleaved in two, twin flames are never truly separate from each other and are still one, like two sides of the same coin. This resulted in our one perfect partner in spirit, our exact mirror twin flame, who is made as we are, of the same Presence.
I met my twin flame some years ago and as is typical of most reunions we parted again. This article will describe most of the common signs and stages in a typical twin flame reunion.
What Is A Twin Flame?
Our twin flame is our closest soul mate. We have other mates that are aspects of our soul, part of our soul family who are very much like us. Yet soul mates are never exact mirrors the way our twin is. The twin flame is truly our cosmic partner in spirit, who sometimes incarnates with us so that we can meet them in a physical body. Once a rare event, it is more common now due to humanity raising its consciousness.
There are multiple other aspects (soul mates) that arise from our soul, yet our twin flame is the closest to us and mirrors our exact soul characteristics and traits. They think as we think and feel as we feel. We tend to go through life feeling we are the “only one” or are unique. Being with a twin flame is meeting that other aspect of self, one that reacts to events the same way we do; and that can be disconcerting! I had issues when my twin possessed my own uniqueness, he was the same as me. He would always say everything exactly as I was about to say it to a group, only he would beat me to it. He would literally steal my conversation and that was something I didn’t really enjoy. Yet what is guaranteed with our twin souls is strong attraction and a deep spiritual connection, so there are plus sides to this relationship after some big adjustments regarding how we see our self.
How To Recognise A Twin Flame
Sometimes this recognition is instant and at other times it takes a little bit of time. Once twins catch each other’s attention, the bond can be overpowering, even if they are the last person we ever believed was suitable. Twins can have large differences in age and upbringing, or be from completely different walks of life (both true for me). This can be disconcerting and, I won’t lie, it can make things very rough going. Despite some big differences, there is a powerful recognition that can leave both twins surprised and puzzled.
When my twin first noticed me it was electric and took us both by surprise. It is often so with twin flames. If there is any doubt about them being the one flame for us, then they probably are not. The connection is undeniable and deeply spiritual, but can also be overwhelming and intoxicating. There can be elements of infatuation, but also very deep elements that are undeniable. Our spiritual twin seems beyond familiar as we get to know them, perhaps too familiar, yet we are always hooked by them nonetheless. For me it was like being with myself, which lent me the feeling it was not supposed to last; it was a weird feeling.
There are downsides to the intense attraction / attachment that is experienced because the thought of losing them can feel like death. Because we are very close to our twins in spirit, we get very close fast in the physical dimension. We have very strong emotional feelings about our spiritual counterpart and nothing we do can make that simply go away. Once we know this person, we become attached. Their soul is our soul, their blood our blood. Any time we allow our self to go too high, we open the possibility of falling to an equal low.
Problems And Differences
Believe it or not, these relationships are not supposed to be easy. We find our mate testing us on many levels and this relationship is not an easy ride by any stretch. We may well be in different stages of life, one person young and inexperienced whilst the other seasoned, divorced, with children or possessing a much different attitude to life. Our twins enter into our lives in order to stretch us and help us grow. Whilst this can be true of many romantic relationships, it can be especially true of soul mates and twin souls. Heartbreak is possible, as well as separation. Although it may be a short lived relationship, it will be one that takes a while to forget. My twin meeting was over twenty years ago, and whilst I have forgotten it now, I have met another who is so similar to my twin, astrologically and temperamentally, who possesses the exact same emotional problems. This second relationship cannot hurt me because my twin already hurt me in just the same ways.
There is a lot of idealistic information circulating on the net somewhat falsely claiming that twin soul relationships are perfect, with no ego, no arguing, no separation. But our twin counterpart is not a fairytale figure; they are human and have faults and issues. Although we can become improved by the twin relationship, separation is common and so are arguments. Imagine meeting the one person who can push your buttons precisely. Twins tend to mirror each other so perfectly that if we possess a fault that we dislike, we see the same fault in our twin and all hell can break lose. Twins are as mirrors to each other and will bring up issues of self judgment or self loathing that can then be transferred onto the twin mirror.
Sometimes a twin flame has led a selfish life or has mental issues that border on the dangerous. Not all issues vanish simply through the reunion of two flames. Some twins are promiscuous drunks, who crave freedom and don’t wish for a relationship. Some are already married and in love. A twin could be a nerd, our total opposite, or a social butterfly extrovert who parties endlessly. We may have nothing in common with them; they could be poor or rich, a bum who never showers, or a well-healed snob. Chances are they will be very different to what we would normally expect or look for in a partner. They could also come from a different geographical location, culture or religion, or from a completely different upbringing to our self.
How To Find Our Twin Flame
They usually have a way of finding us. What I mean by this is that they will simply appear when we least expect it. Our angels and guides set up the meeting and then sit back to watch the fireworks explode. The angels tell me that it is not possible to cause the meeting to occur, but we should have faith and hold a positive mental attitude and get on with life. Twin flame meetings usually occur when one counterpart is going through a life crisis. This dramatic, once in a lifetime crisis occurs first then the twin appears suddenly. They come in to help, although it may not always unfold this way depending on the twin. I wonder if they are called “flame” because of their propensity to burn us? They do not mean to of course, it is just that the chemistry is so intense. My feeling is we must not judge the experience. Not all reunions are romantic in nature, especially if the age difference is very large.
Telepathy – Knowing What The Other Is Thinking/Doing/Feeling
Telepathy is a given with our twin flame, it is a well known phenomenon which also happens with true soul mates who are part of our soul family. Their uncanny ability to see into each other is what can scare away any soul mate we meet in the flesh, because this dynamic is rare and one we don’t often have when interacting with other souls. The natural telepathy and familiarity can shock us to the core.
I had a strange experience when I met two soul mates as well as my twin all at once. The others are male and I am female. One part of my soul family was very down and out and was a drunk, although I simply could not judge him as easily as I might another – there is much compassion within soul families. Another was a young, handsome man my own age (both very young at the time) who already had several children with different girls. Then there was my twin, who was significantly older and a complete mess. The younger soul mate and I got along amazingly well as friends and could have been close friends if not for his fear. He would push me away then get close again. He was too young to understand the meaning of platonic friendship, like he was afraid a friendship was forbidden. This soul mate also became amazing friends instantly with my twin, and followed him around like a puppy.
There is telepathy between all soul mates. They can see right into us as no one else ever can. Mine ran from me and I regretted the lost potential of friendship. My twin flame also ran (more on the “runner” phenomenon in the next section).
It is the very closeness we crave that causes us or them to run in shock and fright. We need to adjust quickly when we first realise this other person can see into our very heart and mind; it is eerie at first. We cannot hide even the deepest secrets about ourself because telepathically and claircognizantly, they know All. They notice that we also know all. The immature or emotionally closed ones almost always run. The meeting of four members of my soul family was divinely organised for us, but it all fell apart because people got scared of the closeness. The telepathy and empathy is such that we know each other well after no time, and can feel what the other feels, even at a distance. Actual telepathic conversations can occur between twins, and some twins will sync themselves so that their moods match, or even their activities.
5 Twin Flame Stages / Phases
There are several well known stages to the twin flame relationship. I have found that these phases are almost exactly like what I went through.
1. Preparation Stage
There is a preparation stage before the twins meet, where one if not both have a strong feeling or longing for someone to enter their life. This preparation comes from soul level so that both are prepped and ready for the meeting.
2. The Meeting
The first meeting between twins usually occurs in the last place you would ever imagine. This phase is described as the initial blissful, perfect relationship. This happens for some but not all of us. In my case we skipped straight to stage three after a few weeks because my twin was recently divorced and bitter, and I “turned him down”. He became what is known as “the runner” almost from the start. I could not be forgiven for the misunderstanding that occurred, and he ran from the other half of himself.
3. Disagreements and Fights
Phase Three is the inevitable Fighting that seems to occur in these relationships. It may be karma, it may be that age and cultural differences are just insurmountable, or it could be a horrible misunderstanding, or perhaps one twin simply likes to argue. As well, this phase commonly manifests as a cold, unbreakable silence consisting of one ignoring the other steadfastly, for months or even years. Though it seems strange that two parts of the same soul can’t get along, this is indeed what occurs with the typical twin flame relationship.
At this point, one twin becomes the “chaser” and the other one the “runner”. This position will most likely swap completely at some point when the former runner begins chasing, and the former chaser starts to run. The initial chaser is almost always the feminine counterpart. In my instance, I was the chaser for three years and kept bumping into my twin on the street. Each time he would duck away and literally run. As time passed and I moved on, he then became the chaser. For the next three years I continued to bump into this man, and although he made advances, I went to extraordinary lengths to run from him. In my heart I wanted to reunite, but the damage had been done and to this day I would still run.
4. The Reunion
The reunion between twins is supposed to happen when their karma is balanced and both have forgiven the other. Any kind of reunion needs to conform to a freewill decision to revive something long dead, or perhaps only sleeping. After researching people’s experiences online, I have some evidence of couples who have experienced phase 4 & 5. Yet most stories I have read have ended with separation after a short period of being together. Even in the case of Doreen Virtue and her published book about her twin flame relationship, they later separated and are no longer together. In my own heart I know I will not be reaching phase four in this life. The fact is that most twin flames move on and eventually end up with other partners, although there are always exceptions. My angels hint to me that this phase takes place after we pass over from this life, and we make good again with our twin.
Phase Five is Eternal Bliss. I am not sure bliss can so easily be experienced on the Earth plane, but maybe it can if that is what one wanted badly enough and was able to achieve with their twin. As the Earth continues to ascend, it will probably become much more possible. Most twin flame stories I have read describe the way one or both twins, during one of the above stages, moves on enough to only want to be “friends” (this is my experience too). Yet stage 5 can happen according to a smaller percentage of stories I have read. For some of us, stage five bliss with our twin happens after passing into the higher dimensions after this life is over.
The Purpose Of Twin Flame Relationships
Channeled material tells us there is a divine purpose to our linkups with our flame, a purpose that is relevant to this era and world as we prepare to ascend spiritually. Twin flame partnerships exemplify unconditional love and set up a template for the world. They are an example of true love to aid in humanity’s Ascension. If this is so, then many of us may have completed the task and simply moved on again, and maybe this is how it is meant to be.